Changing schools mid-year?

[MarkwG]

okgo said:

davidjpowell said:

Two sides to every story - and I bet your not getting the teachers side from your 9 year old!

If you have an issue ask for a meeting to discuss.

Absoloutley.

Beliving a 9 year old over a grown adult is not reccomended, although something has clearly changed..go and have a chat with them.

Perhaps, but on the evidence in the original post, I'd believe the kid ahead of the adult: whatever the teacher is or isn't doing, reducing anyone to that state is unacceptable. Personality clashes do occur, but the adult has the authority to resolve it, & should be using that responsibly. I have some experience of similar, & it's the most difficult to get resolved. As above, I'd explore all avenues first, but have an escape strategy with a different school planned well ahead of bail out point, teachers can tend to close ranks.

[okgo]

I spose, I just can't fathom the teachers logic for mking him miss break because he dropped his pencil sharpner..

I guess its from personal expeirence, I went to a school where the only parents that belived their kids over the teachers were the poor ones who's kids were there on grants and generally misbehaving tts that would tell their parents anything to get the parent down arguing over who was right etc.

[911motorsport]

If he was a misbehaving tt then I'd tell him to get on with it! but he's genuinely a good kid (as evidenced by every good school report to date, along with head teacher's notes of praise). If anything he's a bit too quiet sometimes.

[bigdods]

check out the class size too. The school my boy was having trouble with had large class sizes I think it was 36 pupils. Teacher, in her own words - 'I dont have the time to deal with his/your issues I have 35 other children to work with, thats why he is sat at the back on his own table'.

Also this school was 100% focused on academic standards only, didnt give a stuff about the kids feelings or problems.

My boy is by no means perfect but nor is he a trouble maker. At his new school he is doing very well and we hear lots of good things from his teachers and he does lots of excellent work.

He also gets into trouble now and then but so do all other kids, and its for normal kid stuff not dropping a pencil !

[Shay HTFC]

Just speak to the teacher.

Maybe the teacher thinks that your son threw the pencil and intentionally disrupted the class and that this is an ongoing thing? I cannot see how a teacher would put a kid in detention for dropping a pencil if there has been nothing else stirring.

If I am honest, from reading your posts I get the impression that you rightly think of your child very highly, but also maybe in a way that you think it is inconceivable for him to be at fault for anything.

Are you sure you are not blinding yourself from logical possibilities because of the possibly idealistic way in which you view your son? Its a common thing.

Edited by Shay HTFC on Wednesday 4th November 23:07

[monthefish]

sday12 said:

monthefish said:

Make sure your kid knows you won't tolerate this from the teacher

Er, don't do this.

Why ever not? A parent should always be behind their child. That's not (in any way) to say that bad behaviour will be tolerated, but if the kid thinks that the parent is siding with the teacher, the situation is just going to go one way.

Of course we (and the OP) have only heard one side, but the example with the pencil-sharpener sounded pretty extreme.

sday12 said:

Could it be that your kid has pissed off the teacher?

It may very well be, but we are talking about a 9 year old and an adult here. The adult should be able to remain impartial and professional at all times - that is what they are paid and trained to do.

sday12 said:

Sit down man chat in order.

That's exactly what everyone has been suggesting.

[okgo]

Why would you want the kid to go on thinking that whatever you said your parent would belive??

Kids need to know they are kids from my expeirence of being one, or they will get too big for their boots.

[monthefish]

okgo said:

Why would you want the kid to go on thinking that whatever you said your parent would belive??

Why would you not??????

I would hope that by 9, the parents have taught the kid about being dishonest and the potential ramifications for doing so, and would believe the kid if they came to the parents with a serious problem. Are you really suggesting that parents shouldn;t make a habit of believeing what a child says to them?

By all means take what has been said with a pinch of salt until both sides of the story are heard, but a parents job is to be there to support a child and help it with problems until they are old/mature enough to solve their own problems.

Are you a parent? (really hope not, and I don't mean to offend by that)

okgo said:

Kids need to know they are kids from my expeirence of being one, or they will get too big for their boots.

I'm guessing not.

Assuming there is a real situation here, and the parent chose not to believe the child, how do you think the situation is going to pan out?