Tales of infidelity and woe
Discussion
TVR Moneypit said:
Classicsport said:
So I became suspicious and chance was there after I returned from my trip that her phone was lying on the bedside table and I hate to admit it but i checked her text messages, (something I have never done before), and sadly I found many messages from a chap at her uni who I had never met though knew of as she told me she hung out with him with some mutual friends of ours.
I scanned them quickly and they were not 100% proof, he was far too chummy with her and used terms like "sweetie" and xoxoxox. There was one message which now really worries me, it was simply "9:30??" and then "ok now?". Which I cant remember now (blasted f
ked up brain) but I think it was the on that thursday evening when she left me.....Though like I said I am not completely sure.
I havent confronted her, Im away again, she is working but I amm seeing her tomorrow. Its pretty damning reading it back to myself. Either way I hate the feeling of ambiguity and helplessness. This is a woman who I would describe as the most loyal and loving creature I have ever met. I still think its 50/50....
Thanks for reading,
CS
Having been in a simular position several times over the years, I can tell you that there is no 50/50 about this. She is clearly nobbing this other fella from uni. Sack the stupid bI scanned them quickly and they were not 100% proof, he was far too chummy with her and used terms like "sweetie" and xoxoxox. There was one message which now really worries me, it was simply "9:30??" and then "ok now?". Which I cant remember now (blasted f
ked up brain) but I think it was the on that thursday evening when she left me.....Though like I said I am not completely sure.I havent confronted her, Im away again, she is working but I amm seeing her tomorrow. Its pretty damning reading it back to myself. Either way I hate the feeling of ambiguity and helplessness. This is a woman who I would describe as the most loyal and loving creature I have ever met. I still think its 50/50....
Thanks for reading,
CS
h off, post nude pictures of her on the internet, rub chilli powder in her underwear, pierce holes in her condums, create an Adultwork account for her, put her number in the adult personals section of all the local newspapers, sleep with her mother, younger sister, and her best mate.Don't get mad. Get even.
+1Nothings as satisfying as a little payback
Edited by M3CHA-MONK3Y on Tuesday 4th August 11:08
Ripped off some weird website.
How to tell if your partners cheating. It's written from a female perspective (Bloody stereotypes).
If you have suspicions about your partner cheating on you then don’t just drive these thoughts away. It might be a good time to do a little investigation to be sure. Don’t tell your partner straight ahead that you’re doubtful about their actions and manners. Start your investigation by clearly following their tracks and then slowly and gradually making your way up to the final stage.
One way to tell if your partner is cheating on you is to catch them lying about a matter. You can follow eye movements to tell if they are lying. Ask more questions if you are not sure of their discomfort or uneasiness. If their answers are brief and clear, then they are telling the truth. If, however, they try to create stories out of nothing and don’t try to look at you while speaking then it’s time you started worrying about your relationship.
Partners who are cheating are often guilty of their actions. They try to apologize over small mistakes and go out of their way to make you happy or feel pampered. Keep an eye on this change of attitude or abnormal behavior. Some people also start showing that they have little interest in you or your activities and that they want to spend sometime alone. This kind of behavior is also alarming. Tell them you want to go with them even it’s a short trip to the mall.
When your partner is away frequently call them on their phone to see if it’s busy. You can track down credit card and phone bills to take into notice something unusual going on behind your back. Also check your partner’s closets and shirt pockets to look for scribbled-down phone numbers or meeting places. If you find an unknown number, call that number and see who picks up. If it’s not a familiar voice then ask questions to learn where they live and who they are. If your partner has got a cell phone then get your hands on it when they’re not looking and check the phonebook. Call a suspicious number and notice the tone of the other person when he/she picks up the phone.
Another way to catch a cheating partner is to follow them in a car. See where they go, what they buy and who they meet. If you can, try to show up suddenly somewhere and be surprised to see your partner there. Notice their reaction. If they are happy to see you then there’s nothing to worry about. If, however, they are perplexed, worried and wide-eyed, then they are surely hiding something. Ask them questions to clarify things up a bit. If nothing seems to work, go back and carry on with your investigation till you come up with something solid. Confront your partner only when you have enough evidence against them and then decide what should be done next.
How to tell if your partners cheating. It's written from a female perspective (Bloody stereotypes).
If you have suspicions about your partner cheating on you then don’t just drive these thoughts away. It might be a good time to do a little investigation to be sure. Don’t tell your partner straight ahead that you’re doubtful about their actions and manners. Start your investigation by clearly following their tracks and then slowly and gradually making your way up to the final stage.
One way to tell if your partner is cheating on you is to catch them lying about a matter. You can follow eye movements to tell if they are lying. Ask more questions if you are not sure of their discomfort or uneasiness. If their answers are brief and clear, then they are telling the truth. If, however, they try to create stories out of nothing and don’t try to look at you while speaking then it’s time you started worrying about your relationship.
Partners who are cheating are often guilty of their actions. They try to apologize over small mistakes and go out of their way to make you happy or feel pampered. Keep an eye on this change of attitude or abnormal behavior. Some people also start showing that they have little interest in you or your activities and that they want to spend sometime alone. This kind of behavior is also alarming. Tell them you want to go with them even it’s a short trip to the mall.
When your partner is away frequently call them on their phone to see if it’s busy. You can track down credit card and phone bills to take into notice something unusual going on behind your back. Also check your partner’s closets and shirt pockets to look for scribbled-down phone numbers or meeting places. If you find an unknown number, call that number and see who picks up. If it’s not a familiar voice then ask questions to learn where they live and who they are. If your partner has got a cell phone then get your hands on it when they’re not looking and check the phonebook. Call a suspicious number and notice the tone of the other person when he/she picks up the phone.
Another way to catch a cheating partner is to follow them in a car. See where they go, what they buy and who they meet. If you can, try to show up suddenly somewhere and be surprised to see your partner there. Notice their reaction. If they are happy to see you then there’s nothing to worry about. If, however, they are perplexed, worried and wide-eyed, then they are surely hiding something. Ask them questions to clarify things up a bit. If nothing seems to work, go back and carry on with your investigation till you come up with something solid. Confront your partner only when you have enough evidence against them and then decide what should be done next.
Edited by M3CHA-MONK3Y on Tuesday 4th August 11:12
TVR Moneypit said:
The Hypno-Toad said:
TVR Moneypit said:
..... letting another man put his cock inside her mouth, then kissing you with those same lips.
Thanks moneypit....
I hope this is a metaphorical 'boat' that you speak of!! TVR Moneypit said:
The Hypno-Toad said:
TVR Moneypit said:
..... letting another man put his cock inside her mouth, then kissing you with those same lips.
Thanks moneypit, I now have that image in my head about every girl who's ever dumped me. Thanks. Not read all the replies but when you said she was at Uni and you work alarm bells rang.
Its very rare that these types of relationships work IMO.
The Uni one makes new friends many of whom are of the opposite sex, this can create jealously.
There may be a feeling of missing out, your mind is opened to new things, opions etc..
It can be a life changing time.
Meanwhile worker is just that, out early to work each day, 9 to 5, responsibility, trips away etc..
It may be a sign that the relaionship has run its course and you/she want different things.
Its very rare that these types of relationships work IMO.
The Uni one makes new friends many of whom are of the opposite sex, this can create jealously.
There may be a feeling of missing out, your mind is opened to new things, opions etc..
It can be a life changing time.
Meanwhile worker is just that, out early to work each day, 9 to 5, responsibility, trips away etc..
It may be a sign that the relaionship has run its course and you/she want different things.
isee said:
I am not a jealous type normally, but something came over me that night when i told her we are through. It was the same night she was being knobbed by her x as it turned out.
Though I loved her dearly at the time I consider it a lucky escape, .
So you loved this girl dearly and binned her for no reason?Though I loved her dearly at the time I consider it a lucky escape, .
Of course you did.
blindswelledrat said:
isee said:
I am not a jealous type normally, but something came over me that night when i told her we are through. It was the same night she was being knobbed by her x as it turned out.
Though I loved her dearly at the time I consider it a lucky escape, .
So you loved this girl dearly and binned her for no reason?Though I loved her dearly at the time I consider it a lucky escape, .
Of course you did.
blindswelledrat said:
isee said:
I am not a jealous type normally, but something came over me that night when i told her we are through. It was the same night she was being knobbed by her x as it turned out.
Though I loved her dearly at the time I consider it a lucky escape, .
So you loved this girl dearly and binned her for no reason?Though I loved her dearly at the time I consider it a lucky escape, .
Of course you did.
we are talking the kind of girl that will drive you so mad you tell her to f
k right off, then as though nothing happened she will say "now that I came so close to losing you, I understand how much I love you"You don't have to take my word for it, I don't care. Though even to this day, some 10 years later, I feel that a tiny piece of my heart is still in her posession.
/girl's blouse mode off
Frederick said:
blindswelledrat said:
isee said:
I am not a jealous type normally, but something came over me that night when i told her we are through. It was the same night she was being knobbed by her x as it turned out.
Though I loved her dearly at the time I consider it a lucky escape, .
So you loved this girl dearly and binned her for no reason?Though I loved her dearly at the time I consider it a lucky escape, .
Of course you did.
Frederick said:
blindswelledrat said:
isee said:
I am not a jealous type normally, but something came over me that night when i told her we are through. It was the same night she was being knobbed by her x as it turned out.
Though I loved her dearly at the time I consider it a lucky escape, .
So you loved this girl dearly and binned her for no reason?Though I loved her dearly at the time I consider it a lucky escape, .
Of course you did.
M3CHA-MONK3Y said:
Ripped off some weird website.
How to tell if your partners cheating. It's written from a female perspective (Bloody stereotypes).
If you have suspicions about your partner cheating on you then don’t just drive these thoughts away. It might be a good time to do a little investigation to be sure. Don’t tell your partner straight ahead that you’re doubtful about their actions and manners. Start your investigation by clearly following their tracks and then slowly and gradually making your way up to the final stage.
One way to tell if your partner is cheating on you is to catch them lying about a matter. You can follow eye movements to tell if they are lying. Ask more questions if you are not sure of their discomfort or uneasiness. If their answers are brief and clear, then they are telling the truth. If, however, they try to create stories out of nothing and don’t try to look at you while speaking then it’s time you started worrying about your relationship.
Partners who are cheating are often guilty of their actions. They try to apologize over small mistakes and go out of their way to make you happy or feel pampered. Keep an eye on this change of attitude or abnormal behavior. Some people also start showing that they have little interest in you or your activities and that they want to spend sometime alone. This kind of behavior is also alarming. Tell them you want to go with them even it’s a short trip to the mall.
When your partner is away frequently call them on their phone to see if it’s busy. You can track down credit card and phone bills to take into notice something unusual going on behind your back. Also check your partner’s closets and shirt pockets to look for scribbled-down phone numbers or meeting places. If you find an unknown number, call that number and see who picks up. If it’s not a familiar voice then ask questions to learn where they live and who they are. If your partner has got a cell phone then get your hands on it when they’re not looking and check the phonebook. Call a suspicious number and notice the tone of the other person when he/she picks up the phone.
Another way to catch a cheating partner is to follow them in a car. See where they go, what they buy and who they meet. If you can, try to show up suddenly somewhere and be surprised to see your partner there. Notice their reaction. If they are happy to see you then there’s nothing to worry about. If, however, they are perplexed, worried and wide-eyed, then they are surely hiding something. Ask them questions to clarify things up a bit. If nothing seems to work, go back and carry on with your investigation till you come up with something solid. Confront your partner only when you have enough evidence against them and then decide what should be done next.
Bloody hell. If my wife did all of that to me she would be straight out of the door (assuming I was innocent and she hadn't already thrown me out, of course).How to tell if your partners cheating. It's written from a female perspective (Bloody stereotypes).
If you have suspicions about your partner cheating on you then don’t just drive these thoughts away. It might be a good time to do a little investigation to be sure. Don’t tell your partner straight ahead that you’re doubtful about their actions and manners. Start your investigation by clearly following their tracks and then slowly and gradually making your way up to the final stage.
One way to tell if your partner is cheating on you is to catch them lying about a matter. You can follow eye movements to tell if they are lying. Ask more questions if you are not sure of their discomfort or uneasiness. If their answers are brief and clear, then they are telling the truth. If, however, they try to create stories out of nothing and don’t try to look at you while speaking then it’s time you started worrying about your relationship.
Partners who are cheating are often guilty of their actions. They try to apologize over small mistakes and go out of their way to make you happy or feel pampered. Keep an eye on this change of attitude or abnormal behavior. Some people also start showing that they have little interest in you or your activities and that they want to spend sometime alone. This kind of behavior is also alarming. Tell them you want to go with them even it’s a short trip to the mall.
When your partner is away frequently call them on their phone to see if it’s busy. You can track down credit card and phone bills to take into notice something unusual going on behind your back. Also check your partner’s closets and shirt pockets to look for scribbled-down phone numbers or meeting places. If you find an unknown number, call that number and see who picks up. If it’s not a familiar voice then ask questions to learn where they live and who they are. If your partner has got a cell phone then get your hands on it when they’re not looking and check the phonebook. Call a suspicious number and notice the tone of the other person when he/she picks up the phone.
Another way to catch a cheating partner is to follow them in a car. See where they go, what they buy and who they meet. If you can, try to show up suddenly somewhere and be surprised to see your partner there. Notice their reaction. If they are happy to see you then there’s nothing to worry about. If, however, they are perplexed, worried and wide-eyed, then they are surely hiding something. Ask them questions to clarify things up a bit. If nothing seems to work, go back and carry on with your investigation till you come up with something solid. Confront your partner only when you have enough evidence against them and then decide what should be done next.
Edited by M3CHA-MONK3Y on Tuesday 4th August 11:12
isee said:
blindswelledrat said:
isee said:
I am not a jealous type normally, but something came over me that night when i told her we are through. It was the same night she was being knobbed by her x as it turned out.
Though I loved her dearly at the time I consider it a lucky escape, .
So you loved this girl dearly and binned her for no reason?Though I loved her dearly at the time I consider it a lucky escape, .
Of course you did.
we are talking the kind of girl that will drive you so mad you tell her to f
k right off, then as though nothing happened she will say "now that I came so close to losing you, I understand how much I love you"You don't have to take my word for it, I don't care. Though even to this day, some 10 years later, I feel that a tiny piece of my heart is still in her posession.
/girl's blouse mode off
isee said:
binned her on a gut feeling at the time
Which is a claim to have guessed that she was bumming someone else so you did the manly thing and binned her with no evidence. Not true, as guessed.isee said:
I feel that a tiny piece of my heart is still in her posession.
You are a walking Tina Turner song.blindswelledrat said:
Frederick said:
blindswelledrat said:
isee said:
I am not a jealous type normally, but something came over me that night when i told her we are through. It was the same night she was being knobbed by her x as it turned out.
Though I loved her dearly at the time I consider it a lucky escape, .
So you loved this girl dearly and binned her for no reason?Though I loved her dearly at the time I consider it a lucky escape, .
Of course you did.
isee said:
Frederick said:
blindswelledrat said:
isee said:
I am not a jealous type normally, but something came over me that night when i told her we are through. It was the same night she was being knobbed by her x as it turned out.
Though I loved her dearly at the time I consider it a lucky escape, .
So you loved this girl dearly and binned her for no reason?Though I loved her dearly at the time I consider it a lucky escape, .
Of course you did.
Spiritual_Beggar said:
Maybe use the exams as a way of letting her down. That's if you're sure she has been cheating and you want a way out.
Just say that things haven't been the same lately, and think that you could both do with a break so she can concentrate on her exams. If she's been cheating, I'm sure you'll get little arguement. But if she hasn't she might try and push for more reasons why you want a break.
F all this resonable sJust say that things haven't been the same lately, and think that you could both do with a break so she can concentrate on her exams. If she's been cheating, I'm sure you'll get little arguement. But if she hasn't she might try and push for more reasons why you want a break.
t, from the OP's explanatory email she is 100% cheating. Sod her, I would dump straight away and tell her why in no uncertain terms. No petty revenge, no acceptance of apologies, with my dignity intact.Move on, you had a good 3 year relationship that turned to s
t, you probably learned a lot about yourself and will be wiser/stronger when facing the next potential Mrs RightGood luck
Edited by Adam B on Tuesday 4th August 12:04
Make up a work trip or other time away with a bit on tice and a guarntee of you being away, make as if you are preparing to go, then 'cancel' at the last minute. See how she reacts and what she does (frantic phone calls, panic etc).
Get her plans out of her for while you area away before you 'cancel'. If she claims to have made plans for the time you were due to be away that she can't now change pretend you are cool with that and have things to do anyway, then drop in where she is supposed to be/casually call the people she is supposed to be with.
Pitch up at one of her group get togethers for a drink and make a big show of canoodling and see whose face drops because she is probably telling him/best friend that you no longer sleep together etc.
Tell her best friend you are thinking of arranging a surprise post-exam romantic weekend. If she knows the GF is getting action elsewhere she will not want you to fix it up and will find excuses for her.
Get her plans out of her for while you area away before you 'cancel'. If she claims to have made plans for the time you were due to be away that she can't now change pretend you are cool with that and have things to do anyway, then drop in where she is supposed to be/casually call the people she is supposed to be with.
Pitch up at one of her group get togethers for a drink and make a big show of canoodling and see whose face drops because she is probably telling him/best friend that you no longer sleep together etc.
Tell her best friend you are thinking of arranging a surprise post-exam romantic weekend. If she knows the GF is getting action elsewhere she will not want you to fix it up and will find excuses for her.
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