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T-195 said:
Girlfriend of 25 years left just before Christmas.
Not been this happy for some time.
Unless you didn’t really love her I simply do not believe that. Not been this happy for some time.
You’ve a hole in your life now maybe you’d still in the denial part.
My wife is my best friend life without her would be life changing. Such a long time with someone having fun wanting to do things to make her happy and vice versa then kids come along and amplify it. I’m blessed with 3 kids though at the start it looked like it simply wouldn’t happen. Then one and another and a third - only 5 years between them.
I cannot tell you how wonderful it feels to have your kids greet you when you get home from a s
t day it changes a st day and parks that away. Do I enjoy going to all the kids parties etc ... well it’s not really my thing but you do it because you love them.
There are plenty of times I’d love to have been in Silverstone or Brands for a days / weekend acing chugging beer cigars etc but you make life choices sure I cannot do that all the time maybe once or twice a year maybe none some years but you know what I’d not change it for the world.
It was in jest about the gay thing - sorry if that annoyed anyone.
I’ve seen friends have amazing marriages and families and then others where it breaks down terribly and some where they were gay (genuinely). There isn’t any relationship where it’s milk and honey all the time you have to work at it make compromises etc.
My tip on this is I get my time cutting the grass - which I do often that’s my time, then again my oldest boy now helps out which in some ways detracts from my time but it’s a different sort of enjoyment (and it’s better).
As one good friend said to me before we had kids
iLife is like a book or books you’ve just finished one book young free single then having great fun with the Mrs travelling the world doing everything you want. But now your starting a different book and this book whilst different will be the best book you ever read you don’t know how the story goes yet but it will be magical — he was spot on.
Welshbeef said:
T-195 said:
Girlfriend of 25 years left just before Christmas.
Not been this happy for some time.
Unless you didn’t really love her I simply do not believe that. Not been this happy for some time.
You’ve a hole in your life now maybe you’d still in the denial part.
My wife is my best friend life without her would be life changing. Such a long time with someone having fun wanting to do things to make her happy and vice versa then kids come along and amplify it. I’m blessed with 3 kids though at the start it looked like it simply wouldn’t happen. Then one and another and a third - only 5 years between them.
I cannot tell you how wonderful it feels to have your kids greet you when you get home from a s
t day it changes a st day and parks that away. Do I enjoy going to all the kids parties etc ... well it’s not really my thing but you do it because you love them.
There are plenty of times I’d love to have been in Silverstone or Brands for a days / weekend acing chugging beer cigars etc but you make life choices sure I cannot do that all the time maybe once or twice a year maybe none some years but you know what I’d not change it for the world.
It was in jest about the gay thing - sorry if that annoyed anyone.
I’ve seen friends have amazing marriages and families and then others where it breaks down terribly and some where they were gay (genuinely). There isn’t any relationship where it’s milk and honey all the time you have to work at it make compromises etc.
My tip on this is I get my time cutting the grass - which I do often that’s my time, then again my oldest boy now helps out which in some ways detracts from my time but it’s a different sort of enjoyment (and it’s better).
As one good friend said to me before we had kids
iLife is like a book or books you’ve just finished one book young free single then having great fun with the Mrs travelling the world doing everything you want. But now your starting a different book and this book whilst different will be the best book you ever read you don’t know how the story goes yet but it will be magical — he was spot on.
Used to love very much but she now hates me and I have no idea why.
TwigtheWonderkid said:
GloverMart said:
I am not the best catch in the world for various reasons (money, looks and body size to name but three)
Most women could overlook those failings. But being a Yeovil fan, I think that's a deal breaker! stargazer30 said:
Well I’m 42 and have been with my missus since 18. I can honestly say regardless of age no woman has ever really found me attractive. I’m in good shape, not broke, not a total social retard or the like, but just no. There’s just that certain type of light that’s never shone on me. Even my misses only went out with me as she was drunk at the time and thought I looked like one of the guys out of boyzone! Lol.
Then there’s my best mate who’s a top bloke but broke, not the smartest person, doesn’t have a super career or anything and he’s just a lady magnet. My 18 year old son is the same, since nursery he’s had them chasing him, I currently can’t even remember the names of all his girlie mates I’ve started just numbering them instead.
There is no rhyme or reason. I knew one bloke who never had pot to piss in, had a face like a shovel and was usually under the care of a mental health professional yet I repeatedly witnessed women intensely try to get into his cacks within 30 seconds of meeting him. Then there’s my best mate who’s a top bloke but broke, not the smartest person, doesn’t have a super career or anything and he’s just a lady magnet. My 18 year old son is the same, since nursery he’s had them chasing him, I currently can’t even remember the names of all his girlie mates I’ve started just numbering them instead.
One time I gave him a lift to buy some drums. The woman selling them was about 70 and as soon as she opened the door it was like she was instantly on heat. It was quite bizarre to witness.
It didn't seem to bring him any happiness and this weird riling magnetism happened in other areas in other ways too. He was always, always getting beaten up.
One of the things it took me a long time to realise is - if you don't ask, you don't get. Some people are asked, others have to do the asking. If they start asking they may be surprised who says yes.
bloomen said:
There is no rhyme or reason. I knew one bloke who never had pot to piss in, had a face like a shovel and was usually under the care of a mental health professional yet I repeatedly witnessed women intensely try to get into his cacks within 30 seconds of meeting him.
It didn't seem to bring him any happiness and this weird riling magnetism happened in other areas in other ways too. He was always, always getting beaten up.
The 2 statements are probably not unrelated!! It didn't seem to bring him any happiness and this weird riling magnetism happened in other areas in other ways too. He was always, always getting beaten up.
Welshbeef said:
T-195 said:
Girlfriend of 25 years left just before Christmas.
Not been this happy for some time.
Unless you didn’t really love her I simply do not believe that. Not been this happy for some time.
You’ve a hole in your life now maybe you’d still in the denial part.
My wife is my best friend life without her would be life changing. Such a long time with someone having fun wanting to do things to make her happy and vice versa then kids come along and amplify it. I’m blessed with 3 kids though at the start it looked like it simply wouldn’t happen. Then one and another and a third - only 5 years between them.
I cannot tell you how wonderful it feels to have your kids greet you when you get home from a s
t day it changes a st day and parks that away. Do I enjoy going to all the kids parties etc ... well it’s not really my thing but you do it because you love them.
There are plenty of times I’d love to have been in Silverstone or Brands for a days / weekend acing chugging beer cigars etc but you make life choices sure I cannot do that all the time maybe once or twice a year maybe none some years but you know what I’d not change it for the world.
I was with my first wife for 15years from my late teens.When we split I discovered a whole new life that in many ways was so much better. There was no hole for very long, it very swiftly filled. Holidays no problem. Away for golf with golf club. Away diving, would go alone, but always meet like minded people there, so no problem. You could be selfish, but you weren't as you weren't taking from anybody else to do what you wanted.
However its horses for courses and to assume somebody else is losing out because they aren't doing the same as you is very presumptive. Are you really happy Welshy? Wouldn't you like a bit of freedom? Or are you locked into the traditional wife & kids model? And trying to convince yourself you are happy? Are you scared T-195 may be correct & you are missing out?
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