Death of my daughter

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jontysafe

2,351 posts

179 months

Thursday 26th October 2017
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When we lost pippin with Anencephaly it was me that couldn’t say goodbye and my wife was far stronger.
It’s changed us and her as I’m sure this will change you and your wife in ways sometimes that you won’t expect.
What surprised me is how much stronger we are as a family. My wife having a little daughter 14 months ago finally lifted a veil of grief from her.
Just to say you’re in my thoughts 6500 miles away in Kuala Lumpur.

RRLover

450 posts

203 months

Thursday 26th October 2017
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Massive hug.
Its a terrible thing to have to bury your own.
Keep strong

garythesign

2,094 posts

89 months

Thursday 26th October 2017
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I have just read the whole thread and cannot believe the sh*t that life throws at some people.

OP. I really feel for you. I hope you, your wife and young daughter have better times in the future

This afternoon I am taking my dogs out for a walk which begins at a graveyard.

I am in no way religious but will think of you

Prizam

2,346 posts

142 months

Friday 27th October 2017
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Tears in my eyes reading this. My wife is currently pregnant with twins. I cannot even remotely comprehend what you're going through.



oldbanger

4,316 posts

239 months

Sunday 29th October 2017
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Op my thoughts are with you and your wife. Such a hard thing to have to do, bury your own children.

sc0tt

18,054 posts

202 months

Sunday 29th October 2017
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My thoughts are with you both.

xyz123

998 posts

130 months

Wednesday 1st November 2017
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I am so so sorry to hear about this. Not sure if you believe in these things but I pray God gives you strength.

5 years ago We were expecting identical twins and had to make a choice to lose one of the two at 21 weeks pregnancy. It was painful experience but no where near what you are going through... Time is a great healer...

papa3

1,416 posts

188 months

Wednesday 1st November 2017
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Absolutely awful OP.

Thoughts are with you.

rswift

1,179 posts

176 months

Thursday 2nd November 2017
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Just found this thread TVR1.

We lost our first born boy, Hugo, still born 2 weeks after full term.

The thoughts that no parent should have to bury their own children rings strong. There is no right or wrong about dealing with this, and as someone else said, it is "Okay not to be Okay"

It really does put the rest of life problems into perspective, and now 7 years later I sometimes have to remind myself this.

We talk about him a lot, he now has a younger sister, she sometimes floors random people when she glibbly tells strangers that she had a brother but he died. But it's all ok, they are a big part of your life, and will be for ever.

Take each day x


RIP Jessica & Daisy, you'll never be forgotten

superlightr

12,856 posts

264 months

Thursday 2nd November 2017
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TVR1 said:
'Why me Sarge?'

'Cos you're here son, cos you're here'
So very sorry to hear of this for you. Yes the above quote pretty much sums up some things in life and death.


I came across a quote which is helping me " When your going through hell - keep going" Winston Churchill.

TVR1

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5,463 posts

226 months

Friday 3rd November 2017
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Thank you for all of your replies.

It's strange how your mind works.

Last night, I had a strange dream. It was one of those living dreams.

For some reason, I arrived at a maternity ward and was in the Widvifes room.

They had boxed up the stillporns and little babies in those little plastic Tupperware containers that we all use. But I noticed that some of them were still alive.

I tried to get to them all and save them. I couldn't. They even asked me 'why don't you help me live?'

Screaming in my dreams and getting them out. No one helped me.


Obviously, it was a dream but if any of you know someone who has lost a child, forgive them moments of anger. It's really hard work.


TVR1

Original Poster:

5,463 posts

226 months

Sunday 3rd July 2022
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It doesn’t become better. Lights out from TVR1 see you all in another life.

Taita

7,609 posts

204 months

Sunday 3rd July 2022
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Hey dude hope you are all well, drop me a PM or call if you want to chat anything through, it isn't a burden or a chore - would love to help smile

thebraketester

14,248 posts

139 months

Sunday 3rd July 2022
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TVR1 said:
It doesn’t become better. Lights out from TVR1 see you all in another life.
Pick up the phone. Call the Samaritans on 116 123. Please.

monthou

4,584 posts

51 months

Sunday 3rd July 2022
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thebraketester said:
TVR1 said:
It doesn’t become better. Lights out from TVR1 see you all in another life.
Pick up the phone. Call the Samaritans on 116 123. Please.
That. Please.
I remember the utter despair we were in 20 years ago. It got better for us - you never forget though.

Audicab

481 posts

248 months

Sunday 3rd July 2022
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Hey fella, I know it probably seems like it won't be it really will. I understand what you've been through and am happy to talk if you need, please reach out to somebody.

LordHaveMurci

12,045 posts

170 months

Sunday 3rd July 2022
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thebraketester said:
TVR1 said:
It doesn’t become better. Lights out from TVR1 see you all in another life.
Pick up the phone. Call the Samaritans on 116 123. Please.
Please, please do this.

Please.

Blenkiboy

94 posts

109 months

Sunday 3rd July 2022
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It can get better. There must be better days amongst the many terrible ones. Grief is a long process so please don’t give up. There’s help everywhere if you want it. You’re not alone and you stepping off will devastate more people than you can comprehend. Call The Samaratin for starters, or go to A&E. Give a friend or family member a call but don’t do anything irreversible. Please.

crofty1984

15,873 posts

205 months

Sunday 3rd July 2022
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Please speak to someone. There are better non-final ways to deal with the bad times.

ClaphamGT3

11,306 posts

244 months

Sunday 3rd July 2022
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As others have said, pick up the phone and talk to someone.

There are ways through this.