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My missus is trying to get herself diagnosed as ADHD at the moment, her son has definitely got ADHD and we suspect Autism as well, were in the process of starting that diagnosis as well. The problem we are coming up against is his dad doesn't believe in things like ADHD, Autism etc and says they are "an excuse for naughty behaviour" and therefore will block us trying to get a diagnosis.
jk_88 said:
100% the same. You can quote some nugget of information buried in a government document on the topic being discussed or pull on a raft of detailed statistics, but the life insurance form that I’ve completed, printed and have sitting on my desk staring at me for the last 2 weeks is impossible to put in an envelope with a stamp and drop in a post box.
Can write a 10,000 word technical report in 3 days though… the mind boggles.
Totally.Can write a 10,000 word technical report in 3 days though… the mind boggles.
I have unusually good observation, memory and recall:
I am one of those people who can (and can't help doing it....) chip in with something I've experienced/read/been told about almost any subject. I do it for reasons of genuine interest and debate, but often feel a bit self-conscious afterwards, as I don't want to appear as a buls
tter (which I am not) or a know-it-all/smart-arse (I try hard not to nowadays).Tidying up or remembering to do the house or work chores, are a very different prospect. Out of sight, out of mind, until something sparks a memory, even something from below the age of 2 years old. The brain is a funny thing....
Ps. I'm also physically fit, strong for an average sized man in his 40s, like doing arduous activities and don't shy away from disagreement. I'm probably viewed as a bit eccentric and difficult to categorise.
Edited by Woodrow Wilson on Sunday 2nd April 11:06
the-norseman said:
My missus is trying to get herself diagnosed as ADHD at the moment, her son has definitely got ADHD and we suspect Autism as well, were in the process of starting that diagnosis as well. The problem we are coming up against is his dad doesn't believe in things like ADHD, Autism etc and says they are "an excuse for naughty behaviour" and therefore will block us trying to get a diagnosis.
He can’t really block it. This situation isn’t as unusual as you might think - sometimes parents disagree, it happens. In these situations doctors do what’s in the best interests of the child. With support of one parent everything is pretty straightforward. We’ve done autism and adhd diagnosis for my daughter without her father knowing (I’m the mum). My ex was adamant that any counselling or medication for our daughter will happen over his dead body. It was extremely stressful keeping all this secret from him to start with, but other than that, no issues with the doctors or diagnosis, and it was absolutely worth it. On the form about counselling and support they ask if there are people you want NOT to know and my daughter asked not to notify her father. We started the process when she was 13 and got a diagnosis when she was 15. We both absolutely wish she had the diagnosis earlier in life. My son is now getting a diagnosis for himself too but he’s 18 so doesn’t need to consult parents anymore. If he had it earlier it would have helped with exams and other things for sure but we are where we are. Both kids still have many years ahead of them to make sense of this information to their advantage. Much preferable to getting a diagnosis later in life.Edited by timeism0ney on Sunday 2nd April 16:27
jk_88 said:
100% the same. You can quote some nugget of information buried in a government document on the topic being discussed or pull on a raft of detailed statistics, but the life insurance form that I’ve completed, printed and have sitting on my desk staring at me for the last 2 weeks is impossible to put in an envelope with a stamp and drop in a post box.
Bloody hell - this is me! I've had my referral letter 6 weeks now and not done anything with it 
Woodrow Wilson said:
Totally.
I have unusually good observation, memory and recall:
I am one of those people who can (and can't help doing it....) chip in with something I've experienced/read/been told about almost any subject. I do it for reasons of genuine interest and debate, but often feel a bit self-conscious afterwards, as I don't want to appear as a bulstter (which I am not) or a know-it-all/smart-arse (I try hard not to nowadays).
Tidying up or remembering to do the house or work chores, are a very different prospect. Out of sight, out of mind, until something sparks a memory, even something from below the age of 2 years old. The brain is a funny thing....
