Single forever
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Welshbeef said:
SkinnyPete said:
Welshbeef said:
You could be gay and simply not seeing what’s in front of you.
Possibly you don’t think you are but maybe you are - I’ve a couple of gay mates one always was the other was a big surprise he had a strong a ladies (hot ladies at that) got engaged a couple of times but then he found what he really was looking for and never looked back since.
I’ve been to many a gay bar and when said mates have birthday parties they want to go to gay clubs which means I’ve been to plenty in my lifetime - I’m not gay but it’s a really good fun night out none of the usual crap you get in straight clubs.
Don’t just say your not gay you may we’ll be and simply discounting what might be a great life and partnership.
It's not gay if you don't push back?Possibly you don’t think you are but maybe you are - I’ve a couple of gay mates one always was the other was a big surprise he had a strong a ladies (hot ladies at that) got engaged a couple of times but then he found what he really was looking for and never looked back since.
I’ve been to many a gay bar and when said mates have birthday parties they want to go to gay clubs which means I’ve been to plenty in my lifetime - I’m not gay but it’s a really good fun night out none of the usual crap you get in straight clubs.
Don’t just say your not gay you may we’ll be and simply discounting what might be a great life and partnership.
Embrace it
Hoofy said:
S1KRR said:
stuff
If you're happy with your current situation, that's all that matters. I was single for about 8 years and once I got used to it, I was quite happy doing my own thing when I want and how I want.
Like the Sun rising in the East, Death and Taxes. It's just the way it's destined to be.
The old adage about "Control the things I can control, and don't worry about things I can't"
red_slr said:
Wait till you are 35 you will have women of similar age throwing themselves at you. Literally. They get desperate around that age. Assuming that's what you want. IYSWIM. So long as you have a stable job etc they will be climbing over each other to get to you.
Any truth in this?CP12 said:
red_slr said:
Wait till you are 35 you will have women of similar age throwing themselves at you. Literally. They get desperate around that age. Assuming that's what you want. IYSWIM. So long as you have a stable job etc they will be climbing over each other to get to you.
Any truth in this?To the OP, relax, be open to new things, and do stuff where you meet new people...your life is not over, it’s just begun.
CP12 said:
red_slr said:
Wait till you are 35 you will have women of similar age throwing themselves at you. Literally. They get desperate around that age. Assuming that's what you want. IYSWIM. So long as you have a stable job etc they will be climbing over each other to get to you.
Any truth in this?
The girls I have interacted with on various platforms at, or around, that age, seem to be MORE picky about potential suitors. Which is of course their right.
S1KRR said:
Hoofy said:
S1KRR said:
stuff
If you're happy with your current situation, that's all that matters. I was single for about 8 years and once I got used to it, I was quite happy doing my own thing when I want and how I want.Like the Sun rising in the East, Death and Taxes. It's just the way it's destined to be.
The old adage about "Control the things I can control, and don't worry about things I can't"
George Smiley said:
Welshbeef said:
SkinnyPete said:
Welshbeef said:
You could be gay and simply not seeing what’s in front of you.
Possibly you don’t think you are but maybe you are - I’ve a couple of gay mates one always was the other was a big surprise he had a strong a ladies (hot ladies at that) got engaged a couple of times but then he found what he really was looking for and never looked back since.
I’ve been to many a gay bar and when said mates have birthday parties they want to go to gay clubs which means I’ve been to plenty in my lifetime - I’m not gay but it’s a really good fun night out none of the usual crap you get in straight clubs.
Don’t just say your not gay you may we’ll be and simply discounting what might be a great life and partnership.
It's not gay if you don't push back?Possibly you don’t think you are but maybe you are - I’ve a couple of gay mates one always was the other was a big surprise he had a strong a ladies (hot ladies at that) got engaged a couple of times but then he found what he really was looking for and never looked back since.
I’ve been to many a gay bar and when said mates have birthday parties they want to go to gay clubs which means I’ve been to plenty in my lifetime - I’m not gay but it’s a really good fun night out none of the usual crap you get in straight clubs.
Don’t just say your not gay you may we’ll be and simply discounting what might be a great life and partnership.
Embrace it
Sheets Tabuer said:
46 and find women a massive pain in the arse these days.
Be happy being single.
My thoughts!Be happy being single.
I am 47 and just cannot be arsed anymore. I've had many relationships over the years ( most I ended because the negatives of relationships outweighed the positives for me), slept with lots of women as well but cant be bothered with that now.. Much happier as a result!
I guess I am just not a relationship person !
Have great friends and enjoy my fitness/strength training, my cars and being a free spirit!
oceanview said:
My thoughts!
I am 47 and just cannot be arsed anymore. I've had many relationships over the years ( most I ended because the negatives of relationships outweighed the positives for me), slept with lots of women as well but cant be bothered with that now.. Much happier as a result!
I guess I am just not a relationship person !
Have great friends and enjoy my fitness/strength training, my cars and being a free spirit!
Don’t you find it lonely? Or do you pal up with other men similar age similar situation? I am 47 and just cannot be arsed anymore. I've had many relationships over the years ( most I ended because the negatives of relationships outweighed the positives for me), slept with lots of women as well but cant be bothered with that now.. Much happier as a result!
I guess I am just not a relationship person !
Have great friends and enjoy my fitness/strength training, my cars and being a free spirit!
S1KRR said:
CP12 said:
red_slr said:
Wait till you are 35 you will have women of similar age throwing themselves at you. Literally. They get desperate around that age. Assuming that's what you want. IYSWIM. So long as you have a stable job etc they will be climbing over each other to get to you.
Any truth in this?The girls I have interacted with on various platforms at, or around, that age, seem to be MORE picky about potential suitors. Which is of course their right.
I personally can’t think of anything worse than being so lame that I would end up being “chosen” by some sperm hungry potential psycho who’s time is running out.
This sounds horrendous, but despite what they may say to the contrary, I’d say around 80% of women who are still single past 32 don’t want the perfect guy. Once they get to 35, this is pretty much 100%. Past 35, and before the age of 43, the biology in action is so strong that they are pretty much ready to settle for anything. Women of this age therefore tend to find the first person who is glad for the attention, too weak to leave them, willing to stick it in them and get the kids box ticked, and then stay around whilst the kids grow up. No matter how great opportunities get for women in the workplace, nature still kicks in and this often results in painfully bad and rushed decisions being made. It’s also the fault of the men for being sucked in, but some people I have seen have pretty much been preyed on (in my eyes anyway).
It’s so obvious when you see it from the outside (we had kids early and we now enjoying spectating). The older our friends get, the more frenzied everything becomes. I can guarantee that half of them will end up divorced or separated as most of the women they’re with are completely mental, and not in a good way.
Post 35 I noticed things tailing off fairly rapidly in terms of interest in me, however that also matches my rapidly dwindling interest in them.
Once you're beyond 40 you're often regarded as a bit suspect if you don't have at least one disastrous marriage and children who've been trained to hate you by then.
I kinda feel the opposite funnily enough.
Once you're beyond 40 you're often regarded as a bit suspect if you don't have at least one disastrous marriage and children who've been trained to hate you by then.
I kinda feel the opposite funnily enough.
bloomen said:
Post 35 I noticed things tailing off fairly rapidly in terms of interest in me, however that also matches my rapidly dwindling interest in them.
Once you're beyond 40 you're often regarded as a bit suspect if you don't have at least one disastrous marriage and children who've been trained to hate you by then.
I kinda feel the opposite funnily enough.
What one divorcee said at a BBQ last year is years ago we’d all go out boozing and clubbing every weekend Thurs Fri Sun, but then more and more of the group settled down married having kids then lots of so out for beers in pubs etc doesn’t happen and he found himself going out with younger and younger crews from the pub to the point they were much younger. Once you're beyond 40 you're often regarded as a bit suspect if you don't have at least one disastrous marriage and children who've been trained to hate you by then.
I kinda feel the opposite funnily enough.
Meeting ladies turned out to be either divorcees or ladies with real issues.
We need women to have kids early the earlier the better ie 21 etc longer you leave it but less chance of pregnancy and the risk of downs etc increases.
I never wanted to be a dad or a grandad who was too old to have a kick about with the kids.
I don’t judge anyone but have seen people plan to have them later /not try at all but then try and discover it’s a problem and might never then be able to have kids. It might be they wanted to be mortgage free or have lots of mega hols cars “life” but biology is a tricky thing to know the ins and outs.
Sheets Tabuer said:
Welshbeef said:
OP have you tried the Gay option?
Ditto any other long term singletons?
I'm very flattered for the offer but I'm not in to fat people.Ditto any other long term singletons?
Infact id say most gay men are exceptionally body conscious.
If you like ripped men the gay option is really an option for you
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