Match.com (Vol. 7)
Discussion
Silverage said:
number2 said:
When I used online dating, if i was interested I was meeting within two weeks max or binning them off. Sod the phone calls first as well. Wasn't after pen pal or a phone buddy - few exchanges to make sure they're 'decent' enough and then boom.
My approach is a bit of a progression. Obviously make initial contact on whatever app, quick chat on whatever messaging system they have to weed out the scammers, time wasters and general idiots. Get them over to Whatsapp for a couple of messages to arrange a phone call. Couple of phone calls then ideally a video call so both parties can assure themselves everything is “as advertised”, then onto arranging a date.I don’t see why the whole process from first contact to first date should take more than a week if both sides are genuinely committed to it.
Why instead of all this effort don’t you just go out and meet people?
That way you’ll know if any chemistry. Instead of all this faffing around.
(Not you personally, but people on this thread in general)
jdw100 said:
Silverage said:
number2 said:
When I used online dating, if i was interested I was meeting within two weeks max or binning them off. Sod the phone calls first as well. Wasn't after pen pal or a phone buddy - few exchanges to make sure they're 'decent' enough and then boom.
My approach is a bit of a progression. Obviously make initial contact on whatever app, quick chat on whatever messaging system they have to weed out the scammers, time wasters and general idiots. Get them over to Whatsapp for a couple of messages to arrange a phone call. Couple of phone calls then ideally a video call so both parties can assure themselves everything is “as advertised”, then onto arranging a date.I don’t see why the whole process from first contact to first date should take more than a week if both sides are genuinely committed to it.
Why instead of all this effort don’t you just go out and meet people?
That way you’ll know if any chemistry. Instead of all this faffing around.
(Not you personally, but people on this thread in general)
jdw100 said:
Silverage said:
number2 said:
When I used online dating, if i was interested I was meeting within two weeks max or binning them off. Sod the phone calls first as well. Wasn't after pen pal or a phone buddy - few exchanges to make sure they're 'decent' enough and then boom.
My approach is a bit of a progression. Obviously make initial contact on whatever app, quick chat on whatever messaging system they have to weed out the scammers, time wasters and general idiots. Get them over to Whatsapp for a couple of messages to arrange a phone call. Couple of phone calls then ideally a video call so both parties can assure themselves everything is “as advertised”, then onto arranging a date.I don’t see why the whole process from first contact to first date should take more than a week if both sides are genuinely committed to it.
Why instead of all this effort don’t you just go out and meet people?
That way you’ll know if any chemistry. Instead of all this faffing around.
(Not you personally, but people on this thread in general)
When I was OLD, I learned to get the meet asap.
Sod investing time in constant texting only to meet and immediately think “nope”.
Total waste of time.
jdw100 said:
I’m sure this has been asked before on here. Probably many times…
Why instead of all this effort don’t you just go out and meet people?
That way you’ll know if any chemistry. Instead of all this faffing around.
(Not you personally, but people on this thread in general)
Numbers. But also...Why instead of all this effort don’t you just go out and meet people?
That way you’ll know if any chemistry. Instead of all this faffing around.
(Not you personally, but people on this thread in general)
In a pub you don't know who is single
A lot of people aren't confident striking up conversation
Can immediately filter by location/interests/looks etc
Sitting in your house in your boxers swiping on hundreds/messaging several is much less effort than actually going anywhere
I echo the above though, get a system that sorts the wheat from the chaff early on, within a week definitely.
technodup said:
jdw100 said:
I’m sure this has been asked before on here. Probably many times…
Why instead of all this effort don’t you just go out and meet people?
That way you’ll know if any chemistry. Instead of all this faffing around.
(Not you personally, but people on this thread in general)
Numbers. But also...Why instead of all this effort don’t you just go out and meet people?
That way you’ll know if any chemistry. Instead of all this faffing around.
(Not you personally, but people on this thread in general)
In a pub you don't know who is single
A lot of people aren't confident striking up conversation
Can immediately filter by location/interests/looks etc
Sitting in your house in your boxers swiping on hundreds/messaging several is much less effort than actually going anywhere
I echo the above though, get a system that sorts the wheat from the chaff early on, within a week definitely.
Going out to a club/bar/pub and within the first few minutes you know if you have half a chance. You also have less chance of getting catfished
If you have a half decent personality and can tell a joke you don’t even need to look like a model
You’re also more likely to get someone who is more attractive in real life
Online however all the 4/5s think they are 8/9s because they get 100 guys messaging them a day and are thirsty as f*ck while swiping in boxers on the sofa
Sure that is something you can do when you have that option, typically in your twenties, loads of single mates, plenty of places to go that are full of single people.
You have to ask yourself though even that generation are the ones fueling the OLD boom, so clearly the real world has changed since most of us were in that demographic.
Post lockdown, people have become used to doing virtually everything online.
As a 40/50 something I have had far more success online than I did out clubbing, but it takes a lot more effort, probably something I could not have been arsed to do back then either. These days I have the spare time, and the thought of hitting endless bars, staking out potential targets and then getting the cold shoulder most of the time holds no appeal.
Latest trick with OLD now seems to be to set up a profile, put up loads of great pics (of someone else with the same hair colour!) sit back for a couple of weeks and let the algorithm bounce you straight to the top of the hit list, harvest loads of likes/messages as a result, then swap out the pics for your real ones and only then start replying!
Now had two replies from girls I had messaged a couple of weeks previous , and no way would I have done so based on their current profiles.
If you cannot beat them, join them I guess, so does anyone have any pics of Petrus I can borrow for a bit?!
You have to ask yourself though even that generation are the ones fueling the OLD boom, so clearly the real world has changed since most of us were in that demographic.
Post lockdown, people have become used to doing virtually everything online.
As a 40/50 something I have had far more success online than I did out clubbing, but it takes a lot more effort, probably something I could not have been arsed to do back then either. These days I have the spare time, and the thought of hitting endless bars, staking out potential targets and then getting the cold shoulder most of the time holds no appeal.
Latest trick with OLD now seems to be to set up a profile, put up loads of great pics (of someone else with the same hair colour!) sit back for a couple of weeks and let the algorithm bounce you straight to the top of the hit list, harvest loads of likes/messages as a result, then swap out the pics for your real ones and only then start replying!
Now had two replies from girls I had messaged a couple of weeks previous , and no way would I have done so based on their current profiles.
If you cannot beat them, join them I guess, so does anyone have any pics of Petrus I can borrow for a bit?!
Edited by PAUL.S. on Wednesday 25th May 12:09
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