Sister's car smashed up by her ex
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How about asking the 'gent' if he caused the damage. Then asking if he'd like to pay for the repair, or if he'd like your sister to go to the police with the video she took that night, becuase you've seen it and it certainly looked like him...
If you get a bite, tell him the chap in the video was wearing whatever he was wearing in those facebook pics. That should convince him.
Keep it verbal so that he has no proof.
If you get a bite, tell him the chap in the video was wearing whatever he was wearing in those facebook pics. That should convince him.
Keep it verbal so that he has no proof.
monkey gland said:
Here's what's going to happen:
You are going to do absolutely nothing. Noone who posts on an internet forum regarding such matters ever does.
I'm with monkey on this one.You are going to do absolutely nothing. Noone who posts on an internet forum regarding such matters ever does.
For the love of god do not "give him a talking to" nothing good can come of it. You'll just antagonise him.
goldblum said:
matthias73 said:
goldblum said:
matthias73 said:
Violence does solve problems
Let me guess,'Taken' is your perfect movie?LSHIFOMC.
I'm just basing that on experience.
matthias73 said:
All the people who say that violence solves nothing have probably had very easy lives/childhoods.
Quite the opposite really.When I was young my Dad was pretty much the hardman many on here would love to be (powerfully built and with martial arts experience no less).
As a kid I though it was great, anyone messed and my Dad would sort them out, I never understood why my Mum got so upset about it all.
As I got older though I realised it was one incident perpetuating the next, with my Dad always after the next bloke or looking out for the bloke coming back after him.
Fortunately he calmed down (mainly as his health was no longer upto it) without sustaining any real injury or ending up locked up, but even now in his 60's I do worry about him over reacting to situations.
So while most people on here playing the big hardman have experience limited to film/tv/video games, I know the consequences for real and can honestly say violence is not the answer.
D1bram said:
matthias73 said:
All the people who say that violence solves nothing have probably had very easy lives/childhoods.
Quite the opposite really.When I was young my Dad was pretty much the hardman many on here would love to be (powerfully built and with martial arts experience no less).
As a kid I though it was great, anyone messed and my Dad would sort them out, I never understood why my Mum got so upset about it all.
As I got older though I realised it was one incident perpetuating the next, with my Dad always after the next bloke or looking out for the bloke coming back after him.
Fortunately he calmed down (mainly as his health was no longer upto it) without sustaining any real injury or ending up locked up, but even now in his 60's I do worry about him over reacting to situations.
So while most people on here playing the big hardman have experience limited to film/tv/video games, I know the consequences for real and can honestly say violence is not the answer.
I used to get bullied, quite badly. Teachers used to tell them off, but couldn't do any more, police weren't bothered. I got in a fight with one of the lads, we both ended up battered, but I never had any problems after that.
The last time I got at all violent is when someone tried to mug me. I can honestly say, talking or running away would not have worked. Giving him my stuff would have left me penniless, and without phone, keys, ect. The consequences might have been bad, but I ended up OK.
I guess maybe I was wrong in saying that violence is the answer, maybe I should say that going out and dealing with the problem is the answer. If the only choice is violence, so be it.
I don't condone violence by any means, but if police aren't interested and you are worried about the wellbeing of your sister, you need to go and do something.
(I'm not by any means intending to big myself up for anything I've written)
Probably self defence in a sudden confrontation situation is one exception to my rule, granted.
Personally, if it were my sister I would suggest she does the following;
-Call the police, yes they might do nothing, but I'd insist they at least contact the bloke to make him aware that they are now aware of any potential situation which may develop. With 9 out of 10 people this would be enough to warn them off.
-Remove your sister and her car from the situation until the above has happened, have her stay with you, park her car somewhere safe he doesn't know about.
-Do everything in future to keep away from the guy, chances are she still drinks in the same pubs, has mutual friends on facebloodybook etc... Dump all of the connections. Yes it's a pain but so is getting her car smashed up.
Confronting the guy is unlikely to go well, he might physically better the big brother, hell he might go to far and stab him... OR he might get his bigger badder mates involved, or simply involve the police.
You never know, this guy might not have actually vandalised the car.
Personally, if it were my sister I would suggest she does the following;
-Call the police, yes they might do nothing, but I'd insist they at least contact the bloke to make him aware that they are now aware of any potential situation which may develop. With 9 out of 10 people this would be enough to warn them off.
-Remove your sister and her car from the situation until the above has happened, have her stay with you, park her car somewhere safe he doesn't know about.
-Do everything in future to keep away from the guy, chances are she still drinks in the same pubs, has mutual friends on facebloodybook etc... Dump all of the connections. Yes it's a pain but so is getting her car smashed up.
Confronting the guy is unlikely to go well, he might physically better the big brother, hell he might go to far and stab him... OR he might get his bigger badder mates involved, or simply involve the police.
You never know, this guy might not have actually vandalised the car.
Get a mate of yours that he dosen't know to go into the bank where he works and confront him. Not about the car of course.. Get your mate to confront him about how he's discovered all about the infidelity within their gay relationship and maybe mention an STD, small penis, etc. I'm sure that will improve this tossers working conditions no end! ;-)
HairbearTE said:
Get a mate of yours that he dosen't know to go into the bank where he works and confront him. Not about the car of course.. Get your mate to confront him about how he's discovered all about the infidelity within their gay relationship and maybe mention an STD, small penis, etc. I'm sure that will improve this tossers working conditions no end! ;-)
^^^^Thats a great plan.I have been in similar situation to the OP and I’m not saying that it's the best course of action for everyone. But I told her to forget the police. spent a couple of evenings hanging around the park where I knew the guy went for a run and eventually caught up with him when there was nobody around, had a quiet word in his ear and kicked the f@#k out of him and let him know that even if some random piss head or an old granny caused damage in future to my sisters car I would hold him accountable and catch up with him again.
Like I said.... I am not saying this is the right thing to do.
BUT hey.... It's my sister and she has a little girl, the police would not have done anything and he was a bully so why show any compassion. Besides, it did the trick and he has well and truly climbed under his rock!
I love these threads. 
OP you have missed your chance to do anything, I know that because you posted here asking about what to do rather than posting with some tale of how you gained the upper hand.
My advice is to leave it, completely ignore that it happened, then if it happens again go straight to his work the next morning and confront him. Don't tell anyone, don't ask on the interweb just go and ask him loudly if he had anything to do with it. Explain to him that if it happens again you will be back and will be much louder. He might be a big man when he's drinking, but when his manager is b
king him for bringing trouble to work he will be a scared little twunt.
I must add that there should never be a need to resort to violence to make a point. Unless that point is being made in self-defence.
OP you have missed your chance to do anything, I know that because you posted here asking about what to do rather than posting with some tale of how you gained the upper hand.
My advice is to leave it, completely ignore that it happened, then if it happens again go straight to his work the next morning and confront him. Don't tell anyone, don't ask on the interweb just go and ask him loudly if he had anything to do with it. Explain to him that if it happens again you will be back and will be much louder. He might be a big man when he's drinking, but when his manager is b
king him for bringing trouble to work he will be a scared little twunt. I must add that there should never be a need to resort to violence to make a point. Unless that point is being made in self-defence.
uncinquesei said:
badlands1 said:
NadiR said:
Personally, I would kidnap the bd, tie him up, beat him till he has a few broken bones, before giving him a black eye (this bit happened to someone last week). And if he tries it again with my sister, I'd repeat the process till he learns his lesson. Job Done. That fella who tried mess with my sister has been nowhere to be seen since last week.
No brainer.d, tie him up, beat him till he has a few broken bones, before giving him a black eye (this bit happened to someone last week). And if he tries it again with my sister, I'd repeat the process till he learns his lesson. Job Done. That fella who tried mess with my sister has been nowhere to be seen since last week.Edited by NadiR on Monday 13th February 01:04
This is how s
t like that is sorted, because people who do bad st to females deserve it. end of. pure comedy... Right down to the user name. Too many late night films watched. 
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