Effing cancer is an effing effer, frankly

[Siko]

Sorry to hear that but sounds like he was given a proper send off. RIP.

[APOLO1]

theboss said:

APOLO1 said:

theboss said:

He said he had his last bit of chemo on Saturday just gone. The way I understand it, it's positive (i.e. he's still alive) but by no means out of the woods and it's too early to judge whether the transplant will be a long term success. I believe when he goes home he will still be in and out of hospital for some time with 3 months / 100 days being an important milestone. He's weak and vulnerable to infections and illnesses meanwhile.

I was just sending him some M5 autobahn footage from the past few weeks and his Mum tells me he talks about cars in every conversation, so I'm glad his enthusiasm is helping him through this. I've promised him a proper Euro road trip as soon as he's well enough.

Thanks for asking.

Sounds like hes doing well, my wife was in Hospital for 22 days after her Stem Cell Transplant. It took this time for the bloods to build up something of a immune system. Yes the first 100 days are important milestone along with as you point out hes going to require regular blood tests to keep an eye on things. When he comes home his Temp will need to be watched if its goes above 38 he will have to go back in for IV Drugs due risk of infection, he will be given a Red Card with an Emergency no to call if his temp hits this. I would keep a couple of good quality Temp Gauges to hand at home.

Hopefully he will go on to enjoy a long remission.

Good Luck

I'm very sorry to say that despite appearing initially successful, the remission following my nephew's stem cell transplant in November was short-lived. He lost his 15-month long fight with AML last Wednesday whereafter his wake and funeral followed immediately in the Irish tradition. His send-off was befitting a lad who loved cars and machines with an assortment of performance and drift cars, bikes, tractors, HGVs all joining in the procession. The scene outside the churchyard was akin to a PH meet combined with an agricultural show. It was incredibly heart-warming to see so many people from his community pay their respects. I got home last night, utterly drained, but full of pride for his life, character and fighting spirit.

Damn this fking disease.

Very sorry to read this,
I was thinking about how hes getting on recently. Sincere condolences to you and your family a this time.

[Scrump]

After reading this thread for many years I now find myself needing to share here.

Today I sat next to my father as he was told he has liver cancer. He will be 80 in a few months and has been the best father I could have ever asked for.

If Pistonheads had been around when he was younger then he would have fitted right in. Before he was married he was into motorbikes and fast cars, met my mum and settled down a bit. His need for speed moved on to single seat circuit racing and hill climbs, which he had to give up as the family grew when I was joined by younger sisters.
He still loved his cars and had an E type jag when I was young, I remember him with various fast German cars such as 450sel and 500se Mercedes, Audi 200 Turbo Quattro, M535i, 2002 Tii. Last year he wanted a new car, thought he should get an SUV but after a few test drives decided they were too boring so bought an A3 2.0 tfsi cabriolet.

The NHS has not been good with this recent diagnosis, he had a scan 6 months ago but despite it showing ‘something concerning’ he was never called back. Recently he went to A&E as his symptoms were getting much worse. He was admitted immediately and various tests undertaken.
He was discharged and his GP told him ‘Good news, it isn’t cancer’.
I don’t know why they said that as it is cancer.
He is not well enough at the moment for any treatment, if he can regain some strength then they will try some targeted chemo, otherwise there is little they can do. Even the chemo will only slow things down.

If you are still reading then thanks. Writing this post has been difficult and yet also really helpful as I need to try to come to terms with the news.

Sorry for the long post.

[CrgT16]

Sorry to hear that Scrump. Treasure all the good memories you have, he seems fun!

[loafer123]

Difficult times, Scrump.

Many of us have been there, so if you need to vent, we are here.

Make the most of the time you have and keep the good times in the forefront of your mind when things are tough.

[Scrump]

Thanks chaps

[Siko]

Sorry to hear that Scrump - my Grandmother had a very similar experience and it still chafes even now 30 years later. A chum is an NHS Surgeon and amazingly also had a very similar experience when he had cancer - he knew something was wrong but getting it diagnosed, even as a Surgeon himself, was a nightmare.

It is no comfort of course but try and spend as much quality time as possible with him as you can, it certainly sounds like he has had a full life and has much to be proud of. It is a horrible disease (I was treated for it myself last year) but when it is diagnosed there is a lot they can do to at least help with pain relief etc. I am truly sorry for your dad's diagnosis and wish you both the best.

[theboss]

Polly Grigora said:

theboss said:

I'm very sorry to say that despite appearing initially successful, the remission following my nephew's stem cell transplant in November was short-lived. He lost his 15-month long fight with AML last Wednesday whereafter his wake and funeral followed immediately in the Irish tradition. His send-off was befitting a lad who loved cars and machines with an assortment of performance and drift cars, bikes, tractors, HGVs all joining in the procession. The scene outside the churchyard was akin to a PH meet combined with an agricultural show. It was incredibly heart-warming to see so many people from his community pay their respects. I got home last night, utterly drained, but full of pride for his life, character and fighting spirit.

Damn this fking disease.

Too difficult to keep up with all posts here

Sad news, how old ?

He was diagnosed at 19, and 3 months away from his 21st when he passed away.

[Peanut Gallery]

Treasure all the time you can with your dad Scrump, and remember the good times.

Don't forget to look after yourself as well - we are all here for you whenever.

[Prolex-UK]

Scrump said:

After reading this thread for many years I now find myself needing to share here.

Today I sat next to my father as he was told he has liver cancer. He will be 80 in a few months and has been the best father I could have ever asked for.

If Pistonheads had been around when he was younger then he would have fitted right in. Before he was married he was into motorbikes and fast cars, met my mum and settled down a bit. His need for speed moved on to single seat circuit racing and hill climbs, which he had to give up as the family grew when I was joined by younger sisters.
He still loved his cars and had an E type jag when I was young, I remember him with various fast German cars such as 450sel and 500se Mercedes, Audi 200 Turbo Quattro, M535i, 2002 Tii. Last year he wanted a new car, thought he should get an SUV but after a few test drives decided they were too boring so bought an A3 2.0 tfsi cabriolet.

The NHS has not been good with this recent diagnosis, he had a scan 6 months ago but despite it showing ‘something concerning’ he was never called back. Recently he went to A&E as his symptoms were getting much worse. He was admitted immediately and various tests undertaken.
He was discharged and his GP told him ‘Good news, it isn’t cancer’.
I don’t know why they said that as it is cancer.
He is not well enough at the moment for any treatment, if he can regain some strength then they will try some targeted chemo, otherwise there is little they can do. Even the chemo will only slow things down.

If you are still reading then thanks. Writing this post has been difficult and yet also really helpful as I need to try to come to terms with the news.

Sorry for the long post.

Sorry to hear this scrump

[CharlesdeGaulle]

Sorry to hear the news Scrump, very sad. You'll know this and others have said it, but make the most of the time he has left and treasure the happy memories.

[Scrump]

Thanks to all who have posted, I really appreciate it. PH is not perfect but on the whole the people here are amazing when it counts.
After a restless night’s sleep I spent this afternoon with dad, he is coming to terms with it amazingly calmly. I don’t want to bring him down by letting him know how worried I really am, so this thread is a welcome vent for my thoughts.
Spending time together is what we both want and today we decided to go to Thruxton to watch the racing over the coronation weekend, hopefully found some camping nearby so we can each take our van and make a proper weekend if it.

[summit7]

My father in law passed with cancer this year, he walked into hospital mid January without major warning, funeral was a few weeks ago. He was aged 78, his wife died at 56 after 18 months suffering with Leukemia. My father died of throat cancer, my mother two goes at breast cancer but still here.

Scrump so so sorry for you. Everyone else who are going through life with a cancer diagnosis or have loved ones diagnosed please be kind to yourselves. There is no easy way. Take time for your loved ones and yourself. The demands of the outside world can be picked up later, time for yourself and those that you love is really the most important.

[Mr Magooagain]

Scrump said:

Thanks to all who have posted, I really appreciate it. PH is not perfect but on the whole the people here are amazing when it counts.
After a restless night’s sleep I spent this afternoon with dad, he is coming to terms with it amazingly calmly. I don’t want to bring him down by letting him know how worried I really am, so this thread is a welcome vent for my thoughts.
Spending time together is what we both want and today we decided to go to Thruxton to watch the racing over the coronation weekend, hopefully found some camping nearby so we can each take our van and make a proper weekend if it.

Very sorry to read this Scrump,wishing you all the best chap. Have a great weekend with your dad.

[Catastrophic Poo]

Scrump said:

Thanks to all who have posted, I really appreciate it. PH is not perfect but on the whole the people here are amazing when it counts.
After a restless night’s sleep I spent this afternoon with dad, he is coming to terms with it amazingly calmly. I don’t want to bring him down by letting him know how worried I really am, so this thread is a welcome vent for my thoughts.
Spending time together is what we both want and today we decided to go to Thruxton to watch the racing over the coronation weekend, hopefully found some camping nearby so we can each take our van and make a proper weekend if it.

Sorry to hear, but a great idea for how to pass the weekend

[Scrump]

Thanks again for all the supportive posts. Some better news is that dad’s latest blood test is better than the ones taken whilst he was in hospital. If his recovery continues he may be strong enough for the chemo (maybe in a few weeks time).

[GT3Manthey]

Scrump said:

Thanks again for all the supportive posts. Some better news is that dad’s latest blood test is better than the ones taken whilst he was in hospital. If his recovery continues he may be strong enough for the chemo (maybe in a few weeks time).

All the best for you father Scrump keep positive

[lrdisco]

Polly Grigora said:

Going back several years I wouldn't be posting the following

We're all now far more switched on when cancer is mentioned in conversation or being diagnosed as having it and suffering from it

What's hit me very hard recently is in now knowing that all treatment couldn't give more life

If I could have been living a few months ahead of my wife (hindsight) ....................lost for words, the treatment is worse than the curse but it must be done, there's always hope and always a chance of being cured or getting more out of life for a few years

All of a sudden time is everything

There was no way I could possibly discuss my future with my wife while she was going through hell, I had to be so fking strong during so many difficult times and it is now that I need her more than ever to help me get through this.................

Right now this moment I am crying, 3 months have passed and they've been like living in a world without meaning

8 months ago I didn't care anymore about myself, I'd already spent much of my past time helping to fight the cancer with Jenny and she was all that mattered

Time does help, I know this, father.....dad died 3 years after being diagnosed and operated on for cancer of the colon

Very close friend Dave, died in hospital at the age of 48.....throat cancer......I phoned Dave the evening he was rushed to A&E, his wife answered the phone, told me he was bleeding more than usual from the throat.....next time I met him was carrying his coffin

Jenny wanted to die at home and she did, witnessing my loved ones demise has destroyed me, Jennys daughter and I cleaned her, dressed her and said our last goodbyes

Two weeks before Jenny died she asked me if she was dying, alI that could be done was to explain to her that food mattered much and that she had to eat as much as possible, didn't know that she was dying and have always been honest with her, she knew that, I did everything I could to get food into her, try and build her up, get some weight back on her, If I knew she was dying I would have told her

amongst all of the above came much Fentanyl

What Jenny did leave me with near the end of her life was her holding her arms out asking me to cuddle her, I cuddled her as much as could be done without hurting her, I kissed Jenny all over her face and told her that I loved her so much.....soon gone after that....2 days of nothing

My heart goes out to you. If I can do anything please just send me a message.

[Scrump]

Polly, reading your post has brought tears to my eyes. You looked after Jenny right to the end and you should be proud of that.
Stay strong and look after yourself.

[motco]

Scrump said:

Polly, reading your post has brought tears to my eyes.

Likewise; I cannot read what I'm typing.