Effing cancer is an effing effer, frankly
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millik said:
My sympathies bobski1. Am in a similar situation, Mrs had her diagnosis 31st Jan last year, gone through the opp; chemo; radio etc and all was going well.
Had the results of the final CAT scan today, what we thought was going to be “all good, see you for a check up in 4 months”, instead we found that another lymph node is now enlarged. Now waiting for a PET scan to find out exactly if it is the effing ‘C’ again or not.
At the moment I’m not sure if I want to rant; cry or punch a wall. Trying to remain positive as they are being super cautious and the node could be swollen due to a cold or anything else. Really not sure if I’ll cope with her going through this again, and then feeling guilty as her not me that will have to go through it
Sorry to hear that, it's quite a mind fHad the results of the final CAT scan today, what we thought was going to be “all good, see you for a check up in 4 months”, instead we found that another lymph node is now enlarged. Now waiting for a PET scan to find out exactly if it is the effing ‘C’ again or not.
At the moment I’m not sure if I want to rant; cry or punch a wall. Trying to remain positive as they are being super cautious and the node could be swollen due to a cold or anything else. Really not sure if I’ll cope with her going through this again, and then feeling guilty as her not me that will have to go through it
k for all. I know I just went into a JFDI zone when we went through treatment as it was a weekly course so there was no recover or break. Dr doesn't seem to think it's too much to worry about but got a hospital appointment to get it tested. Not sure how to go through it again let alone if it's worse and there is no chance of recoveryskeggysteve said:
Been told today that our 29 year old son has bowl and also possibly kidney cancer.
Apparently the the thing is to big to operate on as it could cause to much damage to stuff around the tumour.
He got married a couple of months ago, a very happy day for all especially us, his mum and dad.
Now we are just numb. There is nothing we can do.
Don't really know why I posted. Sorry.
Sorry for quoting my own post but an update.Apparently the the thing is to big to operate on as it could cause to much damage to stuff around the tumour.
He got married a couple of months ago, a very happy day for all especially us, his mum and dad.
Now we are just numb. There is nothing we can do.
Don't really know why I posted. Sorry.
He is going to die.
The treatment was going well then last month he was told that the tumour had spread.
He told us that he was now having palliative care, until tonight, having seen him today, didn't want to know want that meant.
I had a few drinks and now know. I used to be ok'ish with this sort of thing but I'm still not sure if it should be now know or know now, brain fudge, hope you understand.
Funny thing is that he seems to be taking it a lot better than us.
Me and his mum (my wife) are going down separately 2 days a week just to be with him. It just feels so little but I don't know what else we can do, just feel so helpless.
He is so calm about it, his sister, our daughter, is expecting her first baby in a couple of weeks time he is really excited about it.
Sorry for the ramble, but you lot say to post, and to be fair it does sort of help.
skeggysteve said:
Sorry for quoting my own post but an update.
He is going to die.
The treatment was going well then last month he was told that the tumour had spread.
He told us that he was now having palliative care, until tonight, having seen him today, didn't want to know want that meant.
I had a few drinks and now know. I used to be ok'ish with this sort of thing but I'm still not sure if it should be now know or know now, brain fudge, hope you understand.
Funny thing is that he seems to be taking it a lot better than us.
Me and his mum (my wife) are going down separately 2 days a week just to be with him. It just feels so little but I don't know what else we can do, just feel so helpless.
He is so calm about it, his sister, our daughter, is expecting her first baby in a couple of weeks time he is really excited about it.
Sorry for the ramble, but you lot say to post, and to be fair it does sort of help.
I don’t know what to say or how that must feel. Just know my thoughts are with you. He is going to die.
The treatment was going well then last month he was told that the tumour had spread.
He told us that he was now having palliative care, until tonight, having seen him today, didn't want to know want that meant.
I had a few drinks and now know. I used to be ok'ish with this sort of thing but I'm still not sure if it should be now know or know now, brain fudge, hope you understand.
Funny thing is that he seems to be taking it a lot better than us.
Me and his mum (my wife) are going down separately 2 days a week just to be with him. It just feels so little but I don't know what else we can do, just feel so helpless.
He is so calm about it, his sister, our daughter, is expecting her first baby in a couple of weeks time he is really excited about it.
Sorry for the ramble, but you lot say to post, and to be fair it does sort of help.
posting on here does help, do it as much as you like. Talk to friends, work colleagues, anybody who will listen, believe me it can feel like a weight lifted.
skeggysteve said:
skeggysteve said:
Been told today that our 29 year old son has bowl and also possibly kidney cancer.
Apparently the the thing is to big to operate on as it could cause to much damage to stuff around the tumour.
He got married a couple of months ago, a very happy day for all especially us, his mum and dad.
Now we are just numb. There is nothing we can do.
Don't really know why I posted. Sorry.
Sorry for quoting my own post but an update.Apparently the the thing is to big to operate on as it could cause to much damage to stuff around the tumour.
He got married a couple of months ago, a very happy day for all especially us, his mum and dad.
Now we are just numb. There is nothing we can do.
Don't really know why I posted. Sorry.
He is going to die.
The treatment was going well then last month he was told that the tumour had spread.
He told us that he was now having palliative care, until tonight, having seen him today, didn't want to know want that meant.
I had a few drinks and now know. I used to be ok'ish with this sort of thing but I'm still not sure if it should be now know or know now, brain fudge, hope you understand.
Funny thing is that he seems to be taking it a lot better than us.
Me and his mum (my wife) are going down separately 2 days a week just to be with him. It just feels so little but I don't know what else we can do, just feel so helpless.
He is so calm about it, his sister, our daughter, is expecting her first baby in a couple of weeks time he is really excited about it.
Sorry for the ramble, but you lot say to post, and to be fair it does sort of help.
skeggysteve said:
Sorry for quoting my own post but an update.
He is going to die.
The treatment was going well then last month he was told that the tumour had spread.
He told us that he was now having palliative care, until tonight, having seen him today, didn't want to know want that meant.
I had a few drinks and now know. I used to be ok'ish with this sort of thing but I'm still not sure if it should be now know or know now, brain fudge, hope you understand.
Funny thing is that he seems to be taking it a lot better than us.
Me and his mum (my wife) are going down separately 2 days a week just to be with him. It just feels so little but I don't know what else we can do, just feel so helpless.
He is so calm about it, his sister, our daughter, is expecting her first baby in a couple of weeks time he is really excited about it.
Sorry for the ramble, but you lot say to post, and to be fair it does sort of help.
As the father of a son slightly older than yours I can try to imagine how you feel, but I'm sure that my imagination falls far short of the reality. My heart goes out to you Steve.He is going to die.
The treatment was going well then last month he was told that the tumour had spread.
He told us that he was now having palliative care, until tonight, having seen him today, didn't want to know want that meant.
I had a few drinks and now know. I used to be ok'ish with this sort of thing but I'm still not sure if it should be now know or know now, brain fudge, hope you understand.
Funny thing is that he seems to be taking it a lot better than us.
Me and his mum (my wife) are going down separately 2 days a week just to be with him. It just feels so little but I don't know what else we can do, just feel so helpless.
He is so calm about it, his sister, our daughter, is expecting her first baby in a couple of weeks time he is really excited about it.
Sorry for the ramble, but you lot say to post, and to be fair it does sort of help.
skeggysteve said:
skeggysteve said:
Been told today that our 29 year old son has bowl and also possibly kidney cancer.
Apparently the the thing is to big to operate on as it could cause to much damage to stuff around the tumour.
He got married a couple of months ago, a very happy day for all especially us, his mum and dad.
Now we are just numb. There is nothing we can do.
Don't really know why I posted. Sorry.
Sorry for quoting my own post but an update.Apparently the the thing is to big to operate on as it could cause to much damage to stuff around the tumour.
He got married a couple of months ago, a very happy day for all especially us, his mum and dad.
Now we are just numb. There is nothing we can do.
Don't really know why I posted. Sorry.
He is going to die.
The treatment was going well then last month he was told that the tumour had spread.
He told us that he was now having palliative care, until tonight, having seen him today, didn't want to know want that meant.
I had a few drinks and now know. I used to be ok'ish with this sort of thing but I'm still not sure if it should be now know or know now, brain fudge, hope you understand.
Funny thing is that he seems to be taking it a lot better than us.
Me and his mum (my wife) are going down separately 2 days a week just to be with him. It just feels so little but I don't know what else we can do, just feel so helpless.
