Private schools, times a changing?

Private schools, times a changing?

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WindyCommon

3,375 posts

239 months

Monday 27th March 2023
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Countdown said:
Does anybody ever get rejected due to a failing in "personal characteristics"?
I'm pretty confident that the answer to that is yes, although "failing" is perhaps the wrong word. We know families with academically bright kids who didn't get offered places. At the time we were surprised but we can see now that they are looking for more than just entrance exam performance. I think they have a very good idea of the traits that lead to success in their culture/environment. That's fine; successful organisations in all walks of life tend to have this level of self-awareness.

okgo

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38,047 posts

198 months

Monday 27th March 2023
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Hard to see how they manage it at under 3.5 years old mind you which is how old my son would be for some of these assessments if we go that route.

WindyCommon

3,375 posts

239 months

Monday 27th March 2023
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okgo said:
Hard to see how they manage it at under 3.5 years old mind you which is how old my son would be for some of these assessments if we go that route.
It’s a senior school. Entry at 11 or 13. Nothing to do with 3.5 year olds….

gareth h

3,550 posts

230 months

Monday 27th March 2023
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Countdown said:
Does anybody ever get rejected due to a failing in "personal characteristics"?
Yes, when interviewing pushy parents at my kids school they were told there was a more appropriate school in Marlborough smile

okgo

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38,047 posts

198 months

Monday 27th March 2023
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WindyCommon said:
It’s a senior school. Entry at 11 or 13. Nothing to do with 3.5 year olds….
All of the sought after schools around here do assessments for entry at 4+.

Sheepshanks

32,779 posts

119 months

Monday 27th March 2023
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Leithen said:
It is a competitive environment. Competition for places, but also for pupils, for staff, and for the best leadership teams.

One of my oldest school friends is Head of a well known and very successful Southern-England Public School. His workload is immense, and the need to navigate very difficult HR, Safeguarding, Compliance etc whilst at the same time leading an organisation and running a very successful business is something I wouldn't touch with a bargepole. He hasn't taught anything for years.

I my opinion he deserves every pound he earns and probably more. He could be earning far bigger bucks in the city and not having to deal with parents who are in city....
Obviously he ultimately carries the can, but he should, especially bearing in mind the budget he's likely to have, have a crack team around him dealing with those things so he can swan around being head-teachery.

As for not teaching - even state school primary Heads don't teach.

JimmyConwayNW

3,065 posts

125 months

Monday 27th March 2023
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okgo said:
All of the sought after schools around here do assessments for entry at 4+.
Its only a few bits any 4 year old should be able to do nothing to much. Periodic table, alphabet backwards and a little long division. Any half competent 4 year old should be able to do it with ease.



Only joking, I think its just seeing how they play with others a few basic tasks and seeing if a trained eye spots any areas of concern before formally giving a place.


deckster

9,630 posts

255 months

Monday 27th March 2023
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JimmyConwayNW said:
okgo said:
All of the sought after schools around here do assessments for entry at 4+.
Its only a few bits any 4 year old should be able to do nothing to much. Periodic table, alphabet backwards and a little long division. Any half competent 4 year old should be able to do it with ease.



Only joking, I think its just seeing how they play with others a few basic tasks and seeing if a trained eye spots any areas of concern before formally giving a place.
I'm going to suggest that at 4 years old they are going to be assessing the parents a lot more than the child.

okgo

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38,047 posts

198 months

Monday 27th March 2023
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deckster said:
I'm going to suggest that at 4 years old they are going to be assessing the parents a lot more than the child.
Nope. Kids for one of the schools are taken off without parents. Assessment done approx 10 months from the start of reception year so as a July kid my son would be a 3 years 4 months old. Mad really.

What are they going to look at in a parent, not like there’s going to be any parents in Trapstar clothing and a Pitbull in tow. It’s one of my fascinations with the whole thing. Still, they turn out near perfect academic students hear after year so they obviously know more than I on the topic.

