How has your decade been?
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2010 I was 31 I had just had a nervouse breakdown, was batteling alocholisim, got fired from 2 jobs due to the above, lost the closest person I had to a real dad and felt suicidal.
Fast forward ten years, my gf now wife stuck with me, I got thearpy, I got better, I gave up drinking and smoking, I found the gym (sadly not been this year due to work an kids). we had two kids, built our dream home and my carrer is way beyond where is would have otherwise been had I stayed on old path (without a breakdown).
Iife is up an down but while its been a rough ten years, I have become a better person and I am richer both emotionally and financially, I hope the next 10 years are the same an so by 2030 I can retire.
Fast forward ten years, my gf now wife stuck with me, I got thearpy, I got better, I gave up drinking and smoking, I found the gym (sadly not been this year due to work an kids). we had two kids, built our dream home and my carrer is way beyond where is would have otherwise been had I stayed on old path (without a breakdown).
Iife is up an down but while its been a rough ten years, I have become a better person and I am richer both emotionally and financially, I hope the next 10 years are the same an so by 2030 I can retire.
In 2010 I was doing my dream job, carting stuff around for bands on their world tours.
Was also slowly coming to terms with losing my mum.
Got to do a couple of tours with my all time fave band and have a few chats and beers with said band.
Was part of the 2012 closing ceremony at the Olympics, still driving a lorry oddly enough, but it was a bitter pill as the greatest man that was ever in my life, my dad, passed away 2 weeks before the event.
6 weeks later we lost the mother in law.
Carried on for a couple of years on the tours until a life changing event in 2014 changed my life a fair bit. Had a fall and suffered some pretty big head injuries that meant I lost my driving licences, which I understood. 6 months later, was given the all clear by my neuro consultant and returned to work.
4 weeks later the decision was overruled by the DVLA medical department and so began the hardest 4 years of my life.
Got there in the end when the DVLA were found to be at fault, got my licences back and compensation from the clowns at Swansea, although no where near enough, winning that battle was everything.
Onwards and upwards, that battle with the DVLA gave me a much better appreciation of how lucky I really am to have such a fantastic partner, family and friends, some of whom I have never met who helped me out when life was rock bottom.
Thankyou PH.
Now just making the most of every single day with swmbo, the kids, grandkid, our mutt, and family and friends.
Was also slowly coming to terms with losing my mum.
Got to do a couple of tours with my all time fave band and have a few chats and beers with said band.
Was part of the 2012 closing ceremony at the Olympics, still driving a lorry oddly enough, but it was a bitter pill as the greatest man that was ever in my life, my dad, passed away 2 weeks before the event.
6 weeks later we lost the mother in law.
Carried on for a couple of years on the tours until a life changing event in 2014 changed my life a fair bit. Had a fall and suffered some pretty big head injuries that meant I lost my driving licences, which I understood. 6 months later, was given the all clear by my neuro consultant and returned to work.
4 weeks later the decision was overruled by the DVLA medical department and so began the hardest 4 years of my life.
Got there in the end when the DVLA were found to be at fault, got my licences back and compensation from the clowns at Swansea, although no where near enough, winning that battle was everything.
Onwards and upwards, that battle with the DVLA gave me a much better appreciation of how lucky I really am to have such a fantastic partner, family and friends, some of whom I have never met who helped me out when life was rock bottom.
Thankyou PH.
Now just making the most of every single day with swmbo, the kids, grandkid, our mutt, and family and friends.
chilistrucker said:
In 2010 I was doing my dream job, carting stuff around for bands on their world tours.
Was also slowly coming to terms with losing my mum.
Got to do a couple of tours with my all time fave band and have a few chats and beers with said band.
Was part of the 2012 closing ceremony at the Olympics, still driving a lorry oddly enough, but it was a bitter pill as the greatest man that was ever in my life, my dad, passed away 2 weeks before the event.
6 weeks later we lost the mother in law.
Carried on for a couple of years on the tours until a life changing event in 2014 changed my life a fair bit. Had a fall and suffered some pretty big head injuries that meant I lost my driving licences, which I understood. 6 months later, was given the all clear by my neuro consultant and returned to work.
4 weeks later the decision was overruled by the DVLA medical department and so began the hardest 4 years of my life.
Got there in the end when the DVLA were found to be at fault, got my licences back and compensation from the clowns at Swansea, although no where near enough, winning that battle was everything.
Onwards and upwards, that battle with the DVLA gave me a much better appreciation of how lucky I really am to have such a fantastic partner, family and friends, some of whom I have never met who helped me out when life was rock bottom.
Thankyou PH.
Now just making the most of every single day with swmbo, the kids, grandkid, our mutt, and family and friends.
Blimey chap, that's a pretty bumpy ride, and I thought my decade had been ropey!Was also slowly coming to terms with losing my mum.