He is so calm about it, his sister, our daughter, is expecting her first baby in a couple of weeks time he is really excited about it.
Sorry for the ramble, but you lot say to post, and to be fair it does sort of help.
k, I've no idea how that must feel, I'll raise a glass to you all tonight.It's strange how stoical people can be when faced with death. I've know people who've carried on years past their prognosis living their lives a milestone at a time. I suppose no one values their time on earth more than someone who knows that time is limited.
I am very sorry for your sad news.
I am very sorry for your sad news.
skeggysteve said:
Many thanks to all who replied with such kind comments etc.
Every parents worst nightmare.I hope that, in time, the fact that you had the chance to tell him how much you love him, that he had the joy of his recent marriage and that he saw his nephew/niece will be some comfort to you - whilst he may not live out life's natural span, it sounds as if his life has been a fantastic 29 or so years with a close and loving family
Edited by ClaphamGT3 on Saturday 1st February 09:40
Joining this thread unfortunately.
Took my Mum for her biopsy results on Friday. Knew it was not going to be great when we went into the room and there was a team of various specialists waiting for us. Mouth cancer confirmed and fuller scans now required to see if it has spread to lymph nodes and beyond.
Best case scenario is a horrible operation to remove one side of her lower jaw and down into her neck - worse case if it has spread beyond the lymph nodes is no treatment likely available.
Non smoker but 71 with parkinsons so whichever way this goes it does not look great.
Life can be a real **** sometimes.
Took my Mum for her biopsy results on Friday. Knew it was not going to be great when we went into the room and there was a team of various specialists waiting for us. Mouth cancer confirmed and fuller scans now required to see if it has spread to lymph nodes and beyond.
Best case scenario is a horrible operation to remove one side of her lower jaw and down into her neck - worse case if it has spread beyond the lymph nodes is no treatment likely available.
Non smoker but 71 with parkinsons so whichever way this goes it does not look great.
Life can be a real **** sometimes.
ClaphamGT3 said:
skeggysteve said:
Many thanks to all who replied with such kind comments etc.
Every parents worst nightmare.I hope that, in time, the fact that you had the chance to tell him how much you love him, that he had the joy of his recent marriage and that he saw his nephew/niece will be some comfort to you - whilst he may not live out life's natural span, it sounds as if his life has been a fantastic 29 or so years with a close and loving family
Our thoughts are with you, skeggysteve. It could happen to any of us.
Humbling thread which I’d seen but never read until tonight
Lifelong friend with much in common was diagnosed with blood cancer three years ago and went through horrid treatment which the docs said would give him four years
Saw him last night and his counts are elevated on routine tests
He’s still well, on great form and very appreciative of the time he’s been given. The tearjerker was he has kids who are young adults and he was realistic in that one of his ambitions was to be a grandparent which he volunteered would not happen
Just not fair
Honestly don’t know why I chose to share this.
Best wishes everybody
Lifelong friend with much in common was diagnosed with blood cancer three years ago and went through horrid treatment which the docs said would give him four years
Saw him last night and his counts are elevated on routine tests
He’s still well, on great form and very appreciative of the time he’s been given. The tearjerker was he has kids who are young adults and he was realistic in that one of his ambitions was to be a grandparent which he volunteered would not happen
Just not fair
Honestly don’t know why I chose to share this.
Best wishes everybody
Jesus this is hard to write on a lot of levels. My eldest brother ie Guardian (I was orphaned at 8) has been diagnosed with stomach/lower asophogos cancer via endoscope but has enlarged lymph nodes. CT scan results are due Friday.
Bloke put himself out to raise kids that shouldn’t really have been his responsibility being in early 20’s.
We’re endebted !!
Got exposed to gas being an X-ray technician,long term Asthma being an issue. Thrown off a Vespa age 16 and later suffered chronic back issues.
An amazing human being in my life, Hope they can fix him.
Love to you all
Bloke put himself out to raise kids that shouldn’t really have been his responsibility being in early 20’s.
We’re endebted !!
Got exposed to gas being an X-ray technician,long term Asthma being an issue. Thrown off a Vespa age 16 and later suffered chronic back issues.
An amazing human being in my life, Hope they can fix him.
Love to you all
Edited by Dinlowgoon on Wednesday 5th February 01:51
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