Caught GF on POF.

[Lemming Train]

Total Drivin said:

Also so we're all on the same page. If I ever catch her on any dating website while I'm at work talking to other men while I'm earning money so we can do nice family things together like the holiday for example.

I will load up the ST with all my st and fkoff the same day and she knows this.

I'll also make her explain to my daughters when they're old enough to understand why Daddy left but I will still see them.

You post it like some kind of threat. Going from all your previous posts in this thread, if it wasn't for the kids I think there's a 99.9% likelihood she'd tell you to fk off and would be glad to see the back of you!

[MYOB]

sc0tt said:

MYOB said:

Do you take care of yourself? Does your manhood look attractive to the wife? I mean manhood in the loosest sense.

Lets me honest they aren’t that picturesque.

Mine's a beaut.

[sc0tt]

Picture of a nail and your ST should stop the doubters. Thanks

[Sheets Tabuer]

MYOB said:

sc0tt said:

MYOB said:

Do you take care of yourself? Does your manhood look attractive to the wife? I mean manhood in the loosest sense.

Lets me honest they aren’t that picturesque.

Mine's a beaut.

I've never seen one other than mine, I even put post it notes on the screen to cover the offending appendage while watching redtube less I catch the ghey.

[mjb1]

Total Drivin said:

Things were fine after that and she let me I say let me because I always feel it is a chore on her part have sex with her. Things have been good since. So she is at least making the effort.

...she will constantly make up excuses as to why she doesn't want sex

...I've done a lot of soul searching in recent weeks and I will try my best to get us back on track she assures me she wants the same so we will see what the future brings.

I'm not normally one of the PH doom monger pessimists on PH relationship threads. However, she clearly wants sex (as evidenced by the POF profile), she just doesn't want it with you any more. Of course she'll assure you that she wants the relationship to continue, they always say that, right up until they meet someone else. Most women are branch swingers, they generally don't like being single and will tolerate a failing relationship while they're looking for the next one.

OP can't win here - married with kids. If they separate she'll likely get the marital home and bulk of the assets, custody of the kids etc. All you can do is try and ride it out, hope she gets it out of her system and comes back to you emotionally. If you're lucky, it may just be post baby blues.

The sex side of things is impossible for the man in this situation - if you try to initiate it and get constantly rejected, she'll feel pressurised into it and think you only want her for the sex. If you don't try and initiate, she'll start to think you don't fancy her any more.

[FocusRS3]

Total Drivin said:

Also so we're all on the same page. If I ever catch her on any dating website while I'm at work talking to other men while I'm earning money so we can do nice family things together like the holiday for example.

I will load up the ST with all my st and fkoff the same day and she knows this.

I'll also make her explain to my daughters when they're old enough to understand why Daddy left but I will still see them.

You mentioned you were going on holiday earlier in the thread and wasn’t going to checked back in and update us ?

[anonymous-user]

It's a wind up.

[FocusRS3]

janesmith1950 said:

It's a wind up.

Looking like it .

What’s the point !

[Flibble]

Why "the ST" not "the car" like a normal person would say?

[CharlieH89]

I believe you. I can see why some people don't believe you as you do write some crazy things

Luckily I don't have an issue sex wise. My wife has a high sex drive but I'm pretty the same as you in terms of working a full time job then coming home to do the dishes/ clean baby bottles/ put clothes in the washer/ tidy up after the wife. Sometimes I'm too fked to even be in the mood for sex.

My wife has depression on and off so some days shes buzzing around and some days her mood is at rockbottom.

Good luck with everything. I've never been in the situation so have no tips on how to turn it around. God knows what I would do if I found my wife on a dating website.

[HighwayStar]

Total Drivin said:

Thanks for the support ESOG.

We had a minor falling out on Sunday which again boiled down to me wanting to nail her tried Friday night when my oldest daughter slept at her grandmas excuse was she was tired and doesn't like it 'planned' so I took note and tried again as she was getting changed in the morning but again she wasn't interested.

I thought it would be third time lucky that night and suggested we should watch a film together in bed but again she wasn't interested which made me frustrated.

Sunday she knew something was up so I told her what and she said had she known she would have made the effort to come into the bedroom Saturday night.

Things were fine after that and she let me I say let me because I always feel it is a chore on her part have sex with her. Things have been good since. So she is at least making the effort.

It seems though no matter how much I dote on my other half and make sure she is ok and do all the housework (left work today to go home and put the weekly shop away so she didn't have to) and I got up with her lastnight with the baby even though I have work. I still feel she will constantly make up excuses as to why she doesn't want sex - too tired too stressed over one thing or another not in the mood headache etc. It gets to the point where I feel she has an excuse book with every excuse imaginable and it honestly starts to get you down after a while.

I work so my daughters can have nice things I very rarely buy anything for myself and when I do have extra money I send it to her.

Then I started to doubt myself. Was I not making her orgasm? Was my manhood too small? Did I rush things? She assures me I make her orgasm when we have sex plenty of foreplay with the focus being on her rather than me she never sucks my cock. No matter how much I tried to talk to her about it she’d shrug the subject off as if it didn’t matter and say there isn't anything to talk about which made me feel like absolute st. Then I found her on POF....

I've done a lot of soul searching in recent weeks and I will try my best to get us back on track she assures me she wants the same so we will see what the future brings.

I actually laughed out load and WTAF... I can really see why people think you're trolling. If you're not, you need to BTFO and give the woman some space. She knows your MO which is basically keep trying to get your leg over and then moan and wonder why you're not getting what you want like a spoilt child. Begging is embarrassing! Stop thinking about yourself and what you want. Seems to me you are doing things for the sole purpose of getting laid, like doing her a favour.

[chris4652009]

Without trust there is no relationship.

let that sink in

[Total Drivin]

sc0tt said:

Picture of a nail and your ST should stop the doubters. Thanks

I've gone one better and took a picture of said nail from within the car so I don't get accused of finding some random ST and placing a nail on it.

Flibble said:

Why "the ST" not "the car" like a normal person would say?

Dunno. I like to tell everyone it's an ST.

CharlieH89 said:

I believe you. I can see why some people don't believe you as you do write some crazy things

Luckily I don't have an issue sex wise. My wife has a high sex drive but I'm pretty the same as you in terms of working a full time job then coming home to do the dishes/ clean baby bottles/ put clothes in the washer/ tidy up after the wife. Sometimes I'm too fked to even be in the mood for sex.

My wife has depression on and off so some days shes buzzing around and some days her mood is at rockbottom.

Good luck with everything. I've never been in the situation so have no tips on how to turn it around. God knows what I would do if I found my wife on a dating website.

At present things between us are going alright whether that is going to continue or not is another matter.

The fact is I have never stopped loving her and I genuinely did think we were going OK up until the point I explained earlier in the thread then I broke my back to find out what was up and she just kept saying nothing and everything is ok when clearly it wasn't.

She had every opportunity to tell me how she really felt but instead she joined POF and I caught her out it wasn't until the point I was ready to end it she said she realised me and the girls is what she really wants blah blah after she betrayed us that is.

I gave her the choice there and then and she chose me and the girls.

Maybe she thought the grass was greener on the other side maybe she was depressed and had enough. I will never know the real truth.

I'm prepared to walk away if it doesn't work between us one of us has to. I would rather us be separated and my girls grow up happy than be together and they grow up miserable.

I hope you never have to go through anything like this it really is a stty situation to be in.

Edited by Total Drivin on Thursday 17th October 08:38

[joema]

You said she was diagnosed with post natal depression. Maybe think about that.

[anonymous-user]

FocusRS3 said:

janesmith1950 said:

It's a wind up.

Looking like it .

What’s the point !

I said that yonks back.
The point is perhaps the OP finds it amusing and creative. It is very illuminating watching people getting drawn in and being ever so helpful sympathetic/ antagonistic to the OP
It's not the only wind up. There are a few on here some more discreet and plausible than others. Not all about relationships. Some involve fake neighbour disputes. Some are genuinely quite funny.
I have mentioned KFC and cycling before in a reply. Those that know to whom and what I refer get it. Those that don't know well obviously don't.
Where totally driving went wrong with this thread was coming back too soon to some posters and overegging the pudding by becoming more graphic.

[AllyBassman]

Sorry OP - I don't think she fancies you anymore, I had a relationship that went this way (no kids involved thankfully)

She want's to stay together because she cares for you and wants to keep the family together, but the attaction has gone.

I work with a few chaps in the same position, together for the kids, but the sexual side of the relationship is gone.

[CrunkleFloop]

OP - As above, the sex has gone buddy, but all is not lost; Lovehoney still have a sale on Fleshlights until the 31st October.

[Kewy]

OP can you recommend a chippy that keeps the pea fritters stocked up and doesn't make you wait 8 minutes whilst they fry one up?

[Europa1]

Total Drivin said:

I don't just do the 'chores' to get her into bed I do the chores anyway mostly. Like I said she is naturally untidy.

It is not so much that I want sex it's more so I want to feel love and connected with my partner.

Your talking about nailing her and pumping her full of your 5* unleaded doesn't really suggest "love" and "connected".

It suggests you're an insensitive, emotionally sterile pillock.

[RC1807]

Sheets Tabuer said:

I've never seen one other than mine, I even put post it notes on the screen to cover the offending appendage while watching redtube less I catch the ghey.