Dating again when you aren't all that...
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Baldchap said:
Worth noting, no amount of exercise will make a difference if your diet is crap.
I put on weight training for my first marathon because I thought I could eat what I wanted of I ran 50 miles per week.
Any runner will tell you: You can't outrun a bad diet. MyFitnessPal app is great for getting your head in the right place with regards to diet.
Yup - takes just a minute or so to fill a car with petrol. Takes much longer to burn it all up. I put on weight training for my first marathon because I thought I could eat what I wanted of I ran 50 miles per week.
Any runner will tell you: You can't outrun a bad diet. MyFitnessPal app is great for getting your head in the right place with regards to diet.
Join a martial arts class - get fit, put on muscle, work off stress, improve flexibility and balance, learn how to defend yourself and lots have female students too.
Baldchap said:
Worth noting, no amount of exercise will make a difference if your diet is crap.
Ahem...TheJimi said:
Start training and lifting weights, with decent nutrition. It cannot be overstated the net positive effect that will have on your life. Plus, you’ll naturally develop friends, both male and female in the gym.
theboss said:
An Italian au pair I knew a few years ago expressed the opinion that in all the British households she had entered, she generally thought the men were good husbands and fathers who would help her manage the house and kids whilst the lazy wife sat playing with a phone or went clothes shopping. She was really strongly opinionated about this and demanded to know what was wrong with these women.
A Romanian I dated expressed similar impressions having spent a few years here. Etc etc.
That certainly is a stereotypeA Romanian I dated expressed similar impressions having spent a few years here. Etc etc.
Edited by theboss on Thursday 29th August 11:48
While my Mrs and I may not seem eye to eye on all things certainly she does more around the house which I am appreciative off.
She is the one with the much shorter temper though.
I think roles have changed now anyway from back when the women did most of the house work generally it's more equal and perhaps women are becoming more aggressive and less agreeable as part of the social changes of our generation.
V8covin said:
If you want to kill 2 birds with 1 stone, exercise AND meet women,try yoga classes.
Firstly, yoga is not only good for you but it helps you to relax.... I fell asleep in a class once lol....and secondly classes are predominantly women
Useful tip re yoga. If the teacher asks how flexible you are, don't say "I can't do Tuesdays of Fridays", unless you want the whole class laughing at you and thinking you're a complete idiot. Firstly, yoga is not only good for you but it helps you to relax.... I fell asleep in a class once lol....and secondly classes are predominantly women
(so I'm told).
V8covin said:
TheJimi said:
OP, please don't do this ^^
Some thoughts of mine, in no particular order, and to repeat some thoughts that have already been given –
If you have self-esteem issues, whether borne of the physical or mental – do not use online dating / dating apps.
Start training and lifting weights, with decent nutrition. It cannot be overstated the net positive effect that will have on your life. Plus, you’ll naturally develop friends, both male and female in the gym.
To follow on from that, make sure you look good naked. Being in good physical shape REALLY boosts things, both from the perspective of others, and in terms of your own self-esteem. If you can’t easily, if at all, fix the other stuff like the skin condition, focus on the stuff you CAN fix.
How do you dress? Do you wear well fitting clothes? Or do you just chuck on whatever? If the latter, this is a BIG easy win. Wearing clothes that suit you, and are well fitted, make a HUGE difference to how you look to other people, and how you feel about yourself.
A good mate did meditation classes, just him and 17 yummy mummies, he got phone numbers galore. He just turns up when he doesn’t have a girlfriend, Lo and behold! One appears. He is too handsome for his own good though.
Another one did Pilates with his work mate, just 2 blokes and 30 trim women in leotards. He didn’t get off to a great start by farting early on in the proceedings. Not unheard of for all Pilates attendees I hear. He said the general scene wasn’t that much different to the “Call on Me” video, but admitted he wasn’t the sole swarthy Mediterranean type.
As for the comments on UK women. A large number (probably 30+) of non-UK women I’ve talked to have all said the same thing. These are in the main, Americans, French, Germans, Italians and Poles. Maybe others can tell a different story. As its probably UK women I’m usually dating, I’m hoping their crude stereotypes don’t hold true.
Another one did Pilates with his work mate, just 2 blokes and 30 trim women in leotards. He didn’t get off to a great start by farting early on in the proceedings. Not unheard of for all Pilates attendees I hear. He said the general scene wasn’t that much different to the “Call on Me” video, but admitted he wasn’t the sole swarthy Mediterranean type.
