Anyone else getting tired of it all?
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Had a fairly stressful last few days trying to get my daughter home from uni in the uk, we live in Guernsey and the government here have really tightened up on who can get into the island, was worried she might have been stuck there with all the s
tshow that is presently going on there, thankfully we got her home yesterday.
tshow that is presently going on there, thankfully we got her home yesterday.Definitely becoming aware that not having things to look forwards to is causing my mood to be much worse this time around. Pair that with the st weather, the usual distractions (gym, pub, gigs) being off the cards and a very stressful job and it's a bit of a recipe for trouble.
Previously it was the hope of some summer, lifted lockdowns, pub lunches and better times.
Thank goodness for longer days and warmer weather on the way.
t weather, the usual distractions (gym, pub, gigs) being off the cards and a very stressful job and it's a bit of a recipe for trouble. Previously it was the hope of some summer, lifted lockdowns, pub lunches and better times.
Thank goodness for longer days and warmer weather on the way.
I'm 100% certain I could do 10/11h work days through the whole summer, ploughing through it. Now, lucky if I can manage a full 7h before I have to call it. Always been one to power on and just put in the time to get it done, but for the first time in my working career I seem to be incapable of keeping up. Anyone else?
I have been angry at the whole situation for reasons I won't post here as this is not the place. I also have a circle of friends who are really, really suffering mentally at the moment and where I am angry, they are actually in dispair.
I like to try and remain strong for them as two of them are relying on me for support, this is what has helped me so hopefully can help you.
- As has been said, TURN OFF THE NEWS or limit it to once a day for 30 minutes or something. Odds are there is nothing you can do with the information provided, and no matter what your opinions on the situation, seeing Matt Hancock in any setting is bound to send anyone into a spiral of depression...
- I am lucky enough to have a dog, so am out walking at least once a day. Just get out, for a walk even if its only for half a mile. The first step out the door is the hardest. Don't think about it, don't procrastinate about it, just do it.
- In my cupboard, I have Vitamins. Current collection is B12, D3, Omega 3 and Zinc. In the winter times, you will be deficient in a lot of these especially if you are staying in more. Not sure if it has helped, but it can't do any harm (unless your doctor has informed you that you cannot take any of these!)
- I have told my close friends that I am happy to talk about any subject except for COVID and the rules around this. Any attempt at talking about that subject and I will politely change the subject. May sound harsh but for them and you, talking about it isn't going to help or change things. I limit myself on the subject on to here where there is some rational and helpful debate and some that understand the actual legalities (BV) rather than pointless pub speculation.
- If you are not working at the moment, try microscheduling your day. Allocate an hour for anything, even if that hour is simply allocated to "watching TV" or an hour of "doing nothing" between things. Allocate jobs and hobbies you need to do. It will keep you occupied and also keep your mind of other things. Idle hands and all that...
- Final point, repeated, TURN OFF THE NEWS.
I like to try and remain strong for them as two of them are relying on me for support, this is what has helped me so hopefully can help you.
- As has been said, TURN OFF THE NEWS or limit it to once a day for 30 minutes or something. Odds are there is nothing you can do with the information provided, and no matter what your opinions on the situation, seeing Matt Hancock in any setting is bound to send anyone into a spiral of depression...
- I am lucky enough to have a dog, so am out walking at least once a day. Just get out, for a walk even if its only for half a mile. The first step out the door is the hardest. Don't think about it, don't procrastinate about it, just do it.
- In my cupboard, I have Vitamins. Current collection is B12, D3, Omega 3 and Zinc. In the winter times, you will be deficient in a lot of these especially if you are staying in more. Not sure if it has helped, but it can't do any harm (unless your doctor has informed you that you cannot take any of these!)
- I have told my close friends that I am happy to talk about any subject except for COVID and the rules around this. Any attempt at talking about that subject and I will politely change the subject. May sound harsh but for them and you, talking about it isn't going to help or change things. I limit myself on the subject on to here where there is some rational and helpful debate and some that understand the actual legalities (BV) rather than pointless pub speculation.
- If you are not working at the moment, try microscheduling your day. Allocate an hour for anything, even if that hour is simply allocated to "watching TV" or an hour of "doing nothing" between things. Allocate jobs and hobbies you need to do. It will keep you occupied and also keep your mind of other things. Idle hands and all that...
- Final point, repeated, TURN OFF THE NEWS.