Sheepshanks

32,779 posts

119 months

Monday 27th March 2023
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okgo said:
What are they going to look at in a parent....
Based on recent posts in the Rolex thread, a good test would be to see if they know the name of the owner of the local Rolex AD.

deckster

9,630 posts

255 months

Monday 27th March 2023
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okgo said:
Nope. Kids for one of the schools are taken off without parents. Assessment done approx 10 months from the start of reception year so as a July kid my son would be a 3 years 4 months old. Mad really.

What are they going to look at in a parent, not like there’s going to be any parents in Trapstar clothing and a Pitbull in tow. It’s one of my fascinations with the whole thing. Still, they turn out near perfect academic students hear after year so they obviously know more than I on the topic.
You'd be surprised what you can learn by watching how a parent interacts with their child. And (discreetly) screening parents is absolutely part of the process.

My wife teaches at an independent boarding school and it's a basic fact that there are very few problem students who do not also have problem parents.

ooid

4,089 posts

100 months

Monday 27th March 2023
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Sheepshanks said:
Very different scale of job though to a school head though.
I'm gonna be a bit bold and say, I think a school head role is a more complex/difficult job than a regular university VC nowadays. (more than 70% of their income (average) comes from home students, and their fees mostly about student loans, it's almost automated)

WindyCommon said:
The interesting question is whether the recipient should be viewed (as some posters propose) as the leader of a substantial business, or as the leader of what is technically a charity. Turnover is approx £30m, which I suspect is quite small for a charity https://register-of-charities.charitycommission.go...
Really good point.

Fat hippo

732 posts

134 months

Monday 27th March 2023
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deckster said:
JimmyConwayNW said:
okgo said:
All of the sought after schools around here do assessments for entry at 4+.
Its only a few bits any 4 year old should be able to do nothing to much. Periodic table, alphabet backwards and a little long division. Any half competent 4 year old should be able to do it with ease.



Only joking, I think its just seeing how they play with others a few basic tasks and seeing if a trained eye spots any areas of concern before formally giving a place.
I'm going to suggest that at 4 years old they are going to be assessing the parents a lot more than the child.
We applied for a place at a prep school for my eldest for reception.

He was 2 years and 9 months at the time when we were invited to have a ‘chat’ with the headmaster.

The headmaster questioned me on my background, qualifications and job plus my expectations of the school and views on education.

During the ‘chat’ he gave my son a box of duplo and asked him to build a car. My son said “duplo is for babies, I play with big boy lego” and proceeded to build a car, bridge and some buildings.

Following that exceptionally show of talent, my son was invited back for an ‘observation’ day a few months later. They check to see how he interacts with other children, asked him to count, questions on alphabet and I think some writing eg his name and some other basic stuff.
Plus they teach them something and see whether he is listening and has understood.

He was subsequently offered a place and the contract said it was subject to being ‘dry’ (out of nappies).

okgo

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38,047 posts

198 months

Monday 27th March 2023
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Sounds pretty advanced for his age tbh. Not sure mine could do any of that. Oh well, the merry go round of people throwing money at the problem looks set to continue.

gareth h

3,550 posts

230 months

Monday 27th March 2023
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okgo said:
Sounds pretty advanced for his age tbh. Not sure mine could do any of that. Oh well, the merry go round of people throwing money at the problem looks set to continue.
A bit disingenuous, just folk trying to give their kids the best start in life.

okgo

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38,047 posts

198 months

Monday 27th March 2023
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You’ve misunderstood me. I was suggesting that despite my son not likely being capable of building a bridge just yet, I can throw money at the situation and perpetuate the chasm in have/have not. Someone will take my cash!

pingu393

7,807 posts

205 months

Monday 27th March 2023
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Fat hippo said:
deckster said:
JimmyConwayNW said:
okgo said:
All of the sought after schools around here do assessments for entry at 4+.
Its only a few bits any 4 year old should be able to do nothing to much. Periodic table, alphabet backwards and a little long division. Any half competent 4 year old should be able to do it with ease.



