Match.com (Vol. 7)
Discussion
hyphen said:
I'm confused.
These appear to be stories of pulling women who are say 4/10 when the guy is 7/10, and seeing the women being happy to bang someone normally out of her league as some sort of an achievement?
She is the one who is 'winning' here surely?
These appear to be stories of pulling women who are say 4/10 when the guy is 7/10, and seeing the women being happy to bang someone normally out of her league as some sort of an achievement?
She is the one who is 'winning' here surely?
I'm not saying it's impossible, Far from it. But ime most guys who are shagging loads of different girls are prepared to let their standards slide in pursuit of pussy. Its their lives, it's entirely up to them (Though I would always suggest they use protection provided by themselves)
I TRY (though don't always succeed
) to take a quality over quantity approach. I always used to take the view that I don't NEED sex on any day. So I'm prepared to walk away rather than go through the motions.Drihump Trolomite said:
Funnily when my psycho ex asked the question of conquests she went mental and walked out for a night and insisted I hot a check up before we next slept together
There is no correct answer though. Say 5 and they think you're a chump that no woman should want. Say 100 and they think you're a player or riddled with STis (and not the Subaru type!)My last ex circumvented the question. She sent me the link to one of those internet "things you should know about your BF by the 3rd date" lists. Pointed out "Question 5: know his sexual health" (or somesuch) And tried to disassociate herself from it by saying "her mate" had shown her this list.
I just laughed and changed the subject. She didn't bring it up again. Similarly I wasn't going to ask her number. Since she'll lie. So long as shes clean and healthy, doenst have any hang ups what difference does it make. In a way, Id find out soon enough because if she had a varied sex life prior to meeting me, she'd be OK in bed. If she was the 1 guy for 20 years she'll not know anything other than what they liked.
Plate spinner said:
Personally I’m enjoying Bumble.
They need to message first - so less like fishing, more like leaving a lobster pot. Just set and get on with your life.
My profile is 1 pic and not that many words, took 10mins.
Been on about 5 weeks; had 14 messages, 12 of which developed into conversations. 4 have generated dates, 5 I currently consider warm leads.
Even this morning got a new “Hey, how’s you? x” I’ll reply to tomorrow.
Whilst set up to empower women, also seems it’s the ideal ‘lazy man’s’ platform
Why wait to reply? What is the reasoning? Aren't you in danger of her un-matching you?They need to message first - so less like fishing, more like leaving a lobster pot. Just set and get on with your life.
My profile is 1 pic and not that many words, took 10mins.
Been on about 5 weeks; had 14 messages, 12 of which developed into conversations. 4 have generated dates, 5 I currently consider warm leads.
Even this morning got a new “Hey, how’s you? x” I’ll reply to tomorrow.
Whilst set up to empower women, also seems it’s the ideal ‘lazy man’s’ platform
Just last night I got a match on Tinder. I responded within 30 minutes. Short and sweet then off to sleep.
In the morning I saw a push notification saying I had a message but when I checked I noticed that I had been unmatched. She must have got fed up waiting. No big deal. Put it down to experience.
If she unmatched so quickly that's a blessing.
My ex would text every morning to say hi. If I didnt reply instantly she got worried then upset then angry. Eventually she refused to message as clearly she wasnt important enough if I couldn't find the time to reply.
My now partner, we message regularly but no skin off our noses if a few hours pass. How did we survive before mobiles?
My ex would text every morning to say hi. If I didnt reply instantly she got worried then upset then angry. Eventually she refused to message as clearly she wasnt important enough if I couldn't find the time to reply.
My now partner, we message regularly but no skin off our noses if a few hours pass. How did we survive before mobiles?
S1KRR said:
Granted, what works for you or Petreus may or may not work for me, (eg I don't have a massive wallet and a boat Or indeed his desire to fall head over heels with every girls he meets 
) or anyone else here.
Ok, so this isn’t at all against you S1KRR but people need to start being realistic. Until I was 25/26 I was fugly to say the least, that allowed me an opportunity to understand girls in a way many won’t, I knew they wouldn’t be attracted to me so I was able to be good friends with them at best with both sides knowing nothing would happen. Boats mean nothing, and in 3 years of owning it 3, maybe 4 girls (that I’ve been dating) have even been on it anyway. The average guy forgets that the average nice girl has been totally dicked around by scum of the earth guys - they’ve been mentally absused, cheated on and often sadly physically abused. It doesn’t come down to money, boats, cars - listen to her, don’t be possessive, demeaning, sexist - don’t bore her with your stories without listening to what she wants to say. Treat her nicely - beyond that it really doesn’t matter who the f Or indeed his desire to fall head over heels with every girls he meets ) or anyone else here. 
k your are and definitely doesn’t matter what you’ve got. If those things do matter to her you’re better off without that person anyway. Greenmantle said:
Plate spinner said:
Personally I’m enjoying Bumble.
They need to message first - so less like fishing, more like leaving a lobster pot. Just set and get on with your life.
My profile is 1 pic and not that many words, took 10mins.
Been on about 5 weeks; had 14 messages, 12 of which developed into conversations. 4 have generated dates, 5 I currently consider warm leads.
Even this morning got a new “Hey, how’s you? x” I’ll reply to tomorrow.
Whilst set up to empower women, also seems it’s the ideal ‘lazy man’s’ platform
Why wait to reply? What is the reasoning? Aren't you in danger of her un-matching you?They need to message first - so less like fishing, more like leaving a lobster pot. Just set and get on with your life.
My profile is 1 pic and not that many words, took 10mins.
Been on about 5 weeks; had 14 messages, 12 of which developed into conversations. 4 have generated dates, 5 I currently consider warm leads.
Even this morning got a new “Hey, how’s you? x” I’ll reply to tomorrow.
