Is this appropriate Twitter behaviour from my Wife?

[GT3Manthey]

hyphen said:

Best to not, if no trust, no relationship.

If they divorce, her scum lawyer would cite monitoring of her phone as proof of her being a domestic abuse victim (controlling behaviour).

All very true but I suspect I would want to know what she’s up to and what she’s up for !

[Deep Thought]

GT3Manthey said:

hyphen said:

Best to not, if no trust, no relationship.

If they divorce, her scum lawyer would cite monitoring of her phone as proof of her being a domestic abuse victim (controlling behaviour).

All very true but I suspect I would want to know what she’s up to and what she’s up for !

If it was a disposable fake social media account it would be hard to trace back to the husband, and he certainly wouldnt use it as evidence, but if shes looking to start seeing someone else, is seeing someone else, or is about to run off with someone else, forewarned is forearmed.

I'd certainly not let her ever know i had the account or use it as direct evidence against her, but it would be a useful insight in to where her mind is.

At some point though if something moves from online to real world, her behaviours and patterns are going to change to facilitate this. I'd be watching for that.

Edited by Deep Thought on Wednesday 26th January 14:38

[GT3Manthey]

Deep Thought said:

If it was a disposable fake social media account it would be hard to trace back to the husband, and he certainly wouldnt use it as evidence, but if shes looking to start seeing someone else, is seeing someone else, or is about to run off with someone else, forewarned is forearmed.

I'd certainly not let her ever know i had the account or use it as direct evidence against her, but it would be a useful insight in to where her mind is.

This ^^^^^^

[Leicester Loyal]

housen said:

you have to ask yourself


if 100 women on insta were sending you filth


would you ignore it ?

Yes, but then I actually get on with my lady and think she's alright

[Zoon]

hyphen said:

Did it last?

Yes as far as I know she relocated and is still living with him.

[housen]

Leicester Loyal said:

housen said:

you have to ask yourself


if 100 women on insta were sending you filth


would you ignore it ?

Yes, but then I actually get on with my lady and think she's alright

i don't think he said he she doesn't get on with him

[Leicester Loyal]

housen said:

Leicester Loyal said:

housen said:

you have to ask yourself


if 100 women on insta were sending you filth


would you ignore it ?

Yes, but then I actually get on with my lady and think she's alright

i don't think he said he she doesn't get on with him

Correct, but if you're happy at home why would you search elsewhere? If someone was sending me filth on insta I'd block and delete.

• Then unblock once I'm single again

[housen]

Leicester Loyal said:

housen said:

Leicester Loyal said:

housen said:

you have to ask yourself


if 100 women on insta were sending you filth


would you ignore it ?

Yes, but then I actually get on with my lady and think she's alright

i don't think he said he she doesn't get on with him

Correct, but if you're happy at home why would you search elsewhere? If someone was sending me filth on insta I'd block and delete.

• Then unblock once I'm single again

like i said earlier instagram and the like is a addiction based on dopamine

you don't search for this ....its rammed down your throat with likes and comments


edit

if she was searching for it she would be on tinder or the like

Edited by housen on Wednesday 26th January 15:34

[Leicester Loyal]

housen said:

Leicester Loyal said:

housen said:

Leicester Loyal said:

housen said:

you have to ask yourself


if 100 women on insta were sending you filth


would you ignore it ?

Yes, but then I actually get on with my lady and think she's alright

i don't think he said he she doesn't get on with him

Correct, but if you're happy at home why would you search elsewhere? If someone was sending me filth on insta I'd block and delete.

• Then unblock once I'm single again

like i said earlier instagram and the like is a addiction based on dopamine

you don't search for this ....its rammed down your throat with likes and comments

Aren't you talking about people sending you filth, then ignoring it? If a lady was DM'ing me innopropriate pics out of the blue, then I was responding, that's completely different to me seeing something on social media

She's being sent filth, but she isn't ignoring it, is that not what we're saying?

Seeing a post on Instagram or any form of social media, or receiving stuff from dirty weirdo blokes is 100% different to DM'ing/messaging someone and actively entertaining them.

[GT3Manthey]

Leicester Loyal said:

Aren't you talking about people sending you filth, then ignoring it? If a lady was DM'ing me innopropriate pics out of the blue, then I was responding, that's completely different to me seeing something on social media

She's being sent filth, but she isn't ignoring it, is that not what we're saying?

Seeing a post on Instagram or any form of social media, or receiving stuff from dirty weirdo blokes is 100% different to DM'ing/messaging someone and actively entertaining them.

