90% chance we'll miscarry...
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Hey OP, sorry to hear that :-(
Exactly the same thing happened to the wife and I in February, so I know how you feel. Heavy spotting and a feeling that things weren't quite right before miscarrying at around 8 weeks. Due to other reasons, which I won't go into, we weren't sure how likely or how soon she may fall pregnant again.
However, just a short time later, she's now 16 weeks pregnant again and all the scans indicate everything's fine. Couldn't be happier; a total contest to just a few months ago.
So, keep positive, be there for your wife and things will work out for you I'm sure.
Exactly the same thing happened to the wife and I in February, so I know how you feel. Heavy spotting and a feeling that things weren't quite right before miscarrying at around 8 weeks. Due to other reasons, which I won't go into, we weren't sure how likely or how soon she may fall pregnant again.
However, just a short time later, she's now 16 weeks pregnant again and all the scans indicate everything's fine. Couldn't be happier; a total contest to just a few months ago.
So, keep positive, be there for your wife and things will work out for you I'm sure.
extraT said:
Hello.
Firstly I would like to thank everyone for their kind words. We did miscarry, it was a few days after my original post, but, to be honest, I was scared to look back into this thread. Silly I know, especially after having seen everyone's supportive comments.
SWMBO is doing well, obviously we are a bit upset, but we are doing alot better.
Thank you
ET.
Hey ExtraT, Firstly I would like to thank everyone for their kind words. We did miscarry, it was a few days after my original post, but, to be honest, I was scared to look back into this thread. Silly I know, especially after having seen everyone's supportive comments.
SWMBO is doing well, obviously we are a bit upset, but we are doing alot better.
Thank you
ET.
Really feel for you- we had something very similar. Miscarry at 7 weeks- was about 3 years ago.
Are you testing regularly? can i suggest you stop? the chances of a miscarriage in the first 5-6 weeks are very very high, andit may be better not to consider your self pregnant- you are "potentially" pregnant whilst your body decides if it has a set of cells that are even worth developing into a pregnancy.
If you stop testing you can easily go 6-7 weeks between periods, and at 8 weeks you can still get bleedthrough- we had 2 episodes in our curent pregnancy and everything is absolutely fine at 28 weeks.
Guess what i'm saying in a roundabout way, is to take the pressure off yourselves, forget you are "trying", stop checking, just get on with life. Give it 9 months of this and see what happens.
The chances are you'll be a. much much happier and b. pregnant.
it worked for us anyway!
PugwasHDJ80 said:
Hey ExtraT,
Really feel for you- we had something very similar. Miscarry at 7 weeks- was about 3 years ago.
Are you testing regularly? can i suggest you stop? the chances of a miscarriage in the first 5-6 weeks are very very high, andit may be better not to consider your self pregnant- you are "potentially" pregnant whilst your body decides if it has a set of cells that are even worth developing into a pregnancy.
If you stop testing you can easily go 6-7 weeks between periods, and at 8 weeks you can still get bleedthrough- we had 2 episodes in our curent pregnancy and everything is absolutely fine at 28 weeks.
Guess what i'm saying in a roundabout way, is to take the pressure off yourselves, forget you are "trying", stop checking, just get on with life. Give it 9 months of this and see what happens.
The chances are you'll be a. much much happier and b. pregnant.
it worked for us anyway!
This is good advice.Really feel for you- we had something very similar. Miscarry at 7 weeks- was about 3 years ago.
Are you testing regularly? can i suggest you stop? the chances of a miscarriage in the first 5-6 weeks are very very high, andit may be better not to consider your self pregnant- you are "potentially" pregnant whilst your body decides if it has a set of cells that are even worth developing into a pregnancy.
If you stop testing you can easily go 6-7 weeks between periods, and at 8 weeks you can still get bleedthrough- we had 2 episodes in our curent pregnancy and everything is absolutely fine at 28 weeks.
Guess what i'm saying in a roundabout way, is to take the pressure off yourselves, forget you are "trying", stop checking, just get on with life. Give it 9 months of this and see what happens.
The chances are you'll be a. much much happier and b. pregnant.
it worked for us anyway!
Life Saab Itch said:
Sorry to hear that OP.
We miscarried with our first pregnancy, we were devastated but if I could make a point, it would be that it is better to have happened early in the pregnancy than later on.
Absolutely, we had a still born twin at 34 weeks coming up on 4 years ago and I still struggle with it.We miscarried with our first pregnancy, we were devastated but if I could make a point, it would be that it is better to have happened early in the pregnancy than later on.
SBDJ said:
Life Saab Itch said:
Sorry to hear that OP.
We miscarried with our first pregnancy, we were devastated but if I could make a point, it would be that it is better to have happened early in the pregnancy than later on.
Absolutely, we had a still born twin at 34 weeks coming up on 4 years ago and I still struggle with it.We miscarried with our first pregnancy, we were devastated but if I could make a point, it would be that it is better to have happened early in the pregnancy than later on.
OP, that's such bad news...I really feel for you. Best of luck going forward though, stay positive if you can.
Similar happened to us, miscarriage at 10 weeks which was sudden, painful for Mrs P and hits like an emotional freight train when the reality sets in.
It really helps to know how common it is (you suddenly find out this, and worse, has happened to families and friends) and to understand this one was just not meant to be.
A miscarriage is also no indication of future success, we have had two great kids since this, although I didn't really relax until i was physically counting their fingers & toes in the delivery room!
Good luck and enjoy the trying bit!
It really helps to know how common it is (you suddenly find out this, and worse, has happened to families and friends) and to understand this one was just not meant to be.
A miscarriage is also no indication of future success, we have had two great kids since this, although I didn't really relax until i was physically counting their fingers & toes in the delivery room!
Good luck and enjoy the trying bit!
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