Ear stretching, any experience?

[Ordinary_Chap]

I agree Simon.

I do like tattoo's and similar but anything that is on display is only ever going to damage a persons career or chance of getting a job.

You simply cannot get away from human nature which is to judge on appearance before all else and that has to be taken into account regardless of my own personal views on this type of body modification when selecting someone for a role.

[Gretchen]

Simon Brooks said:

Gretchen said:

Simon Brooks said:

When faced with a job interview, it would most certainly create an immediate disadvantage, having worked in numerous organisations coaching and encouraging employers to recruit the person not the packaging, i can confirm that regardless of anything else, first impressions are almost impossible to overcome, regardless of the applicants overall ability.

Pleased your daughter has for the moment decided to abstain from doing anything that may have affected her chances later in life.

Do you interview prospective employees naked with their hair tied back then?


Suited and booted and hair styled down you'd never know. In fact it could take years, let's say five, before anything was realised, and then maybe only because the employee chose to part with the information.

Believe me.

Had you bothered to read my comments properly you would have worked out that I was defending people's personal preferences and identifying that perspective employers can still be put off by appearances even after coaching on selection and recruitment protocols

Yes I read them and I agree somewhat.

I'm also pointing out that Rob might not notice if his daughter opts for any body modifications (which you yourself stated you were pleased she had changed her mind). It took my Dad 13 years. And that there's still a question of presentation. If a person dresses sensibly and smartly you'd never know they were heavily tattooed or pierced.

My son thinks I'm a hypocrite for telling him not to stretch his ears or get visible peircings. But as I've told him it will prejudice his chances of employment despite his qualifications or skills.

[Simon Brooks]

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Yes I read them and I agree somewhat.

I'm also pointing out that Rob might not notice if his daughter opts for any body modifications (which you yourself stated you were pleased she had changed her mind). It took my Dad 13 years. And that there's still a question of presentation. If a person dresses sensibly and smartly you'd never know they were heavily tattooed or pierced.

My son thinks I'm a hypocrite for telling him not to stretch his ears or get visible peircings. But as I've told him it will prejudice his chances of employment despite his qualifications or skills.






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Apologies if I jumped in with both feet at you, I get very frustrated with people that don't have any real experience or knowledge of how important it is to "play" the interview and recruitment game to the rules as dictated by what is deemed to be normal and acceptable in most working environments currently.

I must admit I think I would know immediately if either of my two opted to add piercings or tattoos

I do hope your son listens to reason and a voice of experience

[BliarOut]

She's free to do what she wants when she's an adult, for now it's my job to deliver her to that point in time as unmarked as possible

[marksx]

The Char said:

I had a 10mm one and an 8mm one when I was younger. They went back to normal.

Conversely, I had a 10mm one, which I last had in about 4 years ago. There is still a hole there, albeit smaller than before.

[Jamie VTS]

During my teenage years I went through the "peircing" thing.

I stretched my ears to 10mm, it hurt alot and I did it far to quickly (regular piercing - 10mm in around 2 months) The point of no return is genuinley 8-10mm for most people although obviously there are people who have gone to 12mm and there ears have returned to normal.

Although in many peoples opinion it looks horrid I can honestly tell you as a 14 year old in school it is quite possibly the coolest thing in the world. If done correctly and responsibly it can be safe and non-perminant.

[BliarOut]

Wait till you're forty *something* and your skin isn't quite so elastic, you'd be surprised at how previously un-noticeable holes start to reappear

[sleep envy]

BliarOut said:

Wait till you're forty *something* and your skin isn't quite so elastic, you'd be surprised at how previously un-noticeable holes start to reappear

[Hugo a Gogo]

gtdc said:

BliarOut said:

That was one of my levers too She is working hard with a view to becoming a doctor, I asked her how many doctors she'd seen with stretched ears...

Only Masai ones I think.

witch doctors are you talking about?

[BliarOut]

Shut it Ricc else I'll set speed camera bird on you....

[sleep envy]

Remember, I was going faster than her

[NDA]

Jamie VTS said:

Although in many peoples opinion it looks horrid I can honestly tell you as a 14 year old in school it is quite possibly the coolest thing in the world. .

And this demonstrates the value of parenting!

To be honest, being cool at school aged 14 is of zero importance. You'll live until you're 80 (hopefully) and in the meantime will want to find a decent job and be successful. Looking like a failed Masai warrior isn't hugely helpful despite being so cool for a few months.

[Jamie VTS]

NDA said:

And this demonstrates the value of parenting!

To be honest, being cool at school aged 14 is of zero importance. You'll live until you're 80 (hopefully) and in the meantime will want to find a
decent job and be successful.
Looking like a failed Masai warrior
isn't hugely helpful despite being so
cool for a few months.

I was brought up very well by my parents. I also stressed the importance of doing it properly and being able to take it out for when you inevitably realise you look like a total tool. Don't misquote me.

[NDA]

I didn't quote you.

Have another read.

[Jamie VTS]

NDA said:

I didn't quote you.

Have another read.

Prehaps I'm looking at something else but if you look you have quoted my post?

[NDA]

Jamie VTS said:

Prehaps I'm looking at something else but if you look you have quoted my post?

And it's exactly,what you wrote. It's therefore not a misquote is it?

[Jamie VTS]

NDA said:

And it's exactly,what you wrote. It's therefore not a misquote is it?

You quoted part of what I said not all of it, taking it totally out of context.

[NDA]

Jamie VTS said:

During my teenage years I went through the "peircing" thing.

I stretched my ears to 10mm, it hurt alot and I did it far to quickly (regular piercing - 10mm in around 2 months) The point of no return is genuinley 8-10mm for most people although obviously there are people who have gone to 12mm and there ears have returned to normal.

Although in many peoples opinion it looks horrid I can honestly tell you as a 14 year old in school it is quite possibly the coolest thing in the world. If done correctly and responsibly it can be safe and non-perminant.

To be honest, being cool at school aged 14 is of zero importance. You'll live until you're 80 (hopefully) and in the meantime will want to find a decent job and be successful. Looking like a failed Masai warrior isn't hugely helpful despite being so cool for a few months.

There. Better now? I haven't corrected your spelling by the way.

[Zaxxon]

I saw a guy this afternoon who was clearly trying to revert to normal ears, he looked like a complete freak with scarred and mishapen lobes. No fricken way will my faughter have them, she can wait till she is living away from home before she considers hat st.

[NDA]

Zaxxon said:

I saw a guy this afternoon who was clearly trying to revert to normal ears, he looked like a complete freak with scarred and mishapen lobes. No fricken way will my faughter have them, she can wait till she is living away from home before she considers hat st.

But it's so kewl!