Match.com (Vol. 7)
Discussion
GloverMart said:
100% agree with what you say, vulture1. Not a lot I can do about being middle aged or living in a rented house at the minute (though that said, I've lived here 13 years and the rent's well under market price so that's a little plus!).
But I know what I need to do in regards to the weight. I've lost 2.5 stone since January 1st and aim to lose another 5 stone by next June through adjusting my diet and continuing my walking (I walk a minimum of 3 miles every day). As I feel better and look better, that should help me become more confident and also help towards assisting me to make better decisions. On my daily walk, I often listen to the Diary Of A CEO podcasts which, although usually featuring famous people that I have little in common with, always seem to have something in them that flicks a switch in my head as to how I could be a better version of myself.
In the end, as you say, it's down to me to change the way I am. And I have my faultless sense of humour to rely on if things don't change.
2.5 since January, awesome stuff, buddy.But I know what I need to do in regards to the weight. I've lost 2.5 stone since January 1st and aim to lose another 5 stone by next June through adjusting my diet and continuing my walking (I walk a minimum of 3 miles every day). As I feel better and look better, that should help me become more confident and also help towards assisting me to make better decisions. On my daily walk, I often listen to the Diary Of A CEO podcasts which, although usually featuring famous people that I have little in common with, always seem to have something in them that flicks a switch in my head as to how I could be a better version of myself.
In the end, as you say, it's down to me to change the way I am. And I have my faultless sense of humour to rely on if things don't change.
Keep it up, self confidence is absolute key too when you eventually meet someone.
Good luck.
GloverMart said:
vulture1 said:
GloverMart said:
Actually love this thread and its contributors, often howling with laughter at some of the comments. Please keep it up.... 
I'm tall enough (at 6'4"), genuinely quite funny, very loyal, live near two big cities (so plenty of choices) and am easy going.
However as a middle aged, grossly overweight, football obsessed single dad with poor teeth, little money or prospects living in a rented house and driving a 2003 Focus, I fear I am fishing in a different pool to everyone else but this thread still cheers me up and warns me off women in equal measures! Might also explain why I've been single for 14 years now.
Thing the things you say that are going against you are within your power to change.I'm tall enough (at 6'4"), genuinely quite funny, very loyal, live near two big cities (so plenty of choices) and am easy going.
However as a middle aged, grossly overweight, football obsessed single dad with poor teeth, little money or prospects living in a rented house and driving a 2003 Focus, I fear I am fishing in a different pool to everyone else but this thread still cheers me up and warns me off women in equal measures! Might also explain why I've been single for 14 years now.
overweight if you want is an easy win,
poor teeth can be made average without money
always something you can do to improve your finances which results in
the ability to get your teeth sorted if they are that bad.
However being 6"4 at least gets your foot in the door.
As an experiment on POF i put in my tagline that I had won the lottery.
Message numbers went from 1 a month to at least 2 a week.
But I know what I need to do in regards to the weight. I've lost 2.5 stone since January 1st and aim to lose another 5 stone by next June through adjusting my diet and continuing my walking (I walk a minimum of 3 miles every day). As I feel better and look better, that should help me become more confident and also help towards assisting me to make better decisions. On my daily walk, I often listen to the Diary Of A CEO podcasts which, although usually featuring famous people that I have little in common with, always seem to have something in them that flicks a switch in my head as to how I could be a better version of myself.
In the end, as you say, it's down to me to change the way I am. And I have my faultless sense of humour to rely on if things don't change.
I lost 5st, got fit and continue to become even fitter.
I got my eye's lasered and got my teeth done.
Fundamentally I just decided I wanted to be the best version of me possible and it's astonishing how it increases your self confidence.
It's only then with this new found confidence I found dating had just become a whole lot easier, it's the confidence they find attractive. Sure it doesn't not help that's you're in better shape, but it's the confidence that gets you in the door.
If you feel good about yourself, you subconsciously project that.
throt said:
GloverMart said:
100% agree with what you say, vulture1. Not a lot I can do about being middle aged or living in a rented house at the minute (though that said, I've lived here 13 years and the rent's well under market price so that's a little plus!).
