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TwigtheWonderkid said:
FrankAbagnale said:
austinsmirk said:
Fat girls never get thin. If your gf/ wife isn’t bang on now, she’ll never get better. Don’t live in hope.
Haha, i'll keep a note of this.At the age of 30, after months of planning, I quit my well paid job and started a company with two others.
I remember the evening after I quit, sitting morosely with my young wife (we’d only been married a year) and a bottle of champagne, wondering if I’d just made the biggest mistake of my life. She brilliantly told me to “just go for it, but please don’t lose the house”.
I look back now and for all the highs and lows that followed, it proved to be one of the best (and bravest) decisions I ever made. Ultimately the company didn’t fly, but we had some amazing moments on the journey, and the experience I gained set me up for the rest of my career.
So my advice to anyone who is 30 is: “Just go for it”. There genuinely will never be a better time.
I remember the evening after I quit, sitting morosely with my young wife (we’d only been married a year) and a bottle of champagne, wondering if I’d just made the biggest mistake of my life. She brilliantly told me to “just go for it, but please don’t lose the house”.
I look back now and for all the highs and lows that followed, it proved to be one of the best (and bravest) decisions I ever made. Ultimately the company didn’t fly, but we had some amazing moments on the journey, and the experience I gained set me up for the rest of my career.
So my advice to anyone who is 30 is: “Just go for it”. There genuinely will never be a better time.
Observations I've made, some of others and some first-hand:
Make time to get outside and maintain your health, fitness and capability -it is not actually compulsory to be fat and unhealthy in the UK
Talk your partner (many appear not to talk much to theirs)
Also have some interests outside of your work and family.
Keep learning new life skills. Be self-reliant.
Once you have enough money to live on without worries, more won't make you happier, you'll just buy more expensive versions of what you already have.
Who cares if your mate/brother/brother in law earns more than you?
Nobody who really matters cares what car you drive.
It is infinitely better not to have an awkward, high maintenance, big spending partner.
NB. If you don't enjoy your work, do something different - You spend a lot of your time doing it and before you know it, you've been doing it for decades.....
Make time to get outside and maintain your health, fitness and capability -it is not actually compulsory to be fat and unhealthy in the UK
Talk your partner (many appear not to talk much to theirs)
Also have some interests outside of your work and family.
Keep learning new life skills. Be self-reliant.
Once you have enough money to live on without worries, more won't make you happier, you'll just buy more expensive versions of what you already have.
Who cares if your mate/brother/brother in law earns more than you?
Nobody who really matters cares what car you drive.
It is infinitely better not to have an awkward, high maintenance, big spending partner.
NB. If you don't enjoy your work, do something different - You spend a lot of your time doing it and before you know it, you've been doing it for decades.....
Mine would be
Do what you want to do not what others expect you to do.
Never put up with stuff you don't enjoy.
It's fine to not want to children and your family will get used to the fact after 20 or so years.
Buy that silly V8 now while you are earning well.
Remember you're employer will drop you as soon as stuff gets tough, so make sure they pay the going rate and don't work loads of hours for free.
and most of all don't worry about, it will be alright in the end, if its not alright yet, it's not the end.
Do what you want to do not what others expect you to do.
Never put up with stuff you don't enjoy.
It's fine to not want to children and your family will get used to the fact after 20 or so years.
Buy that silly V8 now while you are earning well.
Remember you're employer will drop you as soon as stuff gets tough, so make sure they pay the going rate and don't work loads of hours for free.
and most of all don't worry about, it will be alright in the end, if its not alright yet, it's not the end.
I'm 34, spent 11 years (most of my 20's and early 30's) dealing with a workplace injury and the fallout from that. It's lead to many bad choices on my part and a lot of time out of normality becoming a "victim".
The posts in this thread help dial down that deep inner fear that time has run out, the mistakes have set into stone and the acceptance of what is, is just too much to bear. It's good to see that no one's worries are ever truly unique and even though time is the most scary thing, there is always just enough, if you at least do something.
Glad I've ticked off the v8 box now, just need a decent summer with it.
The posts in this thread help dial down that deep inner fear that time has run out, the mistakes have set into stone and the acceptance of what is, is just too much to bear. It's good to see that no one's worries are ever truly unique and even though time is the most scary thing, there is always just enough, if you at least do something.
Glad I've ticked off the v8 box now, just need a decent summer with it.
