Depression

[FocusRS3]

mantiacoro said:

That's understandable. Unfortunately the prescription of antidepressants is not always an accurate art. You might have to go through one or two to find the right one. Just like finding a therapist who f'its'. So try not to let it put you off. Therapy works, meds and therapy works even better.
Sertraline may offer some benefit with less physical side effects like feeling drunk or nausea, that can be the case with Citalopram. What I'm alluding to is that not all will make you feel sick. Quite a few, however will, but you need to go through the first 2-4 weeks of feeling a bit choppy before you settle into it.
Speak to your GP again if you feel you need some med related assistance. The right one will make a positive difference and get you on the right road.

Many Tks for this .
I have some time off next month so if the immediate therapy I feel isn’t working I’ll ask if I can try some meds (the one you suggested) over that period and see if there are any side effects such as nausea .
I’m rather hoping the councelling keeps the anxiety and depression at bay .

[happychap]

FocusRS3 said:

Many Tks for this .
I have some time off next month so if the immediate therapy I feel isn’t working I’ll ask if I can try some meds (the one you suggested) over that period and see if there are any side effects such as nausea .
I’m rather hoping the councelling keeps the anxiety and depression at bay .

The therapy may take several sessions before you have a better understanding and insight into how your early experience of how your father parented you has impacted on your own mind set. This work may take some time before you decide or get used to a new way of being. Making use of meds alongside counselling can be a short term measure that can complement the therapy. Don't try to force or expect a change to happen overnight, this behaviour is longstanding, sometimes with support we just need to let things unfold to give us a different view of things.

[227bhp]

twing said:

I posted a few pages back about my OH, thanks to those that replied. She’s been taking Setraline for a few weeks and the difference is notable. Not that it’s made her completely worry free & full of the joys but she’s thinking much more clearly, solving problems one by one and the fog has definitely lifted a bit. She’s had a lot of support from family & friends now that they know she’s struggling so all in all I’m very pleased I asked her to go & speak about it. Just thought I’d update for those worried about going to the docs, from this experience I’d say do it as soon as you’re ready, it could make a difference and hope it does.

I'm glad she's feeling a bit better, did you do the Spa day?

[227bhp]

FocusRS3 said:

No im asking as a few weeks back i went to my doctor who prescribed me a low dosage of Citalopram and it made me incredibly sick and even more anxious so ive become even more anti pills and now nervous of taking them .

They offered me something different but i declined.

That's just silly.
It was fellow depressant Churchill who said "If you're going through Hell, keep going"
They WILL make you feel ill to begin with, but it usually wears off. These things take time, you won't get instant release or start walking around without a care in the world in a few days.

[twing]

227bhp said:

I'm glad she's feeling a bit better, did you do the Spa day?

We did! Celtic Manor for two days, it did her the world of good. Just getting away from her normal surroundings made a huge difference & helped her forget for a while, i’d recommend it

[mantiacoro]

FocusRS3 said:

I’ll ask if I can try some meds (the one you suggested) over that period and see if there are any side effects such as nausea .

Glad to hear you're not ruling meds out. Do some research online about SSRi's and others and you'll find the comparisons between the one you took and the example I gave. But don't have your mind set on just Sertraline. I'm not a doctor so get the GP's opinion and see what he suggests. There are other ones that may be more tailored to you, but the people in the know will figure that out.
as others have said, they are a short to med term solution to help you through the worst period while you have therapy and talk things out with a decent therapist. A therapist will help put things back into perspective and help you get back on track.

[aaron_2000]

Ruskie said:

aaron_2000 said:

FocusRS3 said:

Aaron, simply because i dont understand can you explain why you are years from getting some help?

For me this was never part of the script of my life but here i am and so i think the best way is to get some help.

Thankfully mens mental health is taken seriously now.

All the best

Simply because I don't feel ready/bad enough to go to somebody yet, I imagine as I have more and more in my life to deal with in the coming years that'll change.

You don’t just go to someone and you are cured. It doesn’t work like that.

Never said it did, did I?

[sinbaddio]

FocusRS3 said:

No im asking as a few weeks back i went to my doctor who prescribed me a low dosage of Citalopram and it made me incredibly sick and even more anxious so ive become even more anti pills and now nervous of taking them .

They offered me something different but i declined.

I was put on a low dose of Citalopram too, and it knocked me for 6. I went back to the GP and he put me on something else (Fluoxatine I think) and they're working out. As said elsewhere, it's not a science as my GP told me.

Good luck!

And for anyone that's interested I decided to put my experience's out there -
http://thepast-thepresent-future.blogspot.co.uk/20...

[FocusRS3]

sinbaddio said:

I was put on a low dose of Citalopram too, and it knocked me for 6. I went back to the GP and he put me on something else (Fluoxatine I think) and they're working out. As said elsewhere, it's not a science as my GP told me.

Good luck!

And for anyone that's interested I decided to put my experience's out there -
http://thepast-thepresent-future.blogspot.co.uk/20...

Many Tks it’s actually reassuring to know it wasn’t just me .
I get the idea of preserving with them and there is a sort of bedding in period but I need time off work to adjust to them .

I’ll start the councelling and see how I find it .
Was really weird today , I started off in bits but by the afternoon was fine . It’s almost like the mornings are always the worse time for me .

I’ll take a look at that link you put up cheers

[Ruskie]

aaron_2000 said:

Ruskie said:

aaron_2000 said:

FocusRS3 said:

Aaron, simply because i dont understand can you explain why you are years from getting some help?

For me this was never part of the script of my life but here i am and so i think the best way is to get some help.

Thankfully mens mental health is taken seriously now.

All the best

Simply because I don't feel ready/bad enough to go to somebody yet, I imagine as I have more and more in my life to deal with in the coming years that'll change.

You don’t just go to someone and you are cured. It doesn’t work like that.

Never said it did, did I?

My point was it’s not linear, so you can’t plan like you are doing.

[FocusRS3]

sinbaddio said:

FocusRS3 said:

No im asking as a few weeks back i went to my doctor who prescribed me a low dosage of Citalopram and it made me incredibly sick and even more anxious so ive become even more anti pills and now nervous of taking them .

They offered me something different but i declined.

I was put on a low dose of Citalopram too, and it knocked me for 6. I went back to the GP and he put me on something else (Fluoxatine I think) and they're working out. As said elsewhere, it's not a science as my GP told me.

Good luck!

And for anyone that's interested I decided to put my experience's out there -
http://thepast-thepresent-future.blogspot.co.uk/20...

Read your blog very true

[sinbaddio]

FocusRS3 said:

Read your blog very true

Thanks. As the OP has stated before, I found writing about it helped me get my head around things a little better.

[Ruskie]

https://howfootballruinedmylife.wordpress.com/2018...

[sinbaddio]

Ruskie said:

https://howfootballruinedmylife.wordpress.com/2018...

Ruskie - I've read a lot of your stuff and I really feel for you. Thanks for starting the thread and sharing your experiences - you've provided a great outlet for people.

Best wishes - Simon.

[oldbanger]

Ruskie said:

https://howfootballruinedmylife.wordpress.com/2018...

Sorry to read that you are in a tough place. Stay safe

Edited by oldbanger on Tuesday 10th April 22:53

[aaron_2000]

I just feel miserable, I stay up until 4am watching TV because I want to prolong the time before I have to start another day, starting to consider getting some form of help

[oldbanger]

aaron_2000 said:

I just feel miserable, I stay up until 4am watching TV because I want to prolong the time before I have to start another day, starting to consider getting some form of help

I know where you are coming from there. It’s unfortunately one of those negative feedback loops which can almost lock you in to a pattern of behaviour. Losing sleep, staying up very late, perhaps due to anxiety, alters your cortisol levels the next day, which in turn makes you wakeful and anxious at the next bedtime. Seriously this isn’t bks.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/9415946/

[aaron_2000]

oldbanger said:

I know where you are coming from there. It’s unfortunately one of those negative feedback loops which can almost lock you in to a pattern of behaviour. Losing sleep, staying up very late, perhaps due to anxiety, alters your cortisol levels the next day, which in turn makes you wakeful and anxious at the next bedtime. Seriously this isn’t bks.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/9415946/

Sounds too familiar, I’m dropping off all day then wide awake when I’m in bed

[ED209]

At the moment I feel more anxious than I have in my life, not depressed as such just anxious. Heavy breathing and elevated heart rate, unable to concentrate on anything even though I know I have to. Im putting it down to the sheer pressure at work, far far too busy, too much pressure and never time for a proper break. Got a promotion process coming up too which is putting extra pressure on me but, i want it but I just can't settle down and study for it, can't concentrate!

Even when I am exercising which I have always done almost every day I am struggling to regulate my breathing. got a bit of cold on my chest too which isn't helping. At the moment I feel like I am just trying to cling on until the end of May when I have 10 days off work to try and sort my head out.

I feel sorry for my wife because as much as I try not to be short with her It can't be pleasant for her.

[SturdyHSV]

ED209 said:

I feel sorry for my wife because as much as I try not to be short with her It can't be pleasant for her.

Have you explained all this to her? She'll probably feel grateful that you trust her enough and value her opinion enough to share how you feel with her, and talking it out with someone else will probably help to some degree.

I hope the promotion process goes well, but more importantly that the break in May gives you a chance to relax a bit