Caught GF on POF.
Discussion
Pat H said:
Total Drivin said:
She told me on Sunday she stopped taking her anti depressants whilst on holiday as they made her feel nothing this was after a few days of her feeling very down and I could tell.
Then she was on the wrong pills.There are loads of different SSRI anti depressants.
Sometimes it takes a bit of trial and error to find one that suits you.
I was originally on Paroxetine, which made me feel like a zombie.
I then tried Sertraline, which worked well and had no side effects.
A frequent side effect of stopping the medication is increased anxiety, so if she simply stopped taking them then she will feel even worse.
Get her back to the doctor, without the kids in tow.
If it makes it easier, help her to write down how she feels and how here last anti depressant made her feel.
She can just hand the piece of paper to the doctor. Makes it a lot easier.
Getting this sort of medication right will make a world of difference to her and you might even get a shag.
Total Drivin said:
She told me on Sunday she stopped taking her anti depressants whilst on holiday as they made her feel nothing this was after a few days of her feeling very down and I could tell.
She went to the doctors on yesterday because she has a slight sniffle I told her she needs to talk to them about how she feels but she didn't and said she didn't feel comfortable doing so with the kids there.
She is definitely depressed she mentioned if we should we do a double suicide last night. I told her that the girls need us both.
I don't think she would ever do it. Probably only said it because she was tired we had a terrible night the baby has thrush in her mouth we think.
Today she seems OK.
When I finish work I go home and take over as much as possible so she can just relax.
It is very hard living with someone who has depression.
Well that puts a slightly different slant on things (assuming the OP isn't just escalating the wind up - odd that he's barely touched on it until now).She went to the doctors on yesterday because she has a slight sniffle I told her she needs to talk to them about how she feels but she didn't and said she didn't feel comfortable doing so with the kids there.
She is definitely depressed she mentioned if we should we do a double suicide last night. I told her that the girls need us both.
I don't think she would ever do it. Probably only said it because she was tired we had a terrible night the baby has thrush in her mouth we think.
Today she seems OK.
When I finish work I go home and take over as much as possible so she can just relax.
It is very hard living with someone who has depression.
I don't really believe in anti depressants, and IMO it's far from ideal that she's been given them for what is presumably post natal depression. But to just stop taking them without medical supervision is a bit dangerous. Very worrying that a mother of young children is musing about suicide, I think lack of bedroom action should be least of the OP's concerns. Need to get some proper outside help there really.
CharlesdeGaulle said:
I am expecting him to 'tick another box' in his next post.
What box are you betting on next? My front runners are:1) She is seeing someone else after all
2) He's starting seeing someone from work
3) Things have broken down and she's made a false claim of domestic violence against him
4) He's decided to move out and is now living in a bedsit/car/camper van etc
6) She's moved another bloke in...
RTB said:
What box are you betting on next? My front runners are:
1) She is seeing someone else after all
2) He's starting seeing someone from work
3) Things have broken down and she's made a false claim of domestic violence against him
4) He's decided to move out and is now living in a bedsit/car/camper van etc
6) She's moved another bloke in...
Plenty of threads covering all of those on PH's 1) She is seeing someone else after all
2) He's starting seeing someone from work
3) Things have broken down and she's made a false claim of domestic violence against him
4) He's decided to move out and is now living in a bedsit/car/camper van etc
6) She's moved another bloke in...
Hopefully you aren't on the windup because living with someone with depression is no joke.
I've been with my wife for 11 years and a lot of that time has been challenging as she has depression.
It's a f
ked up life to have and despite whatever you do and have there is no way to really eradicate it it seems.
Definitely get her to go the Drs. Anti depressants definitely work as ive seen first hand on the change they can bring and the absolute massive change they can make when they aren't taken for a few days.
You've touched on a few things that mirror my lifes experiences so far apart from the PoF so I hope you can improve the situation you are in. It's not a nice life to live sometimes when you feel absolutely powerless.
Add in to when your other half just downtools and you are left to do everything.
You've got my sympathy providing you're genuine.
I've been with my wife for 11 years and a lot of that time has been challenging as she has depression.
It's a f
ked up life to have and despite whatever you do and have there is no way to really eradicate it it seems.Definitely get her to go the Drs. Anti depressants definitely work as ive seen first hand on the change they can bring and the absolute massive change they can make when they aren't taken for a few days.
You've touched on a few things that mirror my lifes experiences so far apart from the PoF so I hope you can improve the situation you are in. It's not a nice life to live sometimes when you feel absolutely powerless.
Add in to when your other half just downtools and you are left to do everything.
You've got my sympathy providing you're genuine.
If she suffers from PND, and has admitted to stopping taking her medication, and is questioning suicide. Get you brain out of your balls and start to think that the problem is more than just her not wanting sex. She's struggling, and is unable to see a way out.
She may have mentioned the Suicide in a jokey way, but guaranteed there are serious undertones to the question.
YOU need to think about her, and try your upmost to get her the help she's crying out for. It takes a lot for someone to admit they're struggling, as she may feel admitting it is failing the kids or uou
It may be worth organizing a grandparents/auntie/whoever to look after the kids for the day. Take her to the Doctor, sit with her, support her and let her see you see her as more than just a house maid, and free childcare to the kids. Take her to the Doctor, then go to a Spa day with her, suggest she see's friends. Whatever you think would benefit her the most. Counselling may help, but talk to her, before it's too late.
She may have mentioned the Suicide in a jokey way, but guaranteed there are serious undertones to the question.
YOU need to think about her, and try your upmost to get her the help she's crying out for. It takes a lot for someone to admit they're struggling, as she may feel admitting it is failing the kids or uou
It may be worth organizing a grandparents/auntie/whoever to look after the kids for the day. Take her to the Doctor, sit with her, support her and let her see you see her as more than just a house maid, and free childcare to the kids. Take her to the Doctor, then go to a Spa day with her, suggest she see's friends. Whatever you think would benefit her the most. Counselling may help, but talk to her, before it's too late.
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