Effing cancer is an effing effer, frankly

[johnxjsc1985]

I think or rather I cant imagine anyone who isn't touched directly or otherwise by Cancer. Its so awful to read about how much people suffer either directly or by supporting a loved one. I can only say lots of us are thinking of you and wish you well.
I seem to have been surrounded by the fkin thing these past 10 years or so and even now my Boating mate is on his second round of chemo in the past two years for Lung Cancer. Reading about that young child is just so depressing how on earth will the poor child's family cope and why oh why do the feckless fkers who have no idea of life's value and worth never seem to suffer

[rs4al]

PomBstard said:

Not sure if you've found this yet, but my Mum thought those at Penny Brohn, out by the old Ham Green Hospital were great...

https://www.pennybrohn.org.uk

Worth a visit

Thanks Pom and everybody else who replied. We got the diagnosis of stage three ovarian cancer this Wednesday, still in shock.

I really would like to raise some money, to give me some sort of goal over this year but have no idea which charity.

[Mrs Muttleysnoop]

rs4al said:

Thanks Pom and everybody else who replied. We got the diagnosis of stage three ovarian cancer this Wednesday, still in shock.

I really would like to raise some money, to give me some sort of goal over this year but have no idea which charity.

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Ovarian Cancer Charities - Target Ovarian Cancer, The Eve Appeal, or Ovacome.


Just a suggestion, why not raise money for your local Oncology department at the hospital which with be looking after your wife.


My Oncologist told me not to google Ovarian Cancer stages.


If possible have days out and things to look forward to as that can help during the dark days.


Thank you for the update and wishing you both my very best wishes.

[PomBstard]

rs4al said:

PomBstard said:

Not sure if you've found this yet, but my Mum thought those at Penny Brohn, out by the old Ham Green Hospital were great...

https://www.pennybrohn.org.uk

Worth a visit

Thanks Pom and everybody else who replied. We got the diagnosis of stage three ovarian cancer this Wednesday, still in shock.

I really would like to raise some money, to give me some sort of goal over this year but have no idea which charity.

Sorry to read that. My Mum's was suspected ovarian, but actually found in one of the Fallopian tubes. The people at Penny Brohn really were excellent, and if you want to raise money then you might think its a worthwhile place to which to donate. Otherwise, as has already been said, those that will look after your partner are going to be very worthy recipients. For all its bad press, the public health system worked well for my mum with regards to oncology in Bristol.

Wishing you all the best.

[bigandclever]

Well, here we are. After taking my hard-drinking, heavy-smoking Dad a couple of years ago with lung cancer, the is having a go at my tee-total, no vices at all Mum now with breast cancer. Mammogram a couple of weeks ago,diagnosis yesterday, op next week and a course of radio to look forward to. F ucking B OLLOCKS!

And, because I'm a deeply selfish human being, I'm thinking I might be a bit fked myself, genetically

[Darlo 1]

Just lost my mum tonight to cancer, was with her at the end, peaceful and in no pain as far as we could tell, gonna miss her so much just numb now.

[AJB88]

Darlo 1 said:

Just lost my mum tonight to cancer, was with her at the end, peaceful and in no pain as far as we could tell, gonna miss her so much just numb now.

Very sorry for your loss! I was with my dad at the end last year (he was 54) and I feel better that I was there at the end (something id been scared of for a long time).

I'd like to say it gets easier with time but so far I'm afraid it doesn't but look back on the happy times.

[johnxjsc1985]

all you can ask for is to be there with them and for them not to suffer. Never the less it just completely throws your world upside down.

[FocusRS3]

AJB88 said:

Very sorry for your loss! I was with my dad at the end last year (he was 54) and I feel better that I was there at the end (something id been scared of for a long time).

I'd like to say it gets easier with time but so far I'm afraid it doesn't but look back on the happy times.

54 is just no age. My dad went at 68 but I just couldn’t imagine him not being alive at 54.

Can I ask what cancer he had?

[Peanut Gallery]

Condolences Darlo. She is at peace now, one step at a time.

I would be broken.

[FocusRS3]

Darlo 1 said:

Just lost my mum tonight to cancer, was with her at the end, peaceful and in no pain as far as we could tell, gonna miss her so much just numb now.

Sorry to hear....

[AJB88]

FocusRS3 said:

54 is just no age. My dad went at 68 but I just couldn’t imagine him not being alive at 54.

Can I ask what cancer he had?

NET Pancreatic, diagnosed initially as gallstones, then they decided to do an op to remove the tumours from pancreas, but it has spread to liver.

[motco]

Darlo 1 said:

Just lost my mum tonight to cancer, was with her at the end, peaceful and in no pain as far as we could tell, gonna miss her so much just numb now.

Very sorry to learn of your loss. Unfortunately I was not with either of my parents when they died - 45 and 32 years ago now - and I regret that but it was outside my control. Mum had metastatic breast cancer and Dad a ruptured abdominal aortic aneurism. It was a huge loss in both events and even now I miss them both. You will go through a plethora of emotions - even guilt despite none being there. Try to support your family and it will help you come to terms with it.

[Stan the Bat]

Darlo 1 said:

Just lost my mum tonight to cancer, was with her at the end, peaceful and in no pain as far as we could tell, gonna miss her so much just numb now.

The numbness is a hard thing to cope with, takes quite a time to diminish.

All the best.

[Darlo 1]

Thanks for the condolances, done the important stuff such as pension and funeral arrangements, rest of it can wait till i am ready.

[Peanut Gallery]

Just to say my city Council do a just tell once service. You just tell them, they arrange everything else.

One step at a time, look after yourself.

[FocusRS3]

AJB88 said:

NET Pancreatic, diagnosed initially as gallstones, then they decided to do an op to remove the tumours from pancreas, but it has spread to liver.

Pancreatic is the worse form seemingly

Two guys I worked with had the same.

[N7GTX]

bigandclever said:

Well, here we are. After taking my hard-drinking, heavy-smoking Dad a couple of years ago with lung cancer, the is having a go at my tee-total, no vices at all Mum now with breast cancer. Mammogram a couple of weeks ago,diagnosis yesterday, op next week and a course of radio to look forward to. F ucking B OLLOCKS!

And, because I'm a deeply selfish human being, I'm thinking I might be a bit fked myself, genetically

My mother smoked 40 a day and had breast cancer resulting in a mastectomy. She lived for 30 years.
My father never smoked or drank alcohol, was as fit as they come and being a swimming pool manger, swam every day and did fitness stuff in the gym. He got prostate cancer which killed him at 69 years. Why? Possibly genetics.

Take my parents plus my uncle on my mother's side who also had prostate cancer plus my younger brother who has prostate cancer plus 3 cousins on my dad's side who have prostate cancer plus my dad's father and grandfather who died of prostate cancer and I think it wise to be very aware of any possible genetic links. While the cause of prostate cancer is not known, it is known that having a mother with breast cancer raises the chances of getting it and then it is raised again with a brother and raised yet again with a father. It may be the real reason I got it, who knows?

In your position I would be having regular tests and check ups. You are not deeply selfish, you are being a realist.

Edited by N7GTX on Thursday 9th May 23:24

[PostHeads123]

My dad has terminal brain cancer, stopped treatment in Dec and he has gone down hill, his wife rang me this morning to say that she can no longer look after him at home and an ambulance had been called and was going to the hospice today to stay for a few days. My dad told me he didn't want to die at home but the hospice, I am being told its only for a 'few days' but I'm not sure, he told me he has had enough he has really suffered last 3 years had lung cancer first lung removed then spread to brain. When cancer patients go in to a hospice to stay is 'a few days' is that really code for 'wont be leaving', Ive also read they may provide him meds to take that might help him on his way is that true do they do that, if my dad has decided enough is enough will he be able to help himself along ? I'm 350 miles away going to drive up there once I get home from work.

[AJB88]

I'm convinced a person can help themselves without meds, my dad seemed to know about 2 hours before he was going, he kept telling us.

Pretty sure they cant give him anything to send him on his way but they will be able to give him stuff to relax and ease pain.