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If you've a mind to learn something - by which I mean train or pro-actively engage in organised learning; get an MA, PhD or whatever - then your 30s is the optimal period of time in which to commit to it. It's possible later but much more difficult practically and from a motivational point of view.
Get fit and keep fit. Whatever state your body is in by the time you reach 40 it will be the body you'll take to the grave with you - or require considerable effort and commitment to address later in life.
Also good to get any final major f
k-ups out the way and done with by the time you hit late 30s. Plenty of time to recover from those then. Not so much later on.
No need to grow up by any measure. In fact don't - plenty of 30 somethings going on 50 and there's no need for that.
And should kids be a feature in your mind, don't put having them off for too long. In fact, all things being equal, I'd say sooner is better than later. At 55, I quite like the fact that I have two adult children yet retain a lust and capacity for life plus the financial wherewithal to full embrace it, not something I think would have been fully possible with a couple of teenagers, or younger, knocking about the house.
Get fit and keep fit. Whatever state your body is in by the time you reach 40 it will be the body you'll take to the grave with you - or require considerable effort and commitment to address later in life.
Also good to get any final major f
k-ups out the way and done with by the time you hit late 30s. Plenty of time to recover from those then. Not so much later on.No need to grow up by any measure. In fact don't - plenty of 30 somethings going on 50 and there's no need for that.
And should kids be a feature in your mind, don't put having them off for too long. In fact, all things being equal, I'd say sooner is better than later. At 55, I quite like the fact that I have two adult children yet retain a lust and capacity for life plus the financial wherewithal to full embrace it, not something I think would have been fully possible with a couple of teenagers, or younger, knocking about the house.
Definitely work on my health and fitness.
I'm 41 now and my 30's was basically taken up by having children and raising them through the first few years which are very hard work, i'm 41 now, the kids are slightly older and i'm finding I have slightly more free time and i've got back into fitness but I wish i'd done it 10 years earlier.
I'm 41 now and my 30's was basically taken up by having children and raising them through the first few years which are very hard work, i'm 41 now, the kids are slightly older and i'm finding I have slightly more free time and i've got back into fitness but I wish i'd done it 10 years earlier.
StevieBee said:
If you've a mind to learn something - by which I mean train or pro-actively engage in organised learning; get an MA, PhD or whatever - then your 30s is the optimal period of time in which to commit to it. It's possible later but much more difficult practically and from a motivational point of view.
Get fit and keep fit. Whatever state your body is in by the time you reach 40 it will be the body you'll take to the grave with you - or require considerable effort and commitment to address later in life.
Also good to get any final major fk-ups out the way and done with by the time you hit late 30s. Plenty of time to recover from those then. Not so much later on.
No need to grow up by any measure. In fact don't - plenty of 30 somethings going on 50 and there's no need for that.
And should kids be a feature in your mind, don't put having them off for too long. In fact, all things being equal, I'd say sooner is better than later. At 55, I quite like the fact that I have two adult children yet retain a lust and capacity for life plus the financial wherewithal to full embrace it, not something I think would have been fully possible with a couple of teenagers, or younger, knocking about the house.
Good post! And exactly the same path I trod.Get fit and keep fit. Whatever state your body is in by the time you reach 40 it will be the body you'll take to the grave with you - or require considerable effort and commitment to address later in life.
Also good to get any final major f
k-ups out the way and done with by the time you hit late 30s. Plenty of time to recover from those then. Not so much later on.No need to grow up by any measure. In fact don't - plenty of 30 somethings going on 50 and there's no need for that.
And should kids be a feature in your mind, don't put having them off for too long. In fact, all things being equal, I'd say sooner is better than later. At 55, I quite like the fact that I have two adult children yet retain a lust and capacity for life plus the financial wherewithal to full embrace it, not something I think would have been fully possible with a couple of teenagers, or younger, knocking about the house.
1)Be more selfish, doing things you don't want to do to please others never works out well and eventually makes you unhappy.
2)Don't buy a new car on finance every 18 months, it is an utter waste of money. You were right to buy the brand new Clio to save money after the Subaru Impreza Turbo, just don't sell it after 18 months because you think there is a better car out there. You will be bored of that in no time and wish you kept the Clio forever.
3)Instead of wasting all that money on cars, put the money towards a deposit on a buy to let.
4)Once you have the buy to let, put that money into your pension or towards another one.
5)Do what makes you happy and don't care what other people may or may not think of you. When you get in your 40s you will realise this anyway and be much happier for it.
6)After your one and only IT contract is over don't panic and go for a permy job again. You are way better than you give yourself credit for and certainly better than 80% of all contractors you ever meet.
2)Don't buy a new car on finance every 18 months, it is an utter waste of money. You were right to buy the brand new Clio to save money after the Subaru Impreza Turbo, just don't sell it after 18 months because you think there is a better car out there. You will be bored of that in no time and wish you kept the Clio forever.