Got to do a couple of tours with my all time fave band and have a few chats and beers with said band.
Was part of the 2012 closing ceremony at the Olympics, still driving a lorry oddly enough, but it was a bitter pill as the greatest man that was ever in my life, my dad, passed away 2 weeks before the event.
6 weeks later we lost the mother in law.
Carried on for a couple of years on the tours until a life changing event in 2014 changed my life a fair bit. Had a fall and suffered some pretty big head injuries that meant I lost my driving licences, which I understood. 6 months later, was given the all clear by my neuro consultant and returned to work.
4 weeks later the decision was overruled by the DVLA medical department and so began the hardest 4 years of my life.
Got there in the end when the DVLA were found to be at fault, got my licences back and compensation from the clowns at Swansea, although no where near enough, winning that battle was everything.
Onwards and upwards, that battle with the DVLA gave me a much better appreciation of how lucky I really am to have such a fantastic partner, family and friends, some of whom I have never met who helped me out when life was rock bottom.
Thankyou PH.
Now just making the most of every single day with swmbo, the kids, grandkid, our mutt, and family and friends.
It sounds trite, but I'm really pleased to hear it sounds as though you've turned a corner.
Europa1 said:
Blimey chap, that's a pretty bumpy ride, and I thought my decade had been ropey!
It sounds trite, but I'm really pleased to hear it sounds as though you've turned a corner.
Thankyou very much, that means a lot especially as I only read the first page of this thread before I decided to post myself. I then went straight back and read every post, obviously including yours and now the last 9 years sort of doesn't really seem that bad now.It sounds trite, but I'm really pleased to hear it sounds as though you've turned a corner.
I n this thread there is plenty that has made me wanted to laugh and cry all at the same time, I suppose we all get some interesting cards dealt to us at times and we all deal with them in our own way as we see best.
Sat here struggling staring at my screen desperately thinking of something positive and upbeat to add.....
On a positive note though, as an earlier poster mentioned lets have a riot whilst we still can, I know you say you're not to mobile, but f
k it let us bring the party to you????I am happy to bring booze, coke and hookers, or anything really, you don't have to go too the party, we could bring it too you?
Right I'm so rock n roll I now have to go to bed as have a 5am start, oh yes, life in the bus lane but will check here again tomorrow
From the best of my life to the worst in my life; then a "hockey-stick" turn of the graph of happiness int he last month so it isn't going to end badly and none of the events can be regretted. "Have the peace to accept that which cannot be changed, change what you peacefully can" and all that.
Looking forwards to my next decade as there is a better than evens chance it could be my last so I better well bloody go out there and enjoy it!
Highs. Cars, children, friends, colleagues, meeting the Pope, work, seeing some parts of nuclear reactors abroad that few have ever seen and coming up with a solution, travelling to five continents.
Lows. Still haven't replaced the conservatory that the mortgage company asked us to in 2006 as a condition of our mortgage offer, it is getting a bit "holey" now. Family disabilities in the generations above and below and I'm in the middle as the carer. Then I get my own health problems. Dead family no longer with us. Finances. Seriously failing eyesight. Exploding teeth. Being an ever increasing fat knacker. Seeing Sheffield Utd in the Premiership.
Looking forwards to my next decade as there is a better than evens chance it could be my last so I better well bloody go out there and enjoy it!
Highs. Cars, children, friends, colleagues, meeting the Pope, work, seeing some parts of nuclear reactors abroad that few have ever seen and coming up with a solution, travelling to five continents.
Lows. Still haven't replaced the conservatory that the mortgage company asked us to in 2006 as a condition of our mortgage offer, it is getting a bit "holey" now. Family disabilities in the generations above and below and I'm in the middle as the carer. Then I get my own health problems. Dead family no longer with us. Finances. Seriously failing eyesight. Exploding teeth. Being an ever increasing fat knacker. Seeing Sheffield Utd in the Premiership.
Not too bad. This time 10 years ago I was in 2nd year at Uni. Since then I have:
- Bought a house
- Qualified as a ski instructor
- Had 3 cars: barge-tastic 745i, then a lot of fun with a Boxster S, now in a slightly more sensible M140i
- Had 4 jobs, each very cool in its own way, and paying enough to cover the bills
- Travelled enough to earn a BA Gold Card 10x over, to all sorts of weird and wonderful places around the world
Plan for the next decade:
- Move to a bigger house
- Get back into a sports car
- Get a dog
- Maybe make some money
- Bought a house
- Qualified as a ski instructor
- Had 3 cars: barge-tastic 745i, then a lot of fun with a Boxster S, now in a slightly more sensible M140i
- Had 4 jobs, each very cool in its own way, and paying enough to cover the bills
- Travelled enough to earn a BA Gold Card 10x over, to all sorts of weird and wonderful places around the world
Plan for the next decade:
- Move to a bigger house
- Get back into a sports car
- Get a dog
- Maybe make some money
Excellent thread, puts so much into perspective.
