Difficulty getting pregnant....
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Engineer1 said:
Fortunately of our circle of friends one couple went through IVF then had a second naturally, and various family members all know someone who beat the odds in the whole you'll never have a baby without assistance game. It's just damn irritating, the Mrs' period is now late but she has used the pregnancy test and it came back negative she has also been spotting for the last few days. I wish our F'in doctors had sent the results through to the consultant so the first meeting we had could have at least had some purpose beyond answering the same questions the GP asked us initially, what's the point in him running bloods and sperm counts if he can't fully interpret them and was refering us as he couldn't see an obvious reason.
The administrative collaboration between NHS and private hospital is am absolute farce!Got all my fingers and toes crossed for you that it was a "false negative". Any other signs? Painful chest, irritable, hormonal?
Hi guys, I know I have not posted for a while so an update on my situation.
On 28th December, my wife had a positive test.
On 3rd of January our consultant confirmed that she was pregnant....with TWINS!
We went for an ultrasound today to check all was well as she had a kidney infection over the weekend. Everything was fine, and they are now 12 weeks and 1 day.
I know some of you are still having heart-breaking trouble. But take it from me, it can happen. We didn't think it would for us but it did.
Keep trying, never give up. Take some time out and go back to it at a later date.
And finally, thank you all to the kind posters on this thread who let me get things off my chest without judging, who gave me great advice, and who gave me hope.
Thank you all and good luck!
On 28th December, my wife had a positive test.
On 3rd of January our consultant confirmed that she was pregnant....with TWINS!
We went for an ultrasound today to check all was well as she had a kidney infection over the weekend. Everything was fine, and they are now 12 weeks and 1 day.
I know some of you are still having heart-breaking trouble. But take it from me, it can happen. We didn't think it would for us but it did.
Keep trying, never give up. Take some time out and go back to it at a later date.
And finally, thank you all to the kind posters on this thread who let me get things off my chest without judging, who gave me great advice, and who gave me hope.
Thank you all and good luck!
Engineer1 said:
Congratulations, now you know you need a people carrier and an SUV 
Range Rover Sport?
Seriously though, now we have reached the hallowed land, do not think I will not keep tabs on this thread. I am keeping everything crossed for all those struggling to obtain this precious thing.
Keep on trucking.
Engineer1 said:
Well my wife had her Hystosalapowhatever, and it shows everything in working order, so one more thing ticked off just got to wait for the next appointment, and then see what happens from there.
Good stuff! Every little positive result really helps. We found the incentive to carry on trying was always on a knife-edge so mentally this will help a bit.Good luck mate, your time will come.
Great news Molineux.
Be positive but cautious - the spotting could just be the effect of the egg burying itself into her uterus. The scan will show more as you say.
All my fingers crossed for you.
Engineer - hang on in there mate, I know it is tough. Just keep 100% positive and support your missus, even though I know it is so difficult to put a smile on when it seems the world is against you.
Be positive but cautious - the spotting could just be the effect of the egg burying itself into her uterus. The scan will show more as you say.
All my fingers crossed for you.
Engineer - hang on in there mate, I know it is tough. Just keep 100% positive and support your missus, even though I know it is so difficult to put a smile on when it seems the world is against you.
Lotus82 said:
tough things
Feel for you mate, there is no harder thing I have faced than having to console my missus each month when nothing came of it.Don't give up and don't let it break you is all I can say.
Without getting too detailed and not wishing to teach you to suck eggs, can I ask when in the month you are being 'intimate'? The OH and I were completely in the dark about the fact there is a small window of opportunity where you are actually able to inseminate (2-3 days either side of the half-way point in her cycle IIRC).
Lotus82 said:
Try to average 3/4 times a week for the whole month. Some months a bit more (every other day), other months a bit less (twice a week). Key thing is keeping the average up...or so I have been told.
Here is a suggestion.Get a calendar and on DAY 1 of your OHs next period plot 12-16 days after that, then really go at it around this period. Eggs last for 12-24 hours after being released so you have a decent window (and don't forget sperm live for a while too). After you have done the deed, get your missus to lie flat and stick her bum and legs in the air vertically. This is not about gravity(!) but rather about keeping as many spermies in the right place for a while.
Ease off a bit at times away from this fertile period, if anything to reduce the inevitable stress of having to do it all the time just to get pregnant (I don't know about you but frankly after a year of doing it solidly we really struggled to get the motivation - this can breed problems in the relationship).
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