365 days without booze... join me?
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13:48 hours on Tuesday afternoon and I'm on my fourth Guinness. Been on a 'bender' for going on three weeks since losing my contract. Facing facts I lose a lot of work due to my dominant, aggressive personality; I've evaluated if that makes me unsuited to my line of work - or any line of work involving others for that matter - and concluded it almost certainly does. That leaves me with a conundrum.
Self diagnosed Asperger syndrome, possibly autism and I tick almost every box of antisocial personality disorder which is worrying. I know I've got an alcohol problem. Alcohol's the arch-enemy for those with a self-destructive personality. But today is my last, tomorrow the comeback begins..
Self diagnosed Asperger syndrome, possibly autism and I tick almost every box of antisocial personality disorder which is worrying. I know I've got an alcohol problem. Alcohol's the arch-enemy for those with a self-destructive personality. But today is my last, tomorrow the comeback begins..
fast diesel boy said:
13:48 hours on Tuesday afternoon and I'm on my fourth Guinness. Been on a 'bender' for going on three weeks since losing my contract. Facing facts I lose a lot of work due to my dominant, aggressive personality; I've evaluated if that makes me unsuited to my line of work - or any line of work involving others for that matter - and concluded it almost certainly does. That leaves me with a conundrum.
Self diagnosed Asperger syndrome, possibly autism and I tick almost every box of antisocial personality disorder which is worrying. I know I've got an alcohol problem. Alcohol's the arch-enemy for those with a self-destructive personality. But today is my last, tomorrow the comeback begins..
In the haze of tomorrows hangover, go get yourself some help fella. GP. Find a counselor/therapist. Join a group. All of that. Either way, sounds like you need to talk with some professionals to help you find a proper coping strategy.Self diagnosed Asperger syndrome, possibly autism and I tick almost every box of antisocial personality disorder which is worrying. I know I've got an alcohol problem. Alcohol's the arch-enemy for those with a self-destructive personality. But today is my last, tomorrow the comeback begins..
trackdemon said:
In the haze of tomorrows hangover, go get yourself some help fella. GP. Find a counselor/therapist. Join a group. All of that. Either way, sounds like you need to talk with some professionals to help you find a proper coping strategy.
The rational part of me knows that's good advice. I need to action it and I hope I can.
fast diesel boy said:
trackdemon said:
In the haze of tomorrows hangover, go get yourself some help fella. GP. Find a counselor/therapist. Join a group. All of that. Either way, sounds like you need to talk with some professionals to help you find a proper coping strategy.
The rational part of me knows that's good advice. I need to action it and I hope I can.K12beano said:
Smitters said:
Hostility towards a non-drinker is often because you're holding up a mirror to someone else's issues and they don't like it, and how you're doing something about it while they're not.
This. Bigly.It’s how the conversation goes after the...”oh, go on, ONE can’t hurt”....gets lobbed in.... in my experience it’s slight (maybe grudgingly, but not always) admiration or it’s full Mrs-Doyle-off-Father-Ted-animosity.
My brother arrived, drank his, went to the bar for the next round and I said 'I'll have a diet coke again'...
He just looked at me and said 'whisky and diet coke, surely?'. I had to basically argue about it with him to get the drink I wanted.
I'm not in this because I have a problem with drink, I'm doing it because I don't want to give myself a problem, I found myself having at least one drink at home every night (I live alone) and didn't want it to get out of control.
You'd think family would be supportive but they seem to be the hardest ones to get the point through to.
anyway, 76 days so far, I've lost weight, I'm sleeping better most of the time and I feel better in the morning even though I'd only have a couple at the most....
Yep, 91 days for me as i stopped 30th December.
Lost about two stone and feel lots better physically and have lots less anxiety, strangely despite all of that i very nearly had a drink over the weekend.
Just kind of feel bored, been training loads in the gym, getting lots done, works is good, just feel something is still missing.
Had a dinner party Saturday night and just felt like going through the motions, felt good Sunday morning but still fancied a drink again last night.
Strange one really as i can't help but see the tangible benefits yet still feel a bit pissed off and down about the situation.
Anyway, spin class tonight and another week begins, going to try and stick with it for the year and make a decision then.
Lost about two stone and feel lots better physically and have lots less anxiety, strangely despite all of that i very nearly had a drink over the weekend.
Just kind of feel bored, been training loads in the gym, getting lots done, works is good, just feel something is still missing.
Had a dinner party Saturday night and just felt like going through the motions, felt good Sunday morning but still fancied a drink again last night.
Strange one really as i can't help but see the tangible benefits yet still feel a bit pissed off and down about the situation.
Anyway, spin class tonight and another week begins, going to try and stick with it for the year and make a decision then.
90 days here too. All of the above, less anxious, better rest, more productive. I don't think I've stopped for good though, I do enjoy a drink as its a big stress reliever from my work but I'd really like to do it once a month at most.
Of course this always seems to creep back to every weekend so I think I'll have one more go at it and if I can't stick to being sensible I'll stop for good.
Feel confident I can do that now.
Will still do dry April as well at the least.
Of course this always seems to creep back to every weekend so I think I'll have one more go at it and if I can't stick to being sensible I'll stop for good.
Feel confident I can do that now.
Will still do dry April as well at the least.
br d said:
90 days here too. All of the above, less anxious, better rest, more productive. I don't think I've stopped for good though
Trust me, I am not judging you (I've been down enough dark roads to know not to) - but I am quoting that as that's the f
king insanity I been living with over the last decadeI'm really struggling. Keep finding reasons not to stop. Holiday coming up. Wedding. Stressful day. I have grown a bit of a belly and am generally feeling pretty down about myself. I started to Allen Carr book but didn't finish it. My weekly consumption is probably 10 pints of beer. Sometimes a little more, sometimes a little less. I think i'm scared of quitting! the laugh is my fiance doesn't drink! So it should be easy!!
This weekend will see me complete 300 days!
Not too long to go to complete the task; but truly seem to have reached the point where I’m not too bothered that I won’t be drinking today, and I won’t be drinking tomorrow (but know well enough not to get complacent - holiday coming up, family around, potential for pressure to drink!)
Not too long to go to complete the task; but truly seem to have reached the point where I’m not too bothered that I won’t be drinking today, and I won’t be drinking tomorrow (but know well enough not to get complacent - holiday coming up, family around, potential for pressure to drink!)
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