Totally agree with turning off the news nothing on there will do anything but make you depressed if it’s anything other than misery someone will tell you.
I also now keep myself up to date on how many vaccines have been given so anyone who messages me about covid misery I respond with this positive number (2.4million yesterday).
I’ve also booked a holiday in this country for August.
It’s tough very very tough, we have all had enough of it all but there s a glimmer of hope with 3 approved vaccines. And you can normally find something funny on here. To brighten your mood.
I also now keep myself up to date on how many vaccines have been given so anyone who messages me about covid misery I respond with this positive number (2.4million yesterday).
I’ve also booked a holiday in this country for August.
It’s tough very very tough, we have all had enough of it all but there s a glimmer of hope with 3 approved vaccines. And you can normally find something funny on here. To brighten your mood.
anonymous said:
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not great. constantly feel like i only just have hold of my anger.
This too. Drive it fix it repeat said:
I’ve felt this way for quite a long time, years probably. COVID has only made it worse. It’s horrible as I don’t want to be angry or properly flip my lid but holding it in is all consuming sometimes. Feels like I’m getting closer and closer to the day where I just let it go.
I can relate to this, a couple of weeks ago I lost my temper twice in the car, for no reason at all really. It's totally out of character for me, just festering frustration.I know the usual posters will chime in and laugh and ridicule me but I genuinely have found solace in religion. I wasnt raised in a particularly religious household but I had a few odd recent conversations with people that made me stop and think. So I spent some time learning and educating myself and I do find it has helped me find my purpose and genuinely made me feel more positive
clio007 said:
I know the usual posters will chime in and laugh and ridicule me but I genuinely have found solace in religion. I wasnt raised in a particularly religious household but I had a few odd recent conversations with people that made me stop and think. So I spent some time learning and educating myself and I do find it has helped me find my purpose and genuinely made me feel more positive
Whatever works for you. I think some religions would be very beneficial at this moment in time. A lot focus on mindfulness and meditation. clio007 said:
I know the usual posters will chime in and laugh and ridicule me but I genuinely have found solace in religion. I wasnt raised in a particularly religious household but I had a few odd recent conversations with people that made me stop and think. So I spent some time learning and educating myself and I do find it has helped me find my purpose and genuinely made me feel more positive
Anyone who does should be ashamed of themselves If it works for you - great and it may work for others
bobbysmithy said:
clio007 said:
I know the usual posters will chime in and laugh and ridicule me but I genuinely have found solace in religion. I wasnt raised in a particularly religious household but I had a few odd recent conversations with people that made me stop and think. So I spent some time learning and educating myself and I do find it has helped me find my purpose and genuinely made me feel more positive
Anyone who does should be ashamed of themselves If it works for you - great and it may work for others
Even though I am an atheist myself, I certainly would never berate or ridicule anyone for finding solace in religion.
I was raised in a religious family so can see both sides. I am very happy it is working for you
Carrot said:
Even though I am an atheist myself, I certainly would never berate or ridicule anyone for finding solace in religion.
I was raised in a religious family so can see both sides. I am very happy it is working for you
My coping strategy:
1 - Turn off the news, the BBC, ITV, Sky, breakfast TV, Boris and Hancocks announcements, the lot. They are all hugely toxic, and I doubt that I will ever watch or listen to any of them ever again. I used to have the BBC news as my home page on my PC (God knows why) that was replaced by the BBC weather page, since got rid of that too and replaced it with the Met office weather page. Same principle when listening to the radio, find out what time the news comes on, and at that time be ready to hit the mute button. At the same time avoid all toxic subjects here (NP&E) I only dip in now and again now, it just seems to be constant arguing.
2 - Outdoor excercise, lots of it. I've doubled my cycling mileage this year to nearly 6000 miles. Even if the weather is not that good, don't stay at home, get outside and enjoy some fresh air, you WILL feel better afterwards. I have a note to this effect written in capitals on a whiteboard at home if I "don't feel like going out" Try and get into a routine and set your self some goals to achieve.
3 - Start reading books that you've never got around to starting, or listening to new music, watch something funny, anything, every day too.
4 - I had months of not sleeping when this all started. I find that 1/2 a bottle of red wine a few hours before I go to bed, and then listening to ambient sounds such as rainfall and thunderstorms (loads on youtube) gets me off to sleep now.