But I know what I need to do in regards to the weight. I've lost 2.5 stone since January 1st and aim to lose another 5 stone by next June through adjusting my diet and continuing my walking (I walk a minimum of 3 miles every day). As I feel better and look better, that should help me become more confident and also help towards assisting me to make better decisions. On my daily walk, I often listen to the Diary Of A CEO podcasts which, although usually featuring famous people that I have little in common with, always seem to have something in them that flicks a switch in my head as to how I could be a better version of myself.
In the end, as you say, it's down to me to change the way I am. And I have my faultless sense of humour to rely on if things don't change.
2.5 since January, awesome stuff, buddy.But I know what I need to do in regards to the weight. I've lost 2.5 stone since January 1st and aim to lose another 5 stone by next June through adjusting my diet and continuing my walking (I walk a minimum of 3 miles every day). As I feel better and look better, that should help me become more confident and also help towards assisting me to make better decisions. On my daily walk, I often listen to the Diary Of A CEO podcasts which, although usually featuring famous people that I have little in common with, always seem to have something in them that flicks a switch in my head as to how I could be a better version of myself.
In the end, as you say, it's down to me to change the way I am. And I have my faultless sense of humour to rely on if things don't change.
Keep it up, self confidence is absolute key too when you eventually meet someone.
Good luck.
21ATS said:
GloverMart said:
vulture1 said:
GloverMart said:
Actually love this thread and its contributors, often howling with laughter at some of the comments. Please keep it up....
I'm tall enough (at 6'4"), genuinely quite funny, very loyal, live near two big cities (so plenty of choices) and am easy going.
However as a middle aged, grossly overweight, football obsessed single dad with poor teeth, little money or prospects living in a rented house and driving a 2003 Focus, I fear I am fishing in a different pool to everyone else but this thread still cheers me up and warns me off women in equal measures! Might also explain why I've been single for 14 years now.
Thing the things you say that are going against you are within your power to change.I'm tall enough (at 6'4"), genuinely quite funny, very loyal, live near two big cities (so plenty of choices) and am easy going.
However as a middle aged, grossly overweight, football obsessed single dad with poor teeth, little money or prospects living in a rented house and driving a 2003 Focus, I fear I am fishing in a different pool to everyone else but this thread still cheers me up and warns me off women in equal measures! Might also explain why I've been single for 14 years now.
overweight if you want is an easy win,
poor teeth can be made average without money
always something you can do to improve your finances which results in
the ability to get your teeth sorted if they are that bad.
However being 6"4 at least gets your foot in the door.
As an experiment on POF i put in my tagline that I had won the lottery.
Message numbers went from 1 a month to at least 2 a week.
But I know what I need to do in regards to the weight. I've lost 2.5 stone since January 1st and aim to lose another 5 stone by next June through adjusting my diet and continuing my walking (I walk a minimum of 3 miles every day). As I feel better and look better, that should help me become more confident and also help towards assisting me to make better decisions. On my daily walk, I often listen to the Diary Of A CEO podcasts which, although usually featuring famous people that I have little in common with, always seem to have something in them that flicks a switch in my head as to how I could be a better version of myself.
In the end, as you say, it's down to me to change the way I am. And I have my faultless sense of humour to rely on if things don't change.
I lost 5st, got fit and continue to become even fitter.
I got my eye's lasered and got my teeth done.
Fundamentally I just decided I wanted to be the best version of me possible and it's astonishing how it increases your self confidence.
It's only then with this new found confidence I found dating had just become a whole lot easier, it's the confidence they find attractive. Sure it doesn't not help that's you're in better shape, but it's the confidence that gets you in the door.
If you feel good about yourself, you subconsciously project that.
How old are you? I'm 54 now.
The weight loss, I know I'm on the right road for that. I actually lost 5 stone in 10 months until the first lockdown where, by a combination of restricted time to exercise + getting a job with a 3am start meant I physically couldn't manage to keep up the walking I'd been doing. Mentally, I collapsed and put all the weight lost back on inside about eighteen months.