Ps. I'm also physically fit, strong for an average sized man in his 40s, like doing arduous activities and don't shy away from disagreement. I'm probably viewed as a bit eccentric and difficult to categorise.
The don't shy away from disagreement can be an issue. I know quite a number of females, I suspect are highly autistic among other mental health issues, and they will fight tooth and nail about anything. Even if it's just to make others feel their views to make themselves feel better about themselves.I have unusually good observation, memory and recall:
I am one of those people who can (and can't help doing it....) chip in with something I've experienced/read/been told about almost any subject. I do it for reasons of genuine interest and debate, but often feel a bit self-conscious afterwards, as I don't want to appear as a buls
tter (which I am not) or a know-it-all/smart-arse (I try hard not to nowadays).Tidying up or remembering to do the house or work chores, are a very different prospect. Out of sight, out of mind, until something sparks a memory, even something from below the age of 2 years old. The brain is a funny thing....
Ps. I'm also physically fit, strong for an average sized man in his 40s, like doing arduous activities and don't shy away from disagreement. I'm probably viewed as a bit eccentric and difficult to categorise.
Edited by Woodrow Wilson on Sunday 2nd April 11:06
Wouldn't say this is a good thing.
Other girls I know are very very lazy and messy. Appallingly so. It is interesting to know that this also is the same for males who have ADHD.
I believe ADHD is fairly common. Especially among females.
GilletteFan said:
Woodrow Wilson said:
Totally.
I have unusually good observation, memory and recall:
I am one of those people who can (and can't help doing it....) chip in with something I've experienced/read/been told about almost any subject. I do it for reasons of genuine interest and debate, but often feel a bit self-conscious afterwards, as I don't want to appear as a bulstter (which I am not) or a know-it-all/smart-arse (I try hard not to nowadays).
Tidying up or remembering to do the house or work chores, are a very different prospect. Out of sight, out of mind, until something sparks a memory, even something from below the age of 2 years old. The brain is a funny thing....
Ps. I'm also physically fit, strong for an average sized man in his 40s, like doing arduous activities and don't shy away from disagreement. I'm probably viewed as a bit eccentric and difficult to categorise.
The don't shy away from disagreement can be an issue. I have unusually good observation, memory and recall:
I am one of those people who can (and can't help doing it....) chip in with something I've experienced/read/been told about almost any subject. I do it for reasons of genuine interest and debate, but often feel a bit self-conscious afterwards, as I don't want to appear as a buls
tter (which I am not) or a know-it-all/smart-arse (I try hard not to nowadays).Tidying up or remembering to do the house or work chores, are a very different prospect. Out of sight, out of mind, until something sparks a memory, even something from below the age of 2 years old. The brain is a funny thing....
Ps. I'm also physically fit, strong for an average sized man in his 40s, like doing arduous activities and don't shy away from disagreement. I'm probably viewed as a bit eccentric and difficult to categorise.
Edited by Woodrow Wilson on Sunday 2nd April 11:06
Woodrow Wilson said:
Don't get me wrong, I'm not violent, but I have a sense of justice and will stand up for other people, where people typically shy away.
I don't think that's to do with ADHD I think that's to do with personality typesA friend of mine commented - as it's what I did - after reading up on the personality types and realizing that I was offering to help people who didn't necessarily wish to be helped and that I was doing it for my need rather than theirs, I stopped offering to most people
Take a personality test and have a read-up, I found it quite liberating
KTMsm said:
I don't think that's to do with ADHD I think that's to do with personality types
A friend of mine commented - as it's what I did - after reading up on the personality types and realizing that I was offering to help people who didn't necessarily wish to be helped and that I was doing it for my need rather than theirs, I stopped offering to most people
Take a personality test and have a read-up, I found it quite liberating
Good stuff, mate. Thanks for sharing. A friend of mine commented - as it's what I did - after reading up on the personality types and realizing that I was offering to help people who didn't necessarily wish to be helped and that I was doing it for my need rather than theirs, I stopped offering to most people
Take a personality test and have a read-up, I found it quite liberating
Been trying to help someone I know stop pissing everyone off and losing friends along the way. They are still surprised no one really cares for the drama
timeism0ney said:
He can’t really block it. This situation isn’t as unusual as you might think - sometimes parents disagree, it happens. In these situations doctors do what’s in the best interests of the child. With support of one parent everything is pretty straightforward. We’ve done autism and adhd diagnosis for my daughter without her father knowing (I’m the mum). My ex was adamant that any counselling or medication for our daughter will happen over his dead body. It was extremely stressful keeping all this secret from him to start with, but other than that, no issues with the doctors or diagnosis, and it was absolutely worth it. On the form about counselling and support they ask if there are people you want NOT to know and my daughter asked not to notify her father. We started the process when she was 13 and got a diagnosis when she was 15. We both absolutely wish she had the diagnosis earlier in life. My son is now getting a diagnosis for himself too but he’s 18 so doesn’t need to consult parents anymore. If he had it earlier it would have helped with exams and other things for sure but we are where we are. Both kids still have many years ahead of them to make sense of this information to their advantage. Much preferable to getting a diagnosis later in life.
Thank you for that, I will pass this info on to my partner. Edited by timeism0ney on Sunday 2nd April 16:27
Finally got my diagnosis this afternoon, combined type ADHD.
It's probably over two years since I first thought this could be the issue, and a number of false starts to get things sorted, including going to the GP and not following up, and going to private providers and again not following up.
Weird sensation, but, hopefully in a week we can look at ways forward and see how they work.
It's probably over two years since I first thought this could be the issue, and a number of false starts to get things sorted, including going to the GP and not following up, and going to private providers and again not following up.
Weird sensation, but, hopefully in a week we can look at ways forward and see how they work.
Started on Elvanse this morning, only 30mg, but I felt a difference almost straight away with my ability to focus--despite already having my glasses on it was like putting my glasses and some noise cancelling headphones on.
It doesn't seem to have helped with anything other than that so far, but it's day one, hour one, so who knows. Moving to 50mg in a week so that might have more of an effect.
It doesn't seem to have helped with anything other than that so far, but it's day one, hour one, so who knows. Moving to 50mg in a week so that might have more of an effect.
MikeGTi said:
Started on Elvanse this morning, only 30mg, but I felt a difference almost straight away with my ability to focus--despite already having my glasses on it was like putting my glasses and some noise cancelling headphones on.
It doesn't seem to have helped with anything other than that so far, but it's day one, hour one, so who knows. Moving to 50mg in a week so that might have more of an effect.
Interesting, do you mind if I ask what service you used? I'm three weeks into titration with PUK. The default meds for PUK seems to be Concerta XL which although a very slight change, hasn't been the change that I was hoping for. I'd like to see if Elvanse has a different effect.It doesn't seem to have helped with anything other than that so far, but it's day one, hour one, so who knows. Moving to 50mg in a week so that might have more of an effect.
jamest1988 said:
Interesting, do you mind if I ask what service you used? I'm three weeks into titration with PUK. The default meds for PUK seems to be Concerta XL which although a very slight change, hasn't been the change that I was hoping for. I'd like to see if Elvanse has a different effect.
I went via ADHD360 
MikeGTi said:
pherlopolus said:
I went from 30mg to 50mg 2 weeks back, have had to drop down to 40mg as was zombied by the 50mg.
40mg seems to be lasting the day
Zombied in what way, if you don't mind me asking?40mg seems to be lasting the day
Motoring12345 said:
I finally made an appointment to discuss this with my GP. I had to wait for a month, rehearsed what I was going to say and made a list.
guess what happened?
I missed my appointment. Classic ADHD
A month is good, I've been waiting since Nov 2021 to get an appointment guess what happened?
I missed my appointment. Classic ADHD
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