Advice/Help! I am going Grey in lockdown... Need Hair dye?
Discussion
AlexC1981 said:
Anyone who is 40-ish will understand because they will have had the same dilemma at some point.
I'd wager the vast majority of men in their 40s who have enough hair to worry about it are just grateful they don't have to shave what's left off and pretend they like being bald. 
Greying hair or baldness is not a 'problem' that needs 'a solution'.
I suggest that here is where you need to do some work.
Few individuals are bereft of any charm, confidence, sophistication or charisma.
Save money on spurious hair dye 'solutions' and deal with your underlying self esteem issues. See a therapist.
I suggest that here is where you need to do some work.
PiesAreGreat said:
Before I get all the "brave the grey/silver fox" crap, I have almost zero charm, confidence, sophistication or charisma, so will fail miserably at the silver fox, Clooney esq stuff.
I doubt that you would describe any of your best friends in such a disparaging way. In my opinion it is unfair for you portray yourself in such harsh terms. Few individuals are bereft of any charm, confidence, sophistication or charisma.
Save money on spurious hair dye 'solutions' and deal with your underlying self esteem issues. See a therapist.
Edited by Blib on Sunday 1st August 11:30
Sounds like their may be another issue here with regards to self esteem and insecurity, and I speak as someone who has been there.
Embrace the grey otherwise you will have a very long term commitment to dying your hair on a monthly basis as people will notice the grey roots a lot more than they will think about your grey hair.
Embrace the grey otherwise you will have a very long term commitment to dying your hair on a monthly basis as people will notice the grey roots a lot more than they will think about your grey hair.
Blib said:
I doubt that you would describe any of your best friends in such a disparaging way. In my opinion it is unfair for you portray yourself in such harsh terms.
Few individuals are bereft of any charm, confidence, sophistication or charisma.
This all over. Being slim and having hair puts you at a massive advantage on the looking old stakes. That alone should give you some confidence.Few individuals are bereft of any charm, confidence, sophistication or charisma.
Bill said:
AlexC1981 said:
Anyone who is 40-ish will understand because they will have had the same dilemma at some point.
I'd wager the vast majority of men in their 40s who have enough hair to worry about it are just grateful they don't have to shave what's left off and pretend they like being bald. Bill said:
Blib said:
I doubt that you would describe any of your best friends in such a disparaging way. In my opinion it is unfair for you portray yourself in such harsh terms.
Few individuals are bereft of any charm, confidence, sophistication or charisma.
This all over. Being slim and having hair puts you at a massive advantage on the looking old stakes. That alone should give you some confidence.Few individuals are bereft of any charm, confidence, sophistication or charisma.
Tips from my sis who's a men's stylist and what she recommends to clients who want to colour at home.
Clairol root touch up kit, pick your colour and it comes with a brush. It's cheaper than Just for Men too.
There's less product so should be enough for a blokes head depending on hair length.
It's also less messier than the big box ones with a bottle.
Put a thick line of vaseline all around your hairline front and back and ears before putting the dye on.
It will stop most the colour going on your skin.
Put the dye on and wash it off as per the instructions.
She said you'll probably have a noticeable dye line around your hairline if you have short hair.
Get some facial cleanser like that miceller water stuff they keep advertising on TV and rub it around the dyeline with some cotton pads to take it off.
Do it the day before you are going out and once you've washed it a second time it shouldn't even be noticeable.
However me personally like others have said, just let it go naturally, seems a bit of a faff if you need to keep doing it weekly and seems expensive too and if you do get a new partner how long before she finds out.
Clairol root touch up kit, pick your colour and it comes with a brush. It's cheaper than Just for Men too.
There's less product so should be enough for a blokes head depending on hair length.
It's also less messier than the big box ones with a bottle.
Put a thick line of vaseline all around your hairline front and back and ears before putting the dye on.
It will stop most the colour going on your skin.
Put the dye on and wash it off as per the instructions.
She said you'll probably have a noticeable dye line around your hairline if you have short hair.
Get some facial cleanser like that miceller water stuff they keep advertising on TV and rub it around the dyeline with some cotton pads to take it off.
Do it the day before you are going out and once you've washed it a second time it shouldn't even be noticeable.
However me personally like others have said, just let it go naturally, seems a bit of a faff if you need to keep doing it weekly and seems expensive too and if you do get a new partner how long before she finds out.