What I also find helps is a photo of me on the mantelpiece where I probably look my best, it was taken in 1999. Was around 15 stone at the time, looked smart (it was a wedding!) and it acts as a target to get back to somewhere approaching that again although the hair will be slighter this time around.
GloverMart said:
21ATS said:
GloverMart said:
vulture1 said:
GloverMart said:
Actually love this thread and its contributors, often howling with laughter at some of the comments. Please keep it up....
I'm tall enough (at 6'4"), genuinely quite funny, very loyal, live near two big cities (so plenty of choices) and am easy going.
However as a middle aged, grossly overweight, football obsessed single dad with poor teeth, little money or prospects living in a rented house and driving a 2003 Focus, I fear I am fishing in a different pool to everyone else but this thread still cheers me up and warns me off women in equal measures! Might also explain why I've been single for 14 years now.
Thing the things you say that are going against you are within your power to change.I'm tall enough (at 6'4"), genuinely quite funny, very loyal, live near two big cities (so plenty of choices) and am easy going.
However as a middle aged, grossly overweight, football obsessed single dad with poor teeth, little money or prospects living in a rented house and driving a 2003 Focus, I fear I am fishing in a different pool to everyone else but this thread still cheers me up and warns me off women in equal measures! Might also explain why I've been single for 14 years now.
overweight if you want is an easy win,
poor teeth can be made average without money
always something you can do to improve your finances which results in
the ability to get your teeth sorted if they are that bad.
However being 6"4 at least gets your foot in the door.
As an experiment on POF i put in my tagline that I had won the lottery.
Message numbers went from 1 a month to at least 2 a week.
But I know what I need to do in regards to the weight. I've lost 2.5 stone since January 1st and aim to lose another 5 stone by next June through adjusting my diet and continuing my walking (I walk a minimum of 3 miles every day). As I feel better and look better, that should help me become more confident and also help towards assisting me to make better decisions. On my daily walk, I often listen to the Diary Of A CEO podcasts which, although usually featuring famous people that I have little in common with, always seem to have something in them that flicks a switch in my head as to how I could be a better version of myself.
In the end, as you say, it's down to me to change the way I am. And I have my faultless sense of humour to rely on if things don't change.
I lost 5st, got fit and continue to become even fitter.
I got my eye's lasered and got my teeth done.
Fundamentally I just decided I wanted to be the best version of me possible and it's astonishing how it increases your self confidence.
It's only then with this new found confidence I found dating had just become a whole lot easier, it's the confidence they find attractive. Sure it doesn't not help that's you're in better shape, but it's the confidence that gets you in the door.
If you feel good about yourself, you subconsciously project that.
How old are you? I'm 54 now.
The weight loss, I know I'm on the right road for that. I actually lost 5 stone in 10 months until the first lockdown where, by a combination of restricted time to exercise + getting a job with a 3am start meant I physically couldn't manage to keep up the walking I'd been doing. Mentally, I collapsed and put all the weight lost back on inside about eighteen months.
What I also find helps is a photo of me on the mantelpiece where I probably look my best, it was taken in 1999. Was around 15 stone at the time, looked smart (it was a wedding!) and it acts as a target to get back to somewhere approaching that again although the hair will be slighter this time around.
bucksmanuk said:
Update - apologies for quoting myself....
Well, she turned up at the allotted time- looking a LOT bigger in the flesh than I had been given the impression from the photos. I’d already made the decision that this going to be a no. Chat continued -but this is the best bit.
A - “I’m going to be a grandma – my 21-year-old daughter is expecting twins”
Me - “Is her boyfriend/husband happy as well”
A - “Err, there’s a problem with that”
Me - “What’s that then?”
A - “We don’t know who he is”
Me - “Surely your daughter must have SOME kind of idea?”
A - “Well - she was at a party…”
Me - “Aren’t there rules and laws about that sort of thing? being drunk, unbale to consent?…”
A - “Oh no – it’s not that – there was more than 1 man involved”
Me - (laughing) – “it wasn’t a gang bang was it?”
A - (serious face on) “Err….. well, she’s narrowed it down to 5…..”
Me - “Wonderful…..”
That goes with the story my wife a midwife tells. They ask for the race of the father as there are some conditions that are more likely to be transmitted by different ethnicities.Well, she turned up at the allotted time- looking a LOT bigger in the flesh than I had been given the impression from the photos. I’d already made the decision that this going to be a no. Chat continued -but this is the best bit.
A - “I’m going to be a grandma – my 21-year-old daughter is expecting twins”
Me - “Is her boyfriend/husband happy as well”
A - “Err, there’s a problem with that”
Me - “What’s that then?”
A - “We don’t know who he is”
Me - “Surely your daughter must have SOME kind of idea?”
A - “Well - she was at a party…”
Me - “Aren’t there rules and laws about that sort of thing? being drunk, unbale to consent?…”
A - “Oh no – it’s not that – there was more than 1 man involved”
Me - (laughing) – “it wasn’t a gang bang was it?”
A - (serious face on) “Err….. well, she’s narrowed it down to 5…..”
Me - “Wonderful…..”
So she asks a young client for the race of the father to be told “I don’t know - he never took his motorcycle helmet off”
K77 CTR said:
Being female and living near the festival of speed is interesting when it comes to tinder etc.
It's a similar sort of situation when your search area covers both major London Airports.A number of times I've been just about to swipe right when you notice they live in Vacouver, or Hawaii, or Adelaide and have forgotten to switch on travel mode.
I was at the FOS yesterday. Went for a day out - bought a car. Not what I expected to be doing.
Edited by 21ATS on Friday 24th June 23:58
21ATS said:
It's a similar sort of situation when your search area covers both major London Airports.
A number of times I've been just about to swipe right when you notice they live in Vacouver, or Hawaii, or Adelaide and have forgotten to switch on travel mode.
I was at the FOS yesterday. Went for a day out - bought a car. Not what I expected to be doing.
Ooh what did you buy at fos?A number of times I've been just about to swipe right when you notice they live in Vacouver, or Hawaii, or Adelaide and have forgotten to switch on travel mode.
I was at the FOS yesterday. Went for a day out - bought a car. Not what I expected to be doing.
Edited by 21ATS on Friday 24th June 23:58
s off! interstellar said:
21ATS said:
It's a similar sort of situation when your search area covers both major London Airports.
A number of times I've been just about to swipe right when you notice they live in Vacouver, or Hawaii, or Adelaide and have forgotten to switch on travel mode.
I was at the FOS yesterday. Went for a day out - bought a car. Not what I expected to be doing.
Ooh what did you buy at fos?A number of times I've been just about to swipe right when you notice they live in Vacouver, or Hawaii, or Adelaide and have forgotten to switch on travel mode.
I was at the FOS yesterday. Went for a day out - bought a car. Not what I expected to be doing.
Edited by 21ATS on Friday 24th June 23:58
twing said:
21ATS said:
Ferrari FF - subject to it passing an inspection.
Top work! That is an impressive impulse buyI sent a message to the guy that does my finance who promptly replied he was at the FOS too, so we all met up and did the finance. The numbers worked so I paid a deposit.
As impulse buys go it was a large one.
21ATS said:
I've been talking myself out of getting one for 5 years, this one popped up and it's pretty much as I would have specced it new if I could wind the clock back. It just felt right.
I sent a message to the guy that does my finance who promptly replied he was the FOS too, so we all met up, did the finance. The numbers worked so I paid a deposit.
As impulse buys go it was a large one.
Does the other half know yet?I sent a message to the guy that does my finance who promptly replied he was the FOS too, so we all met up, did the finance. The numbers worked so I paid a deposit.
As impulse buys go it was a large one.
K77 CTR said:
Petrus1983 said:
In the old days Guardian Soulmates would have been a good match with FoS. Are you going to the event itself still?
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