2010? I was 28 and working in IT and recently started my own dream business doing engine mapping, had a contract with a workshop with their own rally and race team, had the time of my life travelling to races and once freezing my ass off in -30 degrees in a rally service park. Was planning to make the business full-time.
Been in relationship for 7 years, it was neither here not there but we continued for the sake of our son.
Was in debt all the time. Had to sell my car and was taking bus to work.
Felt like the world is there to take and possibilities are endless.
Fast forward 10 years, I'm still in IT. Moved country, split with my ex. Both spent two and a half years trying to revive the relationship. Realised I won't be working in motorsport, but also learned that hobbies are much better at being hobbies than jobs. Have no debts and about to buy my first house. Wouldn't have guessed 10 years ago where I'd be today. Have no idea where I'll be in 10 years. One constant will probably still stand - that not on/not off relationship
2010? I was 28 and working in IT and recently started my own dream business doing engine mapping, had a contract with a workshop with their own rally and race team, had the time of my life travelling to races and once freezing my ass off in -30 degrees in a rally service park. Was planning to make the business full-time.
Been in relationship for 7 years, it was neither here not there but we continued for the sake of our son.
Was in debt all the time. Had to sell my car and was taking bus to work.
Felt like the world is there to take and possibilities are endless.
Fast forward 10 years, I'm still in IT. Moved country, split with my ex. Both spent two and a half years trying to revive the relationship. Realised I won't be working in motorsport, but also learned that hobbies are much better at being hobbies than jobs. Have no debts and about to buy my first house. Wouldn't have guessed 10 years ago where I'd be today. Have no idea where I'll be in 10 years. One constant will probably still stand - that not on/not off relationship
Good thread, although heart breaking to hear many of the stories.
Started the decade at 35 doing a job I hated for a company I loathed, worked every hour god sent and felt like I was failing 7 days a week - I was. Was lucky enough to buy a Ferrari which I kept for a few years and loved, despite servicing costs. Bought a house which turned into a financial nightmare, wouldn’t want to think how much money was wasted - not to mention the time and hassle.
Changed jobs a couple of times and then set up my own business. Got married half way through the decade and still going strong.
Spent most of the decade thinking I was still 18 and drinking and going out to much - recently got that under control and getting much more exercise in.
Learnt a lot, made tons of mistakes and spent a large part of the last 10 years stressed as fk.
Moved house a couple of times (managed to sell the money trap). Took my company public about a year ago and have now retired. Now need to figure out what to do next. Have bought a large piece of land which we’ll be buildings a house on - looking forward to having some decent garage space.
It was a weird decade - wouldn’t say it was overly enjoyable however has hopefully set it up that the next few will be good.
Started the decade at 35 doing a job I hated for a company I loathed, worked every hour god sent and felt like I was failing 7 days a week - I was. Was lucky enough to buy a Ferrari which I kept for a few years and loved, despite servicing costs. Bought a house which turned into a financial nightmare, wouldn’t want to think how much money was wasted - not to mention the time and hassle.
Changed jobs a couple of times and then set up my own business. Got married half way through the decade and still going strong.
Spent most of the decade thinking I was still 18 and drinking and going out to much - recently got that under control and getting much more exercise in.
Learnt a lot, made tons of mistakes and spent a large part of the last 10 years stressed as f
k.Moved house a couple of times (managed to sell the money trap). Took my company public about a year ago and have now retired. Now need to figure out what to do next. Have bought a large piece of land which we’ll be buildings a house on - looking forward to having some decent garage space.
It was a weird decade - wouldn’t say it was overly enjoyable however has hopefully set it up that the next few will be good.
This actually really made me think.
I was 26 in 2010 and was one level out of my Graduate job, had just moved in with my new girlfriend after being bailed out financially by my parents so that I could do that. I also had an S200.
Ten years later wow how things moved on. The day after I had been looking for engagement rings, the same girlfriend (by then of five years) revealed she'd been having an affair with someone I knew professionally. The engine gave up on the S2000. I focussed on work, replaced the S2000 with a Chimaera and promptly stuffed it into the wall of the Hatfield Tunnel avoiding some trumpet in a micra.
Having dreamed of moving to Hong Kong for a few years, the 'right' role came along at the right time. I got the job, moved here and to finish off the decade that started out badly then dipped in the middle - I have this year been promoted again, bought both of my 'dream bikes' (justified by not having a car here), had success at my chosen sport (long distance time trials) and I'm generally looking positively on life.
I suspect this next ten years is going to have some milestones as well - good and bad.
Focus on building what is in your control, the rest will take care of itself. You will bounce back, things will get better.