1 - Turn off the news, the BBC, ITV, Sky, breakfast TV, Boris and Hancocks announcements, the lot. They are all hugely toxic, and I doubt that I will ever watch or listen to any of them ever again. I used to have the BBC news as my home page on my PC (God knows why) that was replaced by the BBC weather page, since got rid of that too and replaced it with the Met office weather page. Same principle when listening to the radio, find out what time the news comes on, and at that time be ready to hit the mute button. At the same time avoid all toxic subjects here (NP&E) I only dip in now and again now, it just seems to be constant arguing.
2 - Outdoor excercise, lots of it. I've doubled my cycling mileage this year to nearly 6000 miles. Even if the weather is not that good, don't stay at home, get outside and enjoy some fresh air, you WILL feel better afterwards. I have a note to this effect written in capitals on a whiteboard at home if I "don't feel like going out" Try and get into a routine and set your self some goals to achieve.
3 - Start reading books that you've never got around to starting, or listening to new music, watch something funny, anything, every day too.
4 - I had months of not sleeping when this all started. I find that 1/2 a bottle of red wine a few hours before I go to bed, and then listening to ambient sounds such as rainfall and thunderstorms (loads on youtube) gets me off to sleep now.
Definitely have days where I struggle, in truth.
Mrs.T66 suffers from bouts of extreme depression - not helped since she lost her job last March. The only time I can get her out of the flat is to go shopping in the supermarket once a week or (weather permitting) for a country walk. We try and make these as 'old normal' as possible as she struggles with it all, so she doesn't wear a mask and we go together. If the local supermarket bring out a mask-only/one person rule I know we'll be fked. Add on to that Whitty's recent comments about chatting to friends in the street and it makes it even worse - it's the only time she can meet other people and talk to them. We live in a dark flat with little sunlight, but can't go and sit in the park to feel some rare sunshine as the benches are all taped off, and now there's the implied 'local area' guidance so we don't/can't travel far for a walk. I'd love to drive up to the Lakes or Dales for a proper ramble and change of scenery, but that's impossible at the moment - I know it's guidance, but the more hassle we get the worse it makes the depression, so we try and avoid it. To top it all, we have an upstairs neighbour from hell that bangs/hammers and generally makes a godawful noise pretty much all day, every day, but we're now limited to how long we can get out of the flat for. Not that there's a rule we adhere to, but with everything closed and nowhere outside we can sit and chill for a while it feels more like a stroll in a prison yard than a nice walk.
I try and remain upbeat for her and some other friends that are struggling, but I know there are some times I don't believe what I'm saying and my positive words sound hollow.
The total disregard for the effects of all this angers me - I know there are others in worse positions, but think those making such decisions and those in support (even on some of the NP&E threads) aren't living these lives.
Sorry for the moaning - tomorrow could be a better day.
Mrs.T66 suffers from bouts of extreme depression - not helped since she lost her job last March. The only time I can get her out of the flat is to go shopping in the supermarket once a week or (weather permitting) for a country walk. We try and make these as 'old normal' as possible as she struggles with it all, so she doesn't wear a mask and we go together. If the local supermarket bring out a mask-only/one person rule I know we'll be f
ked. Add on to that Whitty's recent comments about chatting to friends in the street and it makes it even worse - it's the only time she can meet other people and talk to them. We live in a dark flat with little sunlight, but can't go and sit in the park to feel some rare sunshine as the benches are all taped off, and now there's the implied 'local area' guidance so we don't/can't travel far for a walk. I'd love to drive up to the Lakes or Dales for a proper ramble and change of scenery, but that's impossible at the moment - I know it's guidance, but the more hassle we get the worse it makes the depression, so we try and avoid it. To top it all, we have an upstairs neighbour from hell that bangs/hammers and generally makes a godawful noise pretty much all day, every day, but we're now limited to how long we can get out of the flat for. Not that there's a rule we adhere to, but with everything closed and nowhere outside we can sit and chill for a while it feels more like a stroll in a prison yard than a nice walk.I try and remain upbeat for her and some other friends that are struggling, but I know there are some times I don't believe what I'm saying and my positive words sound hollow.
The total disregard for the effects of all this angers me - I know there are others in worse positions, but think those making such decisions and those in support (even on some of the NP&E threads) aren't living these lives.
Sorry for the moaning - tomorrow could be a better day.
Sorry Mike, yes you are correct.
WFH, furlough, curfew are all so much more bearable when you have a house, garden and decent neighbours.
