I think my girlfriend is a *****
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crofty1984 said:
For Christmas Day we try to alternate it, one year at my parents (with brother and sister in law) the other we just go away, even if it's nowhere exotic, just the two of us. Her parents have banned us from going there. As a mercy, it's always angry and awful apparently.
One year we bent over backwards to fit round my family and it all backfired (mainly my fault for poor planning).
It works for us, I'm big on the traditional Christmas with the family, my Mrs isn't, so the alternating thing is fair.
Interesting reading about the slight Asperger's thing someone wrote above. Reminds me of my Mrs a bit when plans change last minute or there's chaos.
How come you're banned from the in laws?One year we bent over backwards to fit round my family and it all backfired (mainly my fault for poor planning).
It works for us, I'm big on the traditional Christmas with the family, my Mrs isn't, so the alternating thing is fair.
Interesting reading about the slight Asperger's thing someone wrote above. Reminds me of my Mrs a bit when plans change last minute or there's chaos.
scrubchub said:
Change of plan - I've cancelled the Christmas get together. Just a pain in the arse. Said that there wouldn't be room for everyone. The plan is normally to alternate between families but perhaps a paradigm shift is in order - just spend it with just my small unit.
Never heard anyone refer to their penis like that before.
borcy said:
How come you're banned from the in laws?
I'm not banned from them in general (in fact I might head over today) but for the last few years Christmas has always ended in anger, resentment, arguments and shouting. MIL considers it a hateful chore and FIL doesn't help, which further winds up MIL. I think the words used were "Look, if you can be absolutely anywhere else for Christmas, do that. It'll only be horrible if you come here." We normally go over for new year or just after once things have calmed down a bit. They're not normally too bad normally, and separately.scrubchub said:
Change of plan - I've cancelled the Christmas get together. Just a pain in the arse. Said that there wouldn't be room for everyone. The plan is normally to alternate between families but perhaps a paradigm shift is in order - just spend it with just my small unit.
Oh dear. Now you’ve upset your mum and your sister and your girlfriend will blame you for making it look like her fault. You’ve basically ruined Christmas.
PositronicRay said:
xx99xx said:
I think unless your Mrs has OCD, Asperger's, autism etc then she is being unreasonable. A slight delay to meal time shouldn't bother most people. Therefore there is more to it that she isn't telling. If you genuinely liked someone then you wouldn't mind if they came round to see you, even at short notice.
I think there's something to this. Mrs PR is a bit of a control freak, stuff has to planned, deviations are stressful. She'd rather abandon than be flexible. She may be on the spectrum.
Speaking on topic, my 8 month old babies first Christmas. Usually we would go to my mum and dads on christmas day and her mum and dads.
My mum and dad have a shih Tzu dog which is a pain in the ass around the baby, so this Christmas plans have to change starting now.
scrubchub said:
Change of plan - I've cancelled the Christmas get together. Just a pain in the arse. Said that there wouldn't be room for everyone. The plan is normally to alternate between families but perhaps a paradigm shift is in order - just spend it with just my small unit.
quite f
king right too. stand your ground on this one.
(Xmas Dinner)?scrubchub said:
(I do the cooking anyway),
I know the plan has changed now, but I wonder if the above is part of your gf's concern - she'll be left to deal with your sister while you're up to your eyes in it in the kitchen?I say this as it's what happens in our house - people arrive, my wife says 'hello' then disappears into the kitchen. She'll miss the starter and she'll barely sit down to eat with us before she's off again doing the next bit. And then it repeats for a buffet later as more people arrive. She won't let anyone else help. Drives me absolutely mad, and we fall out over it every Christmas.
Can't be bothered reading all of it but what I've learned over the years - wife, in-laws and Xmas in combination are an effing nightmare.
My missus pretty much stated on the long drive back from a family party a few weeks back that she's not prepared to spend several hours in the car this Christmas visiting my mother. This means I'm now screwed...
My Mum is in her eighties, doesn't drive and wouldn't entertain the thought of using public transport to get any further than the supermarket. My brother lives near her but is always conveniently "on call" for work. The wife says they should come to ours, this will never happen and besides which she'll never go anywhere without her dog and I don't want it in my house. Because we spent a week down near her as part of our holiday this year my wife thinks we've done our bit.
Her suggestion, meet for lunch somewhere central for a few hours, exchange presents and return home. Not very festive is it especially as we have two kids who my Mum will be wanting to buy stuff for.
Her parents we see often although they will come to us as well as us going to them and they're close enough that visiting for the day is fine. I'd never protest about anything she arranges with them.
But anyway, I now just want for it to all be over so that I can get on with my life.
My missus pretty much stated on the long drive back from a family party a few weeks back that she's not prepared to spend several hours in the car this Christmas visiting my mother. This means I'm now screwed...
My Mum is in her eighties, doesn't drive and wouldn't entertain the thought of using public transport to get any further than the supermarket. My brother lives near her but is always conveniently "on call" for work. The wife says they should come to ours, this will never happen and besides which she'll never go anywhere without her dog and I don't want it in my house. Because we spent a week down near her as part of our holiday this year my wife thinks we've done our bit.
Her suggestion, meet for lunch somewhere central for a few hours, exchange presents and return home. Not very festive is it especially as we have two kids who my Mum will be wanting to buy stuff for.
Her parents we see often although they will come to us as well as us going to them and they're close enough that visiting for the day is fine. I'd never protest about anything she arranges with them.
But anyway, I now just want for it to all be over so that I can get on with my life.
If she's working till 2, I'm assuming she can be with you by 3pm? If so, I don't see the issue... Crack open the champers when your sis arrives, drinks, canapes, then dinner. 3-4pm for dinner is hardly late, nor is it going to make your 2nd born's first christmas miserable.
It's part of the reason why I now sod off for Christmas... I don't have kids, my sister has two (and a grandchild), and I'd really rather not be about when we all get together at Christmas. It's all so forced and scripted, rather than just being a nice relaxing day.
It's part of the reason why I now sod off for Christmas... I don't have kids, my sister has two (and a grandchild), and I'd really rather not be about when we all get together at Christmas. It's all so forced and scripted, rather than just being a nice relaxing day.
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