What has your "friend" been up to?
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ConfusedNotConfused said:
Apologies for the new ID - im not too comfortable posting this under my own account (reasons will become apparent) - and I can't start a new thread for this and this seems the next best place for it.
A good friend of mine that I have known for many years (nearly 20) has recently started volunteering in a care home (pre-corona), he's always been a nice enough guy and had a good laugh with on nights out, stag do's and whathaveyou.
Until a couple of years back he was married (it didn't last long, she was a nutcase on every level - and 'thankfully' for his sake pulled a Cincinnati switcheroo while dogging with her so the kids aren't his) and since the split has started to get a extremely 'weird'. He has always liked an older woman and when we first started working together and having nights out he just seemed to enjoy the company of cougars and regularly pulled and rattled women in their 50s most weeks but as we've all got older so has his appetite.
He's one of those guys that I can only describe as fun to have around but probably best at arms length. He recently told a few of us at a socially distant bubble-bbq he has started seeing someone at the care home. We all assumed it was one of the care assistants (all the nurse uniform with all the council traits - what's not to love), but no - its a resident.
According to him she is in her early 90s (he is 41) and is reasonably wealthy and in somewhat poor health. He started talking about when lockdown was initiated he pretty much moved into the home as a live-in volunteer helper/dogsbody and started to get close to her chatting about her life and kids (that are all older than he is by some way). He is now getting all sorts of sexual favours off her and he reckons its given her a "final hurrah" - he got really graphic about her and you could tell he was getting excited by it.
I have been quite uncomfortable with this and what he has been saying as it sounds like he just wants into her will and is abusing his position. I went to ring the care home a couple of times but what do you say?? I confronted him about it and he is adamant he is doing nothing wrong (she isn't mentally incapacitated) and that enjoying each others company is normal and natural.
Ive stopped replying to his whatsapp messages but dont know what to do for the best!
Any pics?A good friend of mine that I have known for many years (nearly 20) has recently started volunteering in a care home (pre-corona), he's always been a nice enough guy and had a good laugh with on nights out, stag do's and whathaveyou.
Until a couple of years back he was married (it didn't last long, she was a nutcase on every level - and 'thankfully' for his sake pulled a Cincinnati switcheroo while dogging with her so the kids aren't his) and since the split has started to get a extremely 'weird'. He has always liked an older woman and when we first started working together and having nights out he just seemed to enjoy the company of cougars and regularly pulled and rattled women in their 50s most weeks but as we've all got older so has his appetite.
He's one of those guys that I can only describe as fun to have around but probably best at arms length. He recently told a few of us at a socially distant bubble-bbq he has started seeing someone at the care home. We all assumed it was one of the care assistants (all the nurse uniform with all the council traits - what's not to love), but no - its a resident.
According to him she is in her early 90s (he is 41) and is reasonably wealthy and in somewhat poor health. He started talking about when lockdown was initiated he pretty much moved into the home as a live-in volunteer helper/dogsbody and started to get close to her chatting about her life and kids (that are all older than he is by some way). He is now getting all sorts of sexual favours off her and he reckons its given her a "final hurrah" - he got really graphic about her and you could tell he was getting excited by it.
I have been quite uncomfortable with this and what he has been saying as it sounds like he just wants into her will and is abusing his position. I went to ring the care home a couple of times but what do you say?? I confronted him about it and he is adamant he is doing nothing wrong (she isn't mentally incapacitated) and that enjoying each others company is normal and natural.
Ive stopped replying to his whatsapp messages but dont know what to do for the best!
ElectricSoup said:
My friend once spotted a massive blingy white SUV in the school car park, whose yummy mummy driver obviously DNGAF about maintenance, as cord was showing on two tyres. He left a passive aggressive note on the windscreen indicating his displeasure at the prospect of his own child being killed by an unsafe vehicle and threatening a report to the filth if it stayed that way.
My friend spotted very similar in the GP Surgery car park and left a note along the same lines. A week later my friend went back to check and there were 4 new tyres on said behemoth......Bungleaio said:
ConfusedNotConfused said:
Apologies for the new ID - im not too comfortable posting this under my own account (reasons will become apparent) - and I can't start a new thread for this and this seems the next best place for it.
A good friend of mine that I have known for many years (nearly 20) has recently started volunteering in a care home (pre-corona), he's always been a nice enough guy and had a good laugh with on nights out, stag do's and whathaveyou.
Until a couple of years back he was married (it didn't last long, she was a nutcase on every level - and 'thankfully' for his sake pulled a Cincinnati switcheroo while dogging with her so the kids aren't his) and since the split has started to get a extremely 'weird'. He has always liked an older woman and when we first started working together and having nights out he just seemed to enjoy the company of cougars and regularly pulled and rattled women in their 50s most weeks but as we've all got older so has his appetite.
He's one of those guys that I can only describe as fun to have around but probably best at arms length. He recently told a few of us at a socially distant bubble-bbq he has started seeing someone at the care home. We all assumed it was one of the care assistants (all the nurse uniform with all the council traits - what's not to love), but no - its a resident.
According to him she is in her early 90s (he is 41) and is reasonably wealthy and in somewhat poor health. He started talking about when lockdown was initiated he pretty much moved into the home as a live-in volunteer helper/dogsbody and started to get close to her chatting about her life and kids (that are all older than he is by some way). He is now getting all sorts of sexual favours off her and he reckons its given her a "final hurrah" - he got really graphic about her and you could tell he was getting excited by it.
I have been quite uncomfortable with this and what he has been saying as it sounds like he just wants into her will and is abusing his position. I went to ring the care home a couple of times but what do you say?? I confronted him about it and he is adamant he is doing nothing wrong (she isn't mentally incapacitated) and that enjoying each others company is normal and natural.
Ive stopped replying to his whatsapp messages but dont know what to do for the best!
Any pics?A good friend of mine that I have known for many years (nearly 20) has recently started volunteering in a care home (pre-corona), he's always been a nice enough guy and had a good laugh with on nights out, stag do's and whathaveyou.
Until a couple of years back he was married (it didn't last long, she was a nutcase on every level - and 'thankfully' for his sake pulled a Cincinnati switcheroo while dogging with her so the kids aren't his) and since the split has started to get a extremely 'weird'. He has always liked an older woman and when we first started working together and having nights out he just seemed to enjoy the company of cougars and regularly pulled and rattled women in their 50s most weeks but as we've all got older so has his appetite.
He's one of those guys that I can only describe as fun to have around but probably best at arms length. He recently told a few of us at a socially distant bubble-bbq he has started seeing someone at the care home. We all assumed it was one of the care assistants (all the nurse uniform with all the council traits - what's not to love), but no - its a resident.
According to him she is in her early 90s (he is 41) and is reasonably wealthy and in somewhat poor health. He started talking about when lockdown was initiated he pretty much moved into the home as a live-in volunteer helper/dogsbody and started to get close to her chatting about her life and kids (that are all older than he is by some way). He is now getting all sorts of sexual favours off her and he reckons its given her a "final hurrah" - he got really graphic about her and you could tell he was getting excited by it.
I have been quite uncomfortable with this and what he has been saying as it sounds like he just wants into her will and is abusing his position. I went to ring the care home a couple of times but what do you say?? I confronted him about it and he is adamant he is doing nothing wrong (she isn't mentally incapacitated) and that enjoying each others company is normal and natural.
Ive stopped replying to his whatsapp messages but dont know what to do for the best!
generationx said:
ConfusedNotConfused said:
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Unfortunately I think you've missed the point of this generally jovial thread.For what it's worth, you should ring the care home and alert them to what is going on. Not that I suspect it is illegal, but her family when she creaks are going to be livid and point the finger at the care home for being 'negligent' or something. And this is coming from me, with a wife 24 years younger than me. It's not normal for a 50 year age gap, or 24 for that matter, but there is something not right about his behaviour.
Bungleaio said:
ConfusedNotConfused said:
Apologies for the new ID - im not too comfortable posting this under my own account (reasons will become apparent) - and I can't start a new thread for this and this seems the next best place for it.
A good friend of mine that I have known for many years (nearly 20) has recently started volunteering in a care home (pre-corona), he's always been a nice enough guy and had a good laugh with on nights out, stag do's and whathaveyou.
Until a couple of years back he was married (it didn't last long, she was a nutcase on every level - and 'thankfully' for his sake pulled a Cincinnati switcheroo while dogging with her so the kids aren't his) and since the split has started to get a extremely 'weird'. He has always liked an older woman and when we first started working together and having nights out he just seemed to enjoy the company of cougars and regularly pulled and rattled women in their 50s most weeks but as we've all got older so has his appetite.
He's one of those guys that I can only describe as fun to have around but probably best at arms length. He recently told a few of us at a socially distant bubble-bbq he has started seeing someone at the care home. We all assumed it was one of the care assistants (all the nurse uniform with all the council traits - what's not to love), but no - its a resident.
According to him she is in her early 90s (he is 41) and is reasonably wealthy and in somewhat poor health. He started talking about when lockdown was initiated he pretty much moved into the home as a live-in volunteer helper/dogsbody and started to get close to her chatting about her life and kids (that are all older than he is by some way). He is now getting all sorts of sexual favours off her and he reckons its given her a "final hurrah" - he got really graphic about her and you could tell he was getting excited by it.
I have been quite uncomfortable with this and what he has been saying as it sounds like he just wants into her will and is abusing his position. I went to ring the care home a couple of times but what do you say?? I confronted him about it and he is adamant he is doing nothing wrong (she isn't mentally incapacitated) and that enjoying each others company is normal and natural.
Ive stopped replying to his whatsapp messages but dont know what to do for the best!
Any pics?A good friend of mine that I have known for many years (nearly 20) has recently started volunteering in a care home (pre-corona), he's always been a nice enough guy and had a good laugh with on nights out, stag do's and whathaveyou.
Until a couple of years back he was married (it didn't last long, she was a nutcase on every level - and 'thankfully' for his sake pulled a Cincinnati switcheroo while dogging with her so the kids aren't his) and since the split has started to get a extremely 'weird'. He has always liked an older woman and when we first started working together and having nights out he just seemed to enjoy the company of cougars and regularly pulled and rattled women in their 50s most weeks but as we've all got older so has his appetite.