And hiding it from her husband let’s not forget

[housen]

Leicester Loyal said:

housen said:

Leicester Loyal said:

housen said:

Leicester Loyal said:

housen said:

you have to ask yourself


if 100 women on insta were sending you filth


would you ignore it ?

Yes, but then I actually get on with my lady and think she's alright

i don't think he said he she doesn't get on with him

Correct, but if you're happy at home why would you search elsewhere? If someone was sending me filth on insta I'd block and delete.

• Then unblock once I'm single again

like i said earlier instagram and the like is a addiction based on dopamine

you don't search for this ....its rammed down your throat with likes and comments

Aren't you talking about people sending you filth, then ignoring it? If a lady was DM'ing me innopropriate pics out of the blue, then I was responding, that's completely different to me seeing something on social media

She's being sent filth, but she isn't ignoring it, is that not what we're saying?

Seeing a post on Instagram or any form of social media, or receiving stuff from dirty weirdo blokes is 100% different to DM'ing/messaging someone and actively entertaining them.

people are addicted to likes and comments

they generally don't care where they come from

yes u entertain it because its addictive

[Thankyou4calling]

Enut said:

Kid Creole and the Coconuts, one of the best live bands ever and one of my favourites. Although apparently originally by Jimmy Soul in 1963.

To continue the lyrics from one of their live shows -

'Hey Kid, I saw your wife the other day and she's UGGLLLLYYY'
'Yea but she sure can..................................cook!'

Great band! Saw them at Hammersmith Odeon in the late 80’s.

Without googling I’m thinking “Kids” real name was August Darnell.

[housen]

im not saying what she is doing is acceptable


but the world is fked up with all this online vanity madness

its a real problem

[Leicester Loyal]

housen said:

people are addicted to likes and comments

they generally don't care where they come from

yes u entertain it because its addictive

Right so we are talking about the same thing.

I certainly wouldn't entertain it, nor would allow my partner to entertain being sent filth on social media. Either she stops or it's over. If she tells me she's addicted to it, we could try to sort her help out and see where we end up.

Being sent filth, hiding it from a spouse and actively interacting with it is completely different to a few weirdos replying to some pictures on social media.

Best of luck to the OP.

[GT3Manthey]

housen said:

people are addicted to likes and comments

they generally don't care where they come from

yes u entertain it because its addictive

This is very true but the OP’s wife if pretty much telling some old guitarist ( or whatever he is ) that she’s going weak at the knees for him.

Wouldn’t both me if some bloke liked a pic of my wife but for me it’s a different ball game if she’s sending him private messages saying she’s hot for him .

Either way the OP should be allowed to know what she’s doing .

If she’s doing nowt wrong then why hide it

[housen]

GT3Manthey said:

housen said:

people are addicted to likes and comments

they generally don't care where they come from

yes u entertain it because its addictive

This is very true but the OP’s wife if pretty much telling some old guitarist ( or whatever he is ) that she’s going weak at the knees for him.

Wouldn’t both me if some bloke liked a pic of my wife but for me it’s a different ball game if she’s sending him private messages saying she’s hot for him .

Either way the OP should be allowed to know what she’s doing .

If she’s doing nowt wrong then why hide it

fair indeed

i guess being hidden behind the curtain of the internet to her it feels less wrong

in the old days if she was in the pub and went up to the Rockstar and said it would make it more real and wrong ?


fck knows women can get distracted a lot more than you we think

[Don1]

OP, you say there hasn't been much between you two recently - have you done anything to make her smile? Flowers, a treat or something? Make her remember why she's with you, positive action.

[GT3Manthey]

Any update OP?

Do you know the guy she’s been with and his background?

[housen]

https://www.thesun.co.uk/tvandshowbiz/bizarre/1751...


like i said

the internet and women

[BigQuestions]

OK update time.

Things have been really good between us recently. Lots of bedroom antics, etc. It's been really nice.

Social media has gone nuts though.

Open profiles again. Insta is fairly straight forward boring stuff (she knows I have my own account)

Twitter though. OMG.

New profile but same silly anonymous name. She is being a total nympho character on there. Sharing every possible intimate detail of what we have actually been up to. Like, EVERYTHING. Posting about what he is going to do to me, what she thinks about, replying to tweets of extreme hardcore gifs saying she cant stop watching it and it gets her wet, etc. Really explicit stuff.

She doesn't seem to be reaching out to any individual and there doesn't seem to be any replies to her tweets.

To be honest, I wouldn't mind her having this fantasy life online BUT - she uses her real actual photo as the profile! She has a bunch of followers but I don't know if they are her actual friends or not. It's freaking me out a bit. I feel like if I raise it with her again, she will go in a huff and make it private again.

WTF is going on here? What do I do?