Match.com (Vol. 7)
Discussion
wong said:
21ATS said:
I've been talking myself out of getting one for 5 years, this one popped up and it's pretty much as I would have specced it new if I could wind the clock back. It just felt right.
I sent a message to the guy that does my finance who promptly replied he was the FOS too, so we all met up, did the finance. The numbers worked so I paid a deposit.
As impulse buys go it was a large one.
Does the other half know yet?I sent a message to the guy that does my finance who promptly replied he was the FOS too, so we all met up, did the finance. The numbers worked so I paid a deposit.
As impulse buys go it was a large one.
That said I was on the phone during the day with the very nice lady I'm currently seeing (met on Hinge - very early stages). She'd rung me to see if I was having a nice day, to which I said yes, I've just unexpectedly bought a car.
Oh she said, You're not having a mid life crisis are you and bought a red Ferrari?.....
Pause.....
Errr, it's not Red.
Edited by 21ATS on Saturday 25th June 17:14
21ATS said:
wong said:
21ATS said:
I've been talking myself out of getting one for 5 years, this one popped up and it's pretty much as I would have specced it new if I could wind the clock back. It just felt right.
I sent a message to the guy that does my finance who promptly replied he was the FOS too, so we all met up, did the finance. The numbers worked so I paid a deposit.
As impulse buys go it was a large one.
Does the other half know yet?I sent a message to the guy that does my finance who promptly replied he was the FOS too, so we all met up, did the finance. The numbers worked so I paid a deposit.
As impulse buys go it was a large one.
That said I was on the phone during the day with the very nice lady I'm currently seeing (met on Hinge - very early stages). She'd rung me to see if I was having a nice day, to which I said yes, I've just unexpectedly bought a car.
Oh she said, You're not having a mid life crisis are you and bought a red Ferrari?.....
Pause.....
Errr, it's not Red.
Excellent!
wong said:
21ATS said:
wong said:
21ATS said:
I've been talking myself out of getting one for 5 years, this one popped up and it's pretty much as I would have specced it new if I could wind the clock back. It just felt right.
I sent a message to the guy that does my finance who promptly replied he was the FOS too, so we all met up, did the finance. The numbers worked so I paid a deposit.
As impulse buys go it was a large one.
Does the other half know yet?I sent a message to the guy that does my finance who promptly replied he was the FOS too, so we all met up, did the finance. The numbers worked so I paid a deposit.
As impulse buys go it was a large one.
That said I was on the phone during the day with the very nice lady I'm currently seeing (met on Hinge - very early stages). She'd rung me to see if I was having a nice day, to which I said yes, I've just unexpectedly bought a car.
Oh she said, You're not having a mid life crisis are you and bought a red Ferrari?.....
Pause.....
Errr, it's not Red.
Excellent!
Petrus1983 said:
wong said:
21ATS said:
wong said:
21ATS said:
I've been talking myself out of getting one for 5 years, this one popped up and it's pretty much as I would have specced it new if I could wind the clock back. It just felt right.
I sent a message to the guy that does my finance who promptly replied he was the FOS too, so we all met up, did the finance. The numbers worked so I paid a deposit.
As impulse buys go it was a large one.
Does the other half know yet?I sent a message to the guy that does my finance who promptly replied he was the FOS too, so we all met up, did the finance. The numbers worked so I paid a deposit.
As impulse buys go it was a large one.
That said I was on the phone during the day with the very nice lady I'm currently seeing (met on Hinge - very early stages). She'd rung me to see if I was having a nice day, to which I said yes, I've just unexpectedly bought a car.
Oh she said, You're not having a mid life crisis are you and bought a red Ferrari?.....
Pause.....
Errr, it's not Red.
Excellent!
Very nice Hinge lady seemed shocked and keen all at the same time.
Petrus1983 said:
K77 CTR said:
Petrus1983 said:
In the old days Guardian Soulmates would have been a good match with FoS. Are you going to the event itself still?
Yes I'm going tomorrowK77 CTR said:
Aww thanks Petrus, even the thought of that is lovely. I'm looking forward to it. Not a member but I'm just happy to be going.
It’s a really lovely day. Just seen the last FoS I went to I took another PHer as a guest - 5 years ago 
where’s the time gone! I did the MM earlier in the year which was awesome. Petrus1983 said:
21ATS said:
It's going to Joe Macari on the 25th July I have a month wait. Fingers crossed.