He's one of those guys that I can only describe as fun to have around but probably best at arms length. He recently told a few of us at a socially distant bubble-bbq he has started seeing someone at the care home. We all assumed it was one of the care assistants (all the nurse uniform with all the council traits - what's not to love), but no - its a resident.
According to him she is in her early 90s (he is 41) and is reasonably wealthy and in somewhat poor health. He started talking about when lockdown was initiated he pretty much moved into the home as a live-in volunteer helper/dogsbody and started to get close to her chatting about her life and kids (that are all older than he is by some way). He is now getting all sorts of sexual favours off her and he reckons its given her a "final hurrah" - he got really graphic about her and you could tell he was getting excited by it.
I have been quite uncomfortable with this and what he has been saying as it sounds like he just wants into her will and is abusing his position. I went to ring the care home a couple of times but what do you say?? I confronted him about it and he is adamant he is doing nothing wrong (she isn't mentally incapacitated) and that enjoying each others company is normal and natural.
Ive stopped replying to his whatsapp messages but dont know what to do for the best!
Salmonofdoubt said:
That's what this story needs, of the lady and her bank account. Also does she have her own teeth? Asking for a friend.
he has a gap at the front with a few missing teeth from a fight a little while ago, but he was really keen to share the pleasure from her not having teeth - hadn't crossed my mind before but he loves it - cringe-tactic isn't itTyre Smoke said:
Just so we are clear, this is really your friend and not you?
For what it's worth, you should ring the care home and alert them to what is going on. Not that I suspect it is illegal, but her family when she creaks are going to be livid and point the finger at the care home for being 'negligent' or something. And this is coming from me, with a wife 24 years younger than me. It's not normal for a 50 year age gap, or 24 for that matter, but there is something not right about his behaviour.
Thanks. For what it's worth, you should ring the care home and alert them to what is going on. Not that I suspect it is illegal, but her family when she creaks are going to be livid and point the finger at the care home for being 'negligent' or something. And this is coming from me, with a wife 24 years younger than me. It's not normal for a 50 year age gap, or 24 for that matter, but there is something not right about his behaviour.
I have been called deviant before but this certainly isn't me.
ConfusedNotConfused said:
Until a couple of years back he was married (it didn't last long, she was a nutcase on every level - and 'thankfully' for his sake pulled a Cincinnati switcheroo while dogging with her so the kids aren't his) and since the split has started to get a extremely 'weird'.
"Started" to get extremely weird, you say?!My friend has been doing a bit of landscaping and ordered a skip for some excess earth. My friend is extremely uncomfortable with paying for removal of something, but reluctantly accepts he cannot Great Escape 40 cubic metres of soil. Thus, he has stamped the soil right down after each barrow, but wasn't too fussed because it was so dry.
Then it rained so hard the town flooded.
My friend was somewhat uncomfortable as the skip lorry's front wheels left the ground...
Then it rained so hard the town flooded.
My friend was somewhat uncomfortable as the skip lorry's front wheels left the ground...
Smitters said:
My friend has been doing a bit of landscaping and ordered a skip for some excess earth. My friend is extremely uncomfortable with paying for removal of something, but reluctantly accepts he cannot Great Escape 40 cubic metres of soil. Thus, he has stamped the soil right down after each barrow, but wasn't too fussed because it was so dry.
Then it rained so hard the town flooded.
My friend was somewhat uncomfortable as the skip lorry's front wheels left the ground...
Why didn't he did a hole and bury it?Then it rained so hard the town flooded.
My friend was somewhat uncomfortable as the skip lorry's front wheels left the ground...
The Mad Monk said:
Smitters said:
My friend has been doing a bit of landscaping and ordered a skip for some excess earth. My friend is extremely uncomfortable with paying for removal of something, but reluctantly accepts he cannot Great Escape 40 cubic metres of soil. Thus, he has stamped the soil right down after each barrow, but wasn't too fussed because it was so dry.
Then it rained so hard the town flooded.
My friend was somewhat uncomfortable as the skip lorry's front wheels left the ground...
Why didn't he did a hole and bury it?Then it rained so hard the town flooded.
My friend was somewhat uncomfortable as the skip lorry's front wheels left the ground...
Tyre Smoke said:
Just so we are clear, this is really your friend and not you?
For what it's worth, you should ring the care home and alert them to what is going on. Not that I suspect it is illegal, but her family when she creaks are going to be livid and point the finger at the care home for being 'negligent' or something. And this is coming from me, with a wife 24 years younger than me. It's not normal for a 50 year age gap, or 24 for that matter, but there is something not right about his behaviour.
Indeed it's a safeguarding issue.For what it's worth, you should ring the care home and alert them to what is going on. Not that I suspect it is illegal, but her family when she creaks are going to be livid and point the finger at the care home for being 'negligent' or something. And this is coming from me, with a wife 24 years younger than me. It's not normal for a 50 year age gap, or 24 for that matter, but there is something not right about his behaviour.
She is of cause free to enter into a relationship with someone, but should not be her carer (or at least that person should not remain her carer)
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