Are you as rude in real life as you are on PH?

Are you as rude in real life as you are on PH?

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Esceptico

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1,931 posts

56 months

Tuesday 22nd October
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I am somewhat surprised at the level of nastiness on PH. Discussions often degenerate into name calling. Lots of posts are really aggressive and many don’t display much humanity. I wonder whether it is a fair representation of the PH community or just that the rudest are the ones that post the most.

Jazoli

7,328 posts

197 months

Tuesday 22nd October
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It seems like typical PH member behaviour these days and makes me click away from a lot of threads as the rude/knobbish posters just keep shouting louder and louder, it's all a bit sad and pathetic, there's no way that these people would act like this face to face but on here they are anonymous and can act like a prat as much as they like.

It's like a badge of honour for some.

Turn7

16,361 posts

168 months

Tuesday 22nd October
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Agreed, its pretty shyte on here in the main fora these days.....


Short Grain

1,093 posts

167 months

Tuesday 22nd October
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Not Normally,and I have apologised!

Not a prat normally! I'm Sorry for being a prat over the weekend!!

It's Not a badge of honour for me at all!! frown

Edited by Short Grain on Tuesday 22 October 22:13


Edited by Short Grain on Tuesday 22 October 22:17

bobtail4x4

2,078 posts

56 months

Tuesday 22nd October
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My assistant tells me I`m "blunt", but I am a Yorkshireman, and have to deal with numpties everyday.

Faust66

1,575 posts

112 months

Tuesday 22nd October
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I never say anything on line that I wouldn't say to someone's face in the pub.

Really can't be bothered with the chest beating, "richer than yow" and idiotic behaviour that seems to be the norm on forums or facebook groups these days.

Must be getting old...

loquacious

982 posts

104 months

Tuesday 22nd October
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I am normally polite to one and all, forums or real life. I dislike upsetting people for the fun of it intensely. However, the other day I was working on my car and a chap came up and let his dog ump up at my car three times. On the third occasion, I told him to ps off! I would do that in real life, or if someone dd the same on the forum (unlikely I grant you...) then I would say the same.

Smiler.

10,282 posts

177 months

Tuesday 22nd October
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One man's rude is another man's blunt.

There does seem to be an unnecessary edge of antagonism, but considering it's often in the midst of a sea of supercilious ste, perhaps to be expected.

This place has an abundance of pompous bks.

No offence.

smile

Nerdherder

1,637 posts

44 months

Tuesday 22nd October
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If I would be moderating this place the whip would be cracked to a far higher degree.

Shuvi McTupya

23,148 posts

194 months

Tuesday 22nd October
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I really enjoy a lively debate/sometimes heated discussion but that doesn't seem possible here anymore as you can't simply disagree with people anymore without being called an idiot, or worse.

These days I pretty much avoid any type of online disagreement as i get a horrible feeling of dread when I come back to the forum to see how the thread is going when the name calling starts.

I think a big problem is that lots of people have no idea what its like to get a punch in the mouth smile






gazza285

5,372 posts

155 months

Tuesday 22nd October
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Yes.

RDMcG

13,843 posts

154 months

Tuesday 22nd October
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I have always assumed that there is no anonymity on line ultimately. Thus I am not particularly rude in real life of on PH. Have generally avoided commenting on the usual political/relationship/ council/fat/speeding threads that seem to excite people.

Schmed

1,254 posts

19 months

Tuesday 22nd October
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Absolutely. The written medium can be rather blunt however, I do think the intent behind some points made is not always as abrasive as the poster intended.

ETA it does seem some threads can descend into ad hominem attacks very quickly as posters try to score points rather than developing the debate. I may be guilty of the latter re scoring points at times but have certainly never needed to make it personal. Play the ball not the man or whatever it is they say...


Edited by Schmed on Wednesday 23 October 00:12

h0b0

4,127 posts

143 months

Tuesday 22nd October
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RDMcG said:
I have always assumed that there is no anonymity on line ultimately. Thus I am not particularly rude in real life of on PH. Have generally avoided commenting on the usual political/relationship/ council/fat/speeding threads that seem to excite people.
Agreed, what you read is what you get. I know that anyone could figure out who I am and where I live based on my posts so keep my online persona true to my own.

I’m a fairly blunt person in real life but not in a rude manner. More, cutting to the point. But, in written form that can appear a little rude so I try and bare that in mind.

I also don’t get involved in “fat” threads mostly because I am........fat.

glazbagun

10,065 posts

144 months

Tuesday 22nd October
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I'm more polite on PH. I don't have backspace IRL. laugh

OzzyR1

3,975 posts

179 months

Wednesday 23rd October
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Think I'm generally polite unless confronted by someone obviously trolling on here so I'd say yes, I would say the same thing in real life.

I was bought up as a CofE Christian, not that it matters in the slightest. I always thought that the 10 Commandments should be replaced by one all-encompassing rule:


Don't be a dick


That's it, and its all anyone should need.

Terminator X

8,070 posts

151 months

Wednesday 23rd October
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Old + retired is a glorious mix, cantankerous and ancient gits with the entire day to post away.

TX.

GOATever

1,547 posts

14 months

Wednesday 23rd October
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Generally I wouldn’t talk to someone on an Internet forum, any differently to how I would in real life. It gets me ‘Zucked’ / put in Ze cooler / etc. regularly, on various forums. But meh.

Johnnytheboy

18,741 posts

133 months

Wednesday 23rd October
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Esceptico said:
I wonder whether it is a fair representation of the PH community or just that the rudest are the ones that post the most.
I suspect the rudest ones are people you'd avoid if you met them in the real world.

Someone in my office I can well imagine would be a great NPE troll.

If there is any current affairs discussion going on we try not to let him hear, but if he does he sort of swoops in waggling a finger and talking bks. Everyone leaves.

generationx

2,476 posts

52 months

Wednesday 23rd October
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If some of the posters on PH are as rude and patronising in the real world as they are on here I can imagine them being extremely lonely.