I was 26 in 2010 and was one level out of my Graduate job, had just moved in with my new girlfriend after being bailed out financially by my parents so that I could do that. I also had an S200.
Ten years later wow how things moved on. The day after I had been looking for engagement rings, the same girlfriend (by then of five years) revealed she'd been having an affair with someone I knew professionally. The engine gave up on the S2000. I focussed on work, replaced the S2000 with a Chimaera and promptly stuffed it into the wall of the Hatfield Tunnel avoiding some trumpet in a micra.
Having dreamed of moving to Hong Kong for a few years, the 'right' role came along at the right time. I got the job, moved here and to finish off the decade that started out badly then dipped in the middle - I have this year been promoted again, bought both of my 'dream bikes' (justified by not having a car here), had success at my chosen sport (long distance time trials) and I'm generally looking positively on life.
I suspect this next ten years is going to have some milestones as well - good and bad.
Focus on building what is in your control, the rest will take care of itself. You will bounce back, things will get better.
WJNB said:
Not so good.
I want to go back to the 1960's when I was proud of the country of my birth & almost without exception everybody I encountered could actually speak English & I was unafraid to go out in the evening or visit our city centres.
Yes, it was probably so much better then. These damn foreign types, making all the town centres all unnecessary? Little Englander, or xenophobic? Can’t quite make my mind up? I want to go back to the 1960's when I was proud of the country of my birth & almost without exception everybody I encountered could actually speak English & I was unafraid to go out in the evening or visit our city centres.
I started a full-time job late 2009 after finishing Uni, and was on about £13k. Still living with my parents in Swindon and driving a crappy ancient Fiat Punto. Quite interesting to look back and remind myself how far I've come.
Now living with my fiance, living and working in London for a small bank, more than six figures, and driving an F-type R V8. Quite a difference. Looking forward to the next 10 years.
Across that time also managed a few half marathons, a few Ironmans and assorted other triathlons as well as having become a semi-decent 2nd cat cyclist in the last 5 or so years.
Now living with my fiance, living and working in London for a small bank, more than six figures, and driving an F-type R V8. Quite a difference. Looking forward to the next 10 years.
Across that time also managed a few half marathons, a few Ironmans and assorted other triathlons as well as having become a semi-decent 2nd cat cyclist in the last 5 or so years.
2010 we finally moved to France after spending 6 years developing properties to get out of uk..
We played on the med for 18 mths
We then bought a run down old farm, sold all the supercars and spent the money and 8 years on doing up all the buildings, i did all the work while my wife worked hard in London building something thats now worth millions, that took 4 years apart no holidays, then occasional weekends, then holidays, then longer weekends...
Along the way we’ve gained a family in the form of our Husky and rescued sheeba inu who we absolutely love to bits. The nice cars are back on the drive, we now got two luxury cottages which pay for holidays and an incredible barn conversion for ourselves and its all paid for, no debt and 2020 sees a complete end to the london commutes for my wife, bliss!
The sacrifice was unbelievably hard at times and gambling with lifes most precious gift of time is a dangerous game to play at our age but it has paid off and paved the way for the next 10 years of traveling and play, Cant wait for 2020 as its part 2 for us, enjoying the fruits of our labour..
I ahve to say though, having read others decade it makes me feel very fortunate not to have lost anyone close, we’ve had nightmare operations and health issues along the way but not lost anyone so we’ve been truly lucky in that regard, none of what highlights our decade would mean anything if we were to loose each other, its so sad to hear as its the sharing that makes any of what ive mentioned, special.
anyway, Bloody brilliant decade! Merry Christmas all!
(Hoping its not all downhill from here)
We played on the med for 18 mths
We then bought a run down old farm, sold all the supercars and spent the money and 8 years on doing up all the buildings, i did all the work while my wife worked hard in London building something thats now worth millions, that took 4 years apart no holidays, then occasional weekends, then holidays, then longer weekends...
Along the way we’ve gained a family in the form of our Husky and rescued sheeba inu who we absolutely love to bits. The nice cars are back on the drive, we now got two luxury cottages which pay for holidays and an incredible barn conversion for ourselves and its all paid for, no debt and 2020 sees a complete end to the london commutes for my wife, bliss!
The sacrifice was unbelievably hard at times and gambling with lifes most precious gift of time is a dangerous game to play at our age but it has paid off and paved the way for the next 10 years of traveling and play, Cant wait for 2020 as its part 2 for us, enjoying the fruits of our labour..
I ahve to say though, having read others decade it makes me feel very fortunate not to have lost anyone close, we’ve had nightmare operations and health issues along the way but not lost anyone so we’ve been truly lucky in that regard, none of what highlights our decade would mean anything if we were to loose each other, its so sad to hear as its the sharing that makes any of what ive mentioned, special.
anyway, Bloody brilliant decade! Merry Christmas all!
(Hoping its not all downhill from here)
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