Match.com (Vol. 7)

[shirt]

Sir Lord Harold said:

Tried online dating, self-improvement, the real world, everything, but can't get a date. Never had a girlfriend, got no mates. Whatever.

Rarely go out these days but I make an exception last night because I want affirmation my situation's irrecoverable. I attend a meetup (meetup.com) at a bar in town. I wasn't there long and didn't intend to stay, I just wanted to get the vibe.

Bought a pint costing £5.80, felt like I'd been robbed then I end up standing there invisible as usual. Finish my beer and wander for one last time before leaving. As I'm leaving I notice one woman looking at me scowling, she's definitely looking at me so I walk up to her and she tells me to stop looking at her. She's not happy I looked in her general direction. She tries escalating the situation with a male but I'm quite a big guy myself and her 'protector' laughs it off and pussies out, I start getting negative attention from her female accomplices. Rejected by her male protector she engages with security and I end up getting ejected from the venue for looking at her.

For perspective this was a very ugly pig-nosed woman, sow-like resemblance, fattened for slaughter.

[Robertj21a]

Sir Lord Harold said:

Tried online dating, self-improvement, the real world, everything, but can't get a date. Never had a girlfriend, got no mates. Whatever.

Rarely go out these days but I make an exception last night because I want affirmation my situation's irrecoverable. I attend a meetup (meetup.com) at a bar in town. I wasn't there long and didn't intend to stay, I just wanted to get the vibe.

Bought a pint costing £5.80, felt like I'd been robbed then I end up standing there invisible as usual. Finish my beer and wander for one last time before leaving. As I'm leaving I notice one woman looking at me scowling, she's definitely looking at me so I walk up to her and she tells me to stop looking at her. She's not happy I looked in her general direction. She tries escalating the situation with a male but I'm quite a big guy myself and her 'protector' laughs it off and pussies out, I start getting negative attention from her female accomplices. Rejected by her male protector she engages with security and I end up getting ejected from the venue for looking at her.

For perspective this was a very ugly pig-nosed woman, sow-like resemblance, fattened for slaughter.

Don't bother with it all. Many men realise, eventually, that the whole male/female thing is often a disaster zone. Many will regret getting involved with a female and only then realise that you can live a very happy life as a single male, enjoying whatever hobbies you have - where and whenever you please. That's not to say that a really good male/female relationship isn't wonderful, it's just that the odds of achieving it seem to be ever diminishing these days.

[Condi]

Robertj21a said:

Don't bother with it all. Many men realise, eventually, that the whole male/female thing is often a disaster zone. Many will regret getting involved with a female and only then realise that you can live a very happy life as a single male, enjoying whatever hobbies you have - where and whenever you please. That's not to say that a really good male/female relationship isn't wonderful, it's just that the odds of achieving it seem to be ever diminishing these days.

What a depressing attitude.

[Greshamst]

The incels... they have arrived.

[Condi]

Davetheraver said:

The whole week of first messaging was without pics, first time we knew what each other looked like was when we met. Savers precious dates had also been without photos exchanging beforehand

Thats a bit weird. Not many people would reply to someone without pictures, let alone want to meet up without knowing what they look like. Why would they - there are plenty of people on apps and sites with pictures.

[Robertj21a]

Condi said:

Robertj21a said:

Don't bother with it all. Many men realise, eventually, that the whole male/female thing is often a disaster zone. Many will regret getting involved with a female and only then realise that you can live a very happy life as a single male, enjoying whatever hobbies you have - where and whenever you please. That's not to say that a really good male/female relationship isn't wonderful, it's just that the odds of achieving it seem to be ever diminishing these days.

What a depressing attitude.

Realistic, not depressing. Men seem to have got conditioned to thinking that life revolves around whether or not they are with a woman, a bit like a trophy achievement. The fact is that many regret that approach and, later, long for the single life. It just needs a bit of thought as to where your priorities are.

[Countdown]

Sir Lord Harold said:

Tried online dating, self-improvement, the real world, everything, but can't get a date. Never had a girlfriend, got no mates. Whatever.

Rarely go out these days but I make an exception last night because I want affirmation my situation's irrecoverable. I attend a meetup (meetup.com) at a bar in town. I wasn't there long and didn't intend to stay, I just wanted to get the vibe.

Bought a pint costing £5.80, felt like I'd been robbed then I end up standing there invisible as usual. Finish my beer and wander for one last time before leaving. As I'm leaving I notice one woman looking at me scowling, she's definitely looking at me so I walk up to her and she tells me to stop looking at her. She's not happy I looked in her general direction. She tries escalating the situation with a male but I'm quite a big guy myself and her 'protector' laughs it off and pussies out, I start getting negative attention from her female accomplices. Rejected by her male protector she engages with security and I end up getting ejected from the venue for looking at her.

For perspective this was a very ugly pig-nosed woman, sow-like resemblance, fattened for slaughter.

You made that up, didn't you? Nobody is that unlucky, or that lacking in social skills......

[shirt]

Robertj21a said:

Condi said:

Robertj21a said:

Don't bother with it all. Many men realise, eventually, that the whole male/female thing is often a disaster zone. Many will regret getting involved with a female and only then realise that you can live a very happy life as a single male, enjoying whatever hobbies you have - where and whenever you please. That's not to say that a really good male/female relationship isn't wonderful, it's just that the odds of achieving it seem to be ever diminishing these days.

What a depressing attitude.

Realistic, not depressing. Men seem to have got conditioned to thinking that life revolves around whether or not they are with a woman, a bit like a trophy achievement. The fact is that many regret that approach and, later, long for the single life. It just needs a bit of thought as to where your priorities are.

since when? i didn't get the email

[Sir Lord Harold]

Countdown said:

You made that up, didn't you? Nobody is that unlucky, or that lacking in social skills......

I don't 'do fake'. It's 100% real. No embellishments.

[Sir Lord Harold]

Condi said:

Thats a bit weird. Not many people would reply to someone without pictures, let alone want to meet up without knowing what they look like. Why would they - there are plenty of people on apps and sites with pictures.

+1

[Sir Lord Harold]

Robertj21a said:

Don't bother with it all. Many men realise, eventually, that the whole male/female thing is often a disaster zone. Many will regret getting involved with a female and only then realise that you can live a very happy life as a single male, enjoying whatever hobbies you have - where and whenever you please. That's not to say that a really good male/female relationship isn't wonderful, it's just that the odds of achieving it seem to be ever diminishing these days.

Strong MGTOW perspective, incel cope.

That said I know you're right, I've got a similar mindset but it's not the point. I don't have a choice in the matter and I've been treated badly my whole life by NT people, from everything - jobs to relationships, they don't want me part of their society which is fair enough but there are consequences for this.

Until I decide what to do l feel a sabbatical to a cheap, remote part of the world is in order.

[Budflicker]

Sir Lord Harold said:

Strong MGTOW perspective, incel cope.

That said I know you're right, I've got a similar mindset but it's not the point. I don't have a choice in the matter and I've been treated badly my whole life by NT people, from everything - jobs to relationships, they don't want me part of their society which is fair enough but there are consequences for this.

Until I decide what to do l feel a sabbatical to a cheap, remote part of the world is in order.

I think we really need a photo of you to properly advise.


Unless you are a dead ringer for Peter Sutcliffe I can't for the life of me see what went wrong at that meet up?

[S1KRR]

shirt said:

since when? i didn't get the email

I think it's subconscious for a lot of people. The get a job, get a promotion, get married, pump out kids, retire, die.

Anyone who chooses (or in the case of Incels is rejected) to live anything other than that confuses the majority.


I get more quizzical looks for being single than anything else in my life

I think what confuses the most is that I'm not a social retard. I can chat and have a laugh with most people I meet. I'm reasonably confident in most social settings. Can make people laugh. Can make people think.

I remember going out with some work friends one evening. And I got chatting to 2 girls at the bar we were in. Probably chatted to them for 10mins tops. TBH I wasn't interested in either of them. Daresay with a bit of effort could have got numbers and dates from it. But if I'm honest, I was just "keeping my eye in" in terms of being sociable and approaching and chatting to people in an environment where it's expected and not too weird.

Afterwards a friend (with a GF) said to me incredulously "how the fk are you still single?" Similar thing at a wedding last year. The groom messaged me the next day thanking me for coming etc and then dropped in that I'd made an impression on somebody at the wedding and they wanted him to pass on her number to me. I reckon it was probably 1 of 2 girls I chatted to. But told him I didn't want to know who it was and I didn't want the number. Which again confuses people, who I hope, have my interests at heart to a degree.

If I meet someone and I feel there's a future with that person, then I'll go for it. It will sound like I'm incredibly picky seeking millionaire supermodels with great tits and long legs. But I'm not that way inclined. I have a list of things (or more accurately attributes/outlooks) I want to see (not just physical) and if they don't have many of them, then where's the point in wasting both our times forcing something. Though of course having those commonalities is no proof of long term success either.

