Do I have a drinking problem?

[Ascayman]

washingitagain said:

J4CKO said:

...can go out with the lads and have eight pints over an evening.

That would be me feeling rough for at least 24 hours!

Yet i could (and have) done that then been on a 10k run the next morning, people are different...

OP you do have a problem and that problem is a stressed wife that didnt take kindly to you kicking back and therefore not helping out. Having young children is one of the most stressful things that happen in our lives and particularly for women.

Send her to a spa for the day / eve and spend some quality time with your kid you will both enjoy and benefit from it. Then when she gets back tell her to stop being so dramatic

[otolith]

Ascayman said:

spend some quality time with your kid

The kid is 3 months old. "Quality Time" means "He's Asleep"

[Muzzer79]

OP - doesn't look like you have a problem with drinking.

If you were drinking for a reason I'd be concerned and the Port thing isn't great, but you seem to have a handle on it.

Looks like

a) Your wife was (rightly) hacked off at you getting hammered and not helping and she was struggling a little anyway (since confirmed)

b) If she had a relative with a proper alcohol problem, don't forget she's seen the effects of that first hand and is therefore probably sensitive to people drinking around her. This is not uncommon.

[marcosgt]

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[rossub]

Hoofy said:

John Laverick said:

Btw I worked it out ... it was 18.5 units not 22

It's still about 4-5 weeks' worth of drink for me.

Not sure why you felt the need to post that. Are you trying to preach to people that they should drink as little as you?

That works out at barely half a bottle of wine a week... which frankly is bugger all.

[otolith]

[Funky Squirrel]

ABIT late to the thread, does she have post natal?

Sounds like she's is giving op a hard time and running of to her mum's because he blew of a little steam once in a blue moon when relaxing after work.

I hope he put the free evening to good use

[gregs656]

I don't think you have a drinking problem.

I think you may need to just recognise that some of the things you did before you had a baby to look after are no off the menu for a while.

When the dry january thread pops up, maybe give it some thought? I will be doing a mostly dry January my self having done a dry October.

[Rewe]

This should be an easy thing to talk about with your wife.

Have you considered that you may have a developing relationship problem?

[Electronicpants]

No you don't, you just enjoy getting pissed.

[Honestherbert]

OP you don't have a drinking problem imo, your wife was just annoyed you didn't help her with the little one during the night and the drink was the cause of that. You sound to be an average drinker who just occasionally get a bit pissed like most blokes who drink!

Saying that I drink double what you do and don't think I have a problem, neither does my wife who's father was an alcoholic! I just like a drink. Everyones opinion on alcohol is different though and maybe a proper sit down chat with the wife wouldn't go amiss to address any concerns and work out where to go from her that is for the best for you as a couple.

[Hoofy]

rossub said:

Hoofy said:

John Laverick said:

Btw I worked it out ... it was 18.5 units not 22

It's still about 4-5 weeks' worth of drink for me.

Not sure why you felt the need to post that. Are you trying to preach to people that they should drink as little as you?

That works out at barely half a bottle of wine a week... which frankly is bugger all.

You make a good point. I'm just pointing out that it's still a lot.

[jackofall84]

John Laverick said:

I felt compelled to ask the question because although I didn't / don't think I have a drinking problem I trust my wife's judgement. I did need to think about it though ... It's unusual we don't agree on a subject. It shocked me a little.

It's useful to get opinions of others (even internet strangers) so I can be better informed ... I've been wrong before!! Its eye opening to read the varying extremes of view on here.

I realise it was a selfish act and have committed to not drink like that at home again ... I've also decided to not drink next weekend and might do a dry January to prove to myself it's not an issue.

Btw I worked it out ... it was 18.5 units not 22

Regardless ... I obviously bought some flowers spoke to my wife (I don't need the internet to tell me to do that). Turns out she's not coping during the day as well as I thought and hadn't told me to avoid worrying me. I think my antics were the straw that broke the camel's back on this particular occasion.

Thanks for everyones advice.

I think A lot of people seem to have missed this post by the OP.

Can I just say OP - I'm sure a lot of people ask for advice hoping the responses will side with them, whilst I think the general response has been you're not exactly a dependent drinker or really have a problem at all, it's more about the situation your currently in, having a little one on board and maybe not drinking responsibly enough to be able to help out with the child care a little more...a lot of people would have dug their heels in and not taken the responses and advice given here. Shows real strength of character to accept it like you have and I applaud you for it.

[sasha320]

Robertj21a said:

I think you need to try out that willpower to see whether or not you can abstain for, say, a couple of weeks or a month.
Some flowers for the wife might not go amiss either.....

Flowers?

Sounds like the OP didn’t help out with baby duties for one night in the three months since the baby was born.

I’d say his wife was being unreasonable tbh. I do agree that if one parent isn’t pulling their weight then it will very quickly become problematic. But accusations of alcoholism are a little beyond just complaining about having baby duties dumped on you!

OP being driven to drink more like.