Is this appropriate Twitter behaviour from my Wife?

[BigQuestions]

Just a quick OP update;

I'm still here, reading your comments and suggestions which is strangely comforting. I don't have many (any?) tangible friends that I would be willing to discuss this with.

She has really toned down the social media as far as I can see. She only has an Instagram account which is closed, but after a heated debate I have access to as her contact.

Not much happening on the romance front. Both in stressful jobs which we both hate. I can't really see any way out from this situation to be honest. If I'm alive in 5 years time, it will be a miracle. I keep searching for other jobs but the pay would be £20k less for something a bit less stressful. I can't see any job that I would actually enjoy. Still miserable every day.

[CarCrazyDad]

BigQuestions said:

Just a quick OP update;

I'm still here, reading your comments and suggestions which is strangely comforting. I don't have many (any?) tangible friends that I would be willing to discuss this with.

She has really toned down the social media as far as I can see. She only has an Instagram account which is closed, but after a heated debate I have access to as her contact.

Not much happening on the romance front. Both in stressful jobs which we both hate. I can't really see any way out from this situation to be honest. If I'm alive in 5 years time, it will be a miracle. I keep searching for other jobs but the pay would be 20k less for something a bit less stressful. I can't see any job that I would actually enjoy. Still miserable every day.

Why don't you leave??

You only get one life - maybe a change of relationship and job!

[Hugo Stiglitz]

I completely changed career and dropped 40k in one fell swoop.

I would never go back.

Sometimes you need to rethink what you want.

The same with relationships. Are you happy with her or staying for the kids?

I think people who divorce spend upwards of 10years sat pissed off with their lot. Why waste time?

[interstellar]

I was unhappy for 3 years but didn’t realise what was wrong. I left, now I have an amazing relationship with my daughter and a girlfriend I have been with for 2 years and am totally happy.

You only get one life, please don’t be miserable.

[Silvanus]

Hugo Stiglitz said:

I completely changed career and dropped 40k in one fell swoop.

I would never go back.

Sometimes you need to rethink what you want.

The same with relationships. Are you happy with her or staying for the kids?

I think people who divorce spend upwards of 10 years sat pissed off with their lot. Why waste time?

I did exactly this, I've never been happier (I was only gonna ended up going one way if I didn't do it). In hindsight I should have done it sooner than I did. Stayed in my marriage far longer than I (we) should have too. Life is too short to be miserable, I may be skint but I love my life now.

[Caddyshack]

Also, dropping £20k is not all that much in NET pay terms (depending on how much you earn now) but if in 40% tax it is not all that much compared to happiness. If you are happy in a new career you will probably move up the pay scales sooner anyway.

[Carlososos]

BigQuestions said:

Just a quick OP update;

I'm still here, reading your comments and suggestions which is strangely comforting. I don't have many (any?) tangible friends that I would be willing to discuss this with.

She has really toned down the social media as far as I can see. She only has an Instagram account which is closed, but after a heated debate I have access to as her contact.

Not much happening on the romance front. Both in stressful jobs which we both hate. I can't really see any way out from this situation to be honest. If I'm alive in 5 years time, it will be a miracle. I keep searching for other jobs but the pay would be 20k less for something a bit less stressful. I can't see any job that I would actually enjoy. Still miserable every day.

Unhappy relationship and unhappy work.

No wonder you are miserable.

Think about 10 years time when you look back will you be glad you kept at the same job being unhappy just for a bit of extra cheese or will you wish you made the jump to something more fulfilling?

Again think about 10 years time will you look back at your relationship and think why didn’t I make an effort to fix it sooner so it could of either got better or end and move on to a new happy relationship.

If you don’t make an effort to change things nothing will.

[Silvanus]

I guess it can sound harsh, but often in life the only thing that is actually making you unhappy is yourself. You can blame other people, work, relationships, money, but its actually the unhappy person at fault by not making changes. I was that unhappy person

[LordHaveMurci]

Silvanus said:

I guess it can sound harsh, but often in life the only thing that is actually making you unhappy is yourself. You can blame other people, work, relationships, money, but its actually the unhappy person at fault by not making changes. I was that unhappy person

This deserves recognition, very true.