I was all for going grey gracefully but it was the patchy nature of how it was turning grey that I felt wasn’t a great look. Happily coupled up and she wasn’t bothered but a guy at work recommended the control GX shampoo so I thought I’d try it. Just use as normal shampoo (though recommend wearing latex gloves as apparently discolours finger nails). Honestly it’s no faff at all. Use it until you feel the effect is right then you can use it every second day, once a week, whatever works. The effect is so slow and subtle no one will really notice that much. Sometimes I forget to use it for a few days, weeks. Is a bit more expensive but I think it’s worth it. Definitely more convenient and subtle than specific hair dye.
K87 said:
Sounds like their may be another issue here with regards to self esteem and insecurity, and I speak as someone who has been there.
Embrace the grey otherwise you will have a very long term commitment to dying your hair on a monthly basis as people will notice the grey roots a lot more than they will think about your grey hair.
That’s one of the main reasons I packed in getting it dyed - the monthly expense and commitment. It’s a lot of hassle.Embrace the grey otherwise you will have a very long term commitment to dying your hair on a monthly basis as people will notice the grey roots a lot more than they will think about your grey hair.
And I dare say people were starting to notice.
But come one day, if you decide you are going to dye it - you are pretty much stuck with it. And finding a suitable day to stop is going to be hard. You are going to look a right
in your seventies with jet black hair - we’ve all see it!.Funny thing is hair for men. A mate of mine is a seriously hard cage fighter, it would appear no problems with self confidence and esteem.
He is built like a brick out-house.
Going / gone bald, forever backwards and forwards to Turkey for hair transplants.
Jim H said:
That’s one of the main reasons I packed in getting it dyed - the monthly expense and commitment. It’s a lot of hassle.
And I dare say people were starting to notice.
But come one day, if you decide you are going to dye it - you are pretty much stuck with it. And finding a suitable day to stop is going to be hard. You are going to look a right in your seventies with jet black hair - we’ve all see it!.
Funny thing is hair for men. A mate of mine is a seriously hard cage fighter, it would appear no problems with self confidence and esteem.
He is built like a brick out-house.
Going / gone bald, forever backwards and forwards to Turkey for hair transplants.
It may just be vanity then.And I dare say people were starting to notice.
But come one day, if you decide you are going to dye it - you are pretty much stuck with it. And finding a suitable day to stop is going to be hard. You are going to look a right
in your seventies with jet black hair - we’ve all see it!.Funny thing is hair for men. A mate of mine is a seriously hard cage fighter, it would appear no problems with self confidence and esteem.
He is built like a brick out-house.
Going / gone bald, forever backwards and forwards to Turkey for hair transplants.
He ( the cage fighter has one of those faces which tells its own story about being mashed about on the rugby league field.
So I’m not sure where vanity comes into it, maybe he does think he is Adonis and needs good hair to reinforce a misguided belief.
Of course I’d never tell him all this.
He would, without doubt, tear me a new arse hole.
So I’m not sure where vanity comes into it, maybe he does think he is Adonis and needs good hair to reinforce a misguided belief.
Of course I’d never tell him all this.
He would, without doubt, tear me a new arse hole.
I've gotten a bit more grey hair in the last year, the oh st moment when I got my first hair cut after lockdown ended. For a second I thought some fell from the barber or razor, but it kept falling. Can't say I'm bothered but it was a lot more that I had in my mind 
Personally I wouldn't dye my hair, it always looks a bit funny on a man.
t moment when I got my first hair cut after lockdown ended. For a second I thought some fell from the barber or razor, but it kept falling. Can't say I'm bothered but it was a lot more that I had in my mind Personally I wouldn't dye my hair, it always looks a bit funny on a man.
Road2Ruin said:
GT03ROB said:
Blokes who dye their hair look ridiculous…… it’s always obvious.
No it isn't. I do it and you would never know. My wife didn't even know. I also know another chap a bit greyer than me and has done it for years and I completely forget.
I started going grey in my 40's, now mid 50's its all grey (i blame my bloody kids). Different shades of grey but all grey. It still looks fine to me, its just part of who I am. I can't be arsed to dye it. If I did so it wouldn't make me any more confident or outgoing... I wouldn't bother, enjoy what you have got and don't worry about what you haven't.
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