Is child number 2 easier ? a parents view please
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Hi all phers i wanted some advise from fellow parents,me and mrs vmn have our first child who is 2 i wanted to ask is the second time around an easyier time as your already used to what parent hood brings etc
We really want another but would like to ask fellow parents with a real life view ??
We really want another but would like to ask fellow parents with a real life view ??
No 2 was an absolute bloody nightmare, compare to the angel we had first,
First one pretty petite blonde haired blue eyed darling daughter, slept like dream didn't cry or whinge as long as she was fed, warm and clean, still pretty low maintenance 22 years later, not at all demanding, laid back attitude happy to just chill out
Right now on to number 2. Huge 2ft at birth, blonde hair, blue eyed screaming and wailing monster, would only stop crying if picked up and didn't appear to need any sleep at all, permanently hungry. Thankfully this only lasted for about 18 years until he went to uni
Nature is a very strange thing, two kids same parents, same upbringing and education, both very different personalities
Wouldn't change either of them for anything, love em both to bits, and would do it again in a second
Immensely proud of both of them in thier own fields of personal success
Go for it, it certainly makes for an interesting journey through life
First one pretty petite blonde haired blue eyed darling daughter, slept like dream didn't cry or whinge as long as she was fed, warm and clean, still pretty low maintenance 22 years later, not at all demanding, laid back attitude happy to just chill out
Right now on to number 2. Huge 2ft at birth, blonde hair, blue eyed screaming and wailing monster, would only stop crying if picked up and didn't appear to need any sleep at all, permanently hungry. Thankfully this only lasted for about 18 years until he went to uni
Nature is a very strange thing, two kids same parents, same upbringing and education, both very different personalities
Wouldn't change either of them for anything, love em both to bits, and would do it again in a second
Immensely proud of both of them in thier own fields of personal success
Go for it, it certainly makes for an interesting journey through life
Dad of two daughters here. just over two year apart. Having two is tough but it passes. You've probably got your life back under control after having the first and that's why you are thinking of a second. You will have forgotten how much care an infant requires; bathing, feeding etc. Don't worry it will come back to you quickly. It's hard work until the youngest gets to the age of three. Then you have passed a major milestone.
Not easy but keep telling yourself it is only temporary - I know it's hard when you are sleep deprived, the baby has just been sick over you and the toddler decides to put a jam sandwich in your DVD player. Remember the 3 Cs of child rearing; Calpol, Chocolate and Cbeebies.
Mine are 8 and 10 now. Wouldn't have it any other way.
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Not easy but keep telling yourself it is only temporary - I know it's hard when you are sleep deprived, the baby has just been sick over you and the toddler decides to put a jam sandwich in your DVD player. Remember the 3 Cs of child rearing; Calpol, Chocolate and Cbeebies.
Mine are 8 and 10 now. Wouldn't have it any other way.
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I have 15months between my two who are now 4 and 5.
The first 3 years were undoubtedly the hardest. It's just becoming easier now they can feed, dress, climb into car and belt up, walk, go to school, no nappies etc all by themselves. They play and fight in equal measure.
It was very hard but we planned it this way so they were more like twins in the fact of parenting them both was the same.
I think your age comes into this too. For example I had my first at 30 so didnt really have 5 years to spare to get one at school before having a second. Time wasnt on my side. But I have friends who had a larger age gap than me who have found it easy because the eldest was able to do everything themselves and could help out with the baby.
Yes it's hard but ultimately rewarding especially when you hear your kids play nicely and tell each other they love them.
The first 3 years were undoubtedly the hardest. It's just becoming easier now they can feed, dress, climb into car and belt up, walk, go to school, no nappies etc all by themselves. They play and fight in equal measure.
It was very hard but we planned it this way so they were more like twins in the fact of parenting them both was the same.
I think your age comes into this too. For example I had my first at 30 so didnt really have 5 years to spare to get one at school before having a second. Time wasnt on my side. But I have friends who had a larger age gap than me who have found it easy because the eldest was able to do everything themselves and could help out with the baby.
Yes it's hard but ultimately rewarding especially when you hear your kids play nicely and tell each other they love them.
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