But millions of us are cooped up in tiny flats, which in normal times we accept as we have social lives, holidays and work that keep us out of them apart from eating a meal at night and sleep.
I moved into a rabbit hutch sized flat just before this all kicked off.
Being virtually forced to stay in most of the time has made me hate my home as it now feels like a prison cell.
I still drive to somewhere quiet to walk. I'd go insane otherwise, if I'm not there already.
I'm on my own in my car and barely see anyone on my walks. Far safer than being amongst the throngs in the local park.
Maybe for both your sakes you need to bend the rules a little.
It really makes me angry that those at the top, Boris, Hancock, Whitty et al just drop these restrictive rules on all when the rules barely affect them.
WFH, furlough, curfew are all so much more bearable when you have a house, garden and decent neighbours.
But millions of us are cooped up in tiny flats, which in normal times we accept as we have social lives, holidays and work that keep us out of them apart from eating a meal at night and sleep.
I moved into a rabbit hutch sized flat just before this all kicked off.
Being virtually forced to stay in most of the time has made me hate my home as it now feels like a prison cell.
I still drive to somewhere quiet to walk. I'd go insane otherwise, if I'm not there already.
I'm on my own in my car and barely see anyone on my walks. Far safer than being amongst the throngs in the local park.
Maybe for both your sakes you need to bend the rules a little.
It really makes me angry that those at the top, Boris, Hancock, Whitty et al just drop these restrictive rules on all when the rules barely affect them.
Hope everyone is ok. I'm very fortunate to have a decent sized home and a garden etc but even so, this has been a struggle.
Lockdown 1 during the fantastic spring / summer we had was ok although really had it's crappy moments. This latest lockdown just feels like it's 10 times worse, I think the weather has really made a difference for me. Also the fact that we now have a 6 month old baby alongside our 7 year old completely changes things.
Trying to stay positive and on the massive plus side spending time with the kids is precious. Getting thoroughly sick of working from home though. My job is stressful enough as it is and we are busier than ever (employment law / HR services).
We have followed the rules almost to the letter but I can see my wife's MH in particular becoming affected and we've both had moments where we've been at our wit's end trying to juggle the homeschooling, baby raising, home working etc against the constant moving regulations. The prospect of not even being able to meet family outside is just another kick.
Our 7 year old has been amazing and she seems to be taking this all in her stride but I can't help but feel anxious that her childhood is slowly being taken over by this damn virus.
She's already lost 1 year of normality and I'm conscious that these are vital years to develop her key writing / reading skills etc, not to mention spending time with grandparents.
At this rate, I honestly can't see her returning to school properly until late 2021 and even then, I expect there will be further disruption throughout 2022 until the impact of the vaccine really starts to kick in.
Just a matter of plodding through one day at a time but totally sick of this now, as we all are.
Lockdown 1 during the fantastic spring / summer we had was ok although really had it's crappy moments. This latest lockdown just feels like it's 10 times worse, I think the weather has really made a difference for me. Also the fact that we now have a 6 month old baby alongside our 7 year old completely changes things.
Trying to stay positive and on the massive plus side spending time with the kids is precious. Getting thoroughly sick of working from home though. My job is stressful enough as it is and we are busier than ever (employment law / HR services).
We have followed the rules almost to the letter but I can see my wife's MH in particular becoming affected and we've both had moments where we've been at our wit's end trying to juggle the homeschooling, baby raising, home working etc against the constant moving regulations. The prospect of not even being able to meet family outside is just another kick.
Our 7 year old has been amazing and she seems to be taking this all in her stride but I can't help but feel anxious that her childhood is slowly being taken over by this damn virus.
She's already lost 1 year of normality and I'm conscious that these are vital years to develop her key writing / reading skills etc, not to mention spending time with grandparents.
At this rate, I honestly can't see her returning to school properly until late 2021 and even then, I expect there will be further disruption throughout 2022 until the impact of the vaccine really starts to kick in.
Just a matter of plodding through one day at a time but totally sick of this now, as we all are.
croyde said:
It really makes me angry that those at the top, Boris, Hancock, Whitty et al just drop these restrictive rules on all when the rules barely affect them.
This is the problem. The people who make the "rules" and the people who enforce them have "essential" jobs that means they can basically carry on doing as they please, getting out and about, meeting people etc. They should try shutting themselves in their houses for several weeks while being told they can't do this and that and see how it feels.Gassing Station | Health Matters | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff