Woman sets trap, man walks in - Tell us your version
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GeneralSinn said:
g3org3y said:
"But they all do that Sir"...only if you let them.
Only. If. You. Let. Them Wow. That’s a pretty bold, s
tty statement to make - you sound delightful!Why would you let someone treat you like a mug?
A reasonable amount of emotional lability is expected (hormones etc), but some of the stuff here goes way beyond that.
Here's the end point: a situation such as the chap whose wife and daughter couldn't drive from London to York despite having a Porsche Cayenne and Mini between them. Instead of him telling her to get her s
t together, he's looking at buying them first class train tickets or buying the daughter a new car. WTF!?Rod. Back. Etc.
If you're happy with that set up, crack on. Sorry mate, I'm too busy for that.
MarkwG said:
Me too! Where's the mutual respect? As my Dad put it, if you act like a doormat,don't be surprised if you get walked on...
This.Edited by g3org3y on Tuesday 21st May 21:47
popeyewhite said:
I know you're joking but that actually sounds like an abusive relationship!
Www.shrink4men.com I've read about men in abusive relationships and I've also read a book on Male Irritability Syndrome, so I'm not sure. I'm a grumpy f
ker sometimes, but she's always been volatile. It is with this knowledge that I continue to put myself through the occasional s
t. Terminator X said:
2 outfits ready to go out for the night "which one do you like best" doesn't matter which is is chosen as the answer is always "what's wrong with the other one?" + it actually doesn't matter which one I choose as she will wear whatever one she likes best!
TX.
Don't ask my opinion of clothing because you look beautiful without clothes. Why would I want you to cover up such beauty. TX.
colin_p said:
I'm sure it has been mentioned already up-thread but the simplest and often most deadly trap is as follows.
Her: Silent but a bit huffy and puffy and there is quite obviously something wrong.
Him: "Are you ok, is something wrong?"
Her: "No, nothing".
At this point and from years of experience, NEVER ever continue it past this point, just walk away. If you don't you will end up spending an inordinate amount of time trying to find out what is wrong which is always what you have / have not done.
Depending on how bad the thing is that you have no idea about ever having done or not done it may take several days to even find out. In extreme cases it can take weeks.
It can be like a war of attrition, not unlike the RAF vs Luftwaffe. Just make sure you continue to be a plucky chap. You may get caught a few times at first but once you know her (mind) game(s) it should be reasonably easy to take counter measures.
I also find it helpful to use NORAD style DEFCON aggro reviews.
Defcon 5: All good
Defcon 4: Non serious minor disagreement
Defcon 3: A bit of a row
Defcon 2: A blazing row
Defcon 1: A row so bad she says "we are finished"
I've been at Defcon 1 a few times and it has recovered. In fact it sometimes can be best to quickly take it to Defcon 1 as it can make things de-escalate quickly and counter intuitively is better than things hovering around Defcon 2 to 3.
Others may prefer to use a Doomsday Clock instead.
Is the definition of fiesty and volatile, the ability to go from.Defcom.5 to Defcom 1 in about 7 minutes? Her: Silent but a bit huffy and puffy and there is quite obviously something wrong.
Him: "Are you ok, is something wrong?"
Her: "No, nothing".
At this point and from years of experience, NEVER ever continue it past this point, just walk away. If you don't you will end up spending an inordinate amount of time trying to find out what is wrong which is always what you have / have not done.
Depending on how bad the thing is that you have no idea about ever having done or not done it may take several days to even find out. In extreme cases it can take weeks.
It can be like a war of attrition, not unlike the RAF vs Luftwaffe. Just make sure you continue to be a plucky chap. You may get caught a few times at first but once you know her (mind) game(s) it should be reasonably easy to take counter measures.
I also find it helpful to use NORAD style DEFCON aggro reviews.
Defcon 5: All good
Defcon 4: Non serious minor disagreement
Defcon 3: A bit of a row
Defcon 2: A blazing row
Defcon 1: A row so bad she says "we are finished"
I've been at Defcon 1 a few times and it has recovered. In fact it sometimes can be best to quickly take it to Defcon 1 as it can make things de-escalate quickly and counter intuitively is better than things hovering around Defcon 2 to 3.
