Death of my daughter
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From one dad who lost a daughter to another I am so desperately sorry.
There is no one right way to grieve, give yourself permission now to do whatever works for you.
You may not feel ready for it yet and that's totally okay but The Compassionate Friends are really very good - they will be there if/when you need them.
A very wise friend introduced me to the idea of learning to be okay with the fact that you'll never be quite okay again: sounds kinda bleak but if you're waiting until everything feels right, you'll destroy yourself. Any parenthood changes a man and so does any loss; those changes don't stack, they multiply.
I promise it will not stay as raw as it is right now. I remember being really shocked that the grief physically hurt - two years in that particular agony is just a memory. I wondered if it would ever stop, at first.
All the very best to you and your wife.
There is no one right way to grieve, give yourself permission now to do whatever works for you.
You may not feel ready for it yet and that's totally okay but The Compassionate Friends are really very good - they will be there if/when you need them.
A very wise friend introduced me to the idea of learning to be okay with the fact that you'll never be quite okay again: sounds kinda bleak but if you're waiting until everything feels right, you'll destroy yourself. Any parenthood changes a man and so does any loss; those changes don't stack, they multiply.
I promise it will not stay as raw as it is right now. I remember being really shocked that the grief physically hurt - two years in that particular agony is just a memory. I wondered if it would ever stop, at first.
All the very best to you and your wife.
Nigel Worc's said:
Life is just a s
t sometimes mate, my utmost condolences.
My daughter number two was a twin but the other didn't make it.
This is the same situation.t sometimes mate, my utmost condolences.My daughter number two was a twin but the other didn't make it.
My wife is in for a few days to try and save the other one. It's touch and go, so we'll see what happens.
Sorry for a specific reply and thank you all for your thoughts. I didn't mean to pick just one response.
It's been a tough 48 hours.
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