Very nice Hinge lady seemed shocked and keen all at the same time.
No matter how long I banged on about Hinge - few listened. It’s for me the ‘real’ OLD. Hope it goes well on both fronts Very nice Hinge lady seemed shocked and keen all at the same time.
You're right about Hinge. I don't know quite what it is but it seems to be a different calibre of member.
CharlesdeGaulle said:
Sneaky minxes are probably looking for a quickie in return for a hot shower and soft bed!
Have my son all weekend but had an old FWB pop up asking if I was around yesterday and again today while they act as a festival taxi. Had a few decent video chats over what's app to the busty redhead who's in the middle of moving back from a sunnier climate. She's due back end of next month and both said we can't wait to meet up. Slightly younger, freckly, ginge, no kids, a good career and well spoken with a similar sense of humour. Seems too good to be true...
Just after advice, for a work buddy 
So he met this lass couple of weeks ago (on match ofcourse) - they were on the phone alot and also texting alot, into the early hours on a couple of occasions. They are both 29 and seem a good match from what I can tell.
They met last Saturday for a meal and a wander around town, he said he was very nervous, but she was very chatty and quite keen. They then went out last Thursday night aswell, they went out for a very long walk and then another meal at a pub. Apparently they got a bit touchy and were flirting the entire time, he said he felt like they had hit it off.
Now she's, well I wouldnt call it ghosting, as she answers when he texts, but it's very short and to the point answers and she also wont answer when he calls. Am I right giving him advice that he's wasting his time?
So he met this lass couple of weeks ago (on match ofcourse) - they were on the phone alot and also texting alot, into the early hours on a couple of occasions. They are both 29 and seem a good match from what I can tell.
They met last Saturday for a meal and a wander around town, he said he was very nervous, but she was very chatty and quite keen. They then went out last Thursday night aswell, they went out for a very long walk and then another meal at a pub. Apparently they got a bit touchy and were flirting the entire time, he said he felt like they had hit it off.
Now she's, well I wouldnt call it ghosting, as she answers when he texts, but it's very short and to the point answers and she also wont answer when he calls. Am I right giving him advice that he's wasting his time?
Edited by Chedders on Sunday 26th June 14:25
Someone else on match has made contact with her in the meantime, and your buddy has probably brought her out of her shell such that she is also planning to meet up with this other guy now, but she does not want to ditch your mate just in case it does not work out so she has gone luke warm until after that other date.. keeping him on the back burner. Standard OLD tactic.
Edited by PAUL.S. on Sunday 26th June 14:36
PAUL.S. said:
Someone else on match has made contact with her in the meantime, and your buddy has probably brought her out of her shell such that she is also planning to meet up with this other guy now, but she does not want to ditch your mate just in case it does not work out so she has gone luke warm until after that other date.. keeping him on the back burner. Standard OLD tactic.
Yep, carry on as normal with your swipes etc. Edited by PAUL.S. on Sunday 26th June 14:36
it’s a harsh cruel world OLD but you’ll get used to it lol
Chedders said:
Just after advice, for a work buddy
So he met this lass couple of weeks ago (on match ofcourse) - they were on the phone alot and also texting alot, into the early hours on a couple of occasions. They are both 29 and seem a good match from what I can tell.
They met last Saturday for a meal and a wander around town, he said he was very nervous, but she was very chatty and quite keen. They then went out last Thursday night aswell, they went out for a very long walk and then another meal at a pub. Apparently they got a bit touchy and were flirting the entire time, he said he felt like they had hit it off.
Now she's, well I wouldnt call it ghosting, as she answers when he texts, but it's very short and to the point answers and she also wont answer when he calls. Am I right giving him advice that he's wasting his time?
She is multi-dating (as they all do) and someone else is now the top of the ladder. So he met this lass couple of weeks ago (on match ofcourse) - they were on the phone alot and also texting alot, into the early hours on a couple of occasions. They are both 29 and seem a good match from what I can tell.
They met last Saturday for a meal and a wander around town, he said he was very nervous, but she was very chatty and quite keen. They then went out last Thursday night aswell, they went out for a very long walk and then another meal at a pub. Apparently they got a bit touchy and were flirting the entire time, he said he felt like they had hit it off.
Now she's, well I wouldnt call it ghosting, as she answers when he texts, but it's very short and to the point answers and she also wont answer when he calls. Am I right giving him advice that he's wasting his time?
She is keeping him there breadcrumbing him....just in case, or as fallback if the one she is now keen on doesn't pan out as she hopes.
Tell him to totally back off..and if she does like him, it'll be like catnip. And if she doesn't, well, there is your answer.
He should also be swiping and dating instead of putting all his eggs in her crowded basket.
As for an update of my own. Still with the girl I met about 2 months ago now. She stayed here for the weekend and has not long gone back home now.
Great time together as we always do and the bedroom antics are still lasting for hours, so much so a planned day out has to be moved around somewhat as we’ve spent way too much, but very good time in bed !
Been lots of fun having her over for the weekend, since Friday afternoon. Lived on my own for the last 3/4 years now. Strangely now she’s gone the house feels rather empty!
I’ve got work for two days next week and over to hers middle of next week too.
Planned and booked a couple of nights stay away somewhere nice and talk of some September sun too.
Still all good and going extremely well.
Happy swiping and don’t forget the no swipe list lol
Great time together as we always do and the bedroom antics are still lasting for hours, so much so a planned day out has to be moved around somewhat as we’ve spent way too much, but very good time in bed !
Been lots of fun having her over for the weekend, since Friday afternoon. Lived on my own for the last 3/4 years now. Strangely now she’s gone the house feels rather empty!
I’ve got work for two days next week and over to hers middle of next week too.
Planned and booked a couple of nights stay away somewhere nice and talk of some September sun too.
Still all good and going extremely well.
Happy swiping and don’t forget the no swipe list lol
PDP76 said:
PAUL.S. said:
Someone else on match has made contact with her in the meantime, and your buddy has probably brought her out of her shell such that she is also planning to meet up with this other guy now, but she does not want to ditch your mate just in case it does not work out so she has gone luke warm until after that other date.. keeping him on the back burner. Standard OLD tactic.
Yep, carry on as normal with your swipes etc. Edited by PAUL.S. on Sunday 26th June 14:36
it’s a harsh cruel world OLD but you’ll get used to it lol
And you’ll do it to others.
It’s the gig.
The spinner of plates said:
PDP76 said:
PAUL.S. said:
Someone else on match has made contact with her in the meantime, and your buddy has probably brought her out of her shell such that she is also planning to meet up with this other guy now, but she does not want to ditch your mate just in case it does not work out so she has gone luke warm until after that other date.. keeping him on the back burner. Standard OLD tactic.
Yep, carry on as normal with your swipes etc. Edited by PAUL.S. on Sunday 26th June 14:36
it’s a harsh cruel world OLD but you’ll get used to it lol
And you’ll do it to others.
It’s the gig.
It's also why if you appear over keen after the first few dates you can usually expect to get ghosted pretty quickly.
As the start you think you will never do it to someone, but after a while and as soon as a potentially better offer appears on the horizon you will drop the other person, but keep in contact just enough to keep them on the back burner.
I always likened it to plate spinning, just enough attention to keep them spinning, but if they stop and fall away there is always another one to replace them with.
I’ve had this done to me and I’m not proud to say I’ve done it to others.
The fact is you are not going to meet someone who is 100% right for you. Such a person may not even exist, let alone be on OLD at the same time for you. You try to find someone who is the best possible, say 80%, someone who is close enough that you could probably settle and on you go. Then someone who is 85 or 90% pops up, and the nature of the game is that you revisit why the 80%-er is inferior and switch, whilst still keeping your options open.
The trick is realising when you’ve found the best you’re going to AND so have they in you otherwise you’ll be endlessly waiting for the next better one to come along.
This is all derived from my infinite wisdom after a couple of months on OLD, so probably a load of old b
ks of course.
The fact is you are not going to meet someone who is 100% right for you. Such a person may not even exist, let alone be on OLD at the same time for you. You try to find someone who is the best possible, say 80%, someone who is close enough that you could probably settle and on you go. Then someone who is 85 or 90% pops up, and the nature of the game is that you revisit why the 80%-er is inferior and switch, whilst still keeping your options open.
The trick is realising when you’ve found the best you’re going to AND so have they in you otherwise you’ll be endlessly waiting for the next better one to come along.
This is all derived from my infinite wisdom after a couple of months on OLD, so probably a load of old b
ks of course. Gassing Station | The Lounge | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff