Sister's car smashed up by her ex
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t in his briefcase/satchel/whatever he takes to work.OP, it’s a tricky situation to deal with. I can totally understand other posters telling you to give the bloke a good (deserved) kicking but you need to tread with caution.
If I was in your position I’d go ‘round to the bloke’s house under the pretence that your sister had leant him a book/CD/DVD/whatever and ask for it to be returned. Be really nice to the guy and tell him that you thought it was a shame things didn’t work out and that you thought they made a good couple. Continue to make small talk for a while and flatter his ego…
This will lull the sucker into a false sense of security.
After you’ve had a normal pleasant chat for a while, mention to him “Oh yeah, you’ll never guess what happened the other night…” and then recount the story of your Sister’s car getting trashed.
Watch him carefully at this point.
If he looks guilty and furtive, point out that you know damn well that he’s responsible and if it ever happens again, he WILL receive payback. Don’t go OTT and scream and shout whilst waving your fists about. Threaten him, but be calm and state simple facts. It might be worth pointing out that (insert name of the bank he works in) would probably not be too amused to hear what one of their employees was up to in his spare time.
Or, he might feel a bit of shame once the consequences of his actions are pointed out and apologise/offer to make good the damage. (Hey, it’s a long shot but you never know).
You state that he’s a big man when he’s got a beer or 3 inside him, so if you catch him sober you stand a good chance of reasoning with the guy.
Good luck with the situation
If I was in your position I’d go ‘round to the bloke’s house under the pretence that your sister had leant him a book/CD/DVD/whatever and ask for it to be returned. Be really nice to the guy and tell him that you thought it was a shame things didn’t work out and that you thought they made a good couple. Continue to make small talk for a while and flatter his ego…
This will lull the sucker into a false sense of security.
After you’ve had a normal pleasant chat for a while, mention to him “Oh yeah, you’ll never guess what happened the other night…” and then recount the story of your Sister’s car getting trashed.
Watch him carefully at this point.
If he looks guilty and furtive, point out that you know damn well that he’s responsible and if it ever happens again, he WILL receive payback. Don’t go OTT and scream and shout whilst waving your fists about. Threaten him, but be calm and state simple facts. It might be worth pointing out that (insert name of the bank he works in) would probably not be too amused to hear what one of their employees was up to in his spare time.
Or, he might feel a bit of shame once the consequences of his actions are pointed out and apologise/offer to make good the damage. (Hey, it’s a long shot but you never know).
You state that he’s a big man when he’s got a beer or 3 inside him, so if you catch him sober you stand a good chance of reasoning with the guy.
Good luck with the situation
Agreed on the police thing, I stopped a van driver to tell him about his driving after he tried to run me off the road, he got out of the van and punched me, now I'm not a small guy but he was, I'm quite sure I could have easily re-arranged his features and arranged for him to be eating soup through a straw, but, decided that wouldn't do me any good so went to the police and gave a statement. Two days later a spotty faced young copper phoned to say that they had questioned the driver, he and his femail passenger denied having ever been there, surprise surprise the passenger was his wife. The cops did naff all.......useless
Kobushi ste said:
I had a similar thing happen to me 13 yes ago my girlfriend ex didn't like the fact that we were together,I'd purchased a brand new s reg punto sporting within a couple of weeks of owning it "he" had smashed both wing mirrors off keyed the passengers side all over(which I got repaired) and to finish it off woke up one morning to find acid all over the paint work he even boasted on his ex phone what he had done so we went to police but they couldn't care less the car was just a car but that last thing was he and a few mates but me in hospital twice within 6 months gave me a good kicking.its a tricky one police don't want to know but I guess as soon as YOU confront the ex the police will be all over you like a rash but there's comes a point when enoughs enough
m44kts said:
Obvious thing is you need to have proof it was him that done the damage. If he's likely to do it again, is there any way you could set up some sort of camera to cover the car when it's parked up so you know for definite?
The first reply was pretty much the only sensible one.PiloteHuitNeuf said:
Whats the answer? confront him? confront him at work (works at a bank)? kill his car?
Banks are extremely conscious about their staff keeping a squeaky-clean record. I'd take the opportunity to remind him about that as he seems to have forgotten what the consequences of his actions could be for his job. Perhaps if he works in a public facing position you can walk in and have a chat.cjb1 said:
Agreed on the police thing, I stopped a van driver to tell him about his driving after he tried to run me off the road, he got out of the van and punched me, now I'm not a small guy but he was, I'm quite sure I could have easily re-arranged his features and arranged for him to be eating soup through a straw, but, decided that wouldn't do me any good so went to the police and gave a statement. Two days later a spotty faced young copper phoned to say that they had questioned the driver, he and his femail passenger denied having ever been there, surprise surprise the passenger was his wife. The cops did naff all.......useless
You'll have to elaborate on what you think they should have done?Kobushi ste said:
I had a similar thing happen to me 13 yes ago my girlfriend ex didn't like the fact that we were together,I'd purchased a brand new s reg punto sporting within a couple of weeks of owning it "he" had smashed both wing mirrors off keyed the passengers side all over(which I got repaired) and to finish it off woke up one morning to find acid all over the paint work he even boasted on his ex phone what he had done so we went to police but they couldn't care less the car was just a car but that last thing was he and a few mates but me in hospital twice within 6 months gave me a good kicking.its a tricky one police don't want to know but I guess as soon as YOU confront the ex the police will be all over you like a rash but there's comes a point when enoughs enough
StottyZr said:
Are you implying that people don't get their heads kicked in due to revenge attacks?
I'm sure they do. But I'm also sure that 99% of those posting on PH saying things along the lines of;'I'd take them out charles bronson style', would, in reality, simply pap their pants in that situation.
I'd also suggest that kicking someones head in out revenge isn't a good plan simply because it's unlikely to end there, with the next stage being you getting your head kicking in by someone else or you ending up locked up over it.
The way people gratuitously post on here it's as if it's simply another mission on GTA.
Here's what's going to happen:
You are going to do absolutely nothing. Noone who posts on an internet forum regarding such matters ever does.
Nobody will do anything to this bloke. There will be no recourse for his behaviour.
His little act of vandalism will most likely have taken the rage out of his system and he won't be any bother in the future.
You are going to do absolutely nothing. Noone who posts on an internet forum regarding such matters ever does.
Nobody will do anything to this bloke. There will be no recourse for his behaviour.
His little act of vandalism will most likely have taken the rage out of his system and he won't be any bother in the future.
I'd suggest you have a word with him. A lot of people here suggest you kick him in good and propper. Would work, but obviously illegal and you don't want to end up in jail over this. All the people who say that violence solves nothing have probably had very easy lives/childhoods. Violence does solve problems, but you can start a whole bunch of other problems, and if it can be solved with a verbal warning then just leave it at that.
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