Are you as rude in real life as you are on PH?

[Pothole]

Cantaloupe said:

No, I don't mind being rude to the malodorous cretins on here, but not to a real person , I might get a fat lip.

Be sensible.

Such fun

[Johnnytheboy]

Pothole said:

Johnnytheboy said:

Pothole said:

Johnnytheboy said:

I I love the way threads like this seem to attract people who feel that they are smarter than most other PHers.

Perhaps we are.

It had to be Pothole that replied...

Pothole WHO, please! I'm a person!

Fair point, I stand corrected.

I can't help but see you saying that as Patrick McGoohan in The Prisoner for some reason.

[TheJimi]

Monkeylegend said:

Its the internet, not to be taken seriously

I could post links to numerous threads about different subjects to illustrate my point, but let's go with this one -

https://www.pistonheads.com/gassing/topic.asp?h=0&...

And my point?

The internet isn't some fantasy land where nothing matters and nothing is to be taken seriously.

Quite the opposite actually.

Despite what you and others of the same opinion think, the internet is real life - it's just another medium. You are engaging with real people.

I see the same thing posted time and again, when someone is called out for saying something stty or acting like a dick - "calm down, it's just the internet" is often the response.

It's that same rationale that allows people to say stuff to strangers that would land them in some form of bother, if said to a stranger's face - regardless whether they're Yorkshire, London or Glasgow (to pick up on a theme I noticed developing in this thread)

Edited by TheJimi on Wednesday 30th October 21:50

[Monkeylegend]

TheJimi said:

Monkeylegend said:

Its the internet, not to be taken seriously

I could post links to numerous threads about different subjects to illustrate my point, but let's go with this one -

https://www.pistonheads.com/gassing/topic.asp?h=0&...

And my point? The internet isn't some fantasy land where nothing matters and nothing is to be taken seriously. Quite the opposite actually.

Despite what you and others of the same opinion think, the internet is real life - it's just another medium. You are engaging with real people.

I see the same thing posted time and again, when someone is called out for saying something stty or acting like a dick - "calm down, it's just the internet" is often the response.

It's that same rationale that allows people to say stuff to strangers that would land them in some form of bother, if said to a stranger's face - regardless whether they're Yorkshire, London or Glasgow. (to pick up on a theme I noticed developing in this thread)

You might take it seriously but I don't irrespective of any links to illustrate your point.

I am also not influenced in any way whatsoever by advertisements or blown away by reality TV.

I obviously live in my own little bubble which suits me.

Each to their own I suppose

[TheJimi]

Pretty pointless engaging with you any further.

[Clockwork Cupcake]

Monkeylegend said:

You might take it seriously but I don't irrespective of any links to illustrate your point.

You sound like a total dick.

You might think that you're not, of course, but since it's only "the internet" and you aren't real, I guess I can say what I want about you eh? You dick.

[xjay1337]

Until you have played on a Call of Duty Modern Warfare open mic lobby don't say anything about "it's just the internet"

It's quite fun to trash talk people especially in situations (EG some online games) where it is expected and returned.

[Fermit and Sexy Sarah]

Clockwork Cupcake said:

Monkeylegend said:

You might take it seriously but I don't irrespective of any links to illustrate your point.

You sound like a total dick.

You might think that you're not, of course, but since it's only "the internet" and you aren't real, I guess I can say what I want about you eh? You dick.

ML likes getting reactions, don't give him (?) one.

[Monkeylegend]

Fermit and Sexy Sarah said:

Clockwork Cupcake said:

Monkeylegend said:

You might take it seriously but I don't irrespective of any links to illustrate your point.

You sound like a total dick.

You might think that you're not, of course, but since it's only "the internet" and you aren't real, I guess I can say what I want about you eh? You dick.

ML likes getting reactions, don't give him (?) one.

Too late for that Kermit

In my defence I hadn't even clicked on the link Jimi posted so had no idea which thread he was referring to.

[Alex_225]

I don't think I'm rude on here and I'm not rude to anyone in real life either.

Admittedly I'd say my piece if needed and I'm all up for healthy debate but some posts on here are obnoxious. I don't even think being blunt is problematic on here but there is some serious nitpicking and I have seen people make a conscious effort to pick on others.

I'm sure the way some people act on here, if they did act the same way face to face it wouldn't be long before they got a smack in the mouth! haha

[RC1807]

In answer to the OP, I'm not rude on here and I'm not rude in real life.
Life's too short to be a dhead.
Too many keyboard warriors on t'internet.

[NickMyBoatsbiggerthanyourGnome]

So you enter a forum and call people names or use derogatory terms as they do not share your views and when you get some back they are being rude?

I think the sAme would happen in real life, just try walking into a pub and doing the same.

[popeyewhite]

TheJimi said:

You are engaging with real people.

Actually this isn't strictly true. You are engaging with a persona. A version of a real person. It's the cloak of anonymity that fora afford that allows for this creation that we all - to one degree or another - make use of. Not only does it keep us safe when insulting others, it allows us to insult in return if we wish, whilst still remaining 'safe'. You yourself must be aware your posts could be viewed sometimes as blunt or just rude. In the presence of the person you are addressing you'd temper your language, on here people don't. For most on here posting is part of a 'performance' and they slip into character as soon as they sit in front of their monitor.

[TheJimi]

I'd like to think that I act on here exactly as do offline.

If someone is being a dick and I find myself tempted to respond in kind, I tend to ask myself if I'd say whatever I'm about to say to their faces.

Most of the time I'll wind my neck in, because the answer is no, I wouldn't.

So if I'm curt or I swear at you, you've definitely pissed me off

[Clockwork Cupcake]

TheJimi said:

I'd like to think that I act on here exactly as do offline.

If someone is being a dick and I find myself tempted to respond in kind, I tend to ask myself if I'd say whatever I'm about to say to their faces.

Most of the time I'll wind my neck in, because the answer is no, I wouldn't.

So if I'm curt or I swear at you, you've definitely pissed me off

I'd like to think the same about myself.

I'm sure some will disagree, but that is certainly how I strive to conduct myself online.

[Kev_Mk3]

If I wouldn't say it to your face, I wouldn't say it on the internet.


That simple

[TheJimi]

Clockwork Cupcake said:

TheJimi said:

I'd like to think that I act on here exactly as do offline.

If someone is being a dick and I find myself tempted to respond in kind, I tend to ask myself if I'd say whatever I'm about to say to their faces.

Most of the time I'll wind my neck in, because the answer is no, I wouldn't.

So if I'm curt or I swear at you, you've definitely pissed me off

I'd like to think the same about myself.

I'm sure some will disagree, but that is certainly how I strive to conduct myself online.

A good acid test, I think, would be to ask yourself if you'd be happy for your friends, family & colleagues to read through your posting history.

[Pothole]

Johnnytheboy said:

Pothole said:

Johnnytheboy said:

Pothole said:

Johnnytheboy said:

I I love the way threads like this seem to attract people who feel that they are smarter than most other PHers.

Perhaps we are.

It had to be Pothole that replied...

Pothole WHO, please! I'm a person!

Fair point, I stand corrected.

I can't help but see you saying that as Patrick McGoohan in The Prisoner for some reason.

I am not a number..!

[Pothole]

TheJimi said:

Clockwork Cupcake said:

TheJimi said:

I'd like to think that I act on here exactly as do offline.

If someone is being a dick and I find myself tempted to respond in kind, I tend to ask myself if I'd say whatever I'm about to say to their faces.

Most of the time I'll wind my neck in, because the answer is no, I wouldn't.

So if I'm curt or I swear at you, you've definitely pissed me off

I'd like to think the same about myself.

I'm sure some will disagree, but that is certainly how I strive to conduct myself online.

A good acid test, I think, would be to ask yourself if you'd be happy for your friends, family & colleagues to read through your posting history.

It sounds like you truly believe that some of the people you think are the worst offenders would fail that test.

I'd certainly be happy for anyone I know to read anything I'd written here, including the post the overzealous mod deleted recently before excluding me from a thread.

[Johnnytheboy]

TheJimi said:

A good acid test, I think, would be to ask yourself if you'd be happy for your friends, family & colleagues to read through your posting history.

My father is on here. It has a moderating effect.

Mind you he's a real knob.