Death of my daughter
Discussion
Thanks again to you all. Yep, it's a difficult photograph. I can assure you though, that its more intense being there.
Perhaps the reason I posted the pic is that it's now saved in interneland for ever. There isn't a birth certificate for her. Nothing that says she was here.
It's important for us that her (2year old) sister and the other twin will be able to see her one day.
She won't be forgotten.
Perhaps the reason I posted the pic is that it's now saved in interneland for ever. There isn't a birth certificate for her. Nothing that says she was here.
It's important for us that her (2year old) sister and the other twin will be able to see her one day.
She won't be forgotten.
Ah mate 
What can I (or anyone) say? Truly feel for you deep in the pit of my stomach.
She looks so beautiful and it's amazing that you at least got to hold her and tell her how much she meant to you and that will never be forgotten
I hope you and your wife find the strength you need over the coming tough times.
What can I (or anyone) say? Truly feel for you deep in the pit of my stomach.
She looks so beautiful and it's amazing that you at least got to hold her and tell her how much she meant to you and that will never be forgotten
I hope you and your wife find the strength you need over the coming tough times.
Edited by Butter Face on Sunday 9th April 18:16
Firstly, sincere and deep felt condolences for your loss. I hope you and your wife can find strength, from wherever.
Secondly, I don't feel any apologies are needed for the photo. She is indeed beautiful, and as you say, this action is storing her image forevermore on the www this day forth.
Secondly, I don't feel any apologies are needed for the photo. She is indeed beautiful, and as you say, this action is storing her image forevermore on the www this day forth.
Thanks again to you all.
I'd never believe before, that there wasn't enough time during the day. It's only Sunday night and it seems like weeks since Friday.
I'm pretty much going with it at the moment. I'm ok. But I know what's coming, emotionally. Been there before. For the time being, I'm incredibly priveledged to spend the time outside hospital with my 2 year old, that I wouldn't have had.
Watching a child grow and talk to you is incredible.
On a slightly lower note, it seems that the remaining twin won't last past 7 days. That's the critical point. There's nothing at all wrong with her and that's the sad thing, it's just that her life support system (my beautiful wife) may decide to kick her out, no matter what we do.
If this couldn't get any worse, they decided to pop the consent form in front of my wife this evening. (She has an infection, dosed up with iv antibiotics)
She's also been moved to a 'really nice room'. Every one 'is checking on her every 10 minutes' they are so kind.
When they do that, you know there is trouble ahead.
I've been in enough hospitals in my life and understabd that there is no happiness coming out of the private room. It's all about reading between the lines.
Having said that, I've come to realise 2 things.
The National Health Service, whilst it has its critics, looks after you.
Secondly, once you get beyond the Nigerian Mafia, you will be like family.
For the first time in my life, I really don't want everyone to greet me and say hello. They now know why I'm there. They know (as I do, in my reality) that things probably won't turn out well.
But they are still kind and gentle.
Oh, just got the call.
Off for a while. Thank you and see you later.
I'd never believe before, that there wasn't enough time during the day. It's only Sunday night and it seems like weeks since Friday.
I'm pretty much going with it at the moment. I'm ok. But I know what's coming, emotionally. Been there before. For the time being, I'm incredibly priveledged to spend the time outside hospital with my 2 year old, that I wouldn't have had.
Watching a child grow and talk to you is incredible.
On a slightly lower note, it seems that the remaining twin won't last past 7 days. That's the critical point. There's nothing at all wrong with her and that's the sad thing, it's just that her life support system (my beautiful wife) may decide to kick her out, no matter what we do.
If this couldn't get any worse, they decided to pop the consent form in front of my wife this evening. (She has an infection, dosed up with iv antibiotics)
She's also been moved to a 'really nice room'. Every one 'is checking on her every 10 minutes' they are so kind.
When they do that, you know there is trouble ahead.
I've been in enough hospitals in my life and understabd that there is no happiness coming out of the private room. It's all about reading between the lines.
Having said that, I've come to realise 2 things.
The National Health Service, whilst it has its critics, looks after you.
Secondly, once you get beyond the Nigerian Mafia, you will be like family.
For the first time in my life, I really don't want everyone to greet me and say hello. They now know why I'm there. They know (as I do, in my reality) that things probably won't turn out well.
But they are still kind and gentle.
Oh, just got the call.
Off for a while. Thank you and see you later.
thebraketester said:
A very emotive photograph. We often take life for granted. Its moments like this that make you realise how fragile our lives were as babies and still are as adults.
May she rest in peace. Thought are with you all.
I agree.May she rest in peace. Thought are with you all.
I think it's good you posted the photo. I'm not usually one for soppy moments about children but I genuinely feel awful for you but you seem to be in good spirits all things considered.
Stay close with your Wife. You will both need each other for the foreseeable future.
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