As for the comments on UK women. A large number (probably 30+) of non-UK women I’ve talked to have all said the same thing. These are in the main, Americans, French, Germans, Italians and Poles. Maybe others can tell a different story. As its probably UK women I’m usually dating, I’m hoping their crude stereotypes don’t hold true.
bucksmanuk said:
A good mate did meditation classes, just him and 17 yummy mummies, he got phone numbers galore. He just turns up when he doesn’t have a girlfriend, Lo and behold! One appears.
He is too handsome for his own good though.
Amazing how easy it is when you are in the top 20% of men looks wise though. I ultimately believe that the 80/20 rule applies to virtually everything in like so in online dating 20% of men are dating 80% of the women on there. If you are not in the 20% of good looking men then you are going to find it very difficult going indeed.He is too handsome for his own good though.
Whenever I read a post on the Match thread about a guy getting no interest in online dating and asking how he can improve his profile nothing you write will make any difference, it is all down to the pictures. You would think that women would be happy to date someone of similar attractiveness to themselves, but they get so much more attention than they do in real life the believe their Sexual Market Value is way higher than it is.
So all these women end up chasing the same 20% of men and these men end up with a constant stream of women to "date" (or randomly hook up with if we are honest", just like your friend.
At the risk of going off topic Joey
80/20 or Pareto is everywhere in life… And right at the outer edges of the 20% is this guy…
A family friend has always had women just walking up to him and chatting him up. They literally can’t keep their hands off him. A married work colleague of my mums told her that she had to leave my mum’s 50th early as “he” was there, and she didn’t think she could “hold my composure any longer”…When beauty queens were all the rage, Miss This, Miss That, that sort of thing… he was going out with 3 of them - AT THE SAME TIME… that has to be some kind of record… His mum told him off about that! - his Preston based mates still laugh about it.
He was offered modelling in his early 20’s . This is late 80’s. He turned it down as he wanted to get his business off the ground. I went out with him for a drink one night in Southport – what an eye opener. Female attention everywhere… In the most fashionable wine bar in town, within 15 minutes, 3 stunning hot women, the hottest women in the place dressed in … well…not much at all really, had approached him - all at once – the girls knew each other. They handed over their phone numbers, told him what evenings of the next week they were free (for him – all evenings were free), and had started to argue amongst themselves as to which one gave the best blow job. My jaw was on the floor- this was unknown territory to me – and it still is! And probably to many others as well.
The family friend tried to involve me in the "discussion", but absolutely nothing. I was blanked – I didn’t exist in any shape or form to the girls. We left a few minutes later with him asking “Isn’t it embarrassing when girls talk like that to you?”
“yep – happens all the time mate…”
80/20 or Pareto is everywhere in life… And right at the outer edges of the 20% is this guy…
A family friend has always had women just walking up to him and chatting him up. They literally can’t keep their hands off him. A married work colleague of my mums told her that she had to leave my mum’s 50th early as “he” was there, and she didn’t think she could “hold my composure any longer”…When beauty queens were all the rage, Miss This, Miss That, that sort of thing… he was going out with 3 of them - AT THE SAME TIME… that has to be some kind of record… His mum told him off about that! - his Preston based mates still laugh about it.
He was offered modelling in his early 20’s . This is late 80’s. He turned it down as he wanted to get his business off the ground. I went out with him for a drink one night in Southport – what an eye opener. Female attention everywhere… In the most fashionable wine bar in town, within 15 minutes, 3 stunning hot women, the hottest women in the place dressed in … well…not much at all really, had approached him - all at once – the girls knew each other. They handed over their phone numbers, told him what evenings of the next week they were free (for him – all evenings were free), and had started to argue amongst themselves as to which one gave the best blow job. My jaw was on the floor- this was unknown territory to me – and it still is! And probably to many others as well.
The family friend tried to involve me in the "discussion", but absolutely nothing. I was blanked – I didn’t exist in any shape or form to the girls. We left a few minutes later with him asking “Isn’t it embarrassing when girls talk like that to you?”
“yep – happens all the time mate…”
Dating online is similar to real life. If you are less attractive physically than the competition then you have to balance that by being more interesting.
So don't put a pic of you sat around in the pub, put one of you doing something interesting and show confidence in what you wrote in your profile.
And that's only if you are seeking to hit 'above your natural level' of physical attractivess in a partner.
So don't put a pic of you sat around in the pub, put one of you doing something interesting and show confidence in what you wrote in your profile.
And that's only if you are seeking to hit 'above your natural level' of physical attractivess in a partner.
bucksmanuk said:
At the risk of going off topic Joey
80/20 or Pareto is everywhere in life… And right at the outer edges of the 20% is this guy…
A family friend has always had women just walking up to him and chatting him up. They literally can’t keep their hands off him. A married work colleague of my mums told her that she had to leave my mum’s 50th early as “he” was there, and she didn’t think she could “hold my composure any longer”…When beauty queens were all the rage, Miss This, Miss That, that sort of thing… he was going out with 3 of them - AT THE SAME TIME… that has to be some kind of record… His mum told him off about that! - his Preston based mates still laugh about it.
He was offered modelling in his early 20’s . This is late 80’s. He turned it down as he wanted to get his business off the ground. I went out with him for a drink one night in Southport – what an eye opener. Female attention everywhere… In the most fashionable wine bar in town, within 15 minutes, 3 stunning hot women, the hottest women in the place dressed in … well…not much at all really, had approached him - all at once – the girls knew each other. They handed over their phone numbers, told him what evenings of the next week they were free (for him – all evenings were free), and had started to argue amongst themselves as to which one gave the best blow job. My jaw was on the floor- this was unknown territory to me – and it still is! And probably to many others as well.
The family friend tried to involve me in the "discussion", but absolutely nothing. I was blanked – I didn’t exist in any shape or form to the girls. We left a few minutes later with him asking “Isn’t it embarrassing when girls talk like that to you?”
“yep – happens all the time mate…”
To go even more off topic....80/20 or Pareto is everywhere in life… And right at the outer edges of the 20% is this guy…
A family friend has always had women just walking up to him and chatting him up. They literally can’t keep their hands off him. A married work colleague of my mums told her that she had to leave my mum’s 50th early as “he” was there, and she didn’t think she could “hold my composure any longer”…When beauty queens were all the rage, Miss This, Miss That, that sort of thing… he was going out with 3 of them - AT THE SAME TIME… that has to be some kind of record… His mum told him off about that! - his Preston based mates still laugh about it.
He was offered modelling in his early 20’s . This is late 80’s. He turned it down as he wanted to get his business off the ground. I went out with him for a drink one night in Southport – what an eye opener. Female attention everywhere… In the most fashionable wine bar in town, within 15 minutes, 3 stunning hot women, the hottest women in the place dressed in … well…not much at all really, had approached him - all at once – the girls knew each other. They handed over their phone numbers, told him what evenings of the next week they were free (for him – all evenings were free), and had started to argue amongst themselves as to which one gave the best blow job. My jaw was on the floor- this was unknown territory to me – and it still is! And probably to many others as well.
The family friend tried to involve me in the "discussion", but absolutely nothing. I was blanked – I didn’t exist in any shape or form to the girls. We left a few minutes later with him asking “Isn’t it embarrassing when girls talk like that to you?”
“yep – happens all the time mate…”
I knew a guy like this when I lived in Australia, he had been approached to be on the Australian version of the Batchelor but turned it down. Going out with him was an eye opener, he always knew the coolest bars to go to and they were full of the hottest women you have ever seen. Even walking around town with him hot women would constantly be saying hello to him and he had slept with every single one of them. As you say, all the hot women in town know each other, go to the same places and are all chasing the same handful of men.
When he was introduced to a new group of women, after he had left every single one would ask who he was. Just sitting at a bar women would sit down next to him and start chatting to him, he literally had to put in zero effort at all.
Absolutely incredible to watch.
TwigtheWonderkid said:
V8covin said:
If you want to kill 2 birds with 1 stone, exercise AND meet women,try yoga classes.
Firstly, yoga is not only good for you but it helps you to relax.... I fell asleep in a class once lol....and secondly classes are predominantly women
Useful tip re yoga. If the teacher asks how flexible you are, don't say "I can't do Tuesdays of Fridays", unless you want the whole class laughing at you and thinking you're a complete idiot. Firstly, yoga is not only good for you but it helps you to relax.... I fell asleep in a class once lol....and secondly classes are predominantly women
(so I'm told).
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