How long do you want to live?
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pidsy said:
cossy400 said:
Currently 46, no one in my immediate family has lived past 65 .
That's gran, grandad. My mum and dad so if I reach that I'm winning I guess.
Similarly - I’m 43 - if I reach 46, I’ll be the longest surviving male member of my family on dad’s side (it appears that’s where my genes are from)That's gran, grandad. My mum and dad so if I reach that I'm winning I guess.
Very pleased that Cardiac care has moved on so much over the past 20 years.
Never really thought about it, my dad died young; 64 I think he was, my mum is fighting fit at 75.
My grandma is 102, she lives in a warden assisted place but is totally self sufficient, she cooks for herself, does her own washing, walks to town daily, takes her family out for lunch. Still as sharp as a tack, poor hearing though and does get tired very quickly, I do know she does get bored.
Her one thing that she does not want is to end up in a home relying on others, however given her age now I don't think that will happen, she will likely not wake up one morning or just go in her chair, which she is very open about wanting that to happen.
My grandma is 102, she lives in a warden assisted place but is totally self sufficient, she cooks for herself, does her own washing, walks to town daily, takes her family out for lunch. Still as sharp as a tack, poor hearing though and does get tired very quickly, I do know she does get bored.
Her one thing that she does not want is to end up in a home relying on others, however given her age now I don't think that will happen, she will likely not wake up one morning or just go in her chair, which she is very open about wanting that to happen.
There’s a genetic disease that runs in my family. Amiloydosis.
Kills the males quicker than the females, I’ve plenty of uncles who didn’t make it to 70. Cousins are catching up. Prior to modern medicine means they wouldn’t even have known it’s a problem, dying at 65 was once considered a good innings.
My father lucked out by not getting that genetic problem and so did I. It’s not a very nice way to die having your bodily organs fail.
I’ll be happy as long as I’m fit. I’d prefer a quick death having seen slow ones.
Kills the males quicker than the females, I’ve plenty of uncles who didn’t make it to 70. Cousins are catching up. Prior to modern medicine means they wouldn’t even have known it’s a problem, dying at 65 was once considered a good innings.
My father lucked out by not getting that genetic problem and so did I. It’s not a very nice way to die having your bodily organs fail.
I’ll be happy as long as I’m fit. I’d prefer a quick death having seen slow ones.
My Dad is 88. In the last 4 years he's cheated cancer on his vocal chords and now has a tracheotomy.
Many people might have said "f
k doing all that radio therapy"
He still has his brain, can still spend half the day gardening or walking on the beach. Drives safely, and sometimes for long distances on the motorway at normal speeds.
But you can see he's shrunk. Needs a kip in the afternoon. The start of an inevitable decline.
What hes scared of is dementia. He doesn't want to have anyone wiping his arse.
Mother is like a battle axe. Hard as nails, fitter than most people half her age (86)
She says, "When we get old, we might move to somewhere with a smaller garden"
When ?
Many people might have said "f
k doing all that radio therapy" He still has his brain, can still spend half the day gardening or walking on the beach. Drives safely, and sometimes for long distances on the motorway at normal speeds.
But you can see he's shrunk. Needs a kip in the afternoon. The start of an inevitable decline.
What hes scared of is dementia. He doesn't want to have anyone wiping his arse.
Mother is like a battle axe. Hard as nails, fitter than most people half her age (86)
She says, "When we get old, we might move to somewhere with a smaller garden"
When ?
bristolbaron said:
Dementia is the biggie. I don’t mind being old and slow, but couldn’t stand the confusion of Dementia.
I’m hopeful that we’ll have a dignitas variation in the UK before that time.
Looking after an elderly non blood relation at the minute. He went demented for a bit but thankfully it was an infection and not senility, since recovered. His sister has no short term memory left worth talking about, I really hope he doesn’t end up the same way as I’m hoping to kick him out of the house but know my wife won’t let me if he loses his mind.I’m hopeful that we’ll have a dignitas variation in the UK before that time.
Yes I’m joking and not serious, but sometimes you have to have a laugh.
Very personal decision but at 75 I am very comfortable with my options. Well aware that I am at the back end of things I took for granted - this year will be my final Nürburgring trip , 992 RS was my last really edgy car , have a few medications now . Worked on boards till last year and had a ball working from age of 11;have seen the world.
My instructions are clear.DNR . If I have a debilitating condition then I will opt for medically assisted dying which is legal and available here in Canada. Most of my contemporaries have some kind of ailment ,
I have begun to think about reducing my garage and no real regrets there also. Still do the very long distance drives and posting this from Gallup NM in my way to Arkansas to see the Eclipse. Obviously this kind of thing will phase out, but at the point where life becomes passive the the most important thing is what’s on TV I am outa here.
I have never gone on a cruise, been on a beach holiday.nor watched TV apart from F1. I thought I might do this when I got too old. Well, I did get old and they still don’t appeal .
Anyway who wants to see a 75 year old on a beach
?
The only other decisions are to buy no more wine for the cellar and I have to figure out what to do with what’s there and no more dogs. My Great Dane is over 10 and will not live too much longer sadly , but when she goes it would not be fair to buy another who would likely survive me. Probably the hardest decision -life with Great Danes has been a joy.
My instructions are clear.DNR . If I have a debilitating condition then I will opt for medically assisted dying which is legal and available here in Canada. Most of my contemporaries have some kind of ailment ,
I have begun to think about reducing my garage and no real regrets there also. Still do the very long distance drives and posting this from Gallup NM in my way to Arkansas to see the Eclipse. Obviously this kind of thing will phase out, but at the point where life becomes passive the the most important thing is what’s on TV I am outa here.
I have never gone on a cruise, been on a beach holiday.nor watched TV apart from F1. I thought I might do this when I got too old. Well, I did get old and they still don’t appeal .
Anyway who wants to see a 75 year old on a beach
?The only other decisions are to buy no more wine for the cellar and I have to figure out what to do with what’s there and no more dogs. My Great Dane is over 10 and will not live too much longer sadly , but when she goes it would not be fair to buy another who would likely survive me. Probably the hardest decision -life with Great Danes has been a joy.
Mid 80s will be OK.
With both my parents, once they got into their 80s, there was a marked difference in service from the NHS. It took nine months for them to identify my Dad's cancer and he died three months after diagnosis. It was almost like "what do you expect, you are old and will die soon".
My Mother-in-law is in her 90s. She is housebound and seems quite happy to sit in front of the TV all day. She has a number of health issues and needs outside help for cleaning, washing and shopping. She will probably go on for another 10 years as she doesn't do anything. I would hate to be like this.
With both my parents, once they got into their 80s, there was a marked difference in service from the NHS. It took nine months for them to identify my Dad's cancer and he died three months after diagnosis. It was almost like "what do you expect, you are old and will die soon".
My Mother-in-law is in her 90s. She is housebound and seems quite happy to sit in front of the TV all day. She has a number of health issues and needs outside help for cleaning, washing and shopping. She will probably go on for another 10 years as she doesn't do anything. I would hate to be like this.
Slow.Patrol said:
Mid 80s will be OK.
With both my parents, once they got into their 80s, there was a marked difference in service from the NHS. It took nine months for them to identify my Dad's cancer and he died three months after diagnosis. It was almost like "what do you expect, you are old and will die soon".
My Mother-in-law is in her 90s. She is housebound and seems quite happy to sit in front of the TV all day. She has a number of health issues and needs outside help for cleaning, washing and shopping. She will probably go on for another 10 years as she doesn't do anything. I would hate to be like this.
I think it's actually written into the guidelines in some cases. I looked up the pathways for my condition after it was swiftly treated by NHS, and it pretty much said 'if frail, just offer painkillers'.With both my parents, once they got into their 80s, there was a marked difference in service from the NHS. It took nine months for them to identify my Dad's cancer and he died three months after diagnosis. It was almost like "what do you expect, you are old and will die soon".
My Mother-in-law is in her 90s. She is housebound and seems quite happy to sit in front of the TV all day. She has a number of health issues and needs outside help for cleaning, washing and shopping. She will probably go on for another 10 years as she doesn't do anything. I would hate to be like this.
RDMcG said:
…..75 year …. no more dogs. My Great Dane is over 10 and will not live too much longer sadly , but when she goes it would not be fair to buy another who would likely survive me. Probably the hardest decision -life with Great Danes has been a joy.
My grandparents had no dogs for about 20years , then randomly got a Jack Russell pup in their 70’s which lived with them for next 15years - they both outlived it & that dog was a fantastic companion to them both & it got my grandfather out of the house every day. They also took two litters of pups of her too (they never really slowed down, age can just be a number don’t let it rule you)Gassing Station | The Lounge | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff