3 Year old sleep issues
Discussion
Our kid is 4.
Slept like a log until she was 2, since then it's been crap.
We gave up trying to keep her in her own room and one of us being awake half the night and now just let her stay in our bed when she wakes at 12 / 1 / 2.
We have a spare double bed so the mrs goes there when little one wakes and sometimes just goes there all night to get some kip, it's put a downer on our sex life and we don't always have a cuddle in bed before sleep or when we wake up but I'm hopeful that it's a phase we can get through. We recognised early on that all of us need sleep and we weren't willing to sacrifice on that.
Good luck OP - it's just the next phase
Slept like a log until she was 2, since then it's been crap.
We gave up trying to keep her in her own room and one of us being awake half the night and now just let her stay in our bed when she wakes at 12 / 1 / 2.
We have a spare double bed so the mrs goes there when little one wakes and sometimes just goes there all night to get some kip, it's put a downer on our sex life and we don't always have a cuddle in bed before sleep or when we wake up but I'm hopeful that it's a phase we can get through. We recognised early on that all of us need sleep and we weren't willing to sacrifice on that.
Good luck OP - it's just the next phase
We tried a sleep therapist our second was so bad. No, I didn't know it was a thing either!
One of the suggestions was to try waking him up around 11pm (or at a point before they wake up). It's interrupts the cycle they've got into (can't remember the exact theory behind it). Literally just wake them up in their bed, call their name and get them to acknowledge you then let them go straight back to sleep. Sounds mad but it worked within a night or so.
One of the suggestions was to try waking him up around 11pm (or at a point before they wake up). It's interrupts the cycle they've got into (can't remember the exact theory behind it). Literally just wake them up in their bed, call their name and get them to acknowledge you then let them go straight back to sleep. Sounds mad but it worked within a night or so.
CQ8 said:
We tried a sleep therapist our second was so bad. No, I didn't know it was a thing either!
One of the suggestions was to try waking him up around 11pm (or at a point before they wake up). It's interrupts the cycle they've got into (can't remember the exact theory behind it). Literally just wake them up in their bed, call their name and get them to acknowledge you then let them go straight back to sleep. Sounds mad but it worked within a night or so.
Yes im thinking this isn't a bad idea and I've tried it but couldn't wake the bugger up!One of the suggestions was to try waking him up around 11pm (or at a point before they wake up). It's interrupts the cycle they've got into (can't remember the exact theory behind it). Literally just wake them up in their bed, call their name and get them to acknowledge you then let them go straight back to sleep. Sounds mad but it worked within a night or so.
fourstardan said:
Yes im thinking this isn't a bad idea and I've tried it but couldn't wake the bugger up!
Yeah I know what you mean. You do have to go to town a little bit! When I was doing it, it always used to make me think of the "get a hold of yourself" scene in Airplane!
You have to be gentle but persistent. Call out their name, even use a wet flannel. You just have to snap them out of the sleep they're in and then let them go straight back to sleep. Which they will.
So over the Xmas break its been moderately better. sometimes he has been sleeping in till 6ish.
Ive been hitting the spare bed anyqay quite a bit due to missus snoring, i dont.like this and Maybe I'm old-school but I don't like the idea of my son not seeing me in bed with his mother, but tbh with her snoring it's the cycle of me losing sleep there and getting in the spare bed before he wakes and nicks my spot.
I think until my missus stops snoring I'll be in this loop and son will not learn to get back to sleep.
Ive been hitting the spare bed anyqay quite a bit due to missus snoring, i dont.like this and Maybe I'm old-school but I don't like the idea of my son not seeing me in bed with his mother, but tbh with her snoring it's the cycle of me losing sleep there and getting in the spare bed before he wakes and nicks my spot.
I think until my missus stops snoring I'll be in this loop and son will not learn to get back to sleep.
fourstardan said:
So over the Xmas break its been moderately better. sometimes he has been sleeping in till 6ish.
Ive been hitting the spare bed anyqay quite a bit due to missus snoring, i dont.like this and Maybe I'm old-school but I don't like the idea of my son not seeing me in bed with his mother, but tbh with her snoring it's the cycle of me losing sleep there and getting in the spare bed before he wakes and nicks my spot.
I think until my missus stops snoring I'll be in this loop and son will not learn to get back to sleep.
I am glad it's a bit better. I've slept in the spare room sometimes due to the noise reasons you report. My daughter's a bit better now she's back at nursery after the holidays. Ive been hitting the spare bed anyqay quite a bit due to missus snoring, i dont.like this and Maybe I'm old-school but I don't like the idea of my son not seeing me in bed with his mother, but tbh with her snoring it's the cycle of me losing sleep there and getting in the spare bed before he wakes and nicks my spot.
I think until my missus stops snoring I'll be in this loop and son will not learn to get back to sleep.
fourstardan said:
My son was sleeping all through the night until about a month or two ago, he now keeps waking up at times and running into our room, times are ranging from last night's joy at 11pm when I'd just dosed off to 1/2, he is also waking up again once we settle him down.
We've tried later bedtime (7-730), makes no difference.
Settling down is one word, he goes into full negative tantrum mode.
I am thinking he is getting nightmares now, because the only time he slept through was when we had a family hotel room in London a couple of weeks ago! I was able to jump up and calm him down when he did wake up a bit upset.
It's draining both of us and now my sleeps playing up as I'm sleeping with one eye open.
Please can I have some sleep for Christmas Santa.
That could pretty much describe our 3.5 year old. I can't count on one hand the number of times he's slept through. He'll wake up between around 11 and 0500. We've tried later bedtime (7-730), makes no difference.
Settling down is one word, he goes into full negative tantrum mode.
I am thinking he is getting nightmares now, because the only time he slept through was when we had a family hotel room in London a couple of weeks ago! I was able to jump up and calm him down when he did wake up a bit upset.
It's draining both of us and now my sleeps playing up as I'm sleeping with one eye open.
Please can I have some sleep for Christmas Santa.
Trying to put him back to sleep in his own bed is a struggle so it's a case of chucking him in our bed and all back to sleep. Do that and he's asleep before his head hits the pillow.
I guess it's a security/comfort thing. We just cling onto the fact it won't last forever and when he leaves home we'll probably look back on it and miss it.
I can't remember the last time either of us got a straight 8 hours uninterrupted sleep though, one day, one day.
lizardbrain said:
We just gave up and bought a super king. He wakes up sometime between 12 and 7 and scrambles in and it's just standard now.
We've got our head in the sand about the damage. No idea how unhealthy it is. Current plan is to pretend it's all normal until he is 5.
We did this too We've got our head in the sand about the damage. No idea how unhealthy it is. Current plan is to pretend it's all normal until he is 5.
A super king bed is one of the best things I've ever bought.
I'd say it occupies atleast 70% of the floorspace of our bedroom but worth it.
fourstardan said:
My son was sleeping all through the night until about a month or two ago, he now keeps waking up at times and running into our room, times are ranging from last night's joy at 11pm when I'd just dosed off to 1/2, he is also waking up again once we settle him down.
We've tried later bedtime (7-730), makes no difference.
Settling down is one word, he goes into full negative tantrum mode.
I am thinking he is getting nightmares now, because the only time he slept through was when we had a family hotel room in London a couple of weeks ago! I was able to jump up and calm him down when he did wake up a bit upset.
It's draining both of us and now my sleeps playing up as I'm sleeping with one eye open.
Please can I have some sleep for Christmas Santa.
Just give him £1000 and tell him to go on holiday or shut the feck up.We've tried later bedtime (7-730), makes no difference.
Settling down is one word, he goes into full negative tantrum mode.
I am thinking he is getting nightmares now, because the only time he slept through was when we had a family hotel room in London a couple of weeks ago! I was able to jump up and calm him down when he did wake up a bit upset.
It's draining both of us and now my sleeps playing up as I'm sleeping with one eye open.
Please can I have some sleep for Christmas Santa.
fourstardan said:
So over the Xmas break its been moderately better. sometimes he has been sleeping in till 6ish.
Ive been hitting the spare bed anyqay quite a bit due to missus snoring, i dont.like this and Maybe I'm old-school but I don't like the idea of my son not seeing me in bed with his mother, but tbh with her snoring it's the cycle of me losing sleep there and getting in the spare bed before he wakes and nicks my spot.
I think until my missus stops snoring I'll be in this loop and son will not learn to get back to sleep.
My wife bought me some fancy ear plugs for Christmas. Might be a good idea to look at.... Ive been hitting the spare bed anyqay quite a bit due to missus snoring, i dont.like this and Maybe I'm old-school but I don't like the idea of my son not seeing me in bed with his mother, but tbh with her snoring it's the cycle of me losing sleep there and getting in the spare bed before he wakes and nicks my spot.
I think until my missus stops snoring I'll be in this loop and son will not learn to get back to sleep.
I've had to wear them since we started dating, Been 15 years now and alot of those foam ones in the bin.
I've just sent off the molds. Be interested in what comes back.
We're in Scotland so may not be available where you live - but the Health Visitor team have an associated sleep team who have been reaching out to us lately after we asked for it.
Early stages, keeping a food and sleep diary as obviously they need an evidence base. But at least someone is listening!
Early stages, keeping a food and sleep diary as obviously they need an evidence base. But at least someone is listening!
We have only got to the ripe only age of two years old, but we have co-slept from the start. Just finishing her bedroom now.
Pros and cons to that of cause, but maybe if they are struggling at the moment, they could sleep alongside you for a while.
Either if you have a super king, or if you put a single/child bed alongside your own. So they feel safe knowing you are there?
Attachment parenting, developing independence from having a secure foundation, rather than being thrust out into the unknown.
Pros and cons to that of cause, but maybe if they are struggling at the moment, they could sleep alongside you for a while.
Either if you have a super king, or if you put a single/child bed alongside your own. So they feel safe knowing you are there?
Attachment parenting, developing independence from having a secure foundation, rather than being thrust out into the unknown.
I have 2 kids. Oldest is 11 and never had any issues with bedtime or getting up, he's had the old nightmares or bedwetting but nothing you wouldn't expect from a child.
Youngest is 8, and she's been a nightmare since the get go, doesn't like going to bed, gets up at all hours, bursts into the bedroom like she's SWAT and raiding the place.
I'm not a good sleeper myself, hard to get to sleep, easily woken and even harder to get back to sleep.
Youngest is 8, and she's been a nightmare since the get go, doesn't like going to bed, gets up at all hours, bursts into the bedroom like she's SWAT and raiding the place.
I'm not a good sleeper myself, hard to get to sleep, easily woken and even harder to get back to sleep.
My kids didn't sleep through until about 5/6. All normal, my eldest had bed wetting issues until she was 8.
Now both kids are 8 and 10 and they sleep through normally with the odd hiccup now and again.
My eldest never slept in the day as baby either. Only if she was being pushed in a pram or driven in a car. As soon as either stopped she woke. I always expected her head to rotate 360 degrees but alas it never happened. She is still hot headed today.
Joys of having kids and spending the pre teen years tired
Now both kids are 8 and 10 and they sleep through normally with the odd hiccup now and again.
My eldest never slept in the day as baby either. Only if she was being pushed in a pram or driven in a car. As soon as either stopped she woke. I always expected her head to rotate 360 degrees but alas it never happened. She is still hot headed today.
Joys of having kids and spending the pre teen years tired
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