3)Instead of wasting all that money on cars, put the money towards a deposit on a buy to let.
4)Once you have the buy to let, put that money into your pension or towards another one.
5)Do what makes you happy and don't care what other people may or may not think of you. When you get in your 40s you will realise this anyway and be much happier for it.
6)After your one and only IT contract is over don't panic and go for a permy job again. You are way better than you give yourself credit for and certainly better than 80% of all contractors you ever meet.
I’ve just turned 50. I honestly cannot believe the last 20 years went so fast.
Borrow nothing ever, except a mortgage.
Get pension sorted.
Get fit and healthy. You don’t want to be feeling it at 50 !
Get rid of toxic friends/ relationships.
Tattoos are rubbish and what’s on trend now looks ridiculous 5 yrs later.
Get a few isas and endowments sorted. A few quid in a month, forgotten about for 10/15 years really pays off. I was very lucky in respect of the latter: at 18 years work colleagues got me to start one up: bang at 33 I dropped on a pile of unspent cash. Bloody handy.
Fat girls never get thin. If your gf/ wife isn’t bang on now, she’ll never get better. Don’t live in hope.
Borrow nothing ever, except a mortgage.
Get pension sorted.
Get fit and healthy. You don’t want to be feeling it at 50 !
Get rid of toxic friends/ relationships.
Tattoos are rubbish and what’s on trend now looks ridiculous 5 yrs later.
Get a few isas and endowments sorted. A few quid in a month, forgotten about for 10/15 years really pays off. I was very lucky in respect of the latter: at 18 years work colleagues got me to start one up: bang at 33 I dropped on a pile of unspent cash. Bloody handy.
Fat girls never get thin. If your gf/ wife isn’t bang on now, she’ll never get better. Don’t live in hope.
remember that your 30's is where the competition starts in 'keeping up with the Jone's'. Particularly career wise. It might work for you it might not, but by the time your 50 you won't care either way. Choose jobs and companies that interest you. Make enough money to fund the inevitable lifestyle changes. Choose a partner who is not materialistic. You'll just be happier.
CelebrationSport said:
For a bit of fun, as I approach this next milestone birthday…
If you could go back to being to being 30, what advice would you give yourself/ what do you wish you had known at the time?
Pension, pension, pension.......If you could go back to being to being 30, what advice would you give yourself/ what do you wish you had known at the time?
I was probably in my best earning period in my mid 30's thru early 40's. If I knew then what I know now then, I would probably be looking at retiring in my mid to late 50's but in reality it will be early 60's. Totally depends on your outlook though, but yes, squirrel away now if you want a comfortable retirement.
If you have pals who are assholes but you don't want them to be, realise they always will be and bid farewell.
If you have pals who take everything and give nothing - same.
If your womanfriend is fundamentally not on your side, and I'm not sure I've ever had one who was, then walk away before that becomes a genuine detriment to your wellbeing because it will.
Time is scary st and it's only going to get scarier. Act accordingly.
Shut things down that don't work for you at the earliest possible moment. Less mess and greater acceptance.
Ask and get more often.
Realise that the fixtures in your life that you value will float away and never come back sooner than you expect.
If you have pals who take everything and give nothing - same.
If your womanfriend is fundamentally not on your side, and I'm not sure I've ever had one who was, then walk away before that becomes a genuine detriment to your wellbeing because it will.
Time is scary s
t and it's only going to get scarier. Act accordingly. Shut things down that don't work for you at the earliest possible moment. Less mess and greater acceptance.
Ask and get more often.
Realise that the fixtures in your life that you value will float away and never come back sooner than you expect.
My advice would be:
Pay more in to your pension, one day you'll be 10 years off retirement and think st is that all I have.
Start an investment fund.
Look after your health no one will do it for you.
Try not to drink too much.
Stop worrying what people think.
Don't keep people in your life that don't enrich it.
Go for that house now.
If a woman/man wants to move in after a few weeks run.
Don't have kids in your late 40s.
Probably loads more but that'll do, you can have fun finding out the rest.
Pay more in to your pension, one day you'll be 10 years off retirement and think s
t is that all I have.Start an investment fund.
Look after your health no one will do it for you.
Try not to drink too much.
Stop worrying what people think.
Don't keep people in your life that don't enrich it.
Go for that house now.
If a woman/man wants to move in after a few weeks run.
Don't have kids in your late 40s.
Probably loads more but that'll do, you can have fun finding out the rest.
FrankAbagnale said:
austinsmirk said:
Fat girls never get thin. If your gf/ wife isn’t bang on now, she’ll never get better. Don’t live in hope.
Haha, i'll keep a note of this.Gassing Station | The Lounge | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff