Really depressed
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Don't beat yourself up about that. Beds can be very hard to leave.
Depression is much more common than you might think and you are not alone in feeling like this.
I could get up and dressed but would refuse to see anyone and often refuse to leave the flat. Outside of work my social interactions were mainly to collect takeaways at the door, and if i felt really good i might actually manage getting to the shop to buy stuff i needed.
Arrange to see the GP, tell him how you are actually feeling, let the system start working and allow yourself to get help. It's worth it.
Depression is much more common than you might think and you are not alone in feeling like this.
I could get up and dressed but would refuse to see anyone and often refuse to leave the flat. Outside of work my social interactions were mainly to collect takeaways at the door, and if i felt really good i might actually manage getting to the shop to buy stuff i needed.
Arrange to see the GP, tell him how you are actually feeling, let the system start working and allow yourself to get help. It's worth it.
Robster said:
Never thought I would be posting on an Internet forum , thanks to beryone whoses listened , 3 days ago I just didn't turn up at work, couldn't handle it anymore, will lose my job as I haven't been in contact but for some reason I'm ok with that
I dont know what you do for work but most big companies have occupational health options and wellbeing programmes that may be able to help you. You need to get in touch with your employer and just tell them what is happening. You will find them more sympathetic to your situation than you think in most cases.I haven't explained very well, since. Being diagnosed I've been put on pills in fact they doubled the dose a few months back, work know I suffer, but recently I just can't cope even with the simple tasks and I know I'm in danger of being performance managed , I feel so low , just feel like there's. Nothing to fight for,
I doubt your employer can dismiss you for 3 days off due to illness. The figure of 7 days for sickness self-certification springs to mind. Do you think you can get to your Doctor and extend that? Bed is a refuge that's hard to resist. Have you got any close friends who can come round and chat? I think talking to someone, anyone, in real life is essential as your next step.
They might be able to dismiss me for not following procedure e.g. Not informing them about my abscene , I've ignored phone calls, I'm in such a dark place I just don't care, scared about not ha king a job but should have 6 weeks plus to find something else, just can't handle the pressure there anymore , don't know if that makes any sense , i can barlely text this , I'm going to go to gp tomorrow
Perhaps your Doctor can sign you off further and then you'll just need to send in their letter? It's tough as hell to make those phone calls to work, ignoring them is worse in the end though and will weigh on your mind. All the tiny bad things must feel like such obstacles and impossible to overcome, that's why it's important to talk to friends/family, they may just help bring in a bit of normal perspective again. Have you spoken to your children recently, do you have regular contact? If so, try not to let that slip. Try and get up and out tomorrow even for a short stroll. Don't give up.
Robster said:
They might be able to dismiss me for not following procedure e.g. Not informing them about my abscene , I've ignored phone calls, I'm in such a dark place I just don't care, scared about not ha king a job but should have 6 weeks plus to find something else, just can't handle the pressure there anymore , don't know if that makes any sense , i can barlely text this , I'm going to go to gp tomorrow
Hi mate,Very sorry to hear how low you are feeling but it takes huge guts to ask for help.
You obviously have been to your doctor and are on tablets.
How long have you been on these tablets?
If say six Months then go back to your doctor and ask for another antidepressant as these obviously are not working for you.
In the past I was on seven different tablets until I found one which actually worked.
Many I tried made me feel worse and in one case I could not leave my bed as my feelings were so horrific. I too was extremely low and even had thoughts like yours.
The one that worked for me was Efexor XL which are Venlafaxine tablets.
Now the doctors are under pressure to prescribe a cheaper brand of Venlafaxine but do not accept these are there are differences whatever they say.
The Efexor within a week made me feel alive again so whatever you do go back and ask for new tablet to try whether these or not.
Now I am out the other side I can not imagine the pain I would have done to my child had I go through with the thoughts I was having.
Please stay strong and message if you want any help
t parade and are paying the price . Hope you have a decent GP , maybe he could speak to your HR and explain circumstances . Here for you Only you know what the right decision for you and your health is, but just be sure that the depression isn't making the decision for you.
Do you think you would be able to stick it out and look for something else while you're still there?
It's hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel when you're low, but it's always there. Keep strong, now is the time to be selfish and make decisions that can lead you to a happier future.
Have you tried counselling?
Do you think you would be able to stick it out and look for something else while you're still there?
It's hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel when you're low, but it's always there. Keep strong, now is the time to be selfish and make decisions that can lead you to a happier future.
Have you tried counselling?
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