Others may prefer to use a Doomsday Clock instead.
Jazzy Jag said:
Repeat after me, is as patronising a voice as possible.
"Yes dear!"
"What ever your little heart desires, my love"
??????
"Yes my little Honey Badger""Yes dear!"
"What ever your little heart desires, my love"
??????
Sounds lovely doesn't it, doesn't sound like a real animal, sounds like a pet name, part cute, a bit whimsical.
Look at Honey Badgers on Youtube, small, vicious and not to be trifled with.
Terminator X said:
George Smiley said:
Her: I’m not happy with my body image
Me: buys gym membership for her
Her: you’re saying I’m fat?
Her: name someone on your fantasy list, it’s ok as it’s a fantasy
Me: your sister
Wtf! I'd back away immediately if that question ever came up!Me: buys gym membership for her
Her: you’re saying I’m fat?
Her: name someone on your fantasy list, it’s ok as it’s a fantasy
Me: your sister
TX.
Pit Pony said:
colin_p said:
I'm sure it has been mentioned already up-thread but the simplest and often most deadly trap is as follows.
Her: Silent but a bit huffy and puffy and there is quite obviously something wrong.
Him: "Are you ok, is something wrong?"
Her: "No, nothing".
At this point and from years of experience, NEVER ever continue it past this point, just walk away. If you don't you will end up spending an inordinate amount of time trying to find out what is wrong which is always what you have / have not done.
Depending on how bad the thing is that you have no idea about ever having done or not done it may take several days to even find out. In extreme cases it can take weeks.
It can be like a war of attrition, not unlike the RAF vs Luftwaffe. Just make sure you continue to be a plucky chap. You may get caught a few times at first but once you know her (mind) game(s) it should be reasonably easy to take counter measures.
I also find it helpful to use NORAD style DEFCON aggro reviews.
Defcon 5: All good
Defcon 4: Non serious minor disagreement
Defcon 3: A bit of a row
Defcon 2: A blazing row
Defcon 1: A row so bad she says "we are finished"
I've been at Defcon 1 a few times and it has recovered. In fact it sometimes can be best to quickly take it to Defcon 1 as it can make things de-escalate quickly and counter intuitively is better than things hovering around Defcon 2 to 3.
Others may prefer to use a Doomsday Clock instead.
Is the definition of fiesty and volatile, the ability to go from.Defcom.5 to Defcom 1 in about 7 minutes? Her: Silent but a bit huffy and puffy and there is quite obviously something wrong.
Him: "Are you ok, is something wrong?"
Her: "No, nothing".
At this point and from years of experience, NEVER ever continue it past this point, just walk away. If you don't you will end up spending an inordinate amount of time trying to find out what is wrong which is always what you have / have not done.
Depending on how bad the thing is that you have no idea about ever having done or not done it may take several days to even find out. In extreme cases it can take weeks.
It can be like a war of attrition, not unlike the RAF vs Luftwaffe. Just make sure you continue to be a plucky chap. You may get caught a few times at first but once you know her (mind) game(s) it should be reasonably easy to take counter measures.
I also find it helpful to use NORAD style DEFCON aggro reviews.
Defcon 5: All good
Defcon 4: Non serious minor disagreement
Defcon 3: A bit of a row
Defcon 2: A blazing row
Defcon 1: A row so bad she says "we are finished"
I've been at Defcon 1 a few times and it has recovered. In fact it sometimes can be best to quickly take it to Defcon 1 as it can make things de-escalate quickly and counter intuitively is better than things hovering around Defcon 2 to 3.
Others may prefer to use a Doomsday Clock instead.
The real teller is how long it takes them to go back to Defcon 5.
colin_p said:
I'd say so but don't think it is that unusual.
The real teller is how long it takes them to go back to Defcon 5.
Example? The real teller is how long it takes them to go back to Defcon 5.
At 10pm on Sunday she went to Defcom.1
At 11 am on Monday I spoke to her on the phone and she was happy because I'd bought her favourite yogurt and mini breakfast pastries, (on Sunday morning when I went shopping with no list)
Pit Pony said:
Example?
At 10pm on Sunday she went to Defcom.1
At 11 am on Monday I spoke to her on the phone and she was happy because I'd bought her favourite yogurt and mini breakfast pastries, (on Sunday morning when I went shopping with no list)
"Shopping with no list" resulted in a Defcon 1 incident! Blimey, that is proper mental.At 10pm on Sunday she went to Defcom.1
At 11 am on Monday I spoke to her on the phone and she was happy because I'd bought her favourite yogurt and mini breakfast pastries, (on Sunday morning when I went shopping with no list)
Nine words women use:
1.) Fine: This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.
2.) Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour.
five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more
minutes to watch the match before helping around the house.
3.) Nothing: This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.
4.) Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission. Don't Do It!
5.) Loud Sigh: This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to #3 for the meaning of nothing.)
6.) That's Okay: This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That's okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.
7.) Thanks: A woman is thanking you, do not question, or faint. Just say nothing.
8.) Whatever: Is a women's way of saying F@!K YOU!
9.) Don't worry about it, I got it: Another dangerous statement,
meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking "What's wrong?" For the woman's response refer to #3.
1.) Fine: This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.
2.) Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour.
five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more
minutes to watch the match before helping around the house.
3.) Nothing: This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.
4.) Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission. Don't Do It!
5.) Loud Sigh: This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to #3 for the meaning of nothing.)
6.) That's Okay: This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That's okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.
7.) Thanks: A woman is thanking you, do not question, or faint. Just say nothing.
8.) Whatever: Is a women's way of saying F@!K YOU!
9.) Don't worry about it, I got it: Another dangerous statement,
meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking "What's wrong?" For the woman's response refer to #3.
colin_p said:
I'm sure it has been mentioned already up-thread but the simplest and often most deadly trap is as follows.
Her: Silent but a bit huffy and puffy and there is quite obviously something wrong.
Him: "Are you ok, is something wrong?"
Her: "No, nothing".
At this point and from years of experience, NEVER ever continue it past this point, just walk away. If you don't you will end up spending an inordinate amount of time trying to find out what is wrong which is always what you have / have not done.
Depending on how bad the thing is that you have no idea about ever having done or not done it may take several days to even find out. In extreme cases it can take weeks.
It can be like a war of attrition, not unlike the RAF vs Luftwaffe. Just make sure you continue to be a plucky chap. You may get caught a few times at first but once you know her (mind) game(s) it should be reasonably easy to take counter measures.
I also find it helpful to use NORAD style DEFCON aggro reviews.
Defcon 5: All good
Defcon 4: Non serious minor disagreement
Defcon 3: A bit of a row
Defcon 2: A blazing row
Defcon 1: A row so bad she says "we are finished"
I've been at Defcon 1 a few times and it has recovered. In fact it sometimes can be best to quickly take it to Defcon 1 as it can make things de-escalate quickly and counter intuitively is better than things hovering around Defcon 2 to 3.
Others may prefer to use a Doomsday Clock instead.
Defcon1 is best dealt with by a cheeky "fair enough", everyone knows what happened with Chamberlain.Her: Silent but a bit huffy and puffy and there is quite obviously something wrong.
Him: "Are you ok, is something wrong?"
Her: "No, nothing".
At this point and from years of experience, NEVER ever continue it past this point, just walk away. If you don't you will end up spending an inordinate amount of time trying to find out what is wrong which is always what you have / have not done.
Depending on how bad the thing is that you have no idea about ever having done or not done it may take several days to even find out. In extreme cases it can take weeks.
It can be like a war of attrition, not unlike the RAF vs Luftwaffe. Just make sure you continue to be a plucky chap. You may get caught a few times at first but once you know her (mind) game(s) it should be reasonably easy to take counter measures.
