365 days without booze... join me?
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HairyMaclary said:
I couldn't have put it better myself. Thanks Blib.
238 days today. Last night I popped into a pub I absolutely love for the first time in 2020 and sober. My mind played a trick and I so nearly ordered a pint of my usual and had to think.. No I don't drink anymore. Was an odd feeling and I'm glad I left it this long to pop in as I know it is a likely trigger.
To the amusement of the landlord I had a lime and soda. Actually the light hearted banter (grief) I got will prevent me going back anytime soon.
the landlord is an idiot. why dont you ask him if you could drive his car after a few pints?238 days today. Last night I popped into a pub I absolutely love for the first time in 2020 and sober. My mind played a trick and I so nearly ordered a pint of my usual and had to think.. No I don't drink anymore. Was an odd feeling and I'm glad I left it this long to pop in as I know it is a likely trigger.
To the amusement of the landlord I had a lime and soda. Actually the light hearted banter (grief) I got will prevent me going back anytime soon.
RMDB9 said:
the landlord is an idiot. why dont you ask him if you could drive his car after a few pints?
I found the the piss taking at the beginning very difficult but it says a lot a lot about the society we live in. If you had just stopped heroin I'd imagine people would be pleased for you.Just ignore.
Day 1 for me.
Writing this after spending the last 30 mins being sick down the toilet, I can’t keep doing this.
I know I can’t just go out for the one, but all the time I say “ohh I’ll just go for a couple” which leads to a lot of alcohol and feeling s
t the next day.
Last night I was baby free and convinced my mrs “to go out for one” with a few friends, we both ended up plastered, my mrs only drinks a couple of time’s a year, ended the night early with the mrs being sick and paralytic, she had to call in sick today, I feel bad for dragging her down to my level, and I kept saying “common let’s just have the one more”
Seeing her in that state has made me evaluate myself, I’ve been going out a lot more than I want to, and always end up in a state, quite often than not being sick the next morning.
My mrs said something earlier which hit the nail on the head
“Why do you want to spend money to feel like this the next day”
Unfortunately I’m all or nothing, and as I can’t go out for the one, I’m going to have to be nothing for a while..
Writing this after spending the last 30 mins being sick down the toilet, I can’t keep doing this.
I know I can’t just go out for the one, but all the time I say “ohh I’ll just go for a couple” which leads to a lot of alcohol and feeling s
t the next day.Last night I was baby free and convinced my mrs “to go out for one” with a few friends, we both ended up plastered, my mrs only drinks a couple of time’s a year, ended the night early with the mrs being sick and paralytic, she had to call in sick today, I feel bad for dragging her down to my level, and I kept saying “common let’s just have the one more”
Seeing her in that state has made me evaluate myself, I’ve been going out a lot more than I want to, and always end up in a state, quite often than not being sick the next morning.
My mrs said something earlier which hit the nail on the head
“Why do you want to spend money to feel like this the next day”
Unfortunately I’m all or nothing, and as I can’t go out for the one, I’m going to have to be nothing for a while..
mattuk89 said:
Day 1 for me.
Writing this after spending the last 30 mins being sick down the toilet, I can’t keep doing this.
I know I can’t just go out for the one, but all the time I say “ohh I’ll just go for a couple” which leads to a lot of alcohol and feeling st the next day.
Last night I was baby free and convinced my mrs “to go out for one” with a few friends, we both ended up plastered, my mrs only drinks a couple of time’s a year, ended the night early with the mrs being sick and paralytic, she had to call in sick today, I feel bad for dragging her down to my level, and I kept saying “common let’s just have the one more”
Seeing her in that state has made me evaluate myself, I’ve been going out a lot more than I want to, and always end up in a state, quite often than not being sick the next morning.
My mrs said something earlier which hit the nail on the head
“Why do you want to spend money to feel like this the next day”
Unfortunately I’m all or nothing, and as I can’t go out for the one, I’m going to have to be nothing for a while..
The regret and beer fear can get you through a few days and then at day 4 the ill effects have worn off and "the kick’ begins where it seems ok to drink again. For me it helped to work out that I did not want to ever be like that again as giving up on will power is not as easy. Writing this after spending the last 30 mins being sick down the toilet, I can’t keep doing this.
I know I can’t just go out for the one, but all the time I say “ohh I’ll just go for a couple” which leads to a lot of alcohol and feeling s
t the next day.Last night I was baby free and convinced my mrs “to go out for one” with a few friends, we both ended up plastered, my mrs only drinks a couple of time’s a year, ended the night early with the mrs being sick and paralytic, she had to call in sick today, I feel bad for dragging her down to my level, and I kept saying “common let’s just have the one more”
Seeing her in that state has made me evaluate myself, I’ve been going out a lot more than I want to, and always end up in a state, quite often than not being sick the next morning.
My mrs said something earlier which hit the nail on the head
“Why do you want to spend money to feel like this the next day”
Unfortunately I’m all or nothing, and as I can’t go out for the one, I’m going to have to be nothing for a while..
I too was an all or nothing drinker. Alcohol has nothing good for me and I do not ever want to drink again.
The throwing up bit is interesting, it is the body rejecting the poison and yet we drink again? If that had been an apple you ate you would never eat an apple again.
Caddyshack said:
The regret and beer fear can get you through a few days and then at day 4 the ill effects have worn off and "the kick’ begins where it seems ok to drink again. For me it helped to work out that I did not want to ever be like that again as giving up on will power is not as easy.
I too was an all or nothing drinker. Alcohol has nothing good for me and I do not ever want to drink again.
The throwing up bit is interesting, it is the body rejecting the poison and yet we drink again? If that had been an apple you ate you would never eat an apple again.
This is too true, and I say the same most Monday’s, and by Thursday I’m out again.I too was an all or nothing drinker. Alcohol has nothing good for me and I do not ever want to drink again.
The throwing up bit is interesting, it is the body rejecting the poison and yet we drink again? If that had been an apple you ate you would never eat an apple again.
Determined too have a proper break this time though, and going to use this thread and read back on my posts every time I fancy the “one pint”
I’ve done over 8 weeks before so I know I can do it, just gotta get through the first few weeks, and it will become easier!
Aiming for September and October.
That's such a good point you've spotted - why does that happen?mattuk89 said:
Day 1 for me.
Writing this after spending the last 30 mins being sick down the toilet, I can’t keep doing this.
I know I can’t just go out for the one, but all the time I say “ohh I’ll just go for a couple” which leads to a lot of alcohol and feeling st the next day.
Last night I was baby free and convinced my mrs “to go out for one” with a few friends, we both ended up plastered, my mrs only drinks a couple of time’s a year, ended the night early with the mrs being sick and paralytic, she had to call in sick today, I feel bad for dragging her down to my level, and I kept saying “common let’s just have the one more”
Seeing her in that state has made me evaluate myself, I’ve been going out a lot more than I want to, and always end up in a state, quite often than not being sick the next morning.
My mrs said something earlier which hit the nail on the head
“Why do you want to spend money to feel like this the next day”
Unfortunately I’m all or nothing, and as I can’t go out for the one, I’m going to have to be nothing for a while..
This is one of the last thoughts that i kept having while i was in hospital. When the place would quiet down and things seemed to get really quiet the first thing i said to myself was "fWriting this after spending the last 30 mins being sick down the toilet, I can’t keep doing this.
I know I can’t just go out for the one, but all the time I say “ohh I’ll just go for a couple” which leads to a lot of alcohol and feeling s
t the next day.Last night I was baby free and convinced my mrs “to go out for one” with a few friends, we both ended up plastered, my mrs only drinks a couple of time’s a year, ended the night early with the mrs being sick and paralytic, she had to call in sick today, I feel bad for dragging her down to my level, and I kept saying “common let’s just have the one more”
Seeing her in that state has made me evaluate myself, I’ve been going out a lot more than I want to, and always end up in a state, quite often than not being sick the next morning.
My mrs said something earlier which hit the nail on the head
“Why do you want to spend money to feel like this the next day”
Unfortunately I’m all or nothing, and as I can’t go out for the one, I’m going to have to be nothing for a while..
k me D, this is bad; but do you know what is worse we PAID to make this happen." On one of the times i tried to stop i thought i'd sit down and put a figure against it. That will put me off. it didn't. You come to the conclusion that your brain is actually trying to kill you but he will be the last as he systematically shuts everything else down.
I digress, and excuse the drama. it took many, many morning of puking and sick days before the decision was taken out of my hands.
The weekend just gone was the first that i had decided not to go to because i knew i'd end up absolutely blotto. Group of friends that i hadn't seen in ages, some new guys to meet, super cars, lovely hotels and everything that comes with it. I made my excuses and left it at that.. Annoying but i reckon i'm a fair bit away from those sorts of events still.
Good luck man.
Stu-nph26 said:
I’m 20 days shy of a full year which given the fact we’ve had a child in lockdown, its somewhat of a miracle I’ve not turned to drink. Looking forward to getting past the year. No plans to drink again in the foreseeable for me.
Same here. I can't help thanking my lucky stars I stopped last year, because if I was still drinking at the start of lockdown I know I would be in a very, very bad place right now. In the nick of time, for sure.Fishlegs said:
Stu-nph26 said:
I’m 20 days shy of a full year which given the fact we’ve had a child in lockdown, its somewhat of a miracle I’ve not turned to drink. Looking forward to getting past the year. No plans to drink again in the foreseeable for me.
Same here. I can't help thanking my lucky stars I stopped last year, because if I was still drinking at the start of lockdown I know I would be in a very, very bad place right now. In the nick of time, for sure.Having my first child was one of my motivators for quitting, mainly as I wanted to be able to drive at short notice in an emergency situation or to get supplies. I am glad I was already a non drinker before lockdown. If we had a Covid-12, I would have been in a right mess.
FreeLitres said:
Fishlegs said:
Stu-nph26 said:
I’m 20 days shy of a full year which given the fact we’ve had a child in lockdown, its somewhat of a miracle I’ve not turned to drink. Looking forward to getting past the year. No plans to drink again in the foreseeable for me.
Same here. I can't help thanking my lucky stars I stopped last year, because if I was still drinking at the start of lockdown I know I would be in a very, very bad place right now. In the nick of time, for sure.Having my first child was one of my motivators for quitting, mainly as I wanted to be able to drive at short notice in an emergency situation or to get supplies. I am glad I was already a non drinker before lockdown. If we had a Covid-12, I would have been in a right mess.
Next plan is to sort my weight out probably 3 stone overweight but I’ve lost about a stone since packing in the drink. Time to focus on losing the rest of the excess weight I think.
mooseracer said:
mattuk89 said:
This is too true, and I say the same most Monday’s, and by Thursday I’m out again.
I'd be out by Tuesday, after having had a settler or two on Monday. Feeling a lot better than I usually would be on a Friday morning, now just to keep it up all weekend.
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