MrBrightSi said:
I'm 34, spent 11 years (most of my 20's and early 30's) dealing with a workplace injury and the fallout from that. It's lead to many bad choices on my part and a lot of time out of normality becoming a "victim".
The posts in this thread help dial down that deep inner fear that time has run out, the mistakes have set into stone and the acceptance of what is, is just too much to bear. It's good to see that no one's worries are ever truly unique and even though time is the most scary thing, there is always just enough, if you at least do something.
You've bags of time matey.The posts in this thread help dial down that deep inner fear that time has run out, the mistakes have set into stone and the acceptance of what is, is just too much to bear. It's good to see that no one's worries are ever truly unique and even though time is the most scary thing, there is always just enough, if you at least do something.
On an earlier reply, I said to get all your f
k-ups out of the way in your 30s. This is because there is ample time to recover, learn from them and benefit from all that for longer.I've got a mate who's 58 this year and has spent the last 10 years of his life regressing from a very good position in his 40s to one of near destitute as he knocks on the door of 60 - a position I think it impossible for him to full recover from.
I've heard theory be said several times that the first person to live to 150 has already been born so on that basis, there's no reason to think that at 34 you won't see a ton. That's lots of years ahead of you to do really cool, interesting and meaningful stuff.
If your job is ste, change it to something better.
I’m 34 and pouring my savings into retraining to be an electrician. Is it a bold strategy cotton? Yes.
It’s costing a fortune for the course, staying away for 5 days, 200 miles from home but the end goal will make it worth it and I’ll make it back and be in a job for life where I can make a st load of money. Shame I didn’t listen to my dad when he suggested it when I was 16…..
On that, take advice from your parents, they want what’s best for you. I appreciate that sadly not everyone is fortunate in this regard.
Get a hobby, sitting in front of the tv watching Netflix etc is a waste of life. Get out and be active.
Travel, I really wish I had done some travelling while
I was in my 20s and could do it.
Too old now and too many commitments for that.
Buy an Escort Cosworth when they are £15k and not pushing £40k+
Get on the property ladder.
Houses aren’t getting cheaper. Get one.
Experience the joy of a girl that’s purely a fwb.
If she’s as filthy as a spoons toilet then even better!
Very glad I ticked that one..
the girl, not the toilet.
te, change it to something better.I’m 34 and pouring my savings into retraining to be an electrician. Is it a bold strategy cotton? Yes.
It’s costing a fortune for the course, staying away for 5 days, 200 miles from home but the end goal will make it worth it and I’ll make it back and be in a job for life where I can make a s
t load of money. Shame I didn’t listen to my dad when he suggested it when I was 16…..On that, take advice from your parents, they want what’s best for you. I appreciate that sadly not everyone is fortunate in this regard.
Get a hobby, sitting in front of the tv watching Netflix etc is a waste of life. Get out and be active.
Travel, I really wish I had done some travelling while
I was in my 20s and could do it.
Too old now and too many commitments for that.
Buy an Escort Cosworth when they are £15k and not pushing £40k+
Get on the property ladder.
Houses aren’t getting cheaper. Get one.
Experience the joy of a girl that’s purely a fwb.
If she’s as filthy as a spoons toilet then even better!
Very glad I ticked that one..
the girl, not the toilet.If you're single then go wild.
What was hard work when I was 18 was a piece of piss when I was 30, and I'm no gods gift to women that's for sure.
It must be a combination of confidence and financial security combined with the increasing desperation of mid to late 20's women but I had a great time
Genuine advice would be if you think you're too old to start something you're probably not because nearly 10 years later you probably wish you'd done whatever it was 10 years earlier.
What was hard work when I was 18 was a piece of piss when I was 30, and I'm no gods gift to women that's for sure.
It must be a combination of confidence and financial security combined with the increasing desperation of mid to late 20's women but I had a great time
Genuine advice would be if you think you're too old to start something you're probably not because nearly 10 years later you probably wish you'd done whatever it was 10 years earlier.
TwigtheWonderkid said:
I'll soon be turning 60 and I've come to realise that guts are notoriously unreliable. Look for evidence on which to base important decisions. Sure, sometimes the evidence can be misleading, but it's a damn sight better than guts.
Intuition, then. It's always been highly tuned for me. A lot of strife would've been avoided had I actually listened to it.
Obviously it's situation dependent. I wouldn't look to it to choose my sofa finance deal.
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