Whilst set up to empower women, also seems it’s the ideal ‘lazy man’s’ platform
Just last night I got a match on Tinder. I responded within 30 minutes. Short and sweet then off to sleep.
In the morning I saw a push notification saying I had a message but when I checked I noticed that I had been unmatched. She must have got fed up waiting. No big deal. Put it down to experience.
I replied the next morning, she came back to me that lunchtime. She moved it onto WhatsApp earlier today and seems like a good one.
We’ll see.
Any woman that expects an immediate message back is not for me anyway.
Edited by Plate spinner on Monday 2nd December 01:01
Joey Deacon said:
Plate spinner said:
Prospects, incoming enquiries, cold calling, warm leads, conversion rates, %ratios... it’s getting me into the mindset of creating a monthly report complete with exec summary, projections and league tables
You laugh, but I worked with a guy who entered all of his Tinder dates into Excel so he could keep track of them and rate them to see which ones he wanted to see again. Weird thing is, he was pretty nerdy, ginger and balding. Plus sides, he was 6ft 4, owned a house in Wimbledon and his parents were Dr's (i.e fairly loaded)Guess if you are late 30s and the above you are seen as a catch to the 30 something women who are on a schedule.
Edited by Marlin45 on Monday 2nd December 11:08
I'm still quite enjoying meeting people and progressing to the next level (bed) even if that means it won't go past a few dates when one of both of us realise the other isn't the one. In my current phase it tends to be me who loses interest. Worryingly I can't tell whether that's a symptom of higher or initially lower standards.
Thales said:
Sir Lord Harold said:
So I reviewed the meetup group and explained what happened, from there I ended up in a spat with the group organisers and a third party that insulted my incel status. I proposed to that individual to meet me personally or I'd attend the next meet and he could say those words to my face. Predictably I got banned from the group and from the site. Funny thing is, you neurotypical's seem to think by ostracising or silencing us, the problem goes away. How wrong can you be? Good luck. :-)
Bloody hell, you sound miserable. Harold - go speak to someone.
Drihump Trolomite said:
Its a symptom of having your cake and eating it
Well it's a good thing overall in that I can detect signs of girls being a potential nightmare or other things that would not make for a harmonious long term relationship, and move on. As long as I don't end up a commitment-phobe, which I think I'm quite far from.I've just logged into Bumble for the first time in 6+ months. I'd forgotten how fugly most of the women are, fk me. Flab, freaks, magic grandpa voters, declared feminists and obvious Celtic fans... it's no wonder I've not swiped right much. And that's before I count the ones with kids, or the ones at 35-45 who 'want more'. Aye good luck with that hen.
I'm gonna be brutal this time, absolutely no exceptions. The fewer matches the better. Just a wee trial run though for getting in about Tinder in the new year.
Who was that guy whose only topic of conversation was cars and he was stumped after that? Hinge has just thrown up a solid 8.5 in a short dress all branded Rossi 46 Yamaha etc. It's not strictly cars but I just thought of him struggling to type with his wrong hand.
k me. Flab, freaks, magic grandpa voters, declared feminists and obvious Celtic fans... it's no wonder I've not swiped right much. And that's before I count the ones with kids, or the ones at 35-45 who 'want more'. Aye good luck with that hen.I'm gonna be brutal this time, absolutely no exceptions. The fewer matches the better. Just a wee trial run though for getting in about Tinder in the new year.
Who was that guy whose only topic of conversation was cars and he was stumped after that? Hinge has just thrown up a solid 8.5 in a short dress all branded Rossi 46 Yamaha etc. It's not strictly cars but I just thought of him struggling to type with his wrong hand.
technodup said:
I've just logged into Bumble for the first time in 6+ months. I'd forgotten how fugly most of the women are, fk me. Flab, freaks, magic grandpa voters, declared feminists and obvious Celtic fans... it's no wonder I've not swiped right much. And that's before I count the ones with kids, or the ones at 35-45 who 'want more'. Aye good luck with that hen.
I'm gonna be brutal this time, absolutely no exceptions. The fewer matches the better. Just a wee trial run though for getting in about Tinder in the new year.
Who was that guy whose only topic of conversation was cars and he was stumped after that? Hinge has just thrown up a solid 8.5 in a short dress all branded Rossi 46 Yamaha etc. It's not strictly cars but I just thought of him struggling to type with his wrong hand.
I was going to wait until the NY, but been boredom-killing recently. k me. Flab, freaks, magic grandpa voters, declared feminists and obvious Celtic fans... it's no wonder I've not swiped right much. And that's before I count the ones with kids, or the ones at 35-45 who 'want more'. Aye good luck with that hen.I'm gonna be brutal this time, absolutely no exceptions. The fewer matches the better. Just a wee trial run though for getting in about Tinder in the new year.
Who was that guy whose only topic of conversation was cars and he was stumped after that? Hinge has just thrown up a solid 8.5 in a short dress all branded Rossi 46 Yamaha etc. It's not strictly cars but I just thought of him struggling to type with his wrong hand.
Currently Hinge isn't doing it for me. Full of the aforementions.
Bumble, I have my height filter on, so it tends to screen out a lot, but there's still not so much worse pursuing.
Tinder, I'm finding a lot better quality wise at the moment. Sure, some are almost certainly fakes. But at least it's not "no.no.no.no.no.no.no.yes.no.no.no.no.no.no. like on Hinge!
I'm at 24 likes and 2 matches for the day. Which means 22 of them are dogs or outside my strict criteria. The two matches only popped up because I extended the filters a bit. The number of fat munters is putting me off my biscuits, and the freaky giants can FRO too. Women should be 5'7 as an absolute max.
Tinder's better but I'm staying off it until I can give it a proper shot.
Tinder's better but I'm staying off it until I can give it a proper shot.
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