Effing cancer is an effing effer, frankly

Effing cancer is an effing effer, frankly

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anonymous-user

54 months

Saturday 31st August 2019
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That is what I am trying to understand, obviously the NHS is absolutely fantastic I can’t even begin to imagine the strain that everyone would be under if we also needed to fund rearming etc, but she has had so many test and with a family history of cancer I really don’t understand why it wasn’t tested for.

Is there a reliable test? Is it too expensive? What tests would be required? Etc, etc.


Tumbler

1,432 posts

166 months

Saturday 31st August 2019
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Lord.Vader said:
Is there a reliable test? Is it too expensive? What tests would be required? Etc, etc.
The only reliable test would be a scan and or transvaginal ultrasound, they would largely depend on what symptoms were given to the GP, often it’s a process of elimination, unfortunately many of the symptoms don’t present at the very start or are easily explained away by women.

Did she attend her cervical screening and mammogram?

Depending on which form of ovarian cancer she may not have had it for very long.

anonymous-user

54 months

Saturday 31st August 2019
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Thanks Tumbler, i don’t know exactly what tests she has had, rather than take her as an individual case i am trying to understand the overall process.

As you say if the symptoms have been explained away or not fully shared with her GP then ...

It is all just a bit grim at the moment, especially as we have just booked our wedding in the Bahamas for next year and we are conscious a) she may not be around or b) she won’t be able to travel.

The saddest part is the reality hasn’t set in, she believes that as the operation was successful then the cancer is ‘gone’.

Mrs Muttleysnoop

1,412 posts

184 months

Saturday 31st August 2019
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Mojooo said:
How many times do you hear about people going to the Dr over and over with a problem that then turns out to be cancer - I probably knew at least 5 people who had cancer which was caught very late.

I presume this will never be solved because the NHS cannot afford rigorous testing at an early stage for every incident.
2 1/2 years for me, hospital telling nothing wrong with me and I have to letter to prove it. Two months later after that letter diagnosed with a massive complex mass.

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Advanced Ovarian Cancer finally diagnosed. Please any woman with a leaking bladder do not take it as normal. My massive complex mass was crushing my bladder but I was told no there was NOTHING wrong with me.

Edited by Mrs Muttleysnoop on Saturday 31st August 21:19


Edited by Mrs Muttleysnoop on Saturday 31st August 21:24

ecsrobin

17,118 posts

165 months

Wednesday 23rd October 2019
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So another selfish thread resurrection from me I’m afraid.

I wrote about my father being diagnosed with bowel cancer and starting chemo back in July, the treatment didn’t work and they adjusted his chemo last month, however that stopped after a couple of sessions as it was damaging his liver and we’re advised the days were getting shorter with him.

He’s back in hospital with complications and this week plans are getting in place to move to a local hospice to see out his days however today the consultant at the hospital have said that’s the end of their care and he’s likely just to not wake one day so I assume it’s hours and days rather than days and weeks, all quite a shock.

A few things I don’t think we will ever get to do together that I was trying to plan which is upsetting but I still can’t get over how he went from squash playing for adult back in March to on his death bed in 6months.

To quote the thread “effing cancer is an effing effer, frankly”

joshcowin

6,804 posts

176 months

Thursday 24th October 2019
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FocusRS3 said:
Very sorry to hear this and yes Tumbler, well done you too and it’s great to hear
Hows it going with your partner? Did you get to the docs?

anonymous-user

54 months

Thursday 24th October 2019
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ecsrobin said:
So another selfish thread resurrection from me I’m afraid.

I wrote about my father being diagnosed with bowel cancer and starting chemo back in July, the treatment didn’t work and they adjusted his chemo last month, however that stopped after a couple of sessions as it was damaging his liver and we’re advised the days were getting shorter with him.

He’s back in hospital with complications and this week plans are getting in place to move to a local hospice to see out his days however today the consultant at the hospital have said that’s the end of their care and he’s likely just to not wake one day so I assume it’s hours and days rather than days and weeks, all quite a shock.

A few things I don’t think we will ever get to do together that I was trying to plan which is upsetting but I still can’t get over how he went from squash playing for adult back in March to on his death bed in 6months.

To quote the thread “effing cancer is an effing effer, frankly”
Really sorry to hear that, my thoughts are with you and your family.

anonymous-user

54 months

Thursday 24th October 2019
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An update from me too, girlfriends mum is starting chemo' soon, turns out she had Bowel cancer that had spread to the Ovaries, present in a percentage of Lymph nodes that were taken as a sample during surgery.

Wedding next year cancelled and scheduled for December this year, which doesn't leave us much time to plan, etc!

I can only echo the above, she was in pain / discomfort for months until she went to the hospital, repeatedly told by her GP nothing was wrong (6-9 months) ... see what happens now, she is only 58 and girlfriend is 25 ...

anonymous-user

54 months

Thursday 24th October 2019
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Lord.Vader said:
An update from me too, girlfriends mum is starting chemo' soon, turns out she had Bowel cancer that had spread to the Ovaries, present in a percentage of Lymph nodes that were taken as a sample during surgery.

Wedding next year cancelled and scheduled for December this year, which doesn't leave us much time to plan, etc!

I can only echo the above, she was in pain / discomfort for months until she went to the hospital, repeatedly told by her GP nothing was wrong (6-9 months) ... see what happens now, she is only 58 and girlfriend is 25 ...
All the best for your wedding and her treatment.

Stan the Bat

8,918 posts

212 months

Thursday 24th October 2019
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Lord.Vader said:
An update from me too, girlfriends mum is starting chemo' soon, turns out she had Bowel cancer that had spread to the Ovaries, present in a percentage of Lymph nodes that were taken as a sample during surgery.

Wedding next year cancelled and scheduled for December this year, which doesn't leave us much time to plan, etc!

I can only echo the above, she was in pain / discomfort for months until she went to the hospital, repeatedly told by her GP nothing was wrong (6-9 months) ... see what happens now, she is only 58 and girlfriend is 25 ...
I don't think much of your GP, he/she should have escalated the investigation.

When I had bowel cancer my Dr. couldn't have been more pro-active. My feet didn't touch the ground after I first visited him.

Mrs Muttleysnoop

1,412 posts

184 months

Thursday 24th October 2019
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Lord.Vader said:
An update from me too, girlfriends mum is starting chemo' soon, turns out she had Bowel cancer that had spread to the Ovaries, present in a percentage of Lymph nodes that were taken as a sample during surgery.

Wedding next year cancelled and scheduled for December this year, which doesn't leave us much time to plan, etc!

I can only echo the above, she was in pain / discomfort for months until she went to the hospital, repeatedly told by her GP nothing was wrong (6-9 months) ... see what happens now, she is only 58 and girlfriend is 25 ...
So sorry to read. Wishing your gf's mother good luck and also best wishes to you and your gf. Not an easy time for you all.

FocusRS3

3,411 posts

91 months

Thursday 24th October 2019
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Stan the Bat said:
I don't think much of your GP, he/she should have escalated the investigation.

When I had bowel cancer my Dr. couldn't have been more pro-active. My feet didn't touch the ground after I first visited him.
Clearly one of the lucky ones great news for you which you are obviously aware of

ecsrobin

17,118 posts

165 months

Monday 28th October 2019
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I thought I’d complete the story as I’ve posted a couple of updates.

Last Thursday my father was moved into a Hospice he deteriorated quite quickly over the next few days despite the excellent care of the staff and I certainly felt far more comfortable that he was in nice surroundings.

Yesterday he hardly opened his eyes and had taken a big turn for the worse. Despite plenty of pain relief occasionally it didn’t seem to work. By evening with all the family present he took his last breaths and is sadly no longer with us after a very short 7 month battle against cancer.

I’d like to share my thoughts to you all that have suffered if as a patient, relative or friend as it truly is a dreadful disease that I hadn’t encountered first hand before. The work of all the staff and the enthusiasm across NHS and charities kept everyone at ease and for anyone coming on here who gets diagnosed you really are in good hands.


Peanut Gallery

2,428 posts

110 months

Monday 28th October 2019
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No words.

Thinking of you, please remember the good times. He is at rest.

anonymous-user

54 months

Monday 28th October 2019
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So sorry for your loss.

Thoughts are with you and your family.

ruggedscotty

5,626 posts

209 months

Monday 28th October 2019
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it puts it all into perspective, it just seems that cancer is all around these days,,,,

I lost my mother to Cancer a few years ago, 2006. Then my father had cancer of the colon. they caught that early enough and cut it out, bag for a year and then reversal, doing okay now. wont be the same as before but still good quality of life and now in his 80's.

were slowly gaining on cancer but still losing too many. its a horrid disease that wrecks damage.

Mrs Muttleysnoop

1,412 posts

184 months

Monday 28th October 2019
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escrobin sorry to read always a very sad time.

ecsrobin

17,118 posts

165 months

Monday 28th October 2019
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Thank you to all for your kind words.

AJB88

12,420 posts

171 months

Monday 28th October 2019
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Very sorry to hear that!

FocusRS3

3,411 posts

91 months

Tuesday 29th October 2019
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We have a friend who has Been battling cancer of around 5yrs now.

The cancer has come back in her liver so is now preparing for another operation and was also told by her consultant to start looking at hospices.

She’s 48.....