Caught GF on POF.
Discussion
CS Garth said:
WinstonWolf said:
Yup, I've got three of the buggers in the house 
A friend of mine likes to claim he is a 90s man. 1890s 
It's tough on both parents bringing up kids, they should both be focussing on each other when they have a little spare time. There's a lot of support out there for mums but dads get precious little. It's a massive change when you have kids, you effectively go from being a lover to being a provider. It takes a bit of adjustment and needs attention from both partners if the relationship is to survive..
WinstonWolf said:
Ah, those were the days...
It's tough on both parents bringing up kids, they should both be focussing on each other when they have a little spare time. There's a lot of support out there for mums but dads get precious little. It's a massive change when you have kids, you effectively go from being a lover to being a provider. It takes a bit of adjustment and needs attention from both partners if the relationship is to survive..
You sound like mumsnet.It's tough on both parents bringing up kids, they should both be focussing on each other when they have a little spare time. There's a lot of support out there for mums but dads get precious little. It's a massive change when you have kids, you effectively go from being a lover to being a provider. It takes a bit of adjustment and needs attention from both partners if the relationship is to survive..
I wonder if, consciously or not, this was done so casually OP was intended to find the PoF stuff. These things aren't difficult to bury under layers, cloaked browsing, decoy email address not bonded to device, fingerprint security etc.
Anyway people are complicated and don't know what they themselves want or how to express it half the time. And things need working at, they don't just happen like in the movies. If you're serial I'd suggest to see a relationship counsellor.
Anyway people are complicated and don't know what they themselves want or how to express it half the time. And things need working at, they don't just happen like in the movies. If you're serial I'd suggest to see a relationship counsellor.
Sorry OP, you might as well read this thread. It seems you might be posting in it soon (although I hope for your sake not).
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Edited by MB140 on Wednesday 25th September 18:57
I made myself perfectly clear if she doesn't want it anymore and wants to end it then tell me and tell me now to save anyone any more heartache. She told me she does want us to be together and happy a family and POF was one big mistake and how sorry she is and that it will never happen again which I do believe.
I told her if I ever catch her on it again whether it be in six months or six years I am walking.
For what it is she has done and the reasons she has told me why she did it I think it is worth trying again I can forgive but I can't forget. We are now both on the same page and know we both need to change if we want to pull back from the gutter we have been in the main reason we ended up here is a breakdown in communication.
My defence mechanism is to shut down and hers is to let stuff build up then explode. The new baby has been extremely stressful sleep deprivation mainly for her but I have got up when I could between working 40 odd hours a week it is hard.
As for doing my fair share of the household duties I normally do all the washing at the weekends on my day off hoover the house etc she is the natural untidy one between us but she does all the cooking and has the kids when I'm at work.
She is currently on anti depressants and has been since the birth of our second child.
Reading the comments I admit I have just been wanting to get my end away but it has been so long I was just too horny to care I suppose and keep trying didn't help the situation but even after all the rejections I never once thought to go and get it elsewhere that is why I put all my thoughts into a card and left it for her several weeks ago so we could work it out but here we are.
Anyway got home tonight she has been out shopping with her mum for holiday things for the girls we're off to Cornwall early hours of Saturday morning for a week hopefully it should do us some good.
Thanks for the replies. It has been helpful in making me see it from her point of view.
Total Drivin said:
I didn't get my dick wet as often as I would have liked but I did occasionally and I was happy.
Total Drivin said:
she stays home all day looks after the kids cooks my tea for when I get in I eat go in the kitchen wash all the pots get the kids to bed and we both chill out then usually in separate rooms.
A total mystery why she's looking for somebody, probably anybody, else... 
Still, you've made her see the error of her ways and made her apologise for not appreciating that she's living the dream, it can only go well now.
autopsyhater said:
wondered when he'd appear.Total Drivin said:
I made myself perfectly clear if she doesn't want it anymore and wants to end it then tell me and tell me now to save anyone any more heartache. She told me she does want us to be together and happy a family and POF was one big mistake and how sorry she is and that it will never happen again which I do believe.
I told her if I ever catch her on it again whether it be in six months or six years I am walking.
For what it is she has done and the reasons she has told me why she did it I think it is worth trying again I can forgive but I can't forget. We are now both on the same page and know we both need to change if we want to pull back from the gutter we have been in the main reason we ended up here is a breakdown in communication.
My defence mechanism is to shut down and hers is to let stuff build up then explode. The new baby has been extremely stressful sleep deprivation mainly for her but I have got up when I could between working 40 odd hours a week it is hard.
As for doing my fair share of the household duties I normally do all the washing at the weekends on my day off hoover the house etc she is the natural untidy one between us but she does all the cooking and has the kids when I'm at work.
She is currently on anti depressants and has been since the birth of our second child.
Reading the comments I admit I have just been wanting to get my end away but it has been so long I was just too horny to care I suppose and keep trying didn't help the situation but even after all the rejections I never once thought to go and get it elsewhere that is why I put all my thoughts into a card and left it for her several weeks ago so we could work it out but here we are.
Anyway got home tonight she has been out shopping with her mum for holiday things for the girls we're off to Cornwall early hours of Saturday morning for a week hopefully it should do us some good.
Thanks for the replies. It has been helpful in making me see it from her point of view.
Good luck with it all, the 7 year itch is a very real thing. As other have said, a bit more effort and attentiveness, from you both, may be in order. I told her if I ever catch her on it again whether it be in six months or six years I am walking.
For what it is she has done and the reasons she has told me why she did it I think it is worth trying again I can forgive but I can't forget. We are now both on the same page and know we both need to change if we want to pull back from the gutter we have been in the main reason we ended up here is a breakdown in communication.
My defence mechanism is to shut down and hers is to let stuff build up then explode. The new baby has been extremely stressful sleep deprivation mainly for her but I have got up when I could between working 40 odd hours a week it is hard.
As for doing my fair share of the household duties I normally do all the washing at the weekends on my day off hoover the house etc she is the natural untidy one between us but she does all the cooking and has the kids when I'm at work.
She is currently on anti depressants and has been since the birth of our second child.
Reading the comments I admit I have just been wanting to get my end away but it has been so long I was just too horny to care I suppose and keep trying didn't help the situation but even after all the rejections I never once thought to go and get it elsewhere that is why I put all my thoughts into a card and left it for her several weeks ago so we could work it out but here we are.
Anyway got home tonight she has been out shopping with her mum for holiday things for the girls we're off to Cornwall early hours of Saturday morning for a week hopefully it should do us some good.
Thanks for the replies. It has been helpful in making me see it from her point of view.
Personally, and it may not be the apt action, I'd be setting up a fake POF account in a few months to see if she's still active, and give her a nudge/wink/swipe right (whatever the method is on there, never used it)
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