Only joking, I think its just seeing how they play with others a few basic tasks and seeing if a trained eye spots any areas of concern before formally giving a place.
I'm going to suggest that at 4 years old they are going to be assessing the parents a lot more than the child.
We applied for a place at a prep school for my eldest for reception.

He was 2 years and 9 months at the time when we were invited to have a ‘chat’ with the headmaster.

The headmaster questioned me on my background, qualifications and job plus my expectations of the school and views on education.

During the ‘chat’ he gave my son a box of duplo and asked him to build a car. My son said “duplo is for babies, I play with big boy lego” and proceeded to build a car, bridge and some buildings.

Following that exceptionally show of talent, my son was invited back for an ‘observation’ day a few months later. They check to see how he interacts with other children, asked him to count, questions on alphabet and I think some writing eg his name and some other basic stuff.
Plus they teach them something and see whether he is listening and has understood.

He was subsequently offered a place and the contract said it was subject to being ‘dry’ (out of nappies).
Judging by that display of intelligence, I expect him to ask if they have a urinal smile .

Fat hippo

732 posts

134 months

Monday 27th March 2023
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pingu393 said:
Fat hippo said:
deckster said:
JimmyConwayNW said:
okgo said:
All of the sought after schools around here do assessments for entry at 4+.
Its only a few bits any 4 year old should be able to do nothing to much. Periodic table, alphabet backwards and a little long division. Any half competent 4 year old should be able to do it with ease.


Only joking, I think its just seeing how they play with others a few basic tasks and seeing if a trained eye spots any areas of concern before formally giving a place.
I'm going to suggest that at 4 years old they are going to be assessing the parents a lot more than the child.
We applied for a place at a prep school for my eldest for reception.

He was 2 years and 9 months at the time when we were invited to have a ‘chat’ with the headmaster.

The headmaster questioned me on my background, qualifications and job plus my expectations of the school and views on education.

During the ‘chat’ he gave my son a box of duplo and asked him to build a car. My son said “duplo is for babies, I play with big boy lego” and proceeded to build a car, bridge and some buildings.

Following that exceptionally show of talent, my son was invited back for an ‘observation’ day a few months later. They check to see how he interacts with other children, asked him to count, questions on alphabet and I think some writing eg his name and some other basic stuff.
Plus they teach them something and see whether he is listening and has understood.

He was subsequently offered a place and the contract said it was subject to being ‘dry’ (out of nappies).
Judging by that display of intelligence, I expect him to ask if they have a urinal smile .
Just to be clear, I ended up moving home (for more space) and sending my son to a state school.
But not after paying (and losing) a deposit.
There was a bit of panic after I had signed the contract as I wasn’t sure if my son would play ball with the nappy situation.

I remember trying to explain to him the importance of using the potty. In the end I ‘encouraged’ him with the promise of the Simpsons house lego set. That seemed to work. He was dry within a week.

On the point re secondary schools, it is still possible to get into top grammar and London independent schools in the 11+, as my son has proved to me.
Not easy, but by no means impossible. If you are top of the class, or on the top table, at the very least, then you stand a chance

okgo

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38,047 posts

198 months

Monday 27th March 2023
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Well of course. All the kids must go somewhere from these prep schools.

I went to Dulwich Prep the other day and of their 75 students, almost 50 won scholarships in senior schools which I was quite amazed by. 95% apparently leaving the school at 13 get their first choice senior school (and the list of destinations is fairly punchy as you’d imagine). Seems being thick isn’t a thing for the paid sector.

pingu393

7,807 posts

205 months

Monday 27th March 2023
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okgo said:
Well of course. All the kids must go somewhere from these prep schools.

I went to Dulwich Prep the other day and of their 75 students, almost 50 won scholarships in senior schools which I was quite amazed by. 95% apparently leaving the school at 13 get their first choice senior school (and the list of destinations is fairly punchy as you’d imagine). Seems being thick isn’t a thing for the paid sector.
I think that you will find that there are very few genuinely thick children who don't also display some sort of disability. There are, though, lots of kids who are lazy. Paid education don't allow the kids to be lazy. They are encouraged and their peers strive to achieve, as opposed to striving to skive.