Single forever
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Welshbeef said:
OP have you tried the Gay option?
Ditto any other long term singletons?
And there it is. The oft suggested explanation as to why an apparently normal male in his 30s or older is long term single. Well he must be Gay and just in the closet still. Ditto any other long term singletons?
Sheets Tabuer said:
I'm very flattered for the offer but I'm not in to fat people.
Welshbeef said:
You could be gay and simply not seeing what’s in front of you.
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Don’t just say your not gay you may we’ll be and simply discounting what might be a great life and partnership.
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Don’t just say your not gay you may we’ll be and simply discounting what might be a great life and partnership.
Welshbeef said:
But Op and countless other single guys who for whatever reason as yet have not met “the one” or simply someone they could compromise with might actually be a genuine gay man or gay girl.
Embrace it
Embrace it
Welshbeef said:
OP have you tried the Gay option?
Ditto any other long term singletons?
Ditto any other long term singletons?
Welshbeef said:
If you like ripped men the gay option is really an option for you
Welshbeef, what's with the sudden obsession that the OP is (secretly) gay? 
Welshbeef said:
If you like ripped men the gay option is really an option for you
I didn't realise I was gay until I noticed how ripped my boyfriend was at my gay wedding day in front of gay people. He whispered in my ear that I was gay as a gay thing and I nodded in a newly gay fashion and all the gays cheered at my gayosity. Welshbeef is that kid who went around at school calling everyone gay, and then turned out to be gay.
Welshy it's fine if you are, the important thing is to be honest with yourself
But seriously, most of your replies have been 'maybe you are gay' have a think about it.....
Eta this quote where the poster has summed it up perfectly...
Welshy it's fine if you are, the important thing is to be honest with yourself
But seriously, most of your replies have been 'maybe you are gay' have a think about it.....
Eta this quote where the poster has summed it up perfectly...
g3org3y said:
Welshbeef said:
You could be gay and simply not seeing what’s in front of you.
...
Don’t just say your not gay you may we’ll be and simply discounting what might be a great life and partnership.
...
Don’t just say your not gay you may we’ll be and simply discounting what might be a great life and partnership.
Welshbeef said:
But Op and countless other single guys who for whatever reason as yet have not met “the one” or simply someone they could compromise with might actually be a genuine gay man or gay girl.
Embrace it
Embrace it
Welshbeef said:
OP have you tried the Gay option?
Ditto any other long term singletons?
Ditto any other long term singletons?
Welshbeef said:
If you like ripped men the gay option is really an option for you
Welshbeef, what's with the sudden obsession that the OP is (secretly) gay? SkinnyPete said:
Not the cheeriest of thread titles, but who here has accepted the fact that they'll probably be single forever and by extension never have kids?
I'm not talking about success with women (whatever your definition may be), I'm talking about the likelihood of meeting someone who you like enough to keep around for more than a few weeks, and who simultaneously feels the same way about you. The chances are incredibly slim, I'm amazed it happens so often for other people.
I don't want this thread to go off on a tangent about leagues, standards and settling because that's missing my point completely, what I am trying to get from this is how best to plan and live a life knowing you’ll probably never have another committed relationship or any dependants.
In my case, I’m almost 31 and I’ve been conscious for the past couple of years that I’ll probably never find someone to spend the rest of my life with, or have children with, regretfully.
To compensate for this, I’ve become far more of a socialite, more of an extrovert, more of a risk taker, always pushing my boundaries, always looking for the next opportunity and adventure.
I’ve learnt the importance of forging meaningful long-lasting friendships and I’m now closer to my extended family more than ever. What I don’t know though is how to maintain this as the years roll by, family will pass away and even the best of friends come and go. I guess it’s at this point that I start investing in cats.
I'm almost 38 and have been single for... years. Many years. At this stage in my life I've accepted it, and I'm happier than I've ever been. I'll have the odd moment where I long for some company, but they pass, and 90% of the time I'm too busy spending all of my own money on bikes, cars, gadgets etc, doing whatever I want to at the weekend, and so-on. In my mid-late twenties I was desperate to meet someone, and it showed. Now... meh.I'm not talking about success with women (whatever your definition may be), I'm talking about the likelihood of meeting someone who you like enough to keep around for more than a few weeks, and who simultaneously feels the same way about you. The chances are incredibly slim, I'm amazed it happens so often for other people.
I don't want this thread to go off on a tangent about leagues, standards and settling because that's missing my point completely, what I am trying to get from this is how best to plan and live a life knowing you’ll probably never have another committed relationship or any dependants.
In my case, I’m almost 31 and I’ve been conscious for the past couple of years that I’ll probably never find someone to spend the rest of my life with, or have children with, regretfully.
To compensate for this, I’ve become far more of a socialite, more of an extrovert, more of a risk taker, always pushing my boundaries, always looking for the next opportunity and adventure.
I’ve learnt the importance of forging meaningful long-lasting friendships and I’m now closer to my extended family more than ever. What I don’t know though is how to maintain this as the years roll by, family will pass away and even the best of friends come and go. I guess it’s at this point that I start investing in cats.
Don't get me wrong, I've not given up on meeting someone and settling down, having kids etc - but it's not the primary focus in my life. Or even the secondary, or tertiary, or quarternary...
My career is first, then enjoying my spare time, riding bikes and seeing the world. I've not long started a new job at a big company, so quite honestly if I can't meet someone there, there's no hope! This may be also partly due to an (un)healthy cynicism, having been messed about and gotten hurt countless times with women, many times with it being my own fault
but quite honestly if I could turn off the occasional feeling of wanting to settle down etc, I would, in an instant.I'm on tinder, happn etc, but I barely put any effort into them as I'm just not that bothered... and past experiences of online dating leads me to the conclusion that it's faaaaaaaaaaaaaar too much work for very, very little reward. Real life is best, I'll just let it happen... who knows mrs tallpaul could be sitting 200ft away at a desk at my work next week, or in a months time, or 6 months...
Didn't read the last 2 pages but I kinda see where you're coming from. I guess if I've read you right your issue will be in 10 or so years when everyone else is up to their ears in teenage domestics etc.
I do an outdoor thing, the club has a base in South Wales, events every month or so, always well attended, same people mostly, all techie oddballs, it's a bit of a family really, members all over the country. In my case it's potholing but these clubs exist for all sorts. Even if my own circle are busy there's always the caving club, great driving down there as well as talking s
t in the hut/pub and going underground.
Don't know about the romantic relationship thing, I'd reached the point of giving up on the conventional dating bars/clubs bullst at 31, went internet dating and had more fun in 6 months on match and guardian soulmates meeting virtual strangers than in previous 5/6 years clubbing etc in London with people I'd studied with at university. Sadly i found the match.com thread after I found the bird I'm now married to... it's true what the guy on p1 said though, if its women you want then get onto guardian soulmates and you'll be amazed how many 30+ formerly career focused women are registered, I just dated as many as my budget would tolerate until something gave or I got bored / found something better to do, it was a great time. As long as you're getting out there and have something to talk about besides football booze and birds (ok and cars) , you're guaranteed a decent couple of hours and it's not like your flat mates or Dave are going to be any better entertainment than an attractive stranger.
Let us know how you get on over there --> etc!
I do an outdoor thing, the club has a base in South Wales, events every month or so, always well attended, same people mostly, all techie oddballs, it's a bit of a family really, members all over the country. In my case it's potholing but these clubs exist for all sorts. Even if my own circle are busy there's always the caving club, great driving down there as well as talking s
t in the hut/pub and going underground.Don't know about the romantic relationship thing, I'd reached the point of giving up on the conventional dating bars/clubs bulls
t at 31, went internet dating and had more fun in 6 months on match and guardian soulmates meeting virtual strangers than in previous 5/6 years clubbing etc in London with people I'd studied with at university. Sadly i found the match.com thread after I found the bird I'm now married to... it's true what the guy on p1 said though, if its women you want then get onto guardian soulmates and you'll be amazed how many 30+ formerly career focused women are registered, I just dated as many as my budget would tolerate until something gave or I got bored / found something better to do, it was a great time. As long as you're getting out there and have something to talk about besides football booze and birds (ok and cars) , you're guaranteed a decent couple of hours and it's not like your flat mates or Dave are going to be any better entertainment than an attractive stranger.Let us know how you get on over there --> etc!
2gins said:
Let us know how you get on over there --> etc!
I met many interesting folks via the Guardian site back in the day, but these days it's deader than dead. I think they fired the people who used to run it, wiped the database and no one bothered to come back. Same goes for many conventional sites. I think the majority have migrated to apps.
gregs656 said:
Welshbeef said:
Ah sorry I’m married with kids not gay and pretty much average weight.
Hope you find that someone special be it straight or gay or neuter
What do you think your wife will say when she finds out she was just cover for your repressed sexuality? Hope you find that someone special be it straight or gay or neuter
bloomen said:
2gins said:
Let us know how you get on over there --> etc!
I met many interesting folks via the Guardian site back in the day, but these days it's deader than dead. I think they fired the people who used to run it, wiped the database and no one bothered to come back. Same goes for many conventional sites. I think the majority have migrated to apps.
gregs656 said:
Welshbeef said:
Ah sorry I’m married with kids not gay and pretty much average weight.
Hope you find that someone special be it straight or gay or neuter
What do you think your wife will say when she finds out she was just cover for your repressed sexuality? Hope you find that someone special be it straight or gay or neuter
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