Until then being single works for me.

[Robertj21a]

S1KRR said:

I think it's subconscious for a lot of people. The get a job, get a promotion, get married, pump out kids, retire, die.

Anyone who chooses (or in the case of Incels is rejected) to live anything other than that confuses the majority.


I get more quizzical looks for being single than anything else in my life

I think what confuses the most is that I'm not a social retard. I can chat and have a laugh with most people I meet. I'm reasonably confident in most social settings. Can make people laugh. Can make people think.

I remember going out with some work friends one evening. And I got chatting to 2 girls at the bar we were in. Probably chatted to them for 10mins tops. TBH I wasn't interested in either of them. Daresay with a bit of effort could have got numbers and dates from it. But if I'm honest, I was just "keeping my eye in" in terms of being sociable and approaching and chatting to people in an environment where it's expected and not too weird.

Afterwards a friend (with a GF) said to me incredulously "how the fk are you still single?" Similar thing at a wedding last year. The groom messaged me the next day thanking me for coming etc and then dropped in that I'd made an impression on somebody at the wedding and they wanted him to pass on her number to me. I reckon it was probably 1 of 2 girls I chatted to. But told him I didn't want to know who it was and I didn't want the number. Which again confuses people, who I hope, have my interests at heart to a degree.

If I meet someone and I feel there's a future with that person, then I'll go for it. It will sound like I'm incredibly picky seeking millionaire supermodels with great tits and long legs. But I'm not that way inclined. I have a list of things (or more accurately attributes/outlooks) I want to see (not just physical) and if they don't have many of them, then where's the point in wasting both our times forcing something. Though of course having those commonalities is no proof of long term success either.

Until then being single works for me.

Absolutely. It confuses many people who appear to be programmed to find a mate, virtually regardless of whether or not is suits what they otherwise want out of life.

Having been both married and single I know which I now prefer.

[S1KRR]

Robertj21a said:

Absolutely. It confuses many people who appear to be programmed to find a mate, virtually regardless of whether or not is suits what they otherwise want out of life.
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Whenever I read this line, I always think of several people I know who have married their first love. (Not necessarily their first shag, but often is!) But they will have met when they were 16-18ish. Got into a LTR and then subsequently married and had kids. TBF these couple can last years.


Always think that's like buying the first car you see that is the colour you want. Or staying in the same job for decades and whilst progressing along the way, never moving on and expanding your surroundings a little.


Each to their own I guess.

[Petrus1983]

hyphen said:

Is the boat featuring in your profile pics/ and or in your profile text

There’s one photo which doesn’t really show it and I certainly don’t mention it in any txt.

[Sir Lord Harold]

So I reviewed the meetup group and explained what happened, from there I ended up in a spat with the group organisers and a third party that insulted my incel status. I proposed to that individual to meet me personally or I'd attend the next meet and he could say those words to my face. Predictably I got banned from the group and from the site. Funny thing is, you neurotypical's seem to think by ostracising or silencing us, the problem goes away. How wrong can you be? Good luck. :-)

[George Smiley]

Just go bang a hooker ffs

[Monkeylegend]

Sir Lord Harold said:

Tried online dating, self-improvement, the real world, everything, but can't get a date. Never had a girlfriend, got no mates. Whatever.

Rarely go out these days but I make an exception last night because I want affirmation my situation's irrecoverable. I attend a meetup (meetup.com) at a bar in town. I wasn't there long and didn't intend to stay, I just wanted to get the vibe.

Bought a pint costing £5.80, felt like I'd been robbed then I end up standing there invisible as usual. Finish my beer and wander for one last time before leaving. As I'm leaving I notice one woman looking at me scowling, she's definitely looking at me so I walk up to her and she tells me to stop looking at her. She's not happy I looked in her general direction. She tries escalating the situation with a male but I'm quite a big guy myself and her 'protector' laughs it off and pussies out, I start getting negative attention from her female accomplices. Rejected by her male protector she engages with security and I end up getting ejected from the venue for looking at her.

For perspective this was a very ugly pig-nosed woman, sow-like resemblance, fattened for slaughter.

And you wonder why you have no friends, apart from the one who parked his car where he shouldn't have.

[Sir Lord Harold]

George Smiley said:

Just go bang a hooker ffs

Been there done that. It's not what I'm looking for.