I also find it helpful to use NORAD style DEFCON aggro reviews.
Defcon 5: All good
Defcon 4: Non serious minor disagreement
Defcon 3: A bit of a row
Defcon 2: A blazing row
Defcon 1: A row so bad she says "we are finished"
I've been at Defcon 1 a few times and it has recovered. In fact it sometimes can be best to quickly take it to Defcon 1 as it can make things de-escalate quickly and counter intuitively is better than things hovering around Defcon 2 to 3.
Others may prefer to use a Doomsday Clock instead.
I don't think it's deliberate, just an understanding of how one thinks.
So discussing a which way we should have a door opening.
Her, it's impossible.
Me no its not impossible just a little more awkward.
Or
Her, what's that on the floor.
Me, water.
Apparantly I'm unnecessarily sarcastic, my response should have been about how it got there and why I'm such a clumsy oaf to spill it in the 1st place.
Oh and "drenched flooded floor" is a few ml which I'm able to wipe up with a cloth.
So discussing a which way we should have a door opening.
Her, it's impossible.
Me no its not impossible just a little more awkward.
Or
Her, what's that on the floor.
Me, water.
Apparantly I'm unnecessarily sarcastic, my response should have been about how it got there and why I'm such a clumsy oaf to spill it in the 1st place.
Oh and "drenched flooded floor" is a few ml which I'm able to wipe up with a cloth.
Pit Pony said:
Terminator X said:
2 outfits ready to go out for the night "which one do you like best" doesn't matter which is is chosen as the answer is always "what's wrong with the other one?" + it actually doesn't matter which one I choose as she will wear whatever one she likes best!
TX.
Don't ask my opinion of clothing because you look beautiful without clothes. Why would I want you to cover up such beauty. TX.
The following sort of st from women is why it's sometimes hard to not be drawn in at times.
Yesterday.
Having got in from a job at 5, I was under instructions to move 800 bricks from the curbside to the back garden, and mow the lawn. We also needed to do a Whicks collection, for supplies for the builder today. All by sunset.
Wife, coming out the front door whilst I'm loading the barrow with bricks
I told you we needed to go to Whicks before they close (it's now about 7)
Me, yes, and you also told me all of these bricks need moving today.
Her. Well I'll go then!
M. Darling, I'm doing my darnedest to shift these by 7.30, then I'll go, then I'll do the lawn.
H. DON'T worry, I'm going.
M. Walking a way from car muttering 'fk off you mardy cow'
Woman logic.
t from women is why it's sometimes hard to not be drawn in at times.Yesterday.
Having got in from a job at 5, I was under instructions to move 800 bricks from the curbside to the back garden, and mow the lawn. We also needed to do a Whicks collection, for supplies for the builder today. All by sunset.
Wife, coming out the front door whilst I'm loading the barrow with bricks
I told you we needed to go to Whicks before they close (it's now about 7)
Me, yes, and you also told me all of these bricks need moving today.
Her. Well I'll go then!
M. Darling, I'm doing my darnedest to shift these by 7.30, then I'll go, then I'll do the lawn.
H. DON'T worry, I'm going.
M. Walking a way from car muttering 'f
k off you mardy cow' Woman logic.
Edited by Fermit and Sexy Sarah on Wednesday 22 May 10:59
PositronicRay said:
Her, what's that on the floor.
Me, water.
Apparantly I'm unnecessarily sarcastic, my response should have been about how it got there and why I'm such a clumsy oaf to spill it in the 1st place.
Oh and "drenched flooded floor" is a few ml which I'm able to wipe up with a cloth.
Classic case of asking the wrong question and getting frustrated when they receive the correct answer. If she wanted to know how the water got on the floor she should have asked “how did the water get on the floor”. Oh and finishing with the old blowing something out of proportion.Me, water.
Apparantly I'm unnecessarily sarcastic, my response should have been about how it got there and why I'm such a clumsy oaf to spill it in the 1st place.
Oh and "drenched flooded floor" is a few ml which I'm able to wipe up with a cloth.
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