Match.com (Vol. 7)
Discussion
To me you would be doing your due diligence from the conversation and dating profile to work out spending. If the woman in question has 3 kids and has 'full time mummy' as her occupation but still has loubs and vuitton in her pictures i would be thinking she is after what ever she can get. If she is working has that independent woman vibe then i think any bills would be split.
I remember chatting to a woman a couple of years ago and when it came to arranging a 1st date she said she expected to be taken for a meal at my expense.I said I don't do that on a 1st date,her reply was why not,all the other men she'd been out with had done that.
Make up your own minds on that one but needless to say I didn't meet her
Make up your own minds on that one but needless to say I didn't meet her
V8covin said:
I remember chatting to a woman a couple of years ago and when it came to arranging a 1st date she said she expected to be taken for a meal at my expense.I said I don't do that on a 1st date,her reply was why not,all the other men she'd been out with had done that.
Make up your own minds on that one but needless to say I didn't meet her
Agree, buddy and with Taylor James tooMake up your own minds on that one but needless to say I didn't meet her
Casual meet up is enough in a coffee bar. Going well?, then order the muffins too.
What 20£, that’s all you need to see if you both want to proceed.
Met a lady a few weeks back, went on a couple of dates, went on a walk with her dog yesterday and arranged another date for tonight, she text earlier on to say she's gonna leave it as she's not really feeling it. I was abit surprised as I thought it was going rather well, oh well, onto the next one!
Leicester Loyal said:
Met a lady a few weeks back, went on a couple of dates, went on a walk with her dog yesterday and arranged another date for tonight, she text earlier on to say she's gonna leave it as she's not really feeling it. I was abit surprised as I thought it was going rather well, oh well, onto the next one!
I’ve heard that happens lotsAt least she informed you
Yep, hang in there, buddy.
throt said:
LordHaveMurci said:
It was a pleasant evening, not sure it’s going to go anywhere though, especially going into LD2 in a few days.
It’s only for 4 weeks, well, initially.See how the after chats go then
All the best
Seems strange as she gave me a big hug when we left the pub last night but hey ho, genuinely not bothered.
LordHaveMurci said:
throt said:
LordHaveMurci said:
It was a pleasant evening, not sure it’s going to go anywhere though, especially going into LD2 in a few days.
It’s only for 4 weeks, well, initially.See how the after chats go then
All the best
Seems strange as she gave me a big hug when we left the pub last night but hey ho, genuinely not bothered.
It’s a bummer if you like the girl but you never know what’s going on in between someones ears.
Have said this before but I must have easily spent over two hundred notes on the first date with my mrs.
I likely paid similar for date two.
She has repaid me many times over and in many different ways (emotional, financial)
Any bloke who begrudges paying to take a woman on a first date is likely massively limiting his options, and just because a lady lets you pay for date one doesn’t mean she is a gold digger (I was treated to a two week foreign holiday for my birthday this year and didn’t even buy a drink)
I likely paid similar for date two.
She has repaid me many times over and in many different ways (emotional, financial)
Any bloke who begrudges paying to take a woman on a first date is likely massively limiting his options, and just because a lady lets you pay for date one doesn’t mean she is a gold digger (I was treated to a two week foreign holiday for my birthday this year and didn’t even buy a drink)
throt said:
Maybe she has stuff going on in her head and it’s nothing to do with you. She may have pulled the plug entirely on dating for now.
It’s a bummer if you like the girl but you never know what’s going on in between someones ears.
Spot on, best not to over-analyse it, just keep your chin up and move on.It’s a bummer if you like the girl but you never know what’s going on in between someones ears.
maybe it depends on your age but i wouldn't expect any woman younger than 50 to expect to be bought dinner on a first date unless they were either a gold-digger, an aspirational sugar baby, a divorcee who's ex used to do it or a skint council lump. Horses for courses but none of them are my preference.
Blown2CV said:
maybe it depends on your age but i wouldn't expect any woman younger than 50 to expect to be bought dinner on a first date unless they were either a gold-digger, an aspirational sugar baby, a divorcee who's ex used to do it or a skint council lump. Horses for courses but none of them are my preference.
Err, what happens to them at 50? On second thoughts, don't answer that.
Edited by Bluesgirl on Tuesday 3rd November 11:45
Bluesgirl said:
Blown2CV said:
maybe it depends on your age but i wouldn't expect any woman younger than 50 to expect to be bought dinner on a first date unless they were either a gold-digger, an aspirational sugar baby, a divorcee who's ex used to do it or a skint council lump. Horses for courses but none of them are my preference.
Err, what happens to them at 50? When I was dating I always pushed the boat out.
Generally a meal in a high end restaurant and is always pay.
Why? I enjoyed eating in nice restaurants. Choosing somewhere that appealed, dressing up etc. I loved all that.
None of my dates offered to pay, I asked them out and chose where to go so I footed the bill.
It did set an expectation for the future without a doubt but that’s how I am.
Generally a meal in a high end restaurant and is always pay.
Why? I enjoyed eating in nice restaurants. Choosing somewhere that appealed, dressing up etc. I loved all that.
None of my dates offered to pay, I asked them out and chose where to go so I footed the bill.
It did set an expectation for the future without a doubt but that’s how I am.
Thankyou4calling said:
When I was dating I always pushed the boat out.
Generally a meal in a high end restaurant and is always pay.
Why? I enjoyed eating in nice restaurants. Choosing somewhere that appealed, dressing up etc. I loved all that.
None of my dates offered to pay, I asked them out and chose where to go so I footed the bill.
It did set an expectation for the future without a doubt but that’s how I am.
Whatif SHE chose the venue & booked the table, would you still pay then?Generally a meal in a high end restaurant and is always pay.
Why? I enjoyed eating in nice restaurants. Choosing somewhere that appealed, dressing up etc. I loved all that.
None of my dates offered to pay, I asked them out and chose where to go so I footed the bill.
It did set an expectation for the future without a doubt but that’s how I am.
I’ll answer that , and I guess it’ll not be well received here. Please don’t dissect every word.
I’d ask for the date, the lady might say a certain town or area but I’d choose the venue. I might put a couple forward but it’d be me doing that.
Why? Well first I know a lot of great places to go, I’d already got an idea of the ladies likes etc so the suggestion was well received and appropriate.
Finally, and I know this won’t go well, I wasn’t interested in women who were keen on choosing, I wanted to take the lead and be with someone who enjoyed that. I wasn’t keen on people with strong opinions on what we should do, I wanted someone who looked fantastic, wanted to be wined, dined and taken to swanky places.
That was my “Type”
I really try not to judge others by there choice of partner, try not to judge me.
I’d ask for the date, the lady might say a certain town or area but I’d choose the venue. I might put a couple forward but it’d be me doing that.
Why? Well first I know a lot of great places to go, I’d already got an idea of the ladies likes etc so the suggestion was well received and appropriate.
Finally, and I know this won’t go well, I wasn’t interested in women who were keen on choosing, I wanted to take the lead and be with someone who enjoyed that. I wasn’t keen on people with strong opinions on what we should do, I wanted someone who looked fantastic, wanted to be wined, dined and taken to swanky places.
That was my “Type”
I really try not to judge others by there choice of partner, try not to judge me.
Edited by Thankyou4calling on Tuesday 3rd November 12:56
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