Depression

[xjay1337]

ShampooEfficient said:

Oceans,

Ringing the Samaritans isn't a big thing, you're only having a conversation with someone. You've spoken to us already.

It is a lot harder to talk on the phone and face to face, than it is on a forum.

[oldbanger]

happychap said:

I for one would be pleased to hear that you were safe and here in the morning.

Yes. Me too

[half_throttle]

xjay1337 said:

It is a lot harder to talk on the phone and face to face, than it is on a forum.

I sometimes get anxious about making phone calls or talking to people face to face. A lot of the time I will try to avoid it and text/email instead.

However, I do think that facing your fears and making that phone call/face to face appointment can help towards overcoming the fears.

[oldbanger]

Oceans said:

It's fine to ramble and I'm sorry for your loss mate
I've had enough tbh

I will find them one day. No news is good news I think

Hang in there.

Edited by oldbanger on Monday 1st October 22:52

[Oceans]

For what’s it worth I’m still here

[Gargamel]

Oceans said:

For what’s it worth I’m still here

Good ! Just take things steadily, focus on what you can control/influence. Be kind to yourself.

Are you still seeing your girlfriend ? Or is she now an ex ?

It sounds ;Ike you have important people in your life, but maybe not the relationship with them that you would like. Have you had counseling ?

[Oceans]

Gargamel said:

Good ! Just take things steadily, focus on what you can control/influence. Be kind to yourself.

Are you still seeing your girlfriend ? Or is she now an ex ?

It sounds ;Ike you have important people in your life, but maybe not the relationship with them that you would like. Have you had counseling ?

Still absolutely my rock and in love with her
I've been waiting for counselling all night but no one has rang

[Gargamel]

Oceans said:

Still absolutely my rock and in love with her
I've been waiting for counselling all night but no one has rang

Good I am glad. In the end for your own mental health you have to be happy yourself, you cannot allow your happiness to depend on others.

Personal happiness comes from self esteem, giving meaning and expression to your feelings and from respecting yourself.

By counseling I mean going every week to see someone and talk for an hour or so. It’s a very useful process. Please get your GP to refer you, or use your company insurance to find someone (which is what I did, via employee assistence)

[oldbanger]

Oceans said:

For what’s it worth I’m still here

I am glad

[Oceans]

Made it through the night

[happychap]

Oceans said:

Made it through the night

That's good to hear.

[oldbanger]

Oceans said:

Made it through the night

Good

[Gargamel]

Oceans said:

Made it through the night

Excellent start ! I hope something happens today that makes you feel good. But please take a few steps yourself, go back to your GP or find a counselor. Talk to someone close to you about how you feel. Go out into the fresh air or take a little exercise - proven time and again to be good for your mental health.

I suspect you already know that there are some things you are unhappy about, a good therapist can help you explore those feelings and either give you perspectives which help you cope or manage, or help you discover in yourself a way to move forward.

[Oceans]

Gargamel said:

Excellent start ! I hope something happens today that makes you feel good. But please take a few steps yourself, go back to your GP or find a counselor. Talk to someone close to you about how you feel. Go out into the fresh air or take a little exercise - proven time and again to be good for your mental health.

I suspect you already know that there are some things you are unhappy about, a good therapist can help you explore those feelings and either give you perspectives which help you cope or manage, or help you discover in yourself a way to move forward.

Thanks it's all a bit embarrassing, I'll get out this morning and get some air

[MYOB]

Have a good day. When you have a moment, perhaps you can explain your job? Certainly sounds interesting.

[xjay1337]

oldbanger said:

Oceans said:

For what’s it worth I’m still here

I am glad

Me too :-)

[HorneyMX5]

I'm going through a really rough patch with anxiety at the moment. I was diagnosed about 8 years ago and had Sertaline at the time for a year. Since then I've managed it with mindfulness and just soldiering on.

Some stuff happened recently that has caused me to crash mentally and it's been frankly horrific. I'm just about managing to do my job but anything more than that I'm really struggling with. Social stuff I've cancelled and I'm not eating properly.

Went to the Docs twice and been put back on tablets for the first time in 7 years. Very low dose, but making me a bit loopy at time (on day 6!).


Not sure the point of this post other than I guess we're all in it together? I just wish it would go away. It makes me so angry that it cripples me as on a good day I'm social person who doesn't stop chattering away to anyone who'll listen. When I'm like this the physical symptoms have me feeling sick, sometimes throwing up, the sweats and existing under a dark cloud of meh.


I love my cars, but at the moment I just ignore them. Thank god for the long suffering MrsHorneyMX5 who somehow manages to put up with me, I'm not sure I would.

[Oceans]

MYOB said:

Have a good day. When you have a moment, perhaps you can explain your job? Certainly sounds interesting.

Thank you. It's researching the ocean currents and trying to use the data to predict typhoons and weather patterns. Sounds all glamorous but it's a lot of time on a boat in the middle of nowhere lol

[Oceans]

HorneyMX5 said:

I'm going through a really rough patch with anxiety at the moment. I was diagnosed about 8 years ago and had Sertaline at the time for a year. Since then I've managed it with mindfulness and just soldiering on.

Some stuff happened recently that has caused me to crash mentally and it's been frankly horrific. I'm just about managing to do my job but anything more than that I'm really struggling with. Social stuff I've cancelled and I'm not eating properly.

Went to the Docs twice and been put back on tablets for the first time in 7 years. Very low dose, but making me a bit loopy at time (on day 6!).


Not sure the point of this post other than I guess we're all in it together? I just wish it would go away. It makes me so angry that it cripples me as on a good day I'm social person who doesn't stop chattering away to anyone who'll listen. When I'm like this the physical symptoms have me feeling sick, sometimes throwing up, the sweats and existing under a dark cloud of meh.


I love my cars, but at the moment I just ignore them. Thank god for the long suffering MrsHorneyMX5 who somehow manages to put up with me, I'm not sure I would.

Thanks for sharing. Know the feeling entirely. I haven't eaten since Saturday morning, so know exactly how it feels.
I also love my cars, nothing better getting out and going for a drive. Should take my own advice lol

[HorneyMX5]

Taking your own advice is always the hardest thing to do.

Why is it when we feel like this we can't focus on the good times? I have had plenty this year.

Given up smoking after 25 years (7 months smoke free on Thusrday)
Driven the Ring for the first time
Won two trophies sprinting my MINI

But

Couldn't attend a half day training course in London, jumped off the